View Full Version : Does aging really bother you?
slutty
10-14-2004, 09:52 PM
I'm frightened to get older! i will do anything to find the fountain of youth
lilac666
10-15-2004, 02:26 AM
Yes!! Honestly it does! I hate to admit it. I do everything I can to hang on to my looks. I even get airbrush tanned just to avoid wrinkles. But I think alot of this has to do with being a dancer for me. When I am done with dancing I will still work out, take care of my skin, ect but when I am thirty I want to start having babies so I think alot of my energy is going to be focused on them and worring about my looks just won't be able to work its self into my schedual!!;D
azamber
10-15-2004, 05:02 AM
Aging did bother me, until people started seriously not believing me when I told them my age. I'm 29 and I get everything from "You don't look old enough to be in this club" to 25, with the avg being 22. I love it. I am 7 months away from 30, and I don't look it.
I was reading an article recently about how 50 is the new 40, and I guess that would translate into 30 is the new 20, because that's how I feel. And that's how it seems looking around nowadays. The article attributed it to better healthcare and education about living healthy. I think that as time goes on and more progress is made, youth will last even longer, so if you're 20 now, I think you have much less to worry about as far as aging goes, than your parents did.
I'm a smoker, so I REALLY feel the urgency to quit as I get older. I feel my body aging, even though I hardly see it. And working in such a smoky environment doesn't help any of us who have to deal with it.
Additionally, there are many non-invasive procedures offered now that help prevent the signs of aging affordably. I had a microderm/chem-peel on my last b-day and it really brightened my face for a few months. I hear regular treatments just keep turning back the hands of time.
naomisantos77
10-15-2004, 09:04 AM
Like Pamela, My mother inspires me also she is 57 and looks like 35/40
I hope i get very old!!! Healthy and without lines and wrinkels. smile***
Bella21
10-15-2004, 09:59 AM
Wow, I have to admit, I was a bit surprised by everyone's answers! I'm terrified of getting older... the responsibilities (if there are more than I already have.... yikes!) and the wrinkles, lines, thinning out, sagging... I think I'll reread this post whenever I feel down about it! :D
Jo Weldon
10-15-2004, 11:30 AM
There are things I love about being older. Last night I was listening to a woman in her early 20s talk about her insecurities and I realized that I know almost no women over 30 who feel that kind of insecurity, who talk about hating life or hating their thighs, etc., the way that some young girls do. No offense to girls who say those things--I did when I was young and that's why I notice it so much. But now I can't even relate to it; it's so far removed from the way I feel now that I can't even say much to her, you know, "Oh no, you're so wonderful, how can you feel that?" I know I must have felt just terrible then and I never, ever feel that way now.
I remember working in an upscale club in my 20s and thinking I had to do this or that about my body or my face, and looking back I can't imagine why I thought that. If there was somebody with a prettier face or a better body, I automatically thought it was because there was something WRONG with my face or my body. I can't even wrap my mind around that now. I can't imagine wanting to be attractive to guys who are that picky, except for professional reasons.
And I LOVE being able to tell when people are lying to me, which I couldn't when I was younger. I'm not always right, but I'm right often enough that I can relax about it, in general. And I don't get so mad about it; I just sort of think, "Oh, I see, you're a liar. Got it!"
All that being said, I didn't start to age one fraction of a second between 25 and 40 and then--wow. I quit smoking and my metabolism changed, and for the first time I gained some weight, after twenty years of gorging on muffins and ice cream without gaining an ounce. And I realized all the times I thought, "If she looks like that, she should cover up," I was being an incredible asshole. I was saying, "Don't have fun, don't do what you want, you don't have permission because you have a bit of flab there, don't let people laugh at you." And I never realized I was that kind of person, that I was even thinking that kind of shitty stuff, until I had that bit of flab and went around having a great time anyway, wearing the most inappropriate clothes, knowing perfectly well that there were people thinking what I used to think.
The worst part, I'd say, has been the reading glasses. Nobody warned me. My eye doctor said, "Oh yeah, it's so very common, once you hit 40." So I hate that part.
But life is way, way better than ever, and it wasn't even that bad most of the time when I was younger, even when I said I hated it.
I also went to Tease-o-Rama and to Exotic World and saw the ladies in their 70s dance. They were having the best time and it was just joyous. Just amazing.
Blade
10-15-2004, 11:36 AM
Um.. Well, I'm supposedly turning 30 in September. I say "supposedly" because I decided to cancel it. hahaha..
:pray:HAHAHA Guess who turned 30......
As far as aging goes, I'm the only one in my family who likes to get older. The way I see it, everyday above ground is a good day.
Katrine
10-15-2004, 12:17 PM
I have enjoyed getting over. I am scared of being fat, ugly, unattractive, undesirable, no longer considered a real woman;
all of these things can happen with age. However, I know many women who are aging wonderfully and look better than ever. Many of them are involoved in bellydance and it keeps them happy and trim....
Time to stop smoking them cigs, LOL!
onlythebest
10-15-2004, 12:37 PM
Why do people under 25 even bother posting in this thread???
LoveSexMoney
10-15-2004, 12:41 PM
OTB, you're 97, how do YOU feel about getting older? hahahahaha;D
onlythebest
10-15-2004, 12:45 PM
OTB, you're 97, how do YOU feel about getting older? hahahahaha;D
I feel f*cking GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!;) :P :) ;D
VenusGoddess
10-15-2004, 01:06 PM
I am going to be 31 soon...and I think I look pretty damn good! My family has some good genes...so I am not worried about looking like an old hag any time soon.
In fact, I'll be one of the few who is 96 looking like 30. LOL My grandmothers both passed away in their late 80's looking like they were about 60-65. My mom is in her late 50's and looks like she's about 40...so, no, I'm not worried about aging.
I take excellent care of myself now so I won't worry about it later. :D
onlythebest
10-15-2004, 01:08 PM
I think I look damn good for a 97 year old.;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
ccgirl
10-15-2004, 01:25 PM
getting older, saggy and wrinkly sucks. and i suspect that most of us on here have been judged by our looks since puberty. it's not the identity i chose for myself but short of wearing a paper bag over my head, it influences how people respond to me. and while i've resented it at times, i'm gonna be very sad when people look through me, when i'm invisible. sometimes i don't care and sometimes i get really sad about it. i'm lucky, i hit the genetic jackpot in every way. but still, i've never seen a 45 year old who looks 25. not really.
but what i'm really LOVING right now is all the confidence that goes along with it. and the increased sex drive. ohmigod, is that ever nice. if only i had a boyfriend, i'd probably kill the poor guy. }:D
Paris
10-15-2004, 01:48 PM
Getting older is awesome!! I feel healthier, sexier and more vital that I ever have before in my life.
I was having lunch with a 22 year old friend last week, and at the table next to us were a bunch of ladies in their 50's and 60's. They looked great and were having a good time. And my mind started doing some free form thinking and I came to the conculsion that I am "Middle aged". I will be 35 next month. Most folks live to be 75, so that puts me about in the middle of my life.
I mentioned this to my =friend and she says "No way!" and argues with me that middle age starts at about 50-60. I argued back how many people do you know live to be 100-120?
I really do believe that 40 is the new 30 in our society. Look at sports, more and more athletes are in thier 40's, whereas 20 years ago this would not have been physically possible. Once a cure for arthritis is found (I think it is just a matter of time) we will be able to be active and vital well into our golden years.
About the looks thing? There are plenty of very sexy people in thier 40's 50's and even 60's. I was a little concerned when I was younger that I wouldn't find older men attractive as I got older, but just the opposite has happened. I have met some very attractive guys in their 40's and 50's. I also really like the the younger guys still, but more just to look at, as they mostly just don't have a clue.
Anyhow, once you get out of your 20's life gets a lot smoother. I'm loving it!!
The Original Babygirl
10-15-2004, 01:54 PM
It seems that my money is better since i'm older. My nat for hustleing is WAY better now then it's ever been, but I do feel bad that my tits are starting to droop lol, but I think that is because of having my daughter.
grace
10-15-2004, 02:03 PM
Weird how most of us who are really freaked out about aging are so young. Maybe too young to even understand all the great things that come with getting older -- that there will be a time when you don't rate yourself entirely by whether you have the "perfect" face and body.
I was scared of aging from about age 20 - 23. I had this visionof myself flabby, wrinkled and depressed. WHATEVER! Some time in the last year I started taking care of myself, running, doing yoga, eating well. In my opinion, I look better all the time. I can't wait to be 30!! (Maybe then people will finally take me seriously...)Women 30+ are the sexiest...there's nothing wrong with crow's feet. They look good, if accompanied by all the confidence and experience of a life well-lived.
My inspiration is my grandma, whose been a vegetarian and yogi for thirty years. she's 85 now, and OK, she couldn't model for Playboy, but she is incredibly active, thriving, and wise. I want to be just like her.
Crystal_eyes
10-15-2004, 03:51 PM
It doesn't really bothers me when I look at my mom she looks fantastic for her age ! When u get older u also get wiser !
LeanneCiccone
10-15-2004, 07:06 PM
Freaking hell, I worry about it all the time and I just turned 24. I feel a lot older.
Sitri
10-15-2004, 07:44 PM
It's the alternative to aging that scares the shit out of me...
I'm too young at heart to die.
Katherine
10-15-2004, 08:09 PM
I agree with casual observer. I'm only 22 but I know my choices today affect me later. I use sunscreen everyday even in winter, self tan only, don't smoke, moisturize, no drugs. I'll be happy to be forty as long as I don't look fifty!! :-*
Rhiannon
10-15-2004, 08:20 PM
HAHAHA Guess who turned 30......
LOL Damn you!
::sigh:: Yes, I turned 30. It's funny, I don't feel any different. I don't think I'll ever feel my age anyway, I guess that's a good thing.. LOL
Oh yeah.. Hey? OTB.. Why are you 97? LOL
NewbieTx
10-17-2004, 05:38 PM
I personally feel too young sometimes when I try to approach the more mature business men who are in their 50's or older. I feel like some of the ladies that are older than myself actually have an advantage of taking on these kind of clients as they have more money and don't bullsh*t as much as the younger crowd. I think that some of the older gentlemen feel uncomfortable with a women younger than half his age.
Casual Observer
10-17-2004, 06:17 PM
I think that some of the older gentlemen feel uncomfortable with a women younger than half his age.
You're more than capable of helping them overcome that, you just haven't discovered that yet.
;)
VADEN
10-17-2004, 06:48 PM
At the moment, I am in total denial of ever getting old or in hopes of them finding a miracle of some kind to stop the aging process....::)
I don't wanna get old damn it!
When I do though, I'm going to be a kick ass, little old lady....LOL.. ;)
RaggDoll
10-17-2004, 09:59 PM
I turned 40 this past May ...
I gotta tell ya! Life BEGINS at 40!!!! ;)
No ... aging is not bothering me. I feel better about myself now than I ever have. 8)
kryssy
10-17-2004, 10:50 PM
Aging is starting to bother me now. I have 3 kids marriage of alomost 9 years, and a house to totally take care of now.
onlythebest
10-18-2004, 02:50 AM
Hey? OTB.. Why are you 97? LOL
Why am I 97???Why not!!!LMAO!!!
Katrine
10-18-2004, 02:04 PM
After returning from bellydance camp retreat this weekend, I am now not so afraid about aging. We had women of every age group and fitness level there. We had pro dancers and newbies. Everyone worked hard at the workshops, we all ate and swam and got drunk togeter, total bonding....
Even after I am no longer the "stripper ideal" of beauty, I will have bellydancing, which began as social dancing that women did together to support each other, and thankfully continues to this day. ;)
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10-22-2004, 11:07 AM
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