View Full Version : Lets be honest.
BlueGirl
10-22-2003, 12:40 PM
Honestly I judge NO ONE, because I am not Mother Theresa myself. However I am engaged and I do *not* give extras- never have, hopefully never will want to. So while I don't judge the people who do give them, it makes it harder on those of us who don't- because it seems like the guys who've had them before "expect" them and are disappointed you won't do it!! Some of them will give you a real guilt trip or even accuse you of lying and say you just aren't attracted to them!!
NinaDaisy
11-03-2003, 11:16 PM
Although it's not the most polite thing to say, a dancer who provides the "extras" you're implying is not nearly as attractive as a dancer who does not provide "extras" all else considered equal.
I have to agree, at least from what I've seen working at clubs...
NinaDaisy
11-03-2003, 11:19 PM
Honestly I judge NO ONE, because I am not Mother Theresa myself. However I am engaged and I do *not* give extras- never have, hopefully never will want to. So while I don't judge the people who do give them, it makes it harder on those of us who don't- because it seems like the guys who've had them before "expect" them and are disappointed you won't do it!! Some of them will give you a real guilt trip or even accuse you of lying and say you just aren't attracted to them!!
I have never experienced a guilt trip when extras are requested, or workse, expected. The solution to that is direct and simple. A firm "It's not part of my job description" usually works just fine for me. Don't be weak when someone wants you to do anything you don't want to.
heidi
11-05-2003, 07:19 AM
i wish they wouldn't do it... because when you get a customer who has gotten a dance and whatever else from them... you always get the line... "Well so-and-do lets me do it...".... i usually respond with "well that's what makes me special... i don't do that... i'm classy"... sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't....
xoxo
heidi
0n one hand i wished they would stop but on the other hand i could careless what other people do as long as they are no stopping me from making money then to each his own
ChristyWild
01-25-2004, 07:28 PM
In my opinion, there is no way to totally eliminate extras in a club unless the club personnel monitors the dancers. Some are strict about it and some aren't.
I don't understand why a guy who is horny would go to a club looking for sex if he lives in a large city with an abundance of escorts and massage parlors. Isn't sex more comfortable in a bed ;D?
Very true, Tina. Here in Tampa, we just had a few, well known "extras" clubs get busted at mgmt level. At my club, I noticed a most appreciated upswing in mgmt walkthroughs...and a decrease in ppl coming through asking for extras. Yes, I know that they were still asking, but they were getting the hint that that type of thing wouldn't be tolerated anymore. And I agree; with such a plethora of escorts in the local adult mags, I can only hypothesize that the reason SOME men want it in the club is that they think that we are all whores, simply b/c of what we do for a living. (This based on the fact I have had guys tell me on numerous occasions 'but you're a dancer...that's what you do')