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Ohlala
01-19-2005, 09:10 PM
I read this the other night and thought it was appropriate... (warning it's long)

1- Young love is a flame;very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and more disciplined heart ia as coals, deep burning, unquenchable.

2- Imagine that you've decided to build a fire, perhaps while you were camping, or at home in your fireplace. You carefully choose the logs, the kindling and after lighting a match to start the fire, you watch over it until you're sure the fire is still burning strong and steadily. Then you sit back and enjoy the comforting warmth, the delightful play of the flames, the magical light. You don't need to be as diligant about keping the fire blazing, since it has enough fuel for now. But at some point, when you notice it's getting a lttle colder, or the light is growing dim, you relize that the fire needs your attention again. And so you rouse yourself from whatever you've been doing, and add more wood, or adjust the position of the logs so that, once more, the flames can rise high.

Even if you've neglected the fire for awhile, even if it appears to have died out, you see that the embers still radiate a deep, orange glow that can only be created by hours of extreme heat. The embers are deceptive, and they contain great power within their light. although by themselves they produce no flames, the can ignite a newly added piece of would in seconds, suddenly rekindling the full force of the fire, tranforming the dormant coals into a roaring blaze.

We can learn alot about the passion between two people by thinking about what we intuitivley know about building and maintainiing a fire. When you first meet someone and fall in love, you carefully court and seduce him or he, adding the right amount of itimacy, the perfect amount of commitment until the fire of passion flares up between your hearts and your bodies. For awhile, this blaze burns brightly on it's own and you grow accustome to the joy it brings into your life."How lucky we are" you tell yourself "to have such a passionate relationship".

But one day , you relize there is less light, less heat between you and your mate, and that, in fact, it's been that way for sometime. You don't feel the same intense degree of physical attraction, the same desire to unite, the same stimulation you once felt with each other. "the passion is gone" you conclude "I quess I've fallen out of love. This relationship is over".

How many people aske them selves, at this critical point in a love affair, if the fire of passion has died down simply because no one has been tending to it, because no one has added the fuel neccessary to keep it burning? How many people walk away from the smoking embers of their relationship, certain that the fire has died out, without noticing that the coals of love still contain enogh heart to reignite into lames, if only they are given a chance?

Respect the fire of passion, the fire of love. understand that to sty alve, t needs to be honored, to be cared for, to be tended as diligently as you would tend a fire you had built in the wilderness to keep you warm and safe from harm. Feed he fire of your love with kindness, communication, appreciation and gratitude, and it will always blaze srong and brightly for you.

by De Angeis, Phd.


However you feel after reading this will be all you need to determine what you should do.

Str82ThePoint
01-20-2005, 07:54 AM
Well, if you have ever had a fire place without a built in blower, you know that BLOWING the fire helps a lot, but it requires a fair amount of it.

So whoever said earlier in this thread that blowjobs cure a lot, wasn't as far off base as I thought.

To answer the lusting after hot women comment(again looks over at the strippers.) What man or woman for that matter has ZERO lust in their heart for hot members of the opposite(or same depending on your orientation) sex?

I LOVE the female body. I can't help it. I am a major hornball. What is so amazing is that I KNOW that I will never find another woman like my wife much less better as a whole. But men's minds do not work like that. For some reason with us, quantity overtakes quality. And a high quantity of high quality, well, there is just nothing better. I really do love my wife and I am going to do everything in my power to stay strong and faithful and love her for the rest of my life. I know that the romance is my responsibility too. I am going to do everything in my power to make her life as happy as I can. If she is happy, then I will be happy.

Pamela
01-20-2005, 09:22 AM
You don't know what you've got till it's gone.

I went though my midlife crisis and had some of the same feelings about my wife. When I finally woke up, I realized the idiot in the mirror was wrong, wrong, wrong.

I was lucky enough that the two of us could finally get it back. I love my wife and I sometimes feel so stupid that I almost lost her. There is an old saying that when you point a finger at someone, you have a lot more pointing back at you... try it..

You can't blame strippers because it takes a customer to physically walk in the door and pull out the wallet.

Good luck on life... be accountable, be a man ... in terms of responsibility and doing the right thing for the right reasons.

WELL SAID!!!!! ;)

Pamela

FONDL
01-20-2005, 11:18 AM
Ohlala, that was very moving, thanks for sharing.

Here's a sad one that I remember from a long time ago. "When two people get married, she hopes he'll change and he hopes that she never will. They're both usually disappointed."

From someone who's been married, mostly happily, to the same woman for longer than many of you have been alive, here's my advice: (1) Accept and love the other person as they are, don't try to change them. (2) Keep your love unconditional, don't ever say "I'll love you if ..." (3) Don't let yourself become a different person. If you're no longer the same person, why would you expect your spouse to still love you? I think strip clubs are full of older men looking for the girl their wife used to be. Just my 3 cents.

Katrine
01-20-2005, 04:45 PM
So as usual, its all about blow jobs. 4 pages for the one simple fact. She won't go down on you?? Time to make that call buddy...for your sanity and hers. Otherwise its gonna be a mini-Monicagate in your home when you're caught getting a BJ from your pet yorkie ;)

Str82ThePoint
01-20-2005, 09:25 PM
She blows me fine and swallows(when I don't give her a choice), she just won't take it in the ass ;)

Silverback
01-20-2005, 09:30 PM
So as usual, its all about blow jobs. 4 pages for the one simple fact. She won't go down on you?? Time to make that call buddy...for your sanity and hers. Otherwise its gonna be a mini-Monicagate in your home when you're caught getting a BJ from your pet yorkie ;)

But, if we went straight to the logical conclusion (blow jobs), wouldn't we lose out on all of this wonderful reparte that we engage in to pretend that it is not the ultimate point of all human interaction.::)

As unobvious as it seems as it seems, that would eliminate much of the pleasure that can be derived from this site. (a lot like when Sam started dating Diane on Cheers and it killed the whole show).

In other words, we would have reached the point where Stripperweb "jumped the shark".