View Full Version : Okay... there is this guy...
GoldCoastGirl
11-14-2004, 06:39 PM
I thought I would honour everyone with the exact last message between us as of now:
I'm sorry its not going to work i'm in wa for work and just found out i'm going to png after that for 6 months im sorry but i wont keep you hanging on i'm sorry u should prob move on
WA is Western Australia. PNG is Papua New Guinea (another country above Australia).
Katrine
11-14-2004, 06:57 PM
:hug:
Sorry doll. Better luck next time. Go out, get drunk, and have a one night stand. Its a bandaid, but it might help for a second.
GoldCoastGirl
11-14-2004, 08:24 PM
I just need to do "single gal" things right now.... go to the beach... maybe hook up there. I'm not too "into" the nightclub scene locally nor can I get drunk anymore (I find it hard to drink just one alcoholic beverage let alone multiple ones)....
I'm hoping that eventually he will turn his phone on (I'm convinced he turned it off and that's the reason why my "pending" messages didn't get thru today) so my messages can get through. I have questions that need answering so I can indeed move on.
I would personally love to actually TALK to him however it would be way to easy for him to ignore my calls (reject them or just not answer them). I want to know whether he will be open to me trying to contact him every 2-3 months just in case things change.
I just need to know whether it is purely due to his work creating the major obstacle (not being in an area covered by his mobile phone provider) or anything else. From the way things were going... I'm guessing work. Didn't have any signs of anything else wrong with the relationship.
If it was his work.. things can... and has been proven already.. do change.. so he might be in a better area (which offers coverage) in 2-3 months... he might not be where he is...
I might also think differently by that time... however... right now... I would love to have that option.
GoldCoastGirl
11-15-2004, 01:43 AM
Alright... here is my plan... I'm going to give it until the last Monday of this month to get this all sorted. That is PLENTY of time for me to be able to have my messages go thru and hopefully be able to get in verbal contact with him. If it isn't all sorted by that time... then I'm just going to have to let it be as it is.
I was actually hoping it would've been all sorted (even if it was just via sms) by mid week this week..... however.... those messages didn't go thru this morning (first time in a week that has happened).... so i'm going to have to just be patient.
Bridgette
11-15-2004, 09:07 PM
Long distance relationships are hard, very hard, and they rarely work out. I know it's easier said than done, but you could take this whole thing as a sign that there ARE in fact guys out there you find mutually attractive. Perhaps this was subconsciously your first baby step back into the dating scene after a long abstinence, and it was somehow sensible to ease into it with someone who was too far away to really have a go for the first round.
Or maybe I'm overanalyzing (who, me? ;D ). I do think your reaction to this is a definite sign you're ready to get back into the dating scene. Maybe you just need to relax and do girl things - seems like you'll be more open to trying with another when the opportunity presents itself ;)
GoldCoastGirl
11-15-2004, 11:34 PM
Acutally... my plan is still the same yet slightly different. It is the only way I am able right now to stop hurting so much and be able to be a little less stressed (and therefore be able to carry on with my life).
I'm going to be patient. Still will wait until the last monday of this month to hopefully have this all sorted. Even if it isn't I am still going to send him once or twice a month for the over the next few months or year or whatever a short text/sms message along the lines of "Hi :-) Hope life is treating you well. Still got all your fingers right? hehehe! I'm here if your circumstances change and you want someone to help make your work days more fun. Life is good for me. Call me whenever you want.".
Of course... I will do this for as long as I'm not seeing anyone else. I'm not going to wait for him to contact me when I start doing this... I will open myself up more (hopefully) to other opportunities. Just that within a period of 4 weeks alot changed (he went from one mine site to Ernest Henry to WA)... so what's to say that his WA 6month then PNG 6mth contracts might not still be there two months from now?
I'm going to do the "take a break from him yet stay in contact with him" option. As soon as I can contact him (verbally) I would love to find out if this is okay with him. He might not have considered it at all... he might have thought that breaking it all off completely was the best solution.
We'll have to see........ it's only 2 days.
GoldCoastGirl
11-15-2004, 11:56 PM
I know it's easier said than done, but you could take this whole thing as a sign that there ARE in fact guys out there you find mutually attractive.
Yeah.... and it also took me near on 2 years or just over to find someone like him. Someone I had instant chemistry with. Someone who was good in bed. Someone who helped me discover myself sexually. Over the phone.. we had alot of fun. I've already gone over all the positives of him and the relationship. That's why it is my personal opinion he only called it off due to the extra distance now and then when he goes to PNG for 6mths. He's trying to protect himself as well as protect myself from the heartache etc of being apart for so damn long.
We had passion for each other. That was evident when we did get together but it was also evident when I called him (as I had more credit on my phone so I took the initiative). When we last spoke... I didn't get a feeling that he desired me any less. Also... his second last message to me was purely informational and he did say "I would call you when I can" at the end of it.
His second last message was along the lines of "I'm in WA for 6 months. I'll call you when I can." His last message to me was thanks to my reaction... I then send him a few sms messages saying I was hurt he didn't tell me sooner. I was also hurt that I had to threaten to call the relationship off (I included the line "If I don't hear from you by *day* I will take that as a sign as you don't want me anymore) before he responded. As I hadn't received one text message or phone call since he left for Ernest Henry... and it was going on just over 2 weeks with nothing...
I'm just going to be patient. I'm going to stick to my plan.
I also say that he turned off his phone based upon when he last experienced some real displeasure in his life (see earlier in this thread about how he became a little anti-social due to family dramas/problems) and the fact that up until 2 days ago... my sms/text messages WERE going through.
Once again.. it's only been 2 days... I'll be patient... I'll do my darnest to be patient and esp. not fret. Everything will work out... either we will re-establish contact down the line... or we wont... or one of us... or both of us will find other people.
GoldCoastGirl
11-16-2004, 07:18 AM
Here is the text message that I will be sending him once or twice a month:
Hey :-) Hope life is well. Still got all ur fingers ? :-) Im here if you change your mind and/or have more coverage... U no i can help make ur work more fun! :-) Life is good 4 me. Call or txt me when u can for fun *lusty grin* or friendship. Im still on the Coast.
Do you think it says that I'm ready to have him back with open arms whilst also not pressuring him to do so ? Does it say that I still desire him without sounding a little psycho (like I'm actually holding out for him to contact me) ?
VenusGoddess
11-16-2004, 08:08 AM
Don't keep texting him. Just let him be. Tell him once and then never call him again. If he wants to come back, he knows your phone number. Otherwise, you seem desperate to him. Just let it be...
GoldCoastGirl
11-16-2004, 05:14 PM
I understand what you are saying VG. Just that I want to do as a little friendly reminder.. that's all. I do not want to sound desparate... just that I know that the one sure thing in life is change... so I just want him to be "kept in the know" that I'm still available if he wants to contact me.
I'll stop texting him as soon as he tells me too or I find someone else.. whichever comes first.
In other news, as I suspected, his phone was indeed turned off. My messages went through today ;D Now I wait for his response. I just want two questions answered:
* Is the only reason he wants to break up due to the lack of coverage, isolation and extra distance between us or does he truely no longer desire me anymore ?
If he answers in the positive to the first part not the second part of that question... then I'll ask him if it is okay with him if I do txt him once or twice a month to just say HI.. hope life is well I'm here if you want me etc. I won't call him.. just txt message him.
It doesn't sound like he's very good for you right now. Maybe it would be best to leave him alone and move on?
Adina
11-16-2004, 05:34 PM
He broke up with you in a text message? Don't be a glutton for punishment. He has treated you very poorly. I understand that compulsive desire to contact someone who has been shitty to us (everyone's been there) but it's just going to make you feel worse. Lose his phone number and e-mail address - he's an asshole.
Bridgette
11-16-2004, 06:45 PM
I have to agree ^^. I wouldn't keep trying to contact him, he didn't even give you the courtesy of dumping you verbally, he did it via text message. Prior to that he was apparently ignoring you, not calling, not answering.... Don't sweat him anymore, you'll only be doing yourself a disservice. Next!
GoldCoastGirl
11-17-2004, 04:13 AM
He broke up with you in a text message? Don't be a glutton for punishment. He has treated you very poorly. I understand that compulsive desire to contact someone who has been shitty to us (everyone's been there) but it's just going to make you feel worse. Lose his phone number and e-mail address - he's an asshole.
He did via text message as that was the only way he was able to contact me. You have to realise that his work takes him to places (mine sites) where there is little to no mobile coverage unless you have a CDMA mobile phone (which I nor he has right now). He literally cannot call me from his mobile phone (which I would expect him to call from not the public phone that is at the mine site accommodation as I would prefer he did it in privacy than in public).
I know this due to my trip to Mt Isa.. on the way there and on the way back.. there was plenty of times that none of us had any mobile reception. The outback of Australia is reknown for its poor mobile coverage especially such a large stage like Western Australia.
As far as I know he wasn't ignoring me on purpose... he was at a site where there is no mobile reception (Ernest Henry). Plus... since he was moving across to the whole other side of Australia.. I can understand just not wanting to take any phone calls whilst moving due to the whole stress of moving. Even moving to the next suburb can be stressful and tiring enough.
Also.. him turning his phone off for the past two days... I'm assuming (based on his past actions) that he did so cause he was hurting.. he was feeling anti-social... he was trying to protect himself. I understand... I've been avoiding going to work because I don't want to be socialable as well.
I'm still contacting him because I just have a final few questions that I require to be answered so I can indeed move on.... so I can know what my next action will be... I just need to know from him whether he broke it off due to the isolation/distance and lack of coverage or if it was because he desired me no more. Once I know the answer to that question.. I'll be satisfied... I will move on.
bloodydewdrop
11-17-2004, 05:18 AM
I'm really really sorry this happened, and that you're hurting right now. I have to agree with the others not to keep text messaging him (except for that final one if you need to). If he wants to contact you, he knows how. Other things might drive him away. It really sucks. I had a guy dump me via email like four years ago, and I kept on him...told him i understood if he needed time (he had just gotten divorced), yada yada...and I came out looking pathetic. And he also never came back. I later found out he had done similar things with 7 girls.
Anyhow, it's ok to remain open but still go on with things. It's also important not to look like you're waiting for him. My suggestion is, since you're of the witchy variety, to do some rituals to get over the pain you're feeling. Have your catharsis that way. Then do some spells to help bring love into your life, whoever is meant to be with you. Not a specific person (or maybe, depends on your beliefs)...and heal that way. Good luck and i hope you feel better...
GoldCoastGirl
11-17-2004, 05:43 AM
Anyhow, it's ok to remain open but still go on with things. It's also important not to look like you're waiting for him. My suggestion is, since you're of the witchy variety, to do some rituals to get over the pain you're feeling. Have your catharsis that way. Then do some spells to help bring love into your life, whoever is meant to be with you. Not a specific person (or maybe, depends on your beliefs)...and heal that way. Good luck and i hope you feel better...
If the reason the relationship ended was due to the isolation, distance and poor mobile coverage then I will remain open yet get on with life (whatever happens.... happens). I just need to KNOW.. if you know what I mean?
As for the spells... I already have a few that I am planning to do however I can't do them until I know his answer as then I will know whether I need a spell to cut him totally out of my mind, body, soul.. life... so I can move on... or if I need to do a spell that allows him to know that I'm here if he wants me however I also want the universe to bring love into my life (if you know what I mean?).
Actually... whilst I do not advocate casting spells on specific people.... I have in the past and do not have any qualms with doing it in the future (for whatever reason). Ultimately, the person's own Free Will will determine if they will allow the spell to be cast upon them or not. It is just like someone cursing someone else... the curse will only work if you believe it works otherwise it has absolutely no power over you.
The only spell I cast recently in re: him was one requesting (I never force.. I always request/ask) him to turn his mobile phone back on so I can get my final questions answered.
aussiepunkshocker
11-17-2004, 05:53 AM
Aww shit - thats such a shame GCG, I'm sorry to hear it!!!
I think you should stay in touch here and there. IMO I think he's probably and will really hurt then if things don't work out and worried that in the long run it will be hard to have a relationship given the even huger distance and his work shifts etc. Not to mention that most people say that the mining towns of Wa and PNG are c*nts of places that no-one in their right mind would want to visit. Does he know how much you like him?!
I know how you feel about the daunting prospect of being single - I was just talking tro another dancer I ran into today about it! (Not that I'm single anymore but...) I think it's just The Coast / Queensland though there must be some eligable batchelors somewhere!!!!! Hope you hear something soon!
GoldCoastGirl
11-18-2004, 07:06 AM
Tonight was rather productive for me...... ;D
He is on holiday... well... at least for the next 7 days he isn't working (based on the usual "roster"). Tonight (Thu night) I rang his phone as my txt messages were going thru at a time when they usually would be just sitting there "pending".
It seems Jason, his mate (who also met me the first time I met Mt Isa Boy @ that crappy club), had the phone and was using Mt Isa Boy's credit to catch up with all his mates. Jason was in Broome (at some pub). He had no idea where or what Mt Isa Boy was up to...
(Well... at least I know that the mine site is now close to Broome as Jason is working with him. They are good/best mates. Tho' seems that Mt Isa Boy hasn't said a thing about him and me to anyone... seems they don't "kiss and tell" as I thought they would on the site.)
Here's the clincher for me... and one of the things I was dying to know... had Mt Isa Boy deleted all of those naughty photos off his phone? I mean.. there are ALOT of photos on that phone of me (very x rated). In my mind, if he was truely wanting to end it with me.. he would have deleted all of them by now. Right? Why leave reminders about me on that phone? He's definately had plenty of time to delete them... I know that I deleted most of his "stuff" off my phone except for two photos within 3 days of that "final" message I received.
Well.. after speaking with Jason (and since I don't know where I am with Mt Isa Boy.. I kept the flirting minimal w/Jason)... he got the idea that he wanted to check those photos out for himself. Jason rang me back later to inform me that they were still very much there esp. the ones that Mt Isa Boy did when we were at the ANA Hotel in October.
From what Jason was saying.. I received the very distinct impression that all of those naughty pxt of mine that I did for Mt Isa Boy were still very much on his phone.
How would you take this information ?
Also... I told Jason that I really needed Mt Isa Boy to call me so he can clear things up with me.. whether he is indeed wanting to totally cut me loose.. or at least just contact me for some "over the phone" fun (only - forget about trying to visit me) whenever he has time off and is "in the mood" (which means every 2-3 weeks.. maybe once or twice during his "off" week).
With the information about the photos.. I am intrigued and confused. I'm thinking that if he really didn't desire or like me... he would have gotten rid of those photos. It wouldn't take him that long to do.. so..
What do you think?
PM me if you so desire.
My plan of action now.. I'm going to call him. Jason might've used up all of his credit. I need to get all of this sorted.
Look.. the reason why I don't want to give up 100% right now is because I really did like having fun with him over the phone... whilst not as good as the real thing between us... it came a damn close second. Also, since whenever I am single I am also celibate.. it will be the only "sex" I will have... and I rather have it with him since we kinda "know" each other in that area now. I'm not holding out for him okay... I just want to make sure he knows that whilst I do recognise I am single now... that he can call me up whenever he is off work for some fun *wink wink* as well as look me up if he is ever near for some more fun *wink wink* without me wanting more than just that fun (basically go back to what it was before he asked me out).
VenusGoddess
11-18-2004, 08:33 AM
I think you are torturing yourself more than you need to be. You are trying to analyze something that cannot be analyzed. He broke up with you...but that doesn't mean that he doesn't want those naughty pics. Men have naughty pics of Pam Anderson, etc...they don't need to have a connection with those women...only a physical attraction.
You continuing to contact him is only prolonging the letting go for you. I know that you want to make sure that he knows that you are "thinking of him". However, at this point in the game...and please don't take this personally...you seem to be getting into the "stalker/obsessive" mentality. If he REALLY cares about you, then you will not have to remind him that you care about him. You will not have to text message him every week reminding him that your door is open for him. He will remember that. Now, in my experience...breaking up with someone and saying, "I'm too busy/tired/hurt/newly single/far away/etc. You need to move on..." is a way of saying, "I am not interested in a relationship with you and don't want a relationship with you and am trying to let you down easy."
The very fact that he is not reciprocating your contact means that he doesn't want that contact any longer.
Just let him go and move on.
GoldCoastGirl
11-18-2004, 07:09 PM
I finally figured out why I am a little obsessive over all of this:
Most people know why their relationships ended. I know why the last one I had years ago ended. I just don't know WHY. Yes, I should just move on.. however how am I supposed to learn anything if I just do not know WHY the relationship ended: was it something I did, was it just his circumstances, what ?
I have been given no reason... it was going great with no indication from him that there was anything to worry about... then it ended. Just like that.. it finished. I've been speculating... guessing... assuming... because I just don't know why. That's what is driving me crazy (not the fact that it ended).
Once I know why... then I can move on... as I would be able to learn from it. Right now.. I'm learning nothing because I have no clue why it just seemed to suddenly end.
In that txt message (the first post on this page), can you see a "why" as I cannot... and THAT is what is driving me nuts. I don't mean to be stalker/obsessive about it... just that... I have no idea why he suddenly out of the blue called it quits with me. I want to know if it is something I did.. if so.. then I can learn from that and move on... is it his circumstances... if so.. then I'll move on... did he just change his mind about wanting a lover... if so.. I'll move on... regardless... that txt message doesn't tell me s*it.
VenusGoddess
11-18-2004, 11:52 PM
You have a reason...you may not wat to admit it, but you were given a reason. If you choose not to believe that reason, it is your choice. However, I can most certainly guarantee you that continuing to contact him on a one-way basis is only going to piss him off.
Just move on...
tampafldancer
11-19-2004, 03:14 AM
Sweetie, he is not interested, you need to move on and fast to save face.
Trust me, if you keep texting him, it will make him less interested. Guys like to chase.
Just let it be, and find someone who can be a better lover and connect with you emotionally.
Nothing in this tread ever left me thinking "what a great guy." The one thing i thought was, "what a great girl!" meaning you, and YOU DESERVE BETTER.
tampafldancer
11-19-2004, 03:20 AM
I finally figured out why I am a little obsessive over all of this:
Most people know why their relationships ended. I know why the last one I had years ago ended. I just don't know WHY. Yes, I should just move on.. however how am I supposed to learn anything if I just do not know WHY the relationship ended: was it something I did, was it just his circumstances, what ?
I have been given no reason... it was going great with no indication from him that there was anything to worry about... then it ended. Just like that.. it finished. I've been speculating... guessing... assuming... because I just don't know why. That's what is driving me crazy (not the fact that it ended).
Once I know why... then I can move on... as I would be able to learn from it. Right now.. I'm learning nothing because I have no clue why it just seemed to suddenly end.
In that txt message (the first post on this page), can you see a "why" as I cannot... and THAT is what is driving me nuts. I don't mean to be stalker/obsessive about it... just that... I have no idea why he suddenly out of the blue called it quits with me. I want to know if it is something I did.. if so.. then I can learn from that and move on... is it his circumstances... if so.. then I'll move on... did he just change his mind about wanting a lover... if so.. I'll move on... regardless... that txt message doesn't tell me s*it.
IF HE DIDNT CARE ENOUGH ABOUT YOU AS A PERSON TO GIVE YOU A REASON why (truthfully) he called it off (and basically blew you off) he should be dead to you anyway.
Sweetie.. we have all been in your shoes at one time or another, and in another couple of years when you are with someone that truely treats you well you will be saying to yourself "what was i doing with that loser!"
No matter who you are, there is always someone out there who will truely love you and treat you with respect.
You need TO START DATING AGAIN. See what is out there, i think it may surprise you!
GoldCoastGirl
11-19-2004, 03:54 AM
Alright... I'm kewling down in re: contacting him. I'm going to leave it and be satisfied that it was due to his work breaking us up. My only concern now is all those x rated pxt.... granted on a handful have my face (or anything that you can recognise is me) in them (I was careful to make sure the majority of the time).
I will just have to trust that they will stay on his mobile. Yeah.. one of his mates has now seen them (my doing mainly)... however I don't think he is the type to kiss n tell in re: that stuff or else his good mate Jason would've already knew about those pxt.
Single... and celibate once again.
GoldCoastGirl
11-19-2004, 07:05 AM
Right... I txted Jason to tell him to tell MIB to delete and ignore any and all txt messages he may receive from me this month (there is still quite a few "pending"). I'm also going to give up trying to contact/call him (MIB). Jason wanted to move in now that MIB and I were no longer... he wanted to know if he could call me for fun every so often. I couldn't help but reply with something like: I still/will always desire MIB. Sorry Jason. It's MIB who I would love to call me every so often. Oh well.
I'm just going to "let him be" now. (I can hear some of you going "FINALLY!! Gosh it took her long enough!" and rolling your eyes LOL!!)
If he wants me.. he can call/txt me. Tho' like I said previously, I will send a txt message his way every so often (once every 2 or so months) just so that he knows I'm still available. Of course there is a part of me that wants him to call me next month.. even if it is just for fun.. however I realise that... well.. this saga has come to a close for now. :(
Its a shame it ended as I was having fun overall. Oh well. His loss... hey ? :)
I'm going to put our relationship ending down to my original theory: his work. His work creating more isolation and distance between us so that it made it near impossible to keep things hot (or at least keep things flowing).
Back to being single and celibate just like before all this....
PS.. as for those pxt... I'm going to allow him to keep them. Jason only knew about them thanks to me.. otherwise I think MIB didn't "kiss and tell" about them. So.. I'm trusting him that he won't go sending them to anyone.
PPS What do you think I should do with his brown jacket? I was supposed to return it to him the next time he visited me (we got together). I don't want to keep it. I really wish MIB would've told me what to do with it however I don't think he remembers I have it (or he does and has just written it off as a loss).
VenusGoddess
11-19-2004, 08:17 AM
If he wants me.. he can call/txt me. Tho' like I said previously, I will send a txt message his way every so often (once every 2 or so months) just so that he knows I'm still available. Of course there is a part of me that wants him to call me next month.. even if it is just for fun.. however I realise that... well.. this saga has come to a close for now. :(
WRONG. As long as you keep "reaching out" to him, the saga is NOT closed. Look, when I was younger, this happened to me one time and I spent almost a YEAR "letting him know" how much I still cared for him. Do you know what I got from that? I got a year of heartache and wasted a whole fucking year! I hate to be "confrontational" (and you need to make your own decisions). But, you are wasting your time. You had some great sex with the guy...you had some fun times with him...but, it's over now. Accept that, mail the jacket back to him/give it away to a homeless person...and move on. The only thing you are doing by "pining" away for someone who doesn't want a relationship with you is wasting your own time. If he REALLY truly cares for you...then HE will make contact WITHOUT you text messaging him every few months.
On the flip side, I had also dated a guy who, after we broke up, would call me every couple of months to "say hi" and see how I was doing. I never picked up the phone. EVER. I got so annoyed that he wouldn't take the hint by me NOT responding to any of his calls that I had my phone number changed. It is very annoying to have someone "running" after you when you've already told them that "it's not working and you need to move on." MIB's wishes have been made clear...he told you he thinks you should move on. Why don't you just write everything else off and just move on?
Malibu
11-19-2004, 09:13 AM
VenusGoddess, how true.
GCG, I think that you should read the thread: ''40 things every woman should know'' in Ladies Only. I'm not saying it's 100% gospel, there are always exceptions in life, however, I think that it's more relevant than irrelevant, and probably your case might be one where it is relevant.
Bridgette
11-19-2004, 10:05 AM
Hmmm, I tend to think MIB was WITH Jason when you talked with Jason. It think he probably saw it was you calling and handed the phone to his friend to cover for him. Why would his best friend have his phone at some bar on their off time and not have any idea where he was? Doesn't make sense. However it does seem he's been avoiding contact with you, he didn't even answer or return your calls/msgs on his off time. Obviously he's not interested for whatever reason.
I would chalk it up to: he's not right for me and time to move on.
GoldCoastGirl
11-19-2004, 07:33 PM
Hmmm, I tend to think MIB was WITH Jason when you talked with Jason. It think he probably saw it was you calling and handed the phone to his friend to cover for him. Why would his best friend have his phone at some bar on their off time and not have any idea where he was? Doesn't make sense.
Well... by the conversation I was having with Jason... MIB was not there. I can definately attest to that... also... I'm thinking that he let Jason have his phone and use his credit as a way to avoid me.. yes. Oh well.. whatever.. if he wants me.. he knows my number.
I'm not happy it is all over however it is.
That 40 things every woman should know... thread (Ladies Only) is helping.
Bridgette
11-20-2004, 12:41 PM
Jason could very well have been lying to you, to cover for his friend. Guys do that all the time. "hey I don't wanna talk to this chick but she keeps calling, you answer and tell her you don't know where I am....blah blah blah"
Anyway I'm glad the other thread helps, sometimes we all need a reminder of this stuff. :hug:
GoldCoastGirl
01-31-2005, 07:06 PM
Okay...... I'm reviving an old thread for good reason.;D
On NYE I sent out a general text message to alot of people in my address book ("Happy New Year" type of thing). Whilst I had deleted the pics of him... I didn't delete his no. Just couldn't do it. Shameful.. I know. Anyway... MIB then phoned me. He apologised and asked if we were kewl... I said okay.
I then sent him the text message I had held off sending him for AGES... the one that basically said I was here if he ever wanted to call me to have fun... that he knows I'm on the Gold Coast if he is ever this way for fun/booty call... just an offer nothing more.
I sent it to him without any expectations. That was the last text message I had sent him. I didn't hear from him until now. Until today.
I learnt alot about myself and grew up a little more from the whole experience... this time around... I'm taking a different approach. All he is too me is fun. I do not call or text him unless he calls or txts me first. I will not be taking the initiative anymore. He knows my number and he knows where I am (Gold Coast)... 8)
I took him back only because he was (is??) a damn hot great root. The sex is unbelieve-able! }:D }:D Plus our "fun" (;) ;)) phone conversations are fun.
I'm not being exclusive to him anymore. I'm not going to invest too much in him anymore.... he's fun... and that's how I would prefer it to be... keep y'all updated... :)
I still can't believe I have something to add still to this thread! :laughing: :laughing:
A little update: Just finished swapping pics as he has a new mobile phone and lost some of the old pics in the process.... anyway... He sent me a pic of him (clothed).. and I replied back saying I want my dessert (a dic pic) since I sent him entree, main course and something of a desert in re: pics.... I had to :laughing: at his reply... If I pull my cock out fight now I will get covered in grease and dust and the guy I work with look at me funny LOL :laughing:
Just to save the confusion: Jason was/is Mt Isa Boy's mate. I don't know where MIB is currently stationed... yet it is a better spot than where he was as the reception exists.
GoldCoastGirl
01-31-2005, 09:32 PM
At all times I'm reading and re-reading my 40 Things Every Woman Should Know page. If he "dumps" me again.. no biggie this time... I have only taken him back for the lust/sex/adult fun not a relationship. He said he will call me tonight for some phone sex. If he doesn't call.. whatever.. no biggie. He knows my number.