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Bridgette
03-14-2004, 01:38 PM
As many here already know, I'm not into dealing with regulars much, and therefore I don't do the lunch before work thing with customers. No matter how much they spend. (Hell I don't even do the phone call or email thing) It is more than a small inconvenience for me to have to get ready at least an hour early (lunch with a customer is NEVER going to take less than that), drive to the chosen location, meet with and entertain the guy during a long lunch, get tipsy before starting my shift (or have to fend off his questions of why not), then drive to work, get ready there, etc. Hell by the time I've spent that much time for a customer, I'm halfway through a shift and damn well don't want to be just starting another. I know this is not a popular answer here, but if I'm with a customer, I'm always on the clock - you can damn well bet that if I were entertaining the guy for lunch on top of other forms of entertainment, I'd expect to be compensated appropriately because it is, after all, extra time I'm having to take out of my day for work. I realize that people in other sales businesses find it beneficial to spend time entertaining clients 'off the clock' in order to get and maintain good accounts, but those people are not selling personal entertainment. They are selling other products for which personal entertainment becomes additional ammo. When you're already selling personal entertainment, IMO the 'rules' become a little different in some aspects. If I'm with him and not on the clock, he's no longer a customer and in that case I would have trouble taking money from him at all, dance or no dance. I realize everyone is different, so we'll just (hopefully) let this rest with: this is MY personal comfort level.

However, for different reasons, in FBR's case, I would recommend NOT meeting this girl for more lunches. It blurs too many lines and sets up too many potential big problems. The possibility of an expensive divorce over a relationship that, in the end, will never be worth it being a major one. I agree that the $100 during a Valentine's Day lunch does not necessarily set a precendent for future lunches, but it COULD. She very well could get the idea that there will be future 'gifts' along with the lunches. In having all this 'extra' fun, it is possible for a guy to lose perspective and make a stupid mistake, leading to consequences he definitely does not want. Too many public meetings, too many people seeing, rumor mill, etc. She could also come to view this as more of a 'relationship' than an 'arrangement' and become a royal pain in the ass to say the least. On that note, you could also come to view it as more of a 'relationship' than an 'arrangement', which has all sorts of potential for problems too. Finally, she could simply become bored with and/or flat out resent all the extra time spent off the clock, with no extra money and still providing all the extracurricular service, and become a pain in the ass.

I say keep it in the club or hotel room where service is rendered and paid for. Have fun during that time, but leave it at that. I think any other off the clock socializing just has too much potential for headache.

Aside from that long-winded piece of advice, I say don't pay extra for any future lunches if it makes you uncomfortable, despite having given her $100 on V-Day. If it doesn't make you uncomfortable to compensate her for the extra time, and you are having regular lunches, slip her the occasional extra tip (on top of what you'd normally tip) when paying for regular services rendered. This should keep her interested and willing to continue spending the extra time, and should feel less like paying her for lunch. Hell, in this type of arrangement, I would expect that the customer occasionally tip extra anyway - like I would expect that the girl would occasionally do something out of the ordinary to keep things interesting for the guy as well.

SportsWriter2
03-24-2004, 06:56 AM
I have never asked a dancer to lunch, and they have to ask me each time, so I know they really want it. Last week I had three lunches with dancers and wrote a TR:



I think Miss D honestly enjoys her friendship with FBR, and having lunch is good for both of them. The dancers I know dress conservatively, look professional, and wear little or no make-up when we have lunch.

I can have intense encounters with a dancer and still be friends at the beach, a movie or whatever.