View Full Version : How do you prefer to be told a dancers limits?
I prefer to be told of a stripper's limits about 20 minutes before she abandons them.
Connor
05-03-2004, 05:07 PM
I think stating rules right off kind of kills the ambiance. If I did something that crosses the line, then by all means, let me know.
I pretty much let the dancer set the tone for what is allowed and follow lead anyway.
I agree with you generally that stating limits up front kind of ruins the atmosphere. But OTOH (not to put too fine a point to it), the very most enjoyable blow jobs I've ever gotten in strip clubs have been the ones that came 10 or 20 minutes after a stripper has told me she simply doesn't do that sort of thing. (Needless to say, unlike you, I'm not a great believer in giving up the lead to the stripper I'm with. She can stop me when she feels she needs to.)
Lilith
05-05-2004, 01:57 PM
OTOH (not to put too fine a point to it), the very most enjoyable blow jobs I've ever gotten in strip clubs have been the ones that came 10 or 20 minutes after a stripper has told me she simply doesn't do that sort of thing.
What you heard was only half a sentence. The full sentence reads as follows: "I simply don't do that sort of thing... to cops, or when the management is watching."
Oh THAT'S what she was mumbling.
SpursFan
05-16-2004, 06:15 AM
Wise word here, I generally let the lady lead, but may work though the waitresses next time.
SF
MontanaGal
05-16-2004, 10:12 PM
As a dancer, I'm kind of "intimidated" i guess to tell guys the boundaries. I just assume they know at least the basics. I don't like to tell at first because it might make the guy feel like I'm not really treating him with much respect... I guess..
I'm really bad at explaining stuff... hope this helps
yoda57us
05-17-2004, 04:51 AM
MG: Just keep smiling and doing that little avatar move....everything else will fall into place....Have Mercy!
NinaDaisy
05-26-2004, 02:00 AM
i consider extras to be the penthouse apartment of a tall building. everything below the penthouse is mileage.
Funny, I consider extras to be the mildewy, dingy basement.
threlayer
08-15-2004, 03:38 PM
I like it when she says "There's no sex in the champagne room. No matter what the other girls told you."
I never assume touching the kitty is tolerated and usually for a first-time dance, she will tell me what I already know. If things are going well for both and the room police are not intense, I often ask if she wants to tickle her nips on my moustache (mouth stays closed). This often gets a list of rules, if there are any. Once she is satisfied that I can be under her control and respectful, the rule exceptions come forward. The exception list occurs after a few separate visits. This is in the category of playing between frends. A very few times this exception list has been demonstrated, rather being recited.
It can be fun, but it is always respectful of her limits. I have always done it this way; so far in many years I have touched everything with permission and with very few additional tips required. After all, by this time I know I want to return for more of the same. I like very much to be welcomed back.
kitana
08-17-2004, 06:45 AM
I basically say "Well if your doing something wrong I'll thump you in the nose for it like a good little sex toy." No really, I tell guys up front after I ask them of course if they have been there before or not. If they have then they should know the basic rules, and if not I will tell them.
Kitana
CrescentLuna
08-26-2004, 12:14 PM
Would this work, if the guy askes? At this new club customers can touch back, outside legs, tummy, etc. No boobs, inner thighs, etc. So, would holding the guy's wrists and saying "you can touch here" (putting them on hips) "here" (putting them on outer thighs) and "here" (hands on back) be okay? Not holding tightly or anything, but kind of try to be like "you can do this, this and this" instead saying the negatives?
Happy_Camper
08-27-2004, 10:25 AM
Would this work, if the guy askes? At this new club customers can touch back, outside legs, tummy, etc. No boobs, inner thighs, etc. So, would holding the guy's wrists and saying "you can touch here" (putting them on hips) "here" (putting them on outer thighs) and "here" (hands on back) be okay? Not holding tightly or anything, but kind of try to be like "you can do this, this and this" instead saying the negatives?
Yes, I think a demonstation like that would be better than listing the NO's.
lestat1
08-30-2004, 09:14 PM
I've been to clubs dozens of times and still not known the basic rules. They change over time and depending on the dancer and tip. I prefer that they always go over the rules with me.
I've been to clubs dozens of times and still not known the basic rules. They change over time and depending on the dancer and tip. I prefer that they always go over the rules with me.
Stat I agree it can be confusing and like you said the rules change rapidly. Thats why Ive just said the hell with it and hang out with the strippers at my table. They are often more frisky there plus it soon becomes obvious which ladies might entertain a bit of extracarriculars ;D
FBR
Derek
08-04-2005, 05:33 PM
I would prefer being told upfront. Here in Houston breast contact is allowed by most dancers. Many will stick their boobs in yer face to suck on.
Star Player
10-21-2006, 10:39 PM
I respect a gal who spells it out coming out the gate.
ilgdb
10-23-2006, 05:25 AM
I prefer to know the dancer's rules upfront. They are not always the same as the club's. If they are too restrictive for me I respect them and then look for another dancer or another club. No harm no foul. Better to have an understanding instead of a misunderstanding.
Andygirl
10-24-2006, 01:06 AM
We have a $5 cover charge for the VIP room in which the patron buys an armband from our VIP guy. It's lame, but it's how our club does it. Anyhoo, he takes their money, puts the armband on them and says something along the lines of, "Don't touch her breasts, her thighs, or anything like that, keep your tongue in your mouth, and respect her. The dances are $20 per song. Have a good time."
He's kind of young and goofy looking and has a nice personality, so I always giggle when he gives the speech and kind of make a joke with the custie about the tongue in the mouth thing. It just sounds funny how the guy does the speech. It makes it seem like those are the club rules rather than MY personal rules (which they are, but they don't have to know that).
If he's not there I just start the dance, straddle the guy, smile sexily and say, "Ok, no touchie the boobies (whilst grabbing them close to his face), and don't touch the black (meaning my thong)." Then I always say this like a joke, "Stay outta my crack!" and giggle about it. All the while I am already starting their spectacular dance so they aren't in any position to complain. I also add that he can touch the outside of my legs, my arms, and my sides. It makes him feel more comfortable, and obviously it's more fun if you get to put your hands somewhere on the gal.
Regarding dances getting better the more you buy, I do have a scale. All of my dances are good, but I add certain moves if the guy starts buying multiples. It doesn't necessarily mean he's getting more mileage, but he's getting more variety and a better and better show. I often sell 5 or more to a single custie, so the method works. I hardly ever have anyone stop at one.
Just my .02.
Star Player
11-18-2006, 07:18 PM
If some club bozo gave me a speech like that I would turn around and walk out. Can't touch / suck boobs or feel thighs? U gotta be kidding me! Pity the poor guy who paid good money to go in that joke of a VIP room!
echomadison
11-19-2006, 06:12 AM
Ok let me ask a question then... Do guys look at a certain girl and decide whether or not they are going to "try something" based on her looks? It seems I always have guys trying silly stuff with me that they didnt try with X number of other dancers...AND I AM A CLEAN DANCER!!!!! So for my own curiousity, does a girls looks play a role in the "go for the pussy" game? I also will add that my club has pretty decent contact, some grinding and touching the boobs is allowed if you buy the more expensive dance...so its not like *I* am jipping them or something...
gameover
11-19-2006, 10:51 AM
Let me know up front so I can avoid buying any dances :)
mr_punk
11-19-2006, 07:04 PM
IOk let me ask a question then... Do guys look at a certain girl and decide whether or not they are going to "try something" based on her looks? It seems I always have guys trying silly stuff with me that they didnt try with X number of other dancers...AND I AM A CLEAN DANCER!!!!! perhaps, it's the hypnotic scent of your cotton candy body spray.
I also will add that my club has pretty decent contact, some grinding and touching the boobs is allowed if you buy the more expensive dance...nah..i don't see how removing your clothes, get groped and grinding on cocks could give a customer the wrong idea. i think it's the body spray that's turning your customers into finger banging maniacs. i think you should switch to that onion scented body spray.
xdamage
11-20-2006, 11:18 AM
AND I AM A CLEAN DANCER!!!!!
Maybe carry a sign so the guy will know this before they buy a dance? Probably not good for business, but it will drive away the customers who are expecting more.
I also will add that my club has pretty decent contact, some grinding and touching the boobs is allowed if you buy the more expensive dance
"is allowed" by who/what?
By the law?
By the club owner?
By the bouncers?
By the dancers?
Is there a sign on the door that spells the limits out for the customers?
Honestly, the rules about what is "allowed" in a club for real and at what cost (versus what is allowed technically) is so wishy washy in most clubs that if a customer is trying silly things with you, it's often because it's been allowed in the past, possibly not by you, or the club you work in, but by some dancer somewhere. And I'd be really surprised if customers aren't testing the waters with the other dancers as well.
Smokeless
11-20-2006, 11:38 PM
At my home club, there's a sign on the door stating "Touch and go." (Any number of other establishments, too.) So, I've had dances from at least 10 different women there, and there are at LEAST 10 different sets of rules. Depends on the woman, the shift, the manager, and probably the phase of the moon, too. Best to just go with what works at the moment. (In a recent TR, I report how -- like BritFreak -- a manager plops himself in front of us during a dance and watches every move until the two of us just burst laughing.)
Also, like The Oceans, I've got a club in the next state -- sort of a home-away-from-home, where I fondly remember my first dance. The dancer grabs my hands, firmly planted at the sides of my chair, and places them on her breasts. ;D Imagine my surprise in conservative Kansas after learning in liberal Boulder!
azcustomer
11-29-2006, 03:56 PM
OK guys I would like to know what the best way for a dancer to express her contact limits to you ?
My preferred line is: "Okay, but just ONE more time!!!"
GeorgeBailey
12-02-2006, 06:54 PM
Please let me know up front. I WANT to follow the rules.
Darkfall
03-27-2007, 09:53 PM
Go ahead and tell me up front. A lot of times when I go to a club it's because I'm travelling on business and I don't know the local laws or customs before I go in. I'm generally pretty well-behaved and keep my hands to my sides unless told otherwise, but I've had dancers think I wasn't into it because I wasn't touching them (appropriately) -- without me knowing I was allowed to!
njcustomer
03-31-2007, 02:19 PM
I only go to SC where titty touching is allowed. Period. If I go to a new club, I ask the UGLIEST girl there what the club rules are. If its a no contact club, I leave. If there is contact allowed I tip the ugly chick and I go find a cutier one for the LD.
If it is some BS like every girl sets her own rules, then I get a LD from the ugly chick.
Usually becasue she is not making as much money as the other girls, and will risk more to get even . . . (Social Psycology 101)
Katrine
03-31-2007, 02:28 PM
I only go to SC where titty touching is allowed. Period. If I go to a new club, I ask the UGLIEST girl there what the club rules are. If its a no contact club, I leave. If there is contact allowed I tip the ugly chick and I go find a cutier one for the LD.
If it is some BS like every girl sets her own rules, then I get a LD from the ugly chick.
Usually becasue she is not making as much money as the other girls, and will risk more to get even . . . (Social Psycology 101)
Mr. Punk and Star Player, how sweet of you to invite your "born out of passion that defyed the laws of nature" bastard son to join the boards! ::)
Mikecp421
03-31-2007, 06:39 PM
yea I'd rather know up front, nicely, then to be denyed, I am more likely to stay in the mood. But if you approach it like I am an offender then I am most likely to get offended
mr_punk
04-01-2007, 06:27 AM
Mr. Punk and Star Player, how sweet of you to invite your "born out of passion that defyed the laws of nature" bastard son to join the boards!shhhh...STFU, kat! are trying to put on the hook for child support? okay, the late eighties was a lost and experimental time for me, but you better have some a court order or some DNA evidence before i start writing checks, missy.
Moneywise
04-01-2007, 07:05 AM
the late eighties was a lost and experimental time for me, but you better have some a court order or some DNA evidence before i start writing checks, missy.
Late 80s/early 90s for me... I know the feeling man. I often live in fear that 1 or 12 grown children will one day knock on my door and call me daddy. They had better have the papers to support their claims or else they'll get treated like a Jehovah's Witness up in this piece.
j/k.. I don't really live in fear but you get the picture. }:D
evan_essence
04-07-2007, 03:43 PM
shhhh...STFU, kat! are trying to put on the hook for child support?Naaah, Kat's mistaken. It's not yours; the characteristics are all wrong. If he were yours, he wouldn't settle for the ugly chick. And if he were Star Player's, he'd settle for the ugly chick but never admit it here.
-Ev
lestat1
04-10-2007, 09:26 PM
I like to know up front and in a way that is not too coy. I've been told the rules before in a way so esoteric that I was still confused afterwards.
Likewise, asking "Have you been here before?" or "Have you gotten a dance here before?" does not work! Rules change frequently enough from dancer to dancer and visit to visit that past experience is not a guarantee of future returns (the financial readers will chuckle at that one).
Oh and if they get all offended, just tell 'em your "girlfriend" doesn't like guys touching your ____. They'll be too busy picturing hot lipstick lesbian action to remember what they were upset about in the first place.
crizgolfer
04-28-2007, 01:29 PM
OK guys I would like to know what the best way for a dancer to express her contact limits to you ?
I ask customers if they know the clubs rules and if they say no I tell them breast and kitty contact is not allowed. Sometimes though guys get offended when I tell them I prefer not to allow breast/kitty contact .
Breast contact is not technically allowed at this club and dancers get fired regularly when caught letting it happen BUT there's usualy a dancer or two who gets away with it for awhile. And I know that breast contact isn't uncommon in laps in other areas so I always considered it good form to let my customer know BEFORE I start dancing for him. But sometimes they act like I just accused them of being a pedophile ::)
What gives?
Your method here seems to be good. Be fun, polite, and direct.