View Full Version : What happens when you aren't the only regular?

01-28-2003, 03:56 PM
Have you ever gone to visit your favorite dancer and then find out that she's already with another regular customer who likes to spend a lot of time with her? It hasn't happened to me yet, but I was just wondering if anyone (customers and dancers) had any stories. I figure it must be hard for her to stop one of you from becoming jealous or something. Or, maybe this isn't a problem to most people?

01-28-2003, 11:50 PM
That is what I do, I get up and leave and do something else. Normally dancers know what regulars come in on a specific day and spend time with the person that normally comes in on that day. It is funny watching them juggle their customers though, trying to make them all happy.

01-29-2003, 12:05 AM
Happened to me once. I usually walk in, get a drink and my ATF usually escorts me to the rail, if she's not dancing. Walked in one day, she was talking to some other guy, gave me a half hearted wave, and continued to talk. I walked to the rail and after 45 minutes I left, (just as she was going up to dance), she never came over. At least I would have expected a 2 second break for her to come over and say HI.

15 minutes after I left my cell phone goes off and she's wondering where I went. Told her I had a meeting to go to, and I did spend my normal 45 minutes for a Tuesday. I usually spend 2 to 3 hours on Fridays.

She was upset, because I usually tip her $50 on Wednesdays. I told her she just waved, what did she expect? Well she was busy talking with this guy, etc., etc. I understood, but told her she could have taken 2 minutes to come over and say hi.

Another dancer at the club pulled me over that next Friday and told me that the guy she talked to never got a dance or tipped her for the time she spent with him.

Of course I had to rub it in, so I got a dance from a newbie on Friday and split my usually Friday tip between the both of them.

Pay Back is a B****. But I really felt sorry for her and made it up the following Wednesday, but she got the message. She can expect up to 150 to 250 a week from me, show me a little more respect than a half hearted wave. I realize business is business, but a 2 minute hi, how are you and a hug is no big deal.

01-29-2003, 12:10 AM
I never expect to be the only regular in a club and, yes, I never intend to monopolize dancers' time. Anyways, I don't have trouble with that because from my particular experience regulars in Puerto Rico clubs are an absolute minority. Most customers never or rarely make return visits, especially if they're not locals.

01-29-2003, 02:01 AM
At my last club, I had approximately 30 regulars. It was not uncommon for 5 or 6 of hem to show up on the same evening and stay for several hours - which means they were in my presence simultaneously.

Depending on the atmosphere, I normally handle it one of two ways:

Either I rotate the time I am spending with each of them, such as sitting with a new one after each sit (with proper explanations of course), or working the room every 30 minutes, so as not to monopolize a person too much or come off as unavailable to other patrons. When I need to move on to another regular, so that he may also have his time with me, I will usually speak to the other dancer on shift who has the best package of brains, beauty, and personality, and ask her if she will help entertain my regular. This gives him something to occupy his time, it gives her a chance to make a little money, and it helps keep all my guys happy while still being fair to everyone.

Or, if it is the right mix of my regulars, I'll land the biggest table I can find, and persuade them all to come join me simultaneously for drinks and chatter. Sometimes, depending on the night and who is working, I'll invite a few other dancers to join in.

I've never had any complaints about these tactics yet, and I have witnessed my "round table" give birth to a few friendships and business deals amongst men who may have never met otherwise.


01-29-2003, 08:02 AM
What you described happened to me not too long ago. One night at a local club , I noticed a fave dancer of mine was with her regular. She was shooting the bull with him while he was giving her back rubs. I guess that's the perks of being a regular.:)

Anyways, as not to be rude, I sent one of the waitresses to give her a message. Sure enough, it worked as she approached me for a dance. Most regulars are cool enough to allow their ATF to do a few dances for customers. They understand that the girl has to make her money and that she'll return as soon as she's done with the customer. No jealousy. It's all about business.

01-29-2003, 10:40 AM
I sent one of the waitresses to give her a message. Sure enough, it worked as she approached me for a dance. Most regulars are cool enough to allow their ATF to do a few dances for customers. They understand that the girl has to make her money and that she'll return as soon as she's done with the customer. No jealousy. It's all about business.

...specially if you have established an excellent relationship with your ATF.

01-29-2003, 04:34 PM
to me this is a negative to being a dancers regular, I don't need that hassle in a strip club, I get enough drama at home. I much prefer to get multiple dances from multiple dancers, thus spreading my money amongst several dancers, most of the dancers seem to appreciate that also.

01-29-2003, 07:14 PM
Having an ATF sounds to PL'ish in my book. In the five years I've been going to SC's, Ive been a club regular at any topless places, but I've always avoided being a dancer's regular.

01-30-2003, 04:51 AM
Having an ATF does not mean that you're only going to spend time and money with that specific dancer. Surely, I'd share time with other girls which are also of my liking. Remember, though, that having an ATF is like having a soulmate or best friend. She's someone who shares with you many if not most of your interests, is friendly, is able to share opinions, receive constructive criticism and carry on an interesting and witty conversation with you, with no strings attached. But should there be another dancer with ATF qualities, hell, yeah, I'd have her too ;D

01-30-2003, 11:18 AM
Read again, ML. "having an ATF is like having a soulmate or best friend" is not the same as "an ATF is a soulmate or best friend", get it? Further down I state: "with no strings attached". I don't need to be reminded about where to look for relationships.

Oh, great, now I'm a regular member. Yipee!!

01-30-2003, 11:35 PM
Will do, dude ;D

02-10-2003, 04:42 PM
That is what I do, I get up and leave and do something else.

Ditto...or find another ATF...that's fun too, you know.

02-19-2003, 01:23 AM
Jack did it right. Move on to another dancer and let her see that someone else got "her" money. If she acts disappointed, don't fall for it. The only disappointment is not getting all of your money. If a dancer makes a business decision to ignore a regular with money--for whatever reason--then she has made her choice and must live with the consequences. Maybe the guy will wait, come back later or move on. It's not personal, just business.

02-19-2003, 08:46 AM
Well in my case it was personal because we have become close friends outside the club in the last three years. And business is business and if she can make more by not talking to me, fine. Just a little more than a british royality wave. 8)

02-19-2003, 09:18 AM
Well I guess I'm lucky. My ATF has never ignored me. ;D I let her know when I'm coming and she always puts me first. She has always told me that I am her "special guy". If another regular shows up, she has never just walked away. She will always tell me he is there and say "If you don't mind, I'd like to give him a couple of dances". I've never said no and I always understand. I guess that's why I'm her regular and that's why she's my ATF.
That and the fact that when I'm in town, I give her a lot of attention and $$$$$.

02-19-2003, 01:48 PM
I have several regulars who are both local and out of towners, and they generally all show up at different times. The locals will usually let me know when they plan to show up, and the out of towners only come when they're in PR but they generally come earlier than the locals, so it makes it easy for me to give them all proper attention.

However, last Saturday night I had 3 locals at the same time, and each was one I would normally spend alot of time with. It was hard for me because once I go into VIP with one, I can't exactly do any juggling, so I was forced to deal with one at a time. Fortunately, it was a busy night so they all understood and enjoyed the company of other girls while they waited for me.