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BigGreenMnM
12-15-2004, 09:52 AM
your still saying the same thing B.
Pay me to stop or im going to keep doing what I want.
THATS selfish!

A mn doesnt keep a kept woman for long,they never do.
If you have the money to buy a woman(and thats what everyone is describing)You will have the money to upgrade when you want.

On a side note,most entertainers make more money then most of the guys that walk into a club.
This thought pattern eliminates MOST of the men entertainers will meet over thier career as potential life partners.(not that i think entertainers should be shopping for mates at work)

Just the thought of entertainers working until a "rich"guy comes in to take them away from it all kinda smells bad from my viewpoint.

Bridgette
12-15-2004, 10:21 AM
Well, I think most of us probably aren't looking for life partners while we're dancing. Most guys who'd expect a girl to quit dancing for him are not life partner material, at least not for a stripper. I see your point, but considering the nature of the relationship in this type of situation, I reckon it's only fair to tell the guy to ante up if he expects the girl to do what HE wants.

Sure a relationship like that likely won't last. But neither will one in which the guy demands a girl sacrifice high earning potential because he's insecure, usually. So might as well make the mo$t of it ;)

RedZ28
12-15-2004, 11:53 AM
You are you're own person. If you are comfortable with dancing, but your boyfriend is not, then you should probably find a new one.

BigGreenMnM
12-16-2004, 03:16 AM
sure wish i could get a few of our girls to hang with you B.if only a tad of your balls rubbed off on them,im sure i would get back some realtime dancers.

When you gonna come down and hang out for a weekend???

I got alot of newbies and could use your Karma in the dressing room.

Bridgette
12-16-2004, 06:43 AM
LOL! Well if the money there is good, I might be coming sooner rather than later. Hustler just made another major screw up which will cause me to travel to work. Freakin HATE Deja Vu corp ::) >:(

But DAMN BG, in a few months you've gone from telling me I'm a full of shit dumbass to saying you wish I'd come to your club and hopefully rub off on YOUR dancers???? Whassup wit dat??? ;D

tampafldancer
12-16-2004, 07:00 AM
Not @ the momement,I decided to take a break after my fiance' died,but will probaly start agin pretty soon.

omg tia.. Im so sorry!

yoda57us
12-16-2004, 07:02 AM
If you start dancing your BF is going to resent you and probably break up with you. If you DON'T do it, sooner or later, you are going to start resenting him and probably break up with him. Either way, the die has already been cast in the relationship based on the stand he took when you first brought it up.

REDHED
12-16-2004, 07:09 AM
well i gave him the boot so he's no longer a problem. now i just gotta get into it and start making it a reality!

Bridgette
12-16-2004, 07:50 AM
Right on girl! Go for it!

REDHED
12-16-2004, 10:58 AM
CAN YOU BELIEVE I CAUGHT HIM SCREWING THE EX WIFE???? !!!!!! Having a relationship type thing with her over a period of who knows how long.....taking her out to the movies, sex, dinner, to the hot tubs with the gift certificate he was supposed to use with ME, geez I hate him.

MisfitBunnie
12-16-2004, 01:04 PM
Now we know why he had insecurity issues and such...he was guilty of being unfaithful and was trying to make himself look like the good guy by not wanting you to dance. What a dick.

yoda57us
12-16-2004, 02:01 PM
Sorry it had to end that way but your BF's issues went a lot deeper than your career choices. Their are lots of great clubs in the NE area. Best of luck to you.

The Original Babygirl
12-21-2004, 06:58 PM
Anytime a post like this comes up nearly all of the women get the "dump his ass" motto. This is not an idea that is appropiate for everyone. You have to understand why he is against it, chances are he has been to a SC before, and probably one that was not how you say "up to par". My boyfriend said no for nearly a year, but that was until I found a nice topless gentlemens club.
He never came into the club, until it was closed in order to pick me up. He got to know my managers, bouncers, and some of the girls that worked there. That is when he started to see "people with lives outside the club" instead of an "negative stripper environment."
People fear what they dont understand.
However, as I previously stated every situation is different, I dont know your situation the only thing I can do is provide my opinion.
I love my boyfriend (even in the worst/strangest of times), but I enjoy dancing too, I didnt understand why I could have both. Now I do, and I do not regret my descion. We have issues, but they are about things that were a problem before and not about dancing.I still have my boyfriend and he know understands that you can dance and still have a life outside of the club. (Eventhough we a still high spending regulars at other clubs, LOL)
Good Luck
I totally agree with this advice here. I've also have been in this situation before, but I choose dancing because it was something that I've always wanted to do ever since i was a kid(i know that sounds weird). When I choose dancing over a man...things worked out for me. It depends on if you are willing to give up a wonderful relationship to follow a dream or to just do something to see how it is.

LoveSexMoney
12-21-2004, 07:39 PM
true, but considering she caught him boning his ex-wife, I'd say that was hardly a wonderful relationship.