Ohlala
01-19-2005, 09:10 PM
I read this the other night and thought it was appropriate... (warning it's long)
1- Young love is a flame;very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and more disciplined heart ia as coals, deep burning, unquenchable.
2- Imagine that you've decided to build a fire, perhaps while you were camping, or at home in your fireplace. You carefully choose the logs, the kindling and after lighting a match to start the fire, you watch over it until you're sure the fire is still burning strong and steadily. Then you sit back and enjoy the comforting warmth, the delightful play of the flames, the magical light. You don't need to be as diligant about keping the fire blazing, since it has enough fuel for now. But at some point, when you notice it's getting a lttle colder, or the light is growing dim, you relize that the fire needs your attention again. And so you rouse yourself from whatever you've been doing, and add more wood, or adjust the position of the logs so that, once more, the flames can rise high.
Even if you've neglected the fire for awhile, even if it appears to have died out, you see that the embers still radiate a deep, orange glow that can only be created by hours of extreme heat. The embers are deceptive, and they contain great power within their light. although by themselves they produce no flames, the can ignite a newly added piece of would in seconds, suddenly rekindling the full force of the fire, tranforming the dormant coals into a roaring blaze.
We can learn alot about the passion between two people by thinking about what we intuitivley know about building and maintainiing a fire. When you first meet someone and fall in love, you carefully court and seduce him or he, adding the right amount of itimacy, the perfect amount of commitment until the fire of passion flares up between your hearts and your bodies. For awhile, this blaze burns brightly on it's own and you grow accustome to the joy it brings into your life."How lucky we are" you tell yourself "to have such a passionate relationship".
But one day , you relize there is less light, less heat between you and your mate, and that, in fact, it's been that way for sometime. You don't feel the same intense degree of physical attraction, the same desire to unite, the same stimulation you once felt with each other. "the passion is gone" you conclude "I quess I've fallen out of love. This relationship is over".
How many people aske them selves, at this critical point in a love affair, if the fire of passion has died down simply because no one has been tending to it, because no one has added the fuel neccessary to keep it burning? How many people walk away from the smoking embers of their relationship, certain that the fire has died out, without noticing that the coals of love still contain enogh heart to reignite into lames, if only they are given a chance?
Respect the fire of passion, the fire of love. understand that to sty alve, t needs to be honored, to be cared for, to be tended as diligently as you would tend a fire you had built in the wilderness to keep you warm and safe from harm. Feed he fire of your love with kindness, communication, appreciation and gratitude, and it will always blaze srong and brightly for you.
by De Angeis, Phd.
However you feel after reading this will be all you need to determine what you should do.
1- Young love is a flame;very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and more disciplined heart ia as coals, deep burning, unquenchable.
2- Imagine that you've decided to build a fire, perhaps while you were camping, or at home in your fireplace. You carefully choose the logs, the kindling and after lighting a match to start the fire, you watch over it until you're sure the fire is still burning strong and steadily. Then you sit back and enjoy the comforting warmth, the delightful play of the flames, the magical light. You don't need to be as diligant about keping the fire blazing, since it has enough fuel for now. But at some point, when you notice it's getting a lttle colder, or the light is growing dim, you relize that the fire needs your attention again. And so you rouse yourself from whatever you've been doing, and add more wood, or adjust the position of the logs so that, once more, the flames can rise high.
Even if you've neglected the fire for awhile, even if it appears to have died out, you see that the embers still radiate a deep, orange glow that can only be created by hours of extreme heat. The embers are deceptive, and they contain great power within their light. although by themselves they produce no flames, the can ignite a newly added piece of would in seconds, suddenly rekindling the full force of the fire, tranforming the dormant coals into a roaring blaze.
We can learn alot about the passion between two people by thinking about what we intuitivley know about building and maintainiing a fire. When you first meet someone and fall in love, you carefully court and seduce him or he, adding the right amount of itimacy, the perfect amount of commitment until the fire of passion flares up between your hearts and your bodies. For awhile, this blaze burns brightly on it's own and you grow accustome to the joy it brings into your life."How lucky we are" you tell yourself "to have such a passionate relationship".
But one day , you relize there is less light, less heat between you and your mate, and that, in fact, it's been that way for sometime. You don't feel the same intense degree of physical attraction, the same desire to unite, the same stimulation you once felt with each other. "the passion is gone" you conclude "I quess I've fallen out of love. This relationship is over".
How many people aske them selves, at this critical point in a love affair, if the fire of passion has died down simply because no one has been tending to it, because no one has added the fuel neccessary to keep it burning? How many people walk away from the smoking embers of their relationship, certain that the fire has died out, without noticing that the coals of love still contain enogh heart to reignite into lames, if only they are given a chance?
Respect the fire of passion, the fire of love. understand that to sty alve, t needs to be honored, to be cared for, to be tended as diligently as you would tend a fire you had built in the wilderness to keep you warm and safe from harm. Feed he fire of your love with kindness, communication, appreciation and gratitude, and it will always blaze srong and brightly for you.
by De Angeis, Phd.
However you feel after reading this will be all you need to determine what you should do.