View Full Version : Extras or Just Dances?
The way I see it, the money you spend beforehand is money you'd spend anyway, just being in the club. And, as mr_punk said, what you get for that money can be kind of fun in and of itself.
well, i don't think a lot of guys consider that it's two different arenas. different rules for a different game. in the sc, the uncertainty is what makes it interesting. like i mentioned before, success is possible and failure is also possible. in the meantime, you can always be entertained by a stripper trying to unsubtly separate you from your tiproll. ;D
I don't know about "a lot of guys", but I've really gotta say how completely I agree with this post.
polecat
06-15-2004, 05:15 PM
This is why escort services and strip clubs exist; because "free sex" is the most expensive sex there is. You pay an escort (and to a lesser extent, dancer) not only for her availability and discretion, but for the ability to leave and return when you want without complication, obligation or emotional anvils. It may sound cynical, and I'm not at all suggesting that relationships are completely devoid of value, but this is a reality.
You actually might want to try the traditional/casual "free sex" sometime. I've never found it to be anything like you've described, or like those that are perpetual payers seem to boast as being this mythical "reality"...
The secret is- find more balanced/equal pairings. Real sex doesnt by default carry a large string of entanglements, costs or obligations provided there isn't some massive bridge between the individuals in one way or another.
The main motivators behind casual sex should always be just that- sex. If it's being used as a vehicle to drive a hidden motive (going either way), this is where things can get complicated or ugly. Simple solution is- don't get into these situations and find people who are more emotionally and intellectually equal or otherwise like-minded. It's a great thing.
That being said, yah- if your in your late 50's and absolutely can't get it up for anything aside from some 19-year old Britney Spears look-alike who dropped out of high-school for her first abortion at 14, then sure- your choice for pay-to-play makes sense. Unfortunately, I hear of these kinds of things leading to more entanglements/ugliness than doing it the old fashioned way anyways!
Lastly, I can take criticisms on these standpoints as my perception or conditioning is a little skewed from my geographic. But I will say I take my attitude with me abroad when I travel and I really dont see that much of a difference with my interactions.
mr_punk
06-15-2004, 06:24 PM
The way I see it, the money you spend beforehand is money you'd spend anyway, just being in the club. And, as mr_punk said, what you get for that money can be kind of fun in and of itself.exactly, rath. futhermore, the money i spend beforehand is much smaller than the amount of money i spend on the backend of a deal. spending a lot of upfront money not only removes all incentive for the dancer, but why spend a lot of money on a dancer, if you don't know she capable of delivering the goods. so, there's quite a difference between the amount of money i'll spend on a dancer who plays verus a dancer who doesn't play. it's simple formula, "you give..you get".