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playboycntrfold
08-24-2004, 04:21 PM
omg. you poor girl! Given the circumstances, I'm surprised your inital post made as much sense as it did!

MojoJojo
08-24-2004, 04:45 PM
UPDATE?

Jillian
08-24-2004, 08:51 PM
My boss or whatever wants me to press charges as well. Which is funny considering I come to find that the bouncer is her boyfriend. I don't know how far things are going to get, considering that I feel like it's me versus everyone else who was there. I feel like since it was HIS friends bachelor party, etc, everyone will choose their friend over a stripper. I can't really remember what the guy looked like except for that he was wearing a white shirt with orange stripes on the sleaves, had black curly hair, and was middle eastern. For the life of me I can't remember his name, even though I remember asking it repeatedly. I am not 100% sure I could identify him, although maybe if I saw him it would jog my memory.

MY boyfriend has been the best and has let me cry and talked to me and coaxed me through this. It's hard for him to understand how I feel mentally sometimes, but he's been trying really hard, and I love him very much and this seems to have brought us closer, but he certainly has been awesome in his support.

Tomorow I am supposed to talk to "Hans" well that's what he told me his name was when he came to see me in the hospital - the police officer...but then again given my state, I have his card tho. I want to press charges because I KNOW that this isn't right at all and these people should NOT be on the loose to harm other people. But, at the same time, I just want everything to go away, and to surround myself only with people who really care about me. I am going to start with a support group next week when school starts.

tampafldancer
08-25-2004, 05:06 AM
um.. this might seem like a repetitive question,, But do you know if a rape kit was done?

Jillian
08-25-2004, 03:29 PM
Yes...when I wrote my original post I was unsure. I remembered them talkign about it, but I couldnt' remember following that conversation for a bit.

MojoJojo
08-25-2004, 03:50 PM
How are you holding up emotionally?

Djoser
08-25-2004, 03:58 PM
I am sorry to hear about your terrible experience, and hope you can bring these scumbags to justice.

I have never liked bachelor parties all that much, even in the club, and really don't like the idea of my girlfriend working them--though what happened to you was unusual of course. It seems that guys just can't stop from acting as badly as guys possibly can when they get in this mode. It does bring money in the club but I would rather just see the same amount of regular customers, if I had my way.

The one thing you will need to brace yourself for, if this ever gets to a courtroom, is the inevitable attempts to smear you and cast aspersion on your reliability because you are a dancer. It will happen--and any guy who is accused will do his best, with his friends as witnesses, that it was all your idea, that you were already on drugs, etc.

You never see sexual harassment charges being brought up against strip club managers for this very reason, though the guys I have worked with have been complete pigs--one of them even tried to rape one of the dancers and left bruises on the girl. Nothing ever came of it though the police were brought into it.

I am not normally one to preach vigilante justice, but I would be willing to bet thats the only kind you stand a chance of getting. Just be damned careful if you do go this route, as if you get caught you and/or your friends trying to exact justice will go to jail. Also if these guys have any kind of heavy connections you could wind up over your head as well.

You are very strong-hearted and resilient to come through this as well as you have, and your boyfriend is a winner for being as compassionate and understanding as he has been.

Good luck to you, and in your efforts to make sure these guys get what they deserve.

Jillian
08-25-2004, 04:28 PM
Well...mojo..emotionally, some days are better than others...well its more like minutes, as my moods change so quickly. I'll be laughing one minute, and crying the next.

djoser - are you or your gf in MI? I seem to remember you commenting on some other mi type threads...if so tell her to watch out... pm me if you want to know what city this happened in - I dont' remember if I put that in my original post. This happened in the Detroit area of the state.

MojoJojo
08-25-2004, 04:51 PM
I appreciate the update, Jilli - don't mean to be a bother ;)

Jillian
08-25-2004, 08:18 PM
oh no I don't mind - like I said in my yesterday's post, I only want tobe surrounded by people who care about me, like you guys! thanks for caring!

MojoJojo
08-25-2004, 08:25 PM
a pleasure