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CuriousJ
01-17-2005, 04:34 PM
You know what don't take our advice read your own words and draw a conclusion you are comfortable with , if you dont it wont be your decision it will be someone elses I think you know what to do you just want a push . You sound very sincere go with your heart .Ok I am done with that I am checking back into my non -sensitive male world again ;D . Good luck

blondhottie
01-17-2005, 05:02 PM
actually maybe you are doing the right thing?

It would be unfair to start something with her 2 weeks before you leave if there is no way you guys can be "together."

Oops sorry, I missed that part. I'm not sure then, long distance relationships can be hard. Not to say it can't work, but it's really tough-I've tried it a couple of times and it didn't work out for me. Talking on the phone is nice, but it's just not the same as seeing someone in person.

Prina
01-17-2005, 09:57 PM
Don't let her get stolen away by some smooth talker who could never care about her like u do. You will always regret not saying something to her. Write it down and let her know that if nothing else you still want to be friends. I hope this helps. You seem so sweet. Wish more guys were like you are. She'd be very foolish if she didn't give you a chance.

^ Listen to her^

Casual Observer
01-18-2005, 12:12 AM
I don't know if anyone has suggested this yet, but have you ever thought of writing her a heart-felt letter? This may seem very 8th grade, but if it's that hard for you, then maybe it's the only way you could ever get it out to her. Hell, even throw in some flowers. I am almost POSITIVE that this girl is also diggin you as much as u are her. Don't let her get stolen away by some smooth talker who could never care about her like u do.

AinNY, please don't do this. What women respond to intellectually, rationally, and what they respond to emotionally and instinctually are two antithetical, diametrically opposed things.

You have already effectively (if unintentionally) placed yourself in the friend category by default; going the Hallmark Moment route will place you in the emasculated eunuch category, subject to derision and ridicule.

When SF2 happens, AinNY, you and I need to sit down and talk.

janazoo
01-18-2005, 08:06 AM
You could be on top of all of this even if you play the game the way you are playing it now. (I know it's not a game just did not know what else to call it at the moment).

Say she comes back home after school an such to work or relax whatever.

You then know that she is not going away and you can then start a relationship with her as long as you make the moves. She won't be going away in 2 weeks so you won't feel guilty to start anything.

Being around her more will make you more comforatable with her and you can be your natural sexy self with her.

And you can tell her that you did not want to start anything earlier because you felt it would be unfair for her and you had her best interests at heart always, which you do.

She will love you for it, probably hit you in the head with a pillow and call you a silly man but still she will have a smile on her face and in her heart because she knows that she is some one special to you, you have shown it. Every girl wants to be that special one.

Playing it this way you could loose her to some other guy who did come on to her before you or she may never come home after school and this scenerio may never be able to take place. Life's a gamble anyway.

But I'm sure that at the right time you will bring her in step with you and she will either say I just want to be friends or you a relationship is in bloom.

Eiether way you are both free now and hopefully when/if she comes back home you can hook up.

It happens in the movies all the time with a happy ending. Much drams and intrigue which you are experiencing now ...

janazoo
01-18-2005, 08:14 AM
I hope that when you are with her you talk to her about your future dreams of how you want to live your life and the type of person you want in your life. when people talk this way it gives the other person an opportunity to see themselves in a role in your life. Then things can slowly evolve. It's very inspireing.

Sometimes people shy away from talking about the future and their dreams. Talking about what you most want in life brings that person closer to you.

It's important to talk about the present and future. Very, very important.

AinNY
01-18-2005, 08:58 AM
actually maybe you are doing the right thing?

It would be unfair to start something with her 2 weeks before you leave if there is no way you guys can be "together."

I didnt really want to start anything...just wanted to let her know how i felt. It is bad timing though. :-\

But I think it might be best to let it go for now.



AinNY, please don't do this. What women respond to intellectually, rationally, and what they respond to emotionally and instinctually are two antithetical, diametrically opposed things.

You have already effectively (if unintentionally) placed yourself in the friend category by default; going the Hallmark Moment route will place you in the emasculated eunuch category, subject to derision and ridicule.

When SF2 happens, AinNY, you and I need to sit down and talk.

Yes we do need to talk. Before or after the DP? :rotfl:

I understand what you are saying...and I'd really like to do it my own way and see her in person and speak to her. Which is why i'm going to just let it go for now....and when the time is right, whenever in the future that happens to be, I will do it.

Thanks man :great:

AinNY
01-18-2005, 09:02 AM
I hope that when you are with her you talk to her about your future dreams of how you want to live your life and the type of person you want in your life. when people talk this way it gives the other person an opportunity to see themselves in a role in your life. Then things can slowly evolve. It's very inspireing.

Sometimes people shy away from talking about the future and their dreams. Talking about what you most want in life brings that person closer to you.

It's important to talk about the present and future. Very, very important.

Yes we have talked about that a lot. And our plans are very similar in who/what we want in life. So in your other post you summed it up perfectly.

Im going to let it go for now....if it happens later on then it was meant to be...if not...maybe it wasnt meant to be. If she's with another asshole later on in life, then thats a risk I have to take. I'll still get to be her friend.

Thanks for the great advice :hug:

AinNY
01-18-2005, 09:03 AM
And thanks to everyone who posted....i really appreciate the help.

You guys are the bestest ;D

Casual Observer
01-18-2005, 12:11 PM
I didnt really want to start anything...just wanted to let her know how i felt. It is bad timing though.

But I think it might be best to let it go for now.

Timing is everything in this life.


Yes we do need to talk. Before or after the DP?

After, of course. Bridgette can help too.

:D


It happens in the movies all the time with a happy ending. Much drams and intrigue which you are experiencing now ...

You know that movies aren't reality, right? Right? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?

AinNY
01-18-2005, 12:22 PM
You know that movies aren't reality, right? Right? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?

They aren't?

So you mean that time the pizza delivery boy came over and when i opened the door and he whipped it out i wasnt supposed to.....ummm....errr nevermind now i feel stupid...



:rotfl:

janazoo
01-18-2005, 02:50 PM
You guys are too much,

A little bit of sarcasm put in the mix lightens things up a bit.

Do I really have to say "I know life is not like a movie"

I mean really

scorpio
01-18-2005, 07:38 PM
just pass her a note in studyhall.


seriously, either grow as set and tell her how you feel, or go on the way you are now.