View Full Version : How do guys feel about dating strippers?
Stringer
07-22-2005, 07:44 AM
I'll just be honest...
There's no way in hell I'd date a stripper, unless I was "tricked" into it by a dishonest woman. Y'all have too many issues. ;D
Prester_John
07-22-2005, 09:27 AM
I would only date a stripper who doesnt answer questons in threads that were started way back in March 2004.
So all you strippers who have recently contributed to this thread, sorry, you have no chance with me. It's tough to take, I know, but in time the pain will fade.
:D
Clark
07-22-2005, 12:33 PM
The thread seems to be active again, so I'll go for it.
I'd date a stripper, no problem. I wouldn't date them just because they were a stripper and there are lots of strippers out there I wouldn't date. In fact, I've only met about two I would. There are plenty of others I might have if I knew them better OTC, though.
People are more than their jobs, but that doesn't mean their jobs aren't a big part of them. Stripper is a job that will get you bonus points. So will any other sort of performer, cop, political activist (for issues I'm into, obviously) or medical professional.
As far as the manipulation angle, that's the main complaint I've heard from guys who have dated strippers. I would find it difficult to date someone who was a hardcore manipulator at work because even if I didn't think she was doing it to me (and I'm not easily manipulated anyway), I would have the impression she had a rather dim view of men or at least customers. This would be a major turn-off even if it didn't apply to me.
However, this isn't the only way to be successful as a dancer. And dancers spend all day chatting with men about all sorts of things non-dancers rarely hear. So anyone who isn't will have a better understanding of men than most women.
Also, ambition is one of the main qualities that attracts me. I've hardly met a dancer that didn't have this in spades.
TorontoGuy
07-22-2005, 06:07 PM
Strippers (at least the good ones) understand what makes men happy, and have no nudity hangups, and are most often in good physical condition. Sure, there are other occupational hazards in the negative column, but those first two items are huge bonuses, and the third isn't exactly a problem.
The biggest negative I can think of is how much it might bother my family. For a woman I was in love with, I'd deal with that. From first date to true love, though, the lady in question might have to deal with not being introduced to my family until I was sure.
It's all theoretical since I'm still married to my first wife!
I dont have a problem with it. I met my wife about 4 years ago and found out that she was a dancer when I got hired to be the lot guy ath the club and we have been together the whole time. It takes alot of trust for a man to trust a woman in this line of work and it takes even more trust for a woman to trust a man in this line of work. Bottom line....
....If you are with someone and they try to use your job to get to you then that is just being vindictive and it probably wont work.
threlayer
07-23-2005, 05:08 PM
For me it would depend entirely on the personal qualities of the dancer. I am not going to give up on what I value and reject in a woman merely because of what she does for a living.
I know stripping can be a pretty slutty lifestyle, and it takes a mature woman to not let the stripper persona rule her life. Further it takes a mature man and complete mutual honesty to complete the picture. If the gal starts scheming, finds someone else, or slips into drugs/alcohol, she would be out of my picture same as a non-dancer would. I would hope and expect she would mature enough to regard me exactly in the same way.
MickieBlue
07-23-2005, 05:36 PM
Did they meet you at the club!!!!!!
My BF never had a lap dance (put $20 down when I was onstage, but just laid it down, and walked back to his usual place at the bar) I thought he was after the bar mistress (hot as hell) until he asked me out for lunch.
He is friends with the owner (who says “everybody loves him), knows everyone here at the beach, and no one has dated him before. I felt naive and stupid for thinking “I am the one”, but after 6 months he is a true blue as any guy I have ever met. He knows what I do, never asked me to quit, or asks me about work. At 38 yo. He (still hot as hell) is the most Any woman could hope for in a guy
”dancer” or not.
compscikj
07-23-2005, 06:37 PM
My SO is a stripper and a I love it! I am secure, I think she is gorgeous and I love showing her off. Whats the big deal guys? As long as she comes home to you at the end of the night, who cares if she dances? If she genuinely enjoys it, support her! Plus, strippers are just more fun!
I agree scorpio....I'm a single professional female...I not only would not have a problem with it, I would be there at the club also having a good time. The couple of dancers that I talk to when I go to Diamonds, they're smart,independent, women with dreams, goals, and at least to me very confident...I have the utmost repect for them...and if it came down to it, if she,my so whenever I find her :-(, ever wanted to stop dancing for any reason and just focus on school, I had no problem with being the sole income provider
Mastridonicus
07-23-2005, 06:45 PM
If I dated one, no problem, I would want to hear stories from work. Period. Its such an interesting profession.
But to me its no different or shameful than any other job.
Sure the money's good but unless you're there with her, when she says "My boyfriend is into computers and fixes them" what image is that assigned. :D
grinew127
07-23-2005, 07:11 PM
......and if her BF mistreats her, computers will be the only thing he will ever be into.
Very good! I agree.
Mastridonicus
07-23-2005, 07:20 PM
yea, seriously I deal with that alot.
Computers are like the antithesis of Pussy.
To have those is to cause a rift in the space/time continuum.
Well you couple that with my Anime craze, My anime music collection, my recent Mac obsession and my ability to talk in unix terms and read binary, my constant full-body imitation of a pear, as well as read and draw comics... I'm left with one erogenous talent, the ability to play a few instruments one of them being a guitar.
Its a sad world I live in, but hey, I have to treat her like a princess, cause when she sees what I'm packin, she may be too!
HA
I KILL ME!
*eats a cat*
Clark
07-23-2005, 09:17 PM
I'd also want to hear abotu work and I'd hope she'd want to hear about mine, though the world of fashion sales is perhaps not as exciting as stripping. Our jobs take up a third or more of our waking time That makes them a big part of our lives. No sense trying to pretend they aren't.
Twinkiez
07-24-2005, 12:10 AM
my boyfriend was mad at first but he's gotten over it....he realized that the shoes he wanted are expensive lol....but I him to death we were bestfriends and now we are together he promised before when we were just friends that he would support me no matter what I do...I took him to the club and he was more comfortable once he saw how the inside was ran...
Niceguy
07-24-2005, 11:29 AM
Generally speaking, they aren't going to date you. Only an usual series of circumstances,
and me being marooned in a city longer than I was supposed to, kept me coming back
to the club enabled a series of dinner dates, drinks after work and brunches. Then I kept being assigned to the area, again with sanfus and downtime.
Generally there is not mutual attraction. Either you as the customer like her and she doesn't view you as more than a customer. Or (more rare), she likes you but you don't like her.
Curiously, somewhat like real life.
As most persons in this topic have implied, it does depend on the person. Some guys are just not strong enough to handle having a SO in the sex industry.
One of my ex's is a professional escort and didn’t tell me what she did until about a month into the relationship. After the shock (on my part) and the resulting argument that followed (I didn’t speak to her for a week after her revelation), things cooled off a bit and the relationship resumed as normal. Before her, I was one of those types who said that I would never date someone in the industry - I too was tainted with bad information that women in this field were not trustworthy.
The hardest part about being with her was that her clientele constantly bombarded her with expensive gifts and offers of financial support (talk about competition, eh?). She would always tell me though, that with them it was only about the money, nothing more. Trust is a serious thing, believe me. The relationship lasted almost two years, until she changed services and got involved with a really unprofessional crowd. We parted ways, but every time I run into her nowadays, she reminisces about the past and the good times we had. Normal relationship – no big deal.
Ladies, everyone has their prejudices and misconceptions, but it’s up to you to separate the men from the boys. A man who really wants to be with you and has the maturity to respect you as a person will not mind dating you (regardless of what you do for a living), as long as that respect is given in return. With that said, every relationship should always be a two-way street. If you put up a “wall” at the start, and make generalizations about what men want from you, then of course you will be less likely to find someone who is open to accepting you. Like I said before: Trust is a serious thing. ;)
Pretty_Penny
07-24-2005, 01:42 PM
my bf and i have been together for over 2 years. i started dancing last week, but i had worked as a gogo dancer in clubs before. the only thing he seems to be concerned about is how it will effect me emotionally and wether or not it's safe. i had to fully explain to him the security process lol. he's not jealous in the least bit. he doesnt have any reason to be and i'm sure he knows that. plus, he's happy that it's allowing me to go back to school.