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Cianna
03-03-2005, 04:16 AM
Most mother in laws suck...that all I can say...

Krazyjane
07-10-2005, 09:34 PM
My mom is from Japan, which makes us butt heads b/c of differences in culture. She had a lot of problems as a kid, which carried over to adulthood. I had to raise my 5 younger siblings (all same dad, just a multiple birth in there) b/c she would often withdraw and wallow in an Olympic-sized pool of self-pity. I got kicked out of their house at age 15 due to extreme differences in opinions (religion mostly). I moved in with my aunt, and turned my life around. I'm 20 now, and I've pretty much reconciled with my parents. She's never apologized for anything, and mostly pretends that it never happened, except when she needs to vent and takes a huge emotional shit on me.

I've come to the conclusion that I love my mom as a mother, but I despise her as a woman. It seems like a lot of you have that perspective, or the vice-versa of that.

shift_6x
07-11-2005, 10:54 AM
I love my mother. I love my father. I am detached from my mother. I dont think she realizes it but I always will be. She lost me a long time ago. She made me fear for her life as well as my own too many times. I had to leave her house in my teens to get away from a life of torture. It was hell on earth and I will never return to that life, or ever living with her nor being close.

screaminpeachez
07-11-2005, 11:36 AM
I feel sorry for my Mother.

She is a hypochondriac and has continually been in bankruptcy for as long as I can remember. She is Bulimic and used to embarress me ALOT! She would prance around in these super short skirts and bend over right in front of my friends.

These days she makes me responsible for everything and yet talks to me like I'm an idiot.
If I tell her that her tone is un-necessary and she falls to pieces.
*sigh*

southstbabe
07-12-2005, 01:15 PM
I love my mom dearly. Sadly, she's dying of Ovarian Cancer. She's put up one hell of a fight for 2 1/2 years with grace, dignity and faith. She began slipping back in April, right after my sons first holy communion, which I prayed to God that she would be around forit, and if she made it God could call her home after that. I guess he heard my prayers. Anyway, she's a stay at home Mom, she was always there for me and my three sisters (all girl family). Always kind, always loving, always honest, always forgiving. She's been married to my father for 57 years, he's going to be lost without her. She would even lay out his clothes for him. My sisters and I always knew when he dressed himself because nothing matched, his excuse was he took whatever was on top in the drawer.

I'm going to miss her, I cry every day. I'm sad that my son was only able to have her in his life for 8 years, but at least they had eachother for those 8 years. A great mom is a dime a dozen. I'm one of the lucky ones. I was truly blessed when God choose her to be my mother. I hope and pray that I give my son all the things she gave me. She's been a hell of a roll model.

I gotta go find myself another box of tissues, I go thru them like crazy these days. I'll try to find a picture of her I can post. She's a beauty too.

Love, love ladies.

Yea
07-12-2005, 04:47 PM
That is (interestingly enough) how I felt about my dad, for the longest time. I think most people really just want to forgive their parents. Anyway - it can work out, even later in life. (I am not exactly close to my dad - but I do love him very much, in a much less complicated way than when I was younger). So power to you.

Thanks sweety, lol.. I know this was so long ago but hey… thanks :)

Yea
07-12-2005, 04:50 PM
Thank you Yea...

For your aknowledgement and for reading. That made me feel special. :)

I know my writing can be long so it meant a lot to me that you read it all the way thru. ;)


Thank you Sweetie....



Always....Wildrose


hugs..*MUAH*

I love you ladies

Yea
07-12-2005, 04:57 PM
southstbabe.. what you just described is a beautiful loving mother any person could wish for.. I can only imagine how hard this must be for yourself and your family and im sorry your going thru this.. I wish your mother all the best.

You should all feel very blessed to have such a loving mother, wife, grandma.. you had the blessing in this life to have experienced that love… so many of us may never know the true love of a mother, cherish those memories and be happy to have that.

Hugz,

LiveFree
03-07-2008, 10:46 AM
My mother is the one person I dislike the most in this world. She represents all the qualities of humankind I despise.

Sorry for bringing back this thread, I had to get it out of my system and didn't want to start a new one.

xoxstarlet
03-07-2008, 12:15 PM
I hope this doenst make me sound like a bad person but I despise my mother. Shes a shitty wife, daughter, and mother. Shes racist, she's sexist (she thinks its okay for men to cheat on their wives but it makes a woman a slut if she cheats on her husband, im not kidding), she's unattractive, the list goes on. I will never forgive her for all she's done to me. She never cared about me. I have stripper friends whose only problem with their mothers is that their mothers dont approve of their stripping career. I wish that was the only problem I had with my mother. She thinks stripping is a fine career but went so far as to tell me that I'm too ugly to strip. I hate her, I will never forgive her. Forgiveness is over rated if you ask me, and I hope she reincarnates in her next life into a family that treats her the way she treated me. I have so much anger in me and its b/c of my mother and my shitty ass childhood. I know i need counseling to get over it, but i dont even know if that would help.

Bella21
03-07-2008, 12:28 PM
I love my mom but she drives me crazy. I know she just wants to best for me but it's always nag nag nag, blah. I think she has control issues and she is still uncomfortable that I'm sexually active and not married (you can hear it in her voice when she asks me if I'm "still" on the depo shot).

My parents were able to raise four kids and pay all the bills, and I'm still in awe that they were able to do it so well. My mom is a special education teacher and loves kids. She took some time off of work when the twins were born but basically worked, cooked, cleaned, and raised four kids (with the help of my dad, of course, he brought home the bulk of the money and is a money-guru so he knew how to invest it well). Yes, she pushed religion down all of our throats, but there was never a shortage of trips to the park, zoo, to grandparents, or themed parties that she and he friends would put together for the kids.

naughtyallthetime
03-07-2008, 12:37 PM
I don't like my mother but I do love her.

LoveComesFromWithin
03-07-2008, 12:38 PM
i don't like my mom

RoseLeigh
03-07-2008, 12:44 PM
My mom and I don't get along at all, though we pretend. I should be having millions of (white) babies (though be way thinner) with some religious guy who tells me what do. Because men are in charge of things. :D Not wasting my time on school and life and not attending church. And eating.

I am so glad my brother has a long term (skinny) gf, new house (that she lives in now) and well-paying job. At least one of us can be god on earth. ::)

Andygirl
03-07-2008, 01:19 PM
I'm so grateful for my mom. She's the greatest person I know, totally selfless, but not at all judgmental or weird about my life. I wouldn't say we are best friends, because it's definitely a mother/daughter relationship, but I'd trust her with anything and I talk to her at least three times a week. I don't know what I'd do without my mom, she's awesome.

Star_bare_elegance
03-07-2008, 01:23 PM
I don't like my mom 99 % of the time. Sometimes the thought of her makes me cry. I wish our relationship was better.... but that has a snow balls chance in you know where because she is an abusive... manipulative... scheming... alcoholic... nutcase. I love her still.:-[

Perry
03-07-2008, 01:25 PM
I love my mom to death. She's goofy and fiesty and sweet. We're still trying to go from mother-daughter to friends now that I'm in my twenties. I'll tell her a story and she does one of those I-wanna-laugh-but-I-should-lecture-her pauses. I lucked out, my mom was a stripper when she was my age. It's in my genes I guess. My kids will probably dance, too.

CinammonGirl
03-07-2008, 03:08 PM
It's a love/hate relationship. I used to be a mama's girl, because I felt sorry for my mom (she had a hard life) and wanted to make her happy. I was also in denial of some of the things she did, because I didn't want to admit that she was that kind of a person. She's the manipulative type that will act really nice and make you feel grateful for it, BUT she has done some things that are heinous and aren't what a good mother does.

It's only recently when everything hit me in the head, and I was ready to accept that she does care more about money, reputation and her husband more than her own kids. She basically raised me to be her little puppet that did everything that she wanted. She would use the "My life is so bad. If you don't do this for me, you don't care about me!" excuse (I fell for it). I just realized it was all a manipulative ploy to get me to do what she wanted, and she didn't want me to be independent and my own person.

I don't like her too much. I love her and will help her in need, but I want to distance myself away from her hopefully.

This is one of those relationships where I've grown to be extremely dependent on her though, so it might be tough at first. She also doesn't realize that the things she has done is heinous, and thinks she's the best mother in the real world. She's one of those people that think money is everything, and buying me a new shirt or cooking me dinner makes up for any verbal/mental abuse/betrayal she has done.

sparkleeyz
03-07-2008, 03:40 PM
I love my mom, she's one of my best friends even though she acts like a mom rather than a friend.

CinammonGirl
03-07-2008, 04:09 PM
I can't stand my mom, she is a professional gold digger. She's on marriage #7 right now and I'm sure she's on the internet looking for #8 as I'm writing this. She's selfish, manipulative, controlling, and competitive. Now that I have my son, I don't talk to her 'cause I don't want that influence in his innocent life.


That sounds exactly like my mom, except she's on marriage #2.


My mom found out that I wanted to be a stripper, and I just said "Well look at you use men for money and you are technically selling your beauty to them, and you said money is everything. I will be doing everything that you have done while stripping, so what's the problem?" She didn't get it, because all what she can think is how stripping would ruin the family reputation and she's scared at all of her snobby friends gossipping about her lol. She's too scared to leave my asshole step-dad because "she can't survive on her own," but she says she will leave the state and abandon me if I become a stripper. What happened to her not being able to survive on her own and desperately needing my step-dad/



I don't want my mom and step-dad in my kids' lives either (when I have them).

LiveFree
03-07-2008, 06:13 PM
I can be very happy one day, but have a 5 min talk with my mother and get depressed until the next day. That's how bad it is.

God I know I have issues but I don't want to confront them.

la429
03-07-2008, 06:37 PM
I love my Mother so much now but when I was a teenager I hated my Mother. My Mom is a widow and manic depressive. She takes lots of pills so she can be normal. She doesn't clean her apartment and is so embarrassed of her living conditions that I am the only person who can step foot in. I love my Mom because she is human and not perfect and she always tried her best. I hope I can be a better role model but my Mother did teach me how to love unconditionally.

VegasPrincess
03-07-2008, 06:49 PM
I hearts my momma. We are very close, and she really is a good mom, she always wants to spend time with me, buys me clothes (esp since I'm poor right now and none of my size zeros are fitting anymore since resuming a typical Milwaukee diet) and takes me out to dinner and stuff all the time. I can talk to her about anything really, and she knows all about dancing ;)

My mom did do some stuff to me that sucked a little bit when I was growing up, but we've always been close despite that shit, and beyond that....moms are still just people who sometimes make mistakes.

(she never did anything really bad tho)

ruru123
03-07-2008, 07:36 PM
my mom is my bestfriend, my everything. i couldn't live with out her.

my mother in law however....is another story..lol

Lexi
03-07-2008, 08:38 PM
I love my mom. :) We are both very stubborn so we clash at times, but still... I love her dearly.

EarthPeople
03-07-2008, 11:20 PM
my mum made a few mistakes when raising me here and there but overall she did a pretty awesome job!

she has had a hard life with lots of bad things happen to her but she is still so kind to me.

she would love me no matter what i did.

she has terminal cancer and i feel so bad for her. and my dad. she doesn't deserve this. she's a wonderful woman. it's not fair.
i should be thankful that my mum loves me so much because not everyone can say that.

RoseLeigh
03-08-2008, 10:05 AM
It's a love/hate relationship. I used to be a mama's girl, because I felt sorry for my mom (she had a hard life) and wanted to make her happy. I was also in denial of some of the things she did, because I didn't want to admit that she was that kind of a person. She's the manipulative type that will act really nice and make you feel grateful for it, BUT she has done some things that are heinous and aren't what a good mother does.

It's only recently when everything hit me in the head, and I was ready to accept that she does care more about money, reputation and her husband more than her own kids. She basically raised me to be her little puppet that did everything that she wanted. She would use the "My life is so bad. If you don't do this for me, you don't care about me!" excuse (I fell for it). I just realized it was all a manipulative ploy to get me to do what she wanted, and she didn't want me to be independent and my own person.

I don't like her too much. I love her and will help her in need, but I want to distance myself away from her hopefully.

This is one of those relationships where I've grown to be extremely dependent on her though, so it might be tough at first. She also doesn't realize that the things she has done is heinous, and thinks she's the best mother in the real world. She's one of those people that think money is everything, and buying me a new shirt or cooking me dinner makes up for any verbal/mental abuse/betrayal she has done.

CG I had a similar rel with my mom when I was younger. It's so hard and we still have a lot of issues, but moving the hell out REALLy helped me, at least. Also helps that she has my brother to manipulate now, but that's another story. Break free CG!

BrunetteGoddess
03-08-2008, 10:07 AM
She's my best friend, I love my mom.

mollyzmoon
03-08-2008, 11:00 AM
I appreciate my mom. We have an off/ on relationship sometimes...sometimes we don't talk, and when I was younger, we'd have epic fights. I've never fought with anyone in the world the way I'd fight with my mom. We'd even like physically fight. It was insane. She'd pull over her car and make me get out, in the middle of nowhere, and then drive back like twenty minutes later. Craziness.

We're more mellow now. And I know that if anything were ever to happen to me, or any kind of trouble I might ever get into, my mom would be the first person to come to my aid. She'd help me through anything. We sometimes freak and say horrible, nasty things to each other...like we really know exactly the most devastating things to say to destroy each other, but if anything ever happened to her...I can't think of anyone alive that I would miss more. We're a kind of non-affectionate family, and we don't use words like 'love' or whatever, but I know how close we are, deep down. It took a while to realize that, and to accept that we just have to keep our distance sometimes.

blayze
03-08-2008, 11:06 AM
o my god i HATE my mother, and in 4 weeks, i will never have to see or speak to her again!

i seriously wish she would just die...

too much to even go into right now, but suffice it to say she is a psycho controlling manipulative selfish self-righteous hypocritical abusive (mentally, physically, and emotionally) bitch who would rather raise foster children and be a youth leader at her church than take care of her own children.

i cannot wait til she is dead.

SundayMorning
03-08-2008, 11:13 AM
I am very close to my mum. It depresses me to think of how much she would HATE the fact that I dance. It is the only thing I lie to her about. My mum is the variety that would always give me everything she had. I mean, she's not perfect, but she's perfect, you know?

Agree with this post 100%. It makes me tear up to read how many people had or still have such shitty relationships with their moms, seriously. I can't imagine life without mine. I talk to her at least twice a week and it hurts me that I live so far from her. I mean, she's bossy, she always has something critical to say about how much more I could be doing, she is bipolar and passive aggressive and tries to make my life her "do-over" because she's not satisfied with herself. And she likes to sneak in little teasing comments about my Hubby being short. Like Jenny said, not perfect. But she is my best friend and I hope to be as close with my future children as she is with me.

TheSexKitten
03-08-2008, 12:26 PM
My mom has a lot of completely amazing qualities, but she's also kind of impulsive and crazy.

She loves me a shitload, but she's done some stupid stuff as a mother.

Honestly? I feel anxious around here, because I never know what I'm going to get.

cutey5032
03-08-2008, 12:40 PM
I love my mommy!! Of course, I couldn't stand living with her but now that I live alone I miss her and enjoy hanging out with her and the rest of my family. She is funny. The only downfall is shes a religious fanatic :( and tries to push her beliefs on me and others, and is superconservative because of it, but hey nobodys perfect (jk). That part I can't stand, actually, because I'm so open-minded.

LiveFree
03-08-2008, 12:45 PM
Looks like we're split pretty evenly.

Pure
03-08-2008, 04:34 PM
I couldn't have been born to a better woman. My mother is one of my best friends, My adolescence was a trying time for our relationship as is for most but in my adult life its only gotten better,

Sinder
03-09-2008, 08:37 AM
My mother is an evil, conieving, self absorbed, full of self pitty, blame the world, take no responsibility for action, grudge holding, bag of douche the world has ever seen.....oh, and she's a cunt.

I have banished her from my life last summer. And I couldn't be happier.....and with her I tossed my cunt-rag of a half sister with her. They are fucking carbon copies of eachother, only my sister has a holier-than-thou attitude for being a druggie.

Thats all I have to say about that.

Lola Rose
03-09-2008, 09:25 AM
my mom is my bestfriend, my everything. i couldn't live with out her.

my mother in law however....is another story..lol

yep. Pretty much!

My mom always amazes me. She is there for me, no matter what. She'd do anything for me, but also taught me well.

delbertsan
03-09-2008, 09:30 AM
I hated my mother for a very long time. She was always very controlling of me and my father, which is why he left her. She was abusive when I was a kid, but eventually as a teen I learned how to shut up and keep her happy. I still hated her, of course, because in order to survive around her I had to pretend to be an angel child (this is the best reason I can give for why I do the things I do now, including stripping). However, after I left home for school our relationship improved. I think she wanted to hang on to me so badly that she tried really hard to treat me better. Now I can be a lot more open with her (not that open though, she doesn't know that I don't share her love of the Catholic mindfuck, or that I'm a stripper). But yeah, I would say that nowadays I do love my mom, and I like her too.

oohdamnbaby
03-09-2008, 04:55 PM
I love my mother because she gave birth to me, but other than that, I don't have much to do with her. She lives in the same apartment complex as me and sees my daughter almost daily but she's a very hypocritical, self-righteous person and I've really distanced myself from her. My mom was an abusive drug addict with a child molesting husband that she encouraged. I love her, but I have very little respect for her.

StarryEyes
03-10-2008, 09:35 AM
Both my parents suck, and I want nothing to do with them.

'Nuff said.

Yekhefah
03-10-2008, 10:22 AM
I love my mother very much but I don't always like her. I'm sure she feels the same way about me. We have a very complicated relationship; I'm alternately trying hard to please her and giving up in frustration because I know I never will. She's not a very good mother but she tries harder than any I know, she just doesn't really know how. It's all very complex.

I think most women have complex relationships with our mothers.

Anita Diamant wrote, "If you want to understand any woman, you should ask her about her mother and then listen very carefully."

MonicaF
03-10-2008, 11:55 AM
I don't like my mom. If anything though she groomed me for "the biz" without even being aware of it, but now she damns me for it. I've never asked her for a damn thing yet all she used to do was give me grief. She would praises my uppity little sister who's nothing but a financial drain on her - well she did at least untill my sister had a baby and tossed a big part of the responsibility on my mom.
Funny thing now though, is that since she's getting older I think she's getting scared of "the coming death" so she's starting to kiss my ass because she knows that even though I don't like her, I'm her best bet as far as who'll take care of her in the years to come. She knows I'm a money maker and unfortunately my mom's 1 consistant theme in her life has been "greed".

Funny how life is.

Sirona
03-10-2008, 12:20 PM
I'd like to spend an hour in a locked windowless room with her and a hammer.

xoxoGracexoxo
03-10-2008, 03:37 PM
She's not a very good mother but she tries harder than any I know, she just doesn't really know how. It's all very complex.

Mine, too. I love my mother very much...she's a sweet, sweet, loving woman who would never hurt a soul. She's also a little crazy. After I moved out of the house she was diagnosed with Adult ADD, which made a lot of sense. She always lived in her own world and you never know if she's listening to you or to voices in her head.

She was a really fun mom when I was a little kid. She read to me and took me to museums, was never too busy to play with me and encouraged me in everything I did. But I started outgrowing this relationship pretty quickly, and we haven't yet found a way to connect as adults.

At some point in my teens I realized there was no point in asking her for advice, because she and I are too different. She married a domineering man when she was very young and became a career wife and mother, so at this point most of my experiences are beyond what she understands or wants to understand.

As an adult, I started resenting the fact that she never stuck up for me when my father hit me...at the time I never expected her to do anything, and accepted that she was as helpless as she said she was. But as an adult I saw her passivity as a choice...and obviously, I wish she'd made a different choice. When anything was wrong, rather than try to fix it, she would withdraw and pretend everything was out of her control. I wish she'd been there for me more often.

But that's just not her. I guess I see her as someone who's never really grown up. She was a wonderful playmate for me when I was small, and now that I'm a grown woman I relate to her more as if she were a child that I need to shelter and protect. She's not exactly a capital-M Mom. But she's a sweet human-being and I love her a lot.

StellarGirl5792
03-10-2008, 04:02 PM
Oh Lord! My mom has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember. I was pretty much her babysitter everytime she got drunk from age six. So I grew up FAST. She would beat me while drunk. She once drug me off my bed (landed on my back on the floor) by my hair and down the hall because my room wasn't clean. She has called me every name in the book (slut, whore, fatty, etc) since I was little. Now, she's not much better. She bosses me around at 19. Tells me I'm a horrible mother when I don't do things HER way with Olivia and tries to take over. She will bitch me out for hours about ONE cup not being in the dishwasher. She still calls me names and puts me down to everyone. Including family. She's managed to brainwash my grandma into thinking I'm some horrible bitch who never cares and I should tip-toe around mom's feelings so she doesn't drink more. She's lost every job she's had because of her drinking thus draining every bit of savings I've collected since I was 16. ($9,000 +) Lastnight she called me a whore & told me she was going to call social services b/c I was an unfit mother. All because I was talking to a guy friend of mine on the phone (who she wanted me to date but I didnt) and didn't rush to Olivia's bed (she was sleeping) because she made a tiny whine. She hollered so loud she did wake the baby. Btw, I've never so much as gone out for a night since my baby was born. I've been a stay at home mom and Liv is always happy and healthy.

Needless to say, I hate her fucking guts most days. So much so that I've stop trying to save her from fucking up her life. I have to work at my new job for 3 months before I can rent an apartment and I literally Xing the days on my calendar. I have no intentions of ever having her in my life after that.

vivianbear
03-11-2008, 08:38 PM
Although I don't hate my mom and dad, I'm to the point where I really want to figure out a way to stay away from them both. I thought this would be easier now that I'm married but its hard. My husband lost both his mom and dad and sees mine as kind of a new family. I feel really bad when I insist that they're not good people.
I just can't handle either one anymore. I really only want a relationship with my little sister.

PhillyDancer1982
03-12-2008, 03:26 PM
Unfortunately I don't have a mom. She died from cancer a few years ago. :'(

Overall my mom was a very good person...very caring, very kind, devoted to taking care of all 5 of us kids. There were times that she was very overprotective and too suffocatingly strict with me, and as a result I got into a lot of battles with her when I was a teenager. But then again there were other times where she would be somewhat flexible, hear me out when I disagreed with her on something unfair, and she would make an amendment in an effort to make me more happy. For example, the time she refused to let me learn to drive until I turned 18(driving age was 16 in PA). I got in arguments with her about it almost every day! Plus I kept bringing up how it was bullshit that I was responsible enough to work a job and save up enough money for a car, yet apparently I wasn't "responsible" enough to drive. Well it took a few months, but eventually my mom realized that I was right, and so she let me use my hard-earned money to buy my little VW. There were times that I felt that she didn't fully understand...for example, not being able to understand how I couldn't possibly survive living on my own while making min wage...but I don't think it was her intention to misunderstand me. She couldn't help it that she came from a different generation.

Looking back, my mom put up with a lot...5 kids, one of whom was mentally handicapped, and a bunch of animals/pets, such as our big hairy constantly shedding dogs. She was a full time mom and growing up, she spent extra time on us such as hand making our lunches every day before school. It was really nice always having my mom around.

I don't hate my mom at all and I don't think I ever did, but I do remember a time when I was really really resentful of her, to be honest. It right after I finished college, when my mom initially refused to let me move back home and then when she finally did, she kicked me out to the sidewalk at a time that I was money-wise at my absolute worst. My mom had a hard time understanding that it was hard for me to have a "real" job + apartment lined up by graduation time, and that it was near-impossible to get approved for my own apartment if the only job I could land was paying minimum wage. She acted like I was a liar or lazy, when in fact I wasn't. My esteem was already in the gutter at this point due to my failing job/money situation, and my parents' lack of faith in me didn't exactly help. During this time, my mom made many bizarre false accusations too. I've written about this countless times and a lot of people said that they would never do such a thing to their kids. So yeah during that time when I was stuck guilt-tripping and putting on a drama act just to convince M--k to let me stay with him so I wouldn't be stranded in the cold, I really did not think the nicest things about my mom. Eventually we made up though, and when my mom found out my real situation, she very sincerely apologized and admitted that she'd made a terrible mistake. She felt horrible and admitted that the reason she kicked me out was because of peer pressure she got from my grandparents. So I can forgive her, although I haven't yet forgiven some of the "friends" who bailed out on me in my time of need, or some of the jobs that were VERY not understanding of my situation.

Looking back, I wish I'd spent more time with my mom and curbed some of the petty arguments I had. I also wish I had more of a fuckin' backbone during the time that my mom kicked me off her property, so that I could stood up for myself and let my mom know that her bad perception of me was not accurate, and to amend things much sooner. If I amended things sooner, I would have had more time to spend with my mom before she passed away. It really sucks that she isn't around any longer. :'(

PhillyDancer1982
03-12-2008, 03:49 PM
Okay so I already wrote that I don't hate my mom, but I DO hate a few other peoples' moms though LOL. Here's a few of them: :D

- Mike Nobody's mom. I wrote about Mike Nobody before. Mike's mom and stepdad would mistreat him, be superstrict on him, and make him clean their house as if he was Cinderella. They were total slobs, too. They were potheads yet banned Mike from smoking it. They even stole Mike's money once to buy marijuana...yet they wrecked hell onto Mike when he confessed to them that he'd gotten arrested(he was a legal adult by this point) for tagging along when his friends got caught selling a bong. He was a total dweeby goody two-shoes and maybe tried pot like twice in his life, yet they always made him feel wrong for something. They were constantly manipulating Mike or trying to thwart his efforts to move out, even though he was a legal adult. E.g., they kept belittling his jobsearch efforts, discouraging him, and doing things like raising the cost of his room/board really high so that he wouldn't be able to realistically save enough money to move out. They were very misunderstanding. Mike would get bitter and exasperated by his parents, and it showed in some of his blogs about them. He worked 70 hr weeks in order to save up enough money to move away from his parents and back to his hometown in PA. Mike's childhood was even worse...apparently he was shunted around from one foster home to another and didn't even get to live with his mom until he hit teenagehood.

- Paula's mom. "Paula" was my best friend in college. Her mom and grandmother(mom's mom) were VERY strict on her, as strict as Mike Nobody's parents were. Fortunately though they were nicer and a lot more supportive/friendly to her than Mike's parents were to him though. They disallowed her from having any friends at recess growing up(they were able to keep an eye on her too, since they worked as the school recess aides). They belittled her when she told them she would be living in an on-campus dorm at college, by saying things like, "You don't want to move out. You won't be able to make any friends. You'll be at your dorm all lonely, wishing you were at home watching Sex and the City with us." Keep in mind that she was a full adult, and paying for college all by herself without ANY help from them, so they really didn't have a say in what she could do. When she went to college, they bought her a cell phone and they would call her 15 times per day to check up on her. They made her abide by a BEDTIME when she was living away at college(paying for it all by herself), by making her call them from her dorm's land line when she got in. When she was late getting back to her dorm for her bedtime, they would blow up her phone and make her feel like this big bad person, interrogating her with questions. Ugh. Because of them, it was difficult for Paula to make many friends, e.g. her roommate grew to HATE her because of the constant annoyances her mom and gradma did. There were many times that MY OWN SOCIAL LIFE was compromised as a result of Paula's grandmother giving her all these restrictions when she was out with me. I put up with it, 1 because I was Paula's best friend, and 2 because I myself was rather passive and undefensive back then.

- Dipshit's mom. "Dipshit" is the name I use for this guy I dated last year, who is the half brother of both my "frenemy" Ed and another ex of mine. His mom is as hypocritical as he is. This jerkoff cheated on me last year, snubbed me, and then had the nerve to get mad at ME when I tried to contact him to break things off. When I called him at his house to confront him, he got his mom involved. She called up my cell phone and left an extremely rude, scathing voicemail, in which she angrily told me to "leave her son and his girlfriend alone" even though they were equally harassing me and I hadn't done anything wrong in the first place. She also threatened to come up to my apartment and "hurt me really badly." She said "I don't make threats...I do them"(which is still technically a threat). What a BITCH!

Oh yeah and you guys will love this part -- 2 yrs before Dipshit's mom even met me(before I ever met Dipshit), she disliked me simply because she heard a rumor from Dipshit's half brothers that I was a stripper. Yes, she's one of those stripper haters. >:(

- My mom's mom -- aka my grandmother. Okay so I don't really hate her, since she's family and all that, but all you guys here on SW even said that I should cut her out of my life. This is the grandmother that has a lot of false bad ideas about me. She's the one who peer pressured my mom into kicking me to the curb when I was going through a really hard time. She's the same grandmother who convinced my cousin to not invite me to her wedding, even though all of my young siblings who were never that close to my cousin got invited. At Christmas she admitted that I seem to have a good head on my shoulders, yet when I told her about my plans to pay off my car loan in 2008 3+ yrs early and then get a house in the next several years, she showed her doubt for me once again when she said "you're gonna get too over your head in debt doing that." Ohhh yet she thinks it's perfectly fine that my cousin and her husband just bought a $300K house(I'm looking for a starter house that's only half that expensive!). And you guys know how much I hate it when people underestimate my abilities, ESPECIALLY when it involves buying houses or making babies.

- Shithead Maria. Okay okay Maria isn't a mom of one of my friends, but she IS a mom herself. She's a year younger than me and we were frequent friends in high school but then she started all this drama with me afterwards and has been nothing short of a total WITCH since then. I never even did anything wrong to her!! She is weird like that and sometimes likes to create trouble with people for no reason other than to amuse herself. She just had a baby last fall. I hate her baby daughter, simply because it's a spawn of her, and I hate her, since she hates me. I also hate the fact that everyone was so supportive of her during her pregnancy, whereas less than 1yr prior everyone told ME to get an abortion when I was in the same situation. Admittedly I'm also a little jealous that despite her being a bitch to so many people, even SHE has a serious boyfriend and I have nobody.

Mily
03-12-2008, 06:07 PM
I love my mother more than words could ever say. She has been through so much in her life, is the strongest woman I know, and is the backbone of our family. She's my hero. :)

Sunshine73
03-12-2008, 06:22 PM
I love my mother more than words could ever say. She has been through so much in her life, is the strongest woman I know, and is the backbone of our family. She's my hero. :)

This is so nice. I hope my kids say this about me someday. Lord knows I try.

/TJ.