View Full Version : what would you do if your man was cheating online?
kittenkat
07-11-2004, 04:55 PM
I've been cheated on. Boy, it will send you though an emotional blender. If you have his contact info for his online ID, why don't you log in under a fake name and try contacting him as someone else? Create a free e-mail account under your fake name on yahoo or something and have the e-mails go there. Read his profile, and answer accordingly and use it as bait. If he bites (he responds), you don't have to confront him. You know. Leave him. He's not worth your time.
I'm Asian and the Asian-fetish guys freak me out. When guys approach me with the line, "I loooove Asian women..." it makes me want to puke. EWWWWW! It's like a guy saying "I like big boobs." I doubt that's a good pickup line...
We should be seen as people, not some weird, fucked up fantasy. Yeah, the fantasy is what makes us money at work, but it's not what makes a personal relationship succeed.
Feel free to PM me, if you feel the need to vent. I've been through the cheated thing several times, so I know what you're feeling! Hang in there.
VADEN
08-09-2004, 01:54 PM
It's one thing if he were just looking at pictures for curiosity, but if he is entering his info and getting info about a girl/girls then he has a serious problem. I would just walk right up to him and say "Keep digging your hole to China and see where you end up, without me!" >:( ;)
whirlerz
08-12-2004, 10:22 AM
Found out a horriffic thing about someone this way, wish I'd taken action right away. Btw, what about the guys on this site that chat etc., & read posts on this forum? What I mean is, I feel weird about some of the peeps I have spoken 2 that are involved,(w/s/o) but if someone else thinks it's ok, hmm who am I to say? I knew it was goin' on when former hub was doin' it, was in denial.
ChiquitaBonita
08-15-2004, 07:45 AM
hmph... i would just bring it up...
I can't keep things like that to myself.... its gonna bother me, and it is just going to make the situation even worse. Only because I would be bound to nit pick at some of the most stupidest things, when they are not important. Only because I have something plaguing the back of mind. It isn't your fault that you happened to catch him wondering... its all of his..
Of course he's going to deny everything so be prepared. Just let him know that your not going to take that. (and be honest with yourself...is he worth all this crying and sadness?)
be strong ok?
I tired to use the spector software,but I don't have administrator privledges and the norton antivirus had to be disabled.But i found ou his passwords and got in anyway.Then I confronted him and now I just want to get in to check things out. Any advice?
domino0716
09-27-2004, 02:29 PM
quit being nosie! everybody got secrets and nobody is perfect. Except or move on! You can't EVER change a person
misschevious420
10-07-2004, 05:26 PM
either confront him or install keystroke recording software. That's what I'd do.
keystroke recording software??? i need to know about this..
me and mine have our own pc's and i'll be damned everytime i peek in his messengers or website history, there's a new girl he's chatting with, and lots of porn.
i've confronted him and he puts it on me for breaking his privacy. once and for all i'd like to know what he's up to so i can either know i'm nuts, or leave.
i'd love to know if there's really software that can log what he does. if that's what you were talking about.
ok i'm done:-\
gothicgoddess
10-27-2004, 01:42 PM
Hack his e-mail account and change his passwords lol....thats what i would do... But im kinda evil.... *shrugs* hehe...
FoxyRoxIt
10-27-2004, 04:45 PM
Why don't YOU send HIM and email? I'd set up a fake email account just for this purpose I'd use some dumbass name like "ChinaDoll". Write him an email letting his ass know that he's busted and you're leaving him. Or you can pose as some sexy Asian girl, let him write back, and then bust his ass in your reply email. He'll be shittin his pants. That's what I'd do. Have the last laugh and then leave his ass high and dry!
MissTaylor
10-27-2004, 08:42 PM
I think it all boils down to one simple thing....if your gut is telling you something is off...then something is off. It's just finding the strength within to do something about it.....
VADEN
10-27-2004, 09:14 PM
Why don't YOU send HIM and email? I'd set up a fake email account just for this purpose I'd use some dumbass name like "ChinaDoll". Write him an email letting his ass know that he's busted and you're leaving him. Or you can pose as some sexy Asian girl, let him write back, and then bust his ass in your reply email. He'll be shittin his pants. That's what I'd do. Have the last laugh and then leave his ass high and dry!
What a great idea, if he is even worth the time to do so....;)
mermaidnz
10-28-2004, 10:34 AM
my immiture mind would do somthing along the lines of...
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hire a friend/dancer/escort whatever, thats asian,( as you say thats what he was into on website) get her to try and meet with him, see what he does with her, maybe even bust them in the middle of it?!
actually dont do that. that would be horrible for you. thats something stupid id do.
seriously. this is a shitty situation to be in, i have no idea what else you could do, except confront him, or just break up?! arghh i duno
slutty
10-30-2004, 05:19 PM
i really don't think that typing online to someone is cheating. my views are different than most, i personally feel that cheating is very healthy for a relationship. believe it or not you learn to appreciate your partner more.