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Chani_Fremen
01-05-2005, 07:31 AM
I'm not offended. I just think the d.j. was being corny.

sexysunny
01-05-2005, 07:43 AM
name? what's in a name? By that which is any other name will still come up in the conversation as stripper! anytime i don't use the word stripper it still ends in either them saying "oh, so you mean you're a stripper" or i end up saying "a stripper(get it!!)", and just feel like a bit of a tosser for beating around the bush, eg (short version) "what do you do" ... "i'm a dancer" ... "oh, what kind?" ... "a stripper", then they probably sit/stand there thinking, why didn't she just say that in the first place? I also agree with aussiepunkshocker... most are not exotic, and many more can't dance either. I have met girls, when i mention we're strippers, say to me "dancers babe, we're dancers" those of you who think that WAKE UP AND GET OUT OF YOU LITTLE DENIAL BOX!:boxedin:

threlayer
01-05-2005, 02:28 PM
Well, you mostly don't dance, though some of you know how. Stripping (seductively gradual disrobing) is very rare anymore. Air dances and other non-contact activities are not enticing, so some of you don't entice or seduce or are really not inclined to do so. You do entertain, but so does Willie Nelson and Willie doesn't entertain by the minute. So it beats me what general category of worker to call you. Maybe nude or topless displaying for tips. Or self-employed erotic dancer for those who go that far.

sexysunny
01-05-2005, 10:05 PM
this is called stripper web isn't it? ;)

Cleo C.
01-05-2005, 10:13 PM
Do you find it offensive to be referred to as a stripper as opposed to a dancer???

nah... well yes, but only when I can tell someone is trying insult or offend me, it's really not the word itself.

pinupgurl2k6
02-22-2007, 07:40 PM
The general public refers to dancers as Strippers, it's what they know.
Anna Nicole Smith was at one time a "Stripper". Since it has been
on the news non-stop lately, they don't refer to her as a Dancer or
Entertainer. I think of myself as an Entertainer but will refer to myself
as a Stripper. If I choose to say anything about this aspect of my life
I use the word Dancer they think Ballet then I get to use a good line
from a movie and say "no exotic."

I also like the shock value, and it will also let you know who your true
friends are quickly when they find out your gasp a "Stripper" it's not
like any of us have Stripper tattooed on our foreheads.

barbieusa2007
02-22-2007, 09:28 PM
i m not really offended it s who im inside the gentlemens club im a stripper,exoticdancer,lapdancer...ehat ever u know its different kind od expression for that job i def strio down topless anyway but i def see the job muc h more work than just getting naked that take alot of work focus and energy to gwet 1000 anight working 6t10hours at one club and make $$$u def nedd to find the quality custumers thought the quantity!!!!:D i love being a dancer ive done it for5years and if someone try to direcpect me trust me i give the respect i deserve at the end of the day we are independant woman and get paid to be hot and sexy and re like fantasy)))so many wifes try to learn pole dancing lap dance...ect...but they are just strioper wanna be u know what mean mens will always come to see us cuz they like the atmosphere and also personality))))take care girls!!!8)

noctina
02-22-2007, 09:49 PM
there's a techno song i've danced to before, i believe it's by lords of acid..

i am a stripper
unzip your zipper
look at me baby
i'll drive you crazy ...
(come on, give it to me baby...)

desire in your eyes
your blood is on fire
i'm here to tease you
ready to please you

my skin is burning
my body's yearning
'cause i'm a stripper
unzip your zipper



it's got a fantastic beat. :) i sing along to it all the time, walking through the dressing room like "i'm a stripper!" hahaha...

i don't mind being called a stripper. it's just a word. most of the clubs i've worked at called the girls "entertainers" and that's fine with me too.

Sophia_Starina
02-23-2007, 08:42 AM
I don't mind it. Ever since I was but a wee Sophia and I just grasped the concept of what a stripper was, the popsition always held the title of "stripper" in my little child brain. Also, I tend to be a lazy speaker and I find that "exotic dancer" has really weird consonant sound combinations that make my tongue tired. Luckily, "stripper" just rolls off the tongue.

Bella21
02-23-2007, 09:25 AM
It never offended me. I *am* a stripper. I only use the term *exotic dancer* when I need to... gently... tell someone I know what I do for a living. I actually called myself a stripper at work last night and the customer I was sitting with almost pooped a brick! He said, "YOU JUST CALLED YOURSELF A STRIPPER!" I was like, "um... yyeeaaa.....??" Lol, he thought it was supposed to be an offensive term.

teeth_of_the_hydra
02-23-2007, 11:44 AM
I love referring to myself as a stripper. It's the most adorably bad-ass thing about me, as I'm an otherwise nerdy, shy, silly girl. "Stripper" just hits you like an uppercut. Observe:

Person: "So, shy nerdy girl, what do you do? Work at Starbucks or something?"
Me: "No, I'm a stripper."
Person: "You? No way. But you're so... Huh. That comes straight out of left field. I am simultaneously repulsed and intrigued. You must be a very complicated girl. Perhaps I should give you all of my money now and forever."

Okay, so that last part hasn't happened yet. But the point is that "dancer" would sound, to me, like I'm beating around the bush; "stripper" sounds like I'm stating a fact, motherfucker, and what's-it-to-you. Now gimme your wallet.

oceana
02-23-2007, 12:46 PM
over the time the word 'stripper' become obnoxious. it doesn't offends me but it's annoying.
stripper? like what the stripper the chemic to takes harsh paint off?---the actually meaning of it.. :) and then the annoying media with thier: she was a stripper it is bad,, stripper this stripper that... strippers are ... and strippers do... and whatever else.

i really preffer 'exotic dancer' better. (i notice that that is the actuall term used in court. funny right?)

xBlackBettyx
02-23-2007, 01:00 PM
When I become a dancer I'll say exotic dancer/dancer. Stripper if I'm in a shocking mood.
I wouldn't be offended if someone called me a stripper though.

Miss Jessica
02-23-2007, 02:14 PM
Not really, though I prefer the term showgirl myself. Much classier, and you can't really say showgirl in a condescending way.

pinupgurl2k6
02-23-2007, 02:23 PM
Well, you mostly don't dance, though some of you know how. Stripping (seductively gradual disrobing) is very rare anymore. Air dances and other non-contact activities are not enticing, so some of you don't entice or seduce or are really not inclined to do so. You do entertain, but so does Willie Nelson and Willie doesn't entertain by the minute. So it beats me what general category of worker to call you. Maybe nude or topless displaying for tips. Or self-employed erotic dancer for those who go that far.


Not for those of us left that don't work in a full friction, full nude club.
Where "cock riding" aka "griding a guys lap" is against the rules. You
have to get creative to keep a guy sitting for 4+ dances in a row when
you can't just rub all over him. Enticing? define it, so you're saying that
if a guy can't grope you, have you fully nude it's not enticing? Thats
not what my friend chris said about having a pussy put in his face, the
strippers pussy was practically raping his nose.

PhillyDancer1982
02-24-2007, 10:18 AM
I find it gets more offensive as I've been dancing longer. Maybe it is just the tone people tend to use with it, like a slight condescension:
Me: I work at -insert club name here-.
person: "oh, you're a stripper?"

Yes, I agree with that.

Stripper isn't an offensive word like a racial/ethic slur or something, but I don't like it very much. Dancer sounds more elegant, and it has a more innocent connotation; for example, a dancer could be anything ranging from a ballerina, to a go-go dancer(the kind at non-strip nightclubs, who dances in the cage), to a back-up dancer for music videos, etc.

The reason that I got into dancing, was more as a way to pay for survival/living expenses and college tuition, than because I was really intrigued by the industry. After I started dancing, I got intrigued by the industry for a while and really enjoyed it; but some time after I graduated college and was still stripping with no "regular" job offers, I started to detest the idea that I was still stripping, thus didn't like being referred to as "stripper." It was NOT where I wanted to be in my career life at that point, and "stripper" seemed to drive home that point more than "entertainer" or "dancer" or "self-employed" would.

I can relate to the "oh, you're a stripper" line, because that happened a few times, once with an ex. My ex was hypocritical at times, and would tell his friends that he was dating a hot lil' stripper(ooh he's so cool! sarcasm). One time when we were hanging out and ran into a friend of his, I mentioned to my ex that we had to leave soon so I could get ready for work, his friend asked me where I worked(knowing full-well what I did for work!) just to be a dick, so I lied by saying I was a bartender. My ex ridiculed me by saying loudly, "No you're not, you liar! You're a stripper!" and it really offended and embarrassed me, especially since we were in the middle of a public cafe. I'm sure the word "stripper" perked up a few more ears than the word "dancer" would, which makes me look "bad" in front of families with little kids around, and puts my safety at a potential risk as far as the perverted older men that heard.

xcuzmylife
02-24-2007, 04:56 PM
It depends on the inflection when they say strippers. I don't usually care.

I wonder if attorneys get pissed when called lawyers.

MishaBliss
02-24-2007, 07:04 PM
Exotic dancer is abit bogus - most strippers arn't exotic and many can't really dance either to be blatently honest.

Haha :D Agree 100%

obeythegir
02-24-2007, 07:14 PM
When people ask if I prefer to be called an exotic dancer I always tell them.
"I cannot dance to save my life. I take my cloths off for fun and profit...you can call me a stripper."
Professional exhibitionist also works.

GoldCoastGirl
02-24-2007, 08:31 PM
I would prefer the term erotic adult entertainer. Yet it isn't easy to say and most people are confused by the "title" as such so to help them understand... stripper it is! I have never found the term offensive.

When I'm doing my shows ... I do love being referred to as a showgirl even if it is an adult entertainment one... because then I am doing a little bit more than "just" stripping... I'm putting on a show... got a costume, music, props and some chereography.

Granted, I'm toy-ing around with the term Burlesque Stripper as I find that some of the moves I am learning in my Burlesque lessons are now starting to enter my stripping (on stage only - in lap dances they don't apply).

Regardless, it was never an offensive term to me.

Sunshine73
02-24-2007, 11:37 PM
I prefer entertainer, simply because it is a nice "umbrella" term for what I do as an actress/writer/stripper.

gingerlee
02-25-2007, 01:48 AM
It doesn't offend me if somebody calls me a stripper, unless they are saying it in a rude way. I say I'm a dancer/entertainer if I am asked what I do for a living.

flickad
02-25-2007, 05:23 AM
It doesn't offend me, though I'm more likely to say 'dancer' with professionals. In general, however, I prefer to call a spade a spade.

Aine
02-25-2007, 07:42 AM
When I danced I refered to myself as an exotic dancer. Why? Because I worked in air dance clubs with no contact and they were bikini clubs. Meaning you didnt take off anything and you werent naked. I found it hard to call myself a stripper when I didnt remove any clothing. Because in my opinion a stripper does just that, she strips out of whatever shes got on. When I danced topless, I referered to myself as a topless dancer a lot, but I consider what I did then being a stripper, because I did strip out of some of what I had on. I did nude clubs a few times, that was stripping too. But for the vast majority of time when I danced I was an exotic dancer. And since I did dance dance for years (ballet and jazz) I never had any issue with considering myself as a dancer because I was. The term stipper has never bothered me, and I still get the oh wow, you were a stripper thing when someone finds out about it. Doesnt phase me at all so long it's not in a negative tone. So to me thats always been the difference between being an exotic dancer and a stripper. A stripper actually strips and it takes a lot more balls to be a stripper then just an exotic dancer (i.e. bikini club). But thats just my view on it, which doesnt make it anyone else's view, and doesnt mean my view is right or wrong, it's simply how I personally view it.

Lysondra
02-25-2007, 05:04 PM
My friend is a prostitute and she told me one day, "Call me a prostitute, call me a whore, a hooker, a woman of ill repute, a lady of the night... call me anything you want, for I am all of those things and refuse to not be proud of who I am. But, if you wish to be polite, calling me by name is best."

Lyric
02-25-2007, 05:09 PM
^^^^ That's a good way of putting things...lol

Melonie
02-25-2007, 05:51 PM
my objection to the use of the word 'stripper' is that the media always uses the word 'stripper' in conjunction with the Hollywood Stripper Stereotype ... i.e. Anna Nicole Smith, the Duke Rape case girl etc. Thus to much of the general population, the word 'stripper' automatically conjures up a vision of Hollywood Stripper Stereotype traits ... drug / alcohol abuse, sex for money, unfit (single) parent and all of that stuff. For that reason I strongly dislike being called a 'stripper'.

PhillyDancer1982
02-25-2007, 07:06 PM
Not really, though I prefer the term showgirl myself. Much classier, and you can't really say showgirl in a condescending way.

Yes I like that term a lot better than "stripper." I also agree that it is hard to say showgirl in a condescending way.

However, what I hate is when I would use the term "exotic dancer"(or showgirl, or whatever term), and people would say in a snooty voice, "So in reality, you're just a stripper," basically putting words in my mouth. It was so annoying! So no matter what term you use, people can still find a way to be condescending and turn words around if they choose. It sucks that people have to be such assholes at times.

Kaviyd
03-02-2007, 12:33 AM
I must admit that I was a bit surprised when a dancer friend of mine corrected me after I referred to her as a stripper. To my mind, Gypsie Rose Lee was the ultimate stripper -- and since most dancers I know remove clothing between songs rather than as part of their acts, the average exotic dancer actually shows less talent than a stripper in her act. I was thus rather shocked to find that my attempt to compliment her on the high quality of her stage act backfired.

UtahMike
03-02-2007, 03:14 AM
How about ecdysiast or hataera?