View Full Version : Are female customers more fun?

09-13-2003, 04:24 AM
Do any of you enjoy dancing for a female more than a male?(regarding lap dances) It seems to me like it would be more fun.

09-13-2003, 08:53 AM
I loved female customers when I was actively dancing. The money was great, doing a dance for a woman was usually a sure way to get the guys to give mega tips, and for me at least, it let me enjoy that side of my sexuality at work.


09-13-2003, 09:48 AM
I think giving a woman a dance is much more fun and I really enjoy it. I can be more sexual and sensual. I want to give them their monies worth.

09-13-2003, 10:12 AM

I get snobby ones too. Especially lesbians. I don't get it.....I must not attract them.

The girls I have given dances to are often flustered. I do give a killer dance;)

Juliette de Sade

09-13-2003, 05:41 PM
Oddly no.

Financially speaking, girls never seem to buy more than a couple dances. Most guys buy at least that and usually a lot of more.

And My God! girls can be so much more grabby than (most) guys. I'm telling you, they think they can grab you anywhere and do anything.

I completely understand the sensuality of dancing for other women, and I love watching the guys around me as their chins drop to the ground, but hell, I'll take the guys any day.

...now outside the club could be a different answer.

09-13-2003, 07:16 PM
it's weird dancing for women. I found they are much more grabby and cheap too. They are high maintenance customers, so I prefer men.

Another thing is that the anatomy is weird. My breasts get in the way of their breast and their sex organs are between the legs versus on their lap...makes giving a dance totally different.

And my sexuality is not relavant. Just because a girl is hetero, it doesn't mean she's turned on by dancing for guys, and if a girl is bi or les, it doesn't mean she's neccessarily turned on dancing for women.

All in all, I avoid women and couples unless there's not a more promising offer on the floor.

09-13-2003, 07:28 PM
Depends on the girl. Some girls look like they've been forced to get the dance by their date. They look really uncomfortable and that makes me uncomfortable. I've noticed this happens usually when the couple isn't a real couple, just out on a date and don't know each other real well.

Then there's the type that gets it just for show, whether it be a show for a boy or a bunch of girls. Usually the people watching are loud and obnoxious. I give very sensual lap dances so this generally ruins the mood.

Then there is the girl that gets a dance only for herself and no one is oogling (except for the horny guys across the room). [oogle] These are my favorite dances to give and receive. It lets me explore my curiosity some more. A week ago I gave 2 dances to one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She turned out to be a dancer from another state, visiting Vegas. That was fun! ;)

09-13-2003, 07:55 PM
What about the other way around?
my husband and i were out of town and went to a stripclub to check it out. I love dancers, and have been a dancer for about three years or so, but i felt wierd about buying a dance for myself.
I mean, i'd love to get a private dance - but being a dancer and knowing how i feel about most customers i give privates to, i just couldn't do it, even though there were some gorgeous girls...
anyone else felt like that? :-/

09-13-2003, 11:14 PM
Depends on the female customer for me.

Some female customers are great fun but so can some guy customers as well. Granted, female customers are softer (skin) and smell nice (overall) than most guys.

Then you have the "bad apples of the bunch" who, like ex-LasVegas said, are a little too grabby and try to break the rules because "they are a sister" (same gender as you). Some females think the rules don't apply to them as much as the guys due to being the same gender.

I don't have a problem dancing for a couple or a female by herself. They are a customer just like the guys and I will treat them as such. Since I've done a few dances for females now... their anatomy doesn't "get in the way" as much now.

I use it, in fact, especially when it is a couple dance and the guy just wants to watch me give her a lap dance.

Also in re: couples (guy and a girl) I ask up front what they want.. if they want to share me or me to concentrate on the female. This saves me having to guess. :-)

12-26-2003, 08:59 PM
As long as the woman wasn't forced into getting the dance it is a total blast!!!! Women eat me up for some reason aside from the catty.... " I'm only doing this because he's making me" girls. Otherwise it is a total money maker!!! I just get totally into it and next thing ya know money is coming from all directions.!!!

12-27-2003, 04:35 PM
depends...but i would have to say on the whole, no i dont enjoy giving dances to girls...some girls seem pressured into it and totally not enjoying it and makes me uncomfortable..then there are girls that are 20 times worse than guys thinking they can do anything to you because you are a girl (although i do enjoy the shock value of it, but its not worth getting fired over) but some girls especially dancers or ex-dancers are so much fun to dance for, unfortunately it seems that these types of girls getting dances are pretty rare. I do agree that on the whole girls do not spend as much as guys...

12-28-2003, 12:30 PM
I usually don't like it when men bring their control freak wives/girlfriends into the club. A gentlemens club is not a swingers club. Let the boys have their boys night out. I wonder, do these desperately, pathetic, controlling leaches ever feel the urge to follow hubbi and his friends into the mens room too? Wives and girlfriends generally interfere with our ability to do business. I think women should be highly discouraged from being able to interfere with our ability to do business.

12-28-2003, 02:37 PM
Wow, you ladies have had some bad experiences! I always enjoy giving females dances if they are open to it. Seldomly do they touch inappropriately, AND, the most important thing:

Women have different physiology than men, thus we must change our lapdance style to suite them. To be honest, it is much easier to dance for a woman because you don't have to throw our your knees doing a pseudo-grind while in squat position.

Focus on their necks, shoulders, and breasts (above the clothes), lots of hugging. I stay away from the crotch, they aren't dudes. Think about what YOU would like in a lapdance, and cater to your client......

BUT, I also know that when there are too many women in a strip joint, porno shop, or any place where men can feel guilty because they know they are dirty bastards, it does potentially hurt sales.......

12-28-2003, 05:16 PM
No. I think if some girls find it more fun, it's merely because it's a nice change from always dancing for guys. It is a nice change sometimes for me as well, but not anymore fun than dancing for a guy. Also 99% of the time, the girls won't buy as many dances as guys, and if it's a couple, sometimes it can be way more hassle than it's worth (two sets of hands are much harder to control than one, grabby women are WAY more aggressive than most guys). The only real positive thing about it is that women often tip better for a dance, and putting on a show for the women can often lead to dances from male customers who like seeing it.

12-29-2003, 05:20 PM
I think it depends a lot of wher eyou work.
I've danced in three different clubs and the first club I danced at the women were awesome. Totally respectful, cool, fun to hang out with. But where I work now- they are very aggressive. There is one lady who comes in at least once a week stays all night and spends most of it convincing me I should go home with her. It gets boring week after week saying no. You think she'd get the point.

12-29-2003, 06:17 PM
I guess like it or not, we will have to get used to dancing for female customers. There was a segment on The O'Riley factor last November (2003) about women and porn. The basic point of the show was that women are the fastest growing customer base of the sex industry. Most adult based businesses are now counting 30% of their sales are from female customers. This is a huge increase from 10 years ago where the numbers were only like 5% of all adult oriented business sales.

I think you may also see an increase of clubs offering male dancers full time, and not just catering to gay customers.

Personally I like dancing for female customers. I adjust my lap dance style to accomadate their preferences (some just want silly, some want sexy, some want full on, in your face, hard grind equivilent). I tend to get my female customers topless (where permitted) and this is also a great show for the guys. The ladies get a small fantasy version of being a stripper for a few minutes, I get huge tips from the guys in the audience, and everyone has a great time.

I think lady customers are a potential gold mine that is yet to be tapped. If you think about who has the most spending power in any household it is most likely the women. Get them involved and they will buy dances for their S.O. as well as for themselves.

We just have to figure out how to market LD's to women, making it as common as acrylic nails, or joining a fad diet, and we will be rolling in the dough!!

01-08-2004, 07:29 PM
I realize this is a forum for strippers, but I just wanted to add my opinion as a woman who went to a strip club for the first time.
I went with my husband and his friend and some of the girls would come out and pay full attention to me even if the money was in front of my husband and our friend. Well they absolutely loved it. The girls that did this were sure to get their money because they loved it. I of course was a little shy about it all. You know if a girl would have come around I would have gotten a dance for my husband. They wanted to get one for me but I think he deserved one more.
As I have read no I wasn't pressured into going, and I am not a possesive , overbearing wife, my husband wanted me to go and see what goes on. We really had a good time and some of the girls that have a great personality made it fun. We are going back. I even had my husband put down money. I have alot of respect for you girls and that night it worked for the men I was with having me there. My husband even said before we left that "you will probably get more attention then we will" and I did.

01-09-2004, 03:51 AM
There are notable exceptions to the grabby female customer...as mentioned earlier in this thread. I have been a customer in strip clubs more than I've been an employee (almost). I usually have to chase girls down and ask them to dance - even in oversaturated clubs. I always look around and think "what a shame" that the dancers pass over me and whoever I'm with just because a girl is in the group...I get hard looks from girls and usually aren't treated very well.

What they don't know is, I've brought a lot of male business into the Vegas clubs...whether they were clients, friends, boyfriends, or my uncle (yes I bought my uncle a slew of lap dances). I buy dances (not just one or two) for everyone, most times in VIP, and on occassion (when out for pleasure) have a dance (or 20) bought for me! Man oh man does a dancer's attitude ever change once those 20's are flowing!!!

All I'm saying is, don't pass up an opportunity just because you see a female. So, you might only get a couple dances out of it...but that one time...when someone like myself is in the club...you'll make easy money.

01-09-2004, 04:40 AM
I love giving a lap dances to a Woman. My fav type of women is a fem Dancer who just wants to check out your moves. She is not there to be rude or make you feel bad but there to give you some props.
Also its sexy when other dancers Respect your Craft.

01-09-2004, 04:53 AM
From what I've read, it depends whether they've been dragged out by their boyfriends or not ;D

01-09-2004, 04:00 PM
I get alot of those couples that are there looking for a third to go home with them. I've even been doing a dance for a gorgeous woman, only to discover that under her skirt she's wearing NO PANTIES. Now what am I expected to do with that? :o Those situations make me uncomfortable.

For regular, non-drunken, non-swinging women I do find dancing for them quite enjoyable. I just never know what I'm going to get if I go up to couples, so I avoid them unless they call me over.

01-24-2004, 01:52 PM
lady customers suck!!!!!Either they are snobs like "don't touch me eeww"or at the tip rail when they are forced to stand up to give a buck,or when they come in with guys,that table is shot because you know you won't get anymore than 20$if that!

01-26-2004, 02:30 AM
I agree with who ever said that they were high maintenance. I seem to get roudy ones.From my experince the females never bought their L/D it was always somebody else.And yes they do expect more for their money.WHY? Well I have one reason everybody thinks that every stripper is bi (NOT)!!!I will not do or dance any different for the female clientile.There $$$ isn't any greener. ;)