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bambi69
12-20-2003, 05:48 PM
I'm laughing at a lot of these... :) sorry... but most dancers just want to do the dance and get paid! If a guy is a regular customer I tend to enjoy his company more while giving the dance. I don't like gropping of my breasts/butt like MOST dancers on SW. I'm usually ok with leg/back and arm rubbing, but as you know most guys usually want to go much further than this...

guywholikesdancers
12-20-2003, 06:38 PM
You know, in hundreds of dances I don't think I've ever had a dancer fake an orgasm. Maybe I'm just not paying enough for them to bother. I do appreciate feigned excitement, though; your body responds to it even though you know perfectly well it's just for your benefit. I don't think of it as an attempt to fool me, just as another color in the palette with which the dancer is constructing the experience.

Djoser
12-20-2003, 08:53 PM
"how bitter and dumb you were."

What?

I know we're not supposed to correct spelling or grammar, but this post is so laden with mispellings, bad syntax, and myriad other grammatical errors, I can hardly understand it.

Who the hell is calling who dumb?

As far as dancers enjoying dances, well, if you want to believe it is possible for a dancer to get excited about the tenth guy in the fourth night of the week, the fiftieth week of the year--let's see, that's number 2000--be my guest. Maybe he really IS something special. I dated a dancer a while back who told me she did get off once in VIP, but then again she had been dancing since she was eighteen, and she was about 30 years old.

Do the math.

Granted it could be, and perhaps sometimes is a sensual experience for some, if the customer is considerate--and maybe even articulate as well...

But with the increasing demand for extras, and extra groping and extra invitations to go out after work, on the basis of a whopping ten minutes' conversation--well, it gets a lot less enjoyable very quickly, for most.

Ludamite
12-22-2003, 12:46 PM
Well let me be the first to appolagize for my bad spelling and grammer. English never was my subject. But let me ask this, I have read on several posts here about people such as djoser say that they had a relationship with a dancer. So either it's not that unlikely for a dancer to like a customer or there is an awful lot of people who post here that just so happen to meet and get a date with a dancer outside the club. Now i am not proposing that it is a 50/50 or even a 20/80. nor am i saying that i am trying to get a date because i am married and every time i go i go with my wife. All i am saying is that the possibility is there.

alexislv
12-22-2003, 02:27 PM
If I am correct, I believe that Djoser was a dj at a strip club...it is more common for a dancer to date someone that is also in the industry in some way...and of course some dancers end up dating customers but its pretty rare from what i've seen...i think most girls end up dating someone the same way everyone else does...

Prester_John
12-22-2003, 02:32 PM
Well let me be the first to appolagize for my bad spelling and grammer. English never was my subject. But let me ask this, I have read on several posts here about people such as djoser say that they had a relationship with a dancer. So either it's not that unlikely for a dancer to like a customer or there is an awful lot of people who post here that just so happen to meet and get a date with a dancer outside the club. Now i am not proposing that it is a 50/50 or even a 20/80. nor am i saying that i am trying to get a date because i am married and every time i go i go with my wife. All i am saying is that the possibility is there.


Of course it is a possibility. Getting struck by a meteorite is also a possibility. Lawyers love to - and frankly need to - argue the existence of the possibility of something, however infinitesimal that possibility it. That doesn’t make it probable, which is what you seem to be fishing for.

The nature of the Strip Club experience makes that probability exceedingly small. To echo Djoser, dancers see so many guys per day, week, month, year etc that it’s only human for them to turn their in-store contact with customers into something professional, rather than personal, even if they didn't start out that way. That effectively ends any and all probability that a customer will arouse them and they will be interested in them outside the club (for any number of non-illicit purposes and reasons). Thus is the nature of Stripping. I really can't believe there are a lot of dancers out there who lament this sort of thing - only customers do.

My personal opinion is that yes, it’s possible for a dancer and customer to hit it off on a non SC-experience level, but any advances MUST come from the dancer - never the customer. It is entirely her domain to do so. No amount of money you throw at her, no amount of conversation you have with her, no amount of laughs and tears you might have with her give one the right to pressure her - however slight it may be - to change the setting of your relationship.

Dancers get hit on and propositioned daily and sometimes hourly. You may be a great guy for a dancer, but you are going up against the sum total of her SC experiences. Asking her out can and will become just another one of those experiences for her.


Dancer/customer relationships do happen, but it’s exceedingly rare. To guys who ask about dating dancers, my advice would be to err on the side of caution and be respectful of her, and keep your phone number to yourself. It’s far more real to you than to her, and you should not take that reality personally.

LEIGH_LANDON
12-22-2003, 03:59 PM
how incredibly exhausting this shit just keeps going in circles dont it?

Rayleen
12-22-2003, 04:42 PM
how incredibly exhausting this shit just keeps going in circles dont it?


Yup and its likely to happen again and again if we continue to tell the men who ask these types of questions the truth. Next time some :troll: comes here asking do strippers get turned on dancing for me? We should all just tell them what they want to hear
oh baby I get so wet . Cause the truth is like a foriegn language to :troll:'s

::)

BigRed1970
12-22-2003, 07:24 PM
We should all just tell them what they want to hear
oh baby I get so wet .
::)


SEE.... honesty is the best option...... ;D



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Sexy
12-23-2003, 02:07 PM
There are some customers I thoroughly enjoy dancing for. Though I am very sensual (not sexual) with all of my customers I do respond well to certain ones. Usually it's because I've clicked with them when talking before the dance (I enjoy spending time chatting with guys and carressing their necks and hence some guys ask for dances). I get very excited dancing and doing private dances, because as I said before I enjoy being sensual and I LOVE making people feel good. We are all in the business for different reasons. And I love a guy treating me special...

I do not encourage touching from customers. Occasionally I will allow a customer to comfortably lay his hand on NONSEXUAL body parts if he behaves and that's only if I enjoy it but every dancer is different and its better NOT TO TOUCH AT ALL! I have some customers who assume that because I'm carressing their neck, breathing on their neck etc. they should do the same which is irritating at times, especially when it's the "wrong" guy.

Ludamite
12-23-2003, 05:17 PM
There has been a few dancers who have responded to this question with an answer that stated that there is times they enjoy doing dances if it's the right customer. I don't mean like i am so wet enjoyed but just enjoyed it for whatever reason. I would venture to say that atleast 25% of the answers that are not arguments say this. So i don't understand why people insist that it is such an impossibility for it to happen. Now i am not trying to hang on to my argument by a thread nor am i saying that i want to here dancers tell me how much they want me. I just think there are certain people who need to admit that it is a POSSIBILITY for this to happed.

Pamela
12-24-2003, 09:17 AM
I am one dancer who can say she disliked lap dances. I LOVED the stage in clubs. Now i do private parties, and i do ld's, they are fine, but i call the shots up front, see how drunk the person is, and get paid before hand. The club was different when i saw ld's, on my own i can do them anyway i want. And yes, i have some contact with private parties.


Pamela

SexyBooty
12-24-2003, 10:57 AM
i love my job!;-))LOL

cash
12-24-2003, 02:05 PM
i'm gonna be truthful here the only way i enjoy a lapdance is when there is lots of money involved .....sorry guys but i don't mean to sound greedy ...but thats the truth i cant say that i have really enjoyed a lapdance sexually ...besides when i'm at work i'm not think about sex ...

BigRed1970
12-24-2003, 06:03 PM
i'm gonna be truthful here the only way i enjoy a lapdance is when there is lots of money involved .....sorry guys but i don't mean to sound greedy ...but thats the truth i cant say that i have really enjoyed a lapdance sexually ...besides when i'm at work i'm not think about sex ...
yeah, for me, I have realized that I am NOT going to turn on a dancer by having her rub against my bulge..... :-[ but what I have done is made it possible for a dancer to enjoy her time with me, the main way to do this is to be NICE, a lot of guys have problems with that, but giving a dancer a vip dance is not a licence to be an asshole....
the one thing that I have found that dancers like is a good massage. it is somthing that you have to practice at. the fact that several ladies have spent time in the private room (where they didn't charge them for each song) shows that I at least am decent at it. but for me, I like to do this because it is a "extra" that I can give.... and I enjoy making dancers feel good. I just now know that I have little chance of doing that sexually, but helpinging them relax is another subject altogeather....

livenudegirlsunite
12-25-2003, 03:43 PM
I have really had a very good time doing some lap dances; but like alexislv said, it has never been while doing a dance for a touchy guy. Guys who try to grab my boobs or put their hand in the area of the kitty are horrible. Those are the guys that I only dance for strictly for the money. The best dances from the dancers perspective (and usually for the customer as well) are the ones where the customer lets us do our job. We are the professionals after all.

NiceGuy1965
01-07-2004, 12:37 AM
Ok, my first ever post, so please be gentle. On this topic, I became a "sort of" regular for a dancer, and in fact we seemed to become good friends, enough so that she gave me pictures of her with family members and gave me her real name and email address. As time went on when I would get dances from her, she would always tell me I can touch her anywhere, which I never did. After a few months, as she was dancing for me she began to kiss me alot. considering we always had great conversation and whatnot, and then her advanced "friendliness" as time went on, was she just working me for more money, or was she truly interested in me? I felt she and I had connected but was too embarrased to ask her for fear of scorn. Do dancers become attracted like that to customers sometimes?

foxee555
01-07-2004, 04:40 AM
Frankly, the more I get to know a customer and the more I like and respect him as a person, the harder it is to make myself dance for them at all. It makes me unbelievably uncomfortable. Becomes too intimate. Thank god I work on stage and commision and my best customers pay me to sit with them. Any others, it's just going through the routine til their songs are done.

ami
01-09-2004, 01:49 AM
I hate it when guys grab me. and i abhor (sorry needed a stronger word) it when a guy puts his mouth on me, wet or not. so i put my breasts in his face, if my nipple gets near his lips its an accident that he should be apprecitive of and not trying to take advantage of. I totally agree with alexislv, bella21 and jayln. but i havent always kept the smacking to fantasy, just a few weeks ago a guy opened his mouth when i put my breasts in his face and i hit his cheak open handed, not hard enough to hurt him badly just enough to get his attention and i said "no mouth." then didnt put my breasts near his face anymore. I dont mind my husband touching or kissing my breasts but he cant gently kiss the back of my neck, even thinking about it kinda creeps me out. The only touching i enjoy at work is when he gives me a shoulder/back/foot massage and dosnt try to grope my breasts or butt while doing it. really i only enjoy it when it is a no touch but lots of me touching myself and them watching. its hard to find places like that though as places that are no touch usually have laws aginst me touching myself too (not fingering or anything just sexy hands on my body), and places that you can touch want a full lap dance and dont have any room for anything else. and ludamite wheather its a harsh hand on the breast or a gentle stroke of the leg if we didnt initiate it, we prolly dont want it. if your favorite dancer wants you to touch her she might feel comfotable with you, or it might be the style that she feels makes her the most money. on the hard nipple comment.. my nipples do whatever they want, it can be freezing cold and they are flat, I (or someone else) can be touching them still flat, then there are times they are just sticking up for no reason.