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09-18-2003, 12:12 PM
It seems a normal question to ask people is "so, where do you work, what do you do?" I get so nervous when people ask? I know, I know, I could always lie and say I waitress or something? But I don't feel like I should have to hide from the world... What do y'all say when people ask? I usually try, oh, I work at a club... But when they want to know which club or what exactly I do there... it comes out. Sometimes, if it's a guy asking, I think "maybe he'll end up coming in and buying some dances?" [blob]

09-18-2003, 03:39 PM
If its just a casual relationship, I usually lie about what I do, it's just easier. If it's someone I think will give me a ton of grief (my parents for example), I lie, or maybe I'm just too lazy to deal with it. If its someone I think I might want to develop a close relationship, I tell them.

09-18-2003, 07:42 PM
There's a difference between lying because you're ashamed of it and lying because you don't want to deal with the BS that comes from the other person.

I usually tell the truth, but certain people seem to want to pry and ask the same stupid, retarded questions, or they get all weird and pervy on me. I don't have the patience for that.

09-19-2003, 02:27 AM
It seems a normal question to ask people is "so, where do you work, what do you do?"

I tell them I play piano in a whore house.

09-19-2003, 03:26 AM
This is my twisted logic.

When I say "I'm a stripper" people get this whole picture of whores snorting coke in the dressing room before going out to give the next blow job. That is not accurate, therefore not entirely honest.

Instead I say "I'm a cocktail waitress" and people get an image of some girl running around flirting with customers. That's more accurate, maybe more honest.

But that's just me.


09-23-2003, 02:58 PM
It depends on the person, how much I know about them (and their beliefs surround adult entertainment) and, of course, my relationship with them.

Most of the time people are satisfied with me just saying that I work in a club in Surfers Paradise. If they ask which club.. I don't lie.. I say Players Showgirls.

It is then up to them to come to their own conclusions as to whether or not I'm a waitress or a dancer there. I only tell the people who can handle the info. that I'm a dancer ... mainly those who have no problem with adult entertainment (etc).

Most of the time I will say waitress. It is easier - that's what I've told my parents so it is a half truth (I do work at Players Showgirls but not as a waitress). I know they won't find out too as their friends don't frequent strip clubs.

09-23-2003, 03:34 PM
OMG! I felt this very uneasiness just a few hours ago! Cop asked where I work, stuck my chin up, looked him dead in the eyes and said PTs. No explanation necessary.

Oh don't even ask, been one of those days. I've decided to escape madness by hiding on web.

09-23-2003, 03:47 PM
Whoa! What did he say to that? [oogle] Act ually, I'd love the opportunity to tell that to a cop :)

09-23-2003, 08:10 PM
Since you're pretty you can always say I'm a dancer or I'm modelling . That always did it for me. Until somebody saw me on a cover of a "soft porn " magazine.........
Funny how people react in that case....

09-26-2003, 01:05 AM
Sometimes I have told people straight out, but other times I just say I am unemployed!

09-26-2003, 12:16 PM
In Vegas it is a lot more common and accepted to be a dancer. Anybody I have talked to either is also a dancer or has a close friend that is one. Well except once at the gym, he said I was too pretty to be a dancer. ??? That comment confuses me. Aren't dancers supposed to be pretty? I know that he was probably just looking for an excuse to compliment me, but I took a little offense to that. He made it sound like dancing is below me, when in reality, I choose to be a dancer for a number of good reasons including, I love it!

When I lived in Wichita,KS, where it is pretty conservative, I would skirt around the question, usually saying unemployed.

09-26-2003, 12:27 PM
I haven't started dancing yet but when I do.....it would depend on who's wanting to know with me. It would also depend on wether or not I know if they are supportive of me or not.

My parents would get unemployed since they would condemn my husband if they found out.

I am not sure what we would tell his parents.

My friends already know the club in which I want to work and can't wait for me to start so they can come in a support me.

So, in general, to some (maybe even most) I'll be honest and tell them that I am an exotic dancer. Others I will lie and most likely say unemployed.

09-29-2003, 07:26 PM
"Oh, I get naked for strangers, jump on their laps and take all their money!"

Love it!

09-29-2003, 07:28 PM
Sorry. Screwed that quote up. :P

09-29-2003, 11:22 PM
So a cop asks me what I do for a living the other day and all I came up with was "oh, different things" with a big smile. Woops. LOL


09-30-2003, 06:15 AM
I have usually worked a regular job also, either in a club or lounge or as a spokes model or bikni - swimwear model so I have referred to that job when asked, when in a mixed group of people I have simply stated that I was a free lance model. If I am pressed to be specific I always refer to the first modeling job that I had worhed. Ligitimate modeling is always an option to suppliment income.

09-30-2003, 07:35 PM
For people who matter I tell them I am a dance teacher when I first meet them and then later I will trust them with the truth. For people who I do not know and never will I tell them I am in the circus or the naked ballet troup! I have actually told somebody once that I was a decoy for a private investigator because I always thought that would be a great job! My parents think I work in a club and my boyfriends parents know the truth-not my choice. I prefer to leave the part out about me that makes men in particular try to imagine me without my clothes on so I may actually get to know a person before they judge me or hit on me!

10-10-2003, 12:26 PM
i've only been dancing for like a week...
some people i tell...
others i just tell i'm a student (which i am...)
and my father i tell NOTHING... lol
this thread is helpful since i'm agonizing over
what to tell my dad... lol


10-10-2003, 04:15 PM
Heidi: This has been discussed a lot. If you dont' want to tell your dad the truth, a good "cover" is cocktail waitress. The hours and what I call "bar smell" are the same as for dancers.

10-13-2003, 04:57 AM
Heidi - maybe Destiny's idea is a good one. I live in Las Vegas and moved out here from LA. I come from a very liberal family so I don't like to deal with people who try to hide from reality. Maybe you could tell your dad that one of your friends in school started dancing and talk about all of the positive aspects about it. Tell him that you were so shocked because she really has it together, comes from a loving family and is super intelligent. See how he reacts. But only do this if you think that you can get away with it; without him figuring out that it's really you and not a friend.

10-13-2003, 05:49 AM
My favorite answer was "What makes you think I need to work?" I just smile and let them assume I'm independantly wealthy (I do drive a nice car and have obviously been able to afford "enhancements!")

10-14-2003, 06:01 AM