View Full Version : Ever got badly turned down?
Dreamer
09-26-2003, 04:47 AM
My approach to bulletin boards is this. It is better that the devil be known than not.
I certainly do not believe a person should be allowed to bash another by means of a bulletin board and moderation should be exercised. But if it were not for the bulletin board I may not know of adverse feelings towards me. To close down a bulletin board is simply to deny acknowledgement of the dangers around me. It's kind of like the ostrich approach. If I bury my head in the sand then I'm safe.
As hard as these insults are to bear, ignoring them does no good. If I am aware of them then I am better prepared to handle them. The worst results come when it comes at a moment you least expect it. If you have advance knowledge then you can minimalize the damage.
haley1126
09-26-2003, 06:07 AM
i totally agree, i am 5'11 1/2. and when i wear my shoes, i'm like 6'6. Sorry i cant cut my legs off. I get lots of comps on being tall. and lots of rude coments about it too. Like your too fat, your too skinny. make up your mind. oh by the way, i weigh 125.
What always got me was all these guys who were rude and saying mean remarks, they are the same guys that out of the strip club would see you walking down the street or in a regular bar and they'd be all over you! Hiting on you like mad, but in the strip club somehow you weren't good enough, so ridiculous......
i guess getting turned down is expected in whatever you do ...all you do is shake it off and try again ....the worse thing you could do is let one nagative costumer ruin the rest of your night....i look at it like for every one turn down there are at least twenty people willing to dance with you so...no big deal ...just move on( bee nice about it too show him its no big deal.....his lost somebody elses gain
Kaiyla
09-27-2003, 03:43 PM
I agree with Cash. I also thought of last night for some reason too. There was this dorky stocky guy had his nose up every dancers ass all night long. He was not buying any dances from anyone but was willing to try to waste our time by bragging about how much money he had. So I asked him if he wanted a dance. "Nahhh," was his response. Due to the nature of this business I usually I dont give customer-rejection a second thought but last night was a sucky night and I needed some reassurance so in my head I was thinking, "That's fine. If you prefer to think so, you can call the shots in here. But in reality I wouldnt even give you the time of day if I saw you on the street." I smiled sweetly to him and excused myself. Getting through a lousy night sometimes depends on what we tell ourselves in our minds. It's true. For every guy that doesnt dig you, there are dozens who do. :)
I know we have to deal with rejection, but some guys make it harder to deal sometimes. The worst is when they look you up and down and say "No, I'm still looking." Don't be too blunt or anything! Are you really only going to get one lapdance all night and have to find the perfect girl? I have no problem when a guy is nice about it.
NO! Actually the worst is when it is super slow and a guy says he will buy some dances later on if you will sit and talk to him. Keep in mind there are 5 customers to 15 dancers at this time, so you agree seeing nothing better to do and no $$ to be made because those 5 customers have been with the same 5 girls since you got to work. I ended up giving up and seeing him pull the same trick on a few other girls that night, not buying one lapdance. What a loser! He had the nerve to smile and wave to me every time he saw me for the rest of the night. Either he was really clueless to the way stripclubs work or he was having a heck of a time scamming us. That is when I want to say to him what Kaila did
"That's fine. If you prefer to think so, you can call the shots in here. But in reality I wouldn't even give you the time of day if I saw you on the street."
Okay, I'm done venting. I'm just glad most guys have the sense not to act that way.
Tigerlilly
09-28-2003, 03:21 AM
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or he was having a heck of a time scamming us.
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Unfortunatly I have found that there are more than a few customers who go in to do just that :-/
I always found a good way to spot them was if they start off like Kobi described that guy did.... saying not ready for dances yet but please join me.
If a guy is really still scoping things out he usually wont ask you to join him. If he does that there is a good chance he wants to talk to the dancer, touch her legs or whatever he can get away with in conversation-for free. And usually they get off on the idea of wasting a beautiful girls time and hurting her nightly earnings.