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FONDL
03-10-2005, 07:50 AM
Yoda, I agree that the ecomony has something to do with slow business, I just don't think it's the main factor. I can remember recessions in the past (and we aren't in a recession at the moment) when clubs did better than they do now. I think what you're seeing is the effects of increased competition and other changes which I mentioned in a new thread on this subject. Also there are vast regional differences in our ecomony (as always) which no doubt are affecting some areas like yours worse than others. Where I live the ecomony is booming - every place you go has a help wanted sign, companies can't hire the people they need, our local unemployment rate is around 3% which is about as low as it can possible go. And yet the clubs around here still don't seem to be that busy. I don't think strip clubs are attracting people the way they used to, for a whole lot of reasons.

BFinTraining
03-20-2005, 11:41 PM
Well I've only dated one dancer, my current GF of 1 1/2 years, so I'm no expert. But if it ever ends, I would be hard pressed to go back to a "normal" girl. Normal to me is a woman who has a 9 - 5 job, 5 days a week -- gets up at 6 am and falls asleep at 9 pm. She is looking for Mr. Right and falls in love easily - which means a single trip to Paris would have me being pressured to walk down the aisle with her soon after. I love my dancer GF not because of the sterotypical attitudes of a stripper - she is not a partier - does not flaunt nudity every chance she can -- but because her inherit indepence keeps me on my toes and her rythms match mine perfectly. She doesn;t need to get married to love completely - she thrives on the night and is pretty much open to anything I'd like to try.

There is also that little thing that she is incredibly beautiful, and really takes care of herself. Health is a major issue. And when we go out - she always dresses with class, turning heads and making me proud to be with her anywhere we go.

As respectful as she is to me in public her sensuallity boils over in private and of course it doesn;t hurt that she loves and wears the sexiest longerie imaginable. And what normal woman would consider midnight the perfect time to go out - enjoys frequenting gentleman's clubs in every country we visit and insists on getting me LDs with the most beautiful girls in the club - then wanting them to dance for her as well.

In short I would have a hard time going back to a "normal girl" relationship. I know some in the normal world look down on dancers, consider them lower class people but I find them ultimately fascinating - way above average. Consider me spoiled.

Sh0t
03-23-2005, 09:29 PM
strippers are normal girls, no difference that i've seen away from work

merely_lurking
03-24-2005, 01:13 AM
I'm not into "normal" girls period. She doesn't have to be a stripper, but I want to be excited about a woman I get with. I'm into quirky, interesting women who just happen to be freaks in the bedroom.... :yes:

yoda57us
03-24-2005, 05:31 AM
I'm 47, if I want drama I can go to work or try having a conversation with my seventeen year old. I like women who are who are smart, funny without being ditzy, well adjusted and have a South American ass. None of that has to add up to boring, trust me. It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for.

Nicolina
03-31-2005, 01:09 PM
strippers are normal girls, no difference that i've seen away from work

I dunno about this, Shot. I just spent ten days hanging out with a bunch of people I consider to be "normals" (i.e. no involvement or strong interest in the sex industry). One night everyone got drunk and had the round-table sex discussion. The women in the group, who ranged in age from 22 to 35, were hardly prudes. Few claimed that missionary was their favorite position, for instance, and all had some interesting experiences and opinions to share. HOWEVER, I came away from the discussion feeling sort of terrible. I'm not sure I understand why, though. Let me try to figure it out....

Sadly, I missed the "spit or swallow" question, but apparently all the women had said spit, except for one brave soul who conceded that "sometimes you have to," whereupon some others agreed. I NEVER spit. I think it’s insulting, and besides I have a little jizz fetish. It’s good down the throat or anywhere else…i always swallow unless there’s a specific request for a money shot. I wished I hadn’t missed this question because this is a tidbit of freak information that I have no problem sharing with anyone.

But then, when the multiple partners question came up, everyone said no, and I kept my mouth shut. They all said how terrible they thought it would be, and how much havoc it would wreak on one’s relationship (okay, one married guy admitted that he was curious but hadn’t done it). I didn't remind them that it was quite possible to have a threesome even if you WEREN'T in a serious, committed relationship. Of course, I've had lots of threesomes (and a couple of foursomes), but I just couldn't bring myself to share that in this company.

The "wildest place you've ever had sex" question was also troublesome. I couldn't decide what to say; there were too many possibilities from which to choose…Aside from the airplane bathroom (it’s on the list!), I’d done everything everyone else before me had said (only usually with a twist, e.g. the basement pool table became the stripclub pool table, etc). There was at least one thing that was so shocking I wouldn't even DREAM of saying it in that crowd.

Most of the women said they were frequently multi-orgasmic....while I tend to be hard to get off. This made me feel bad, too. Sometimes I wonder if my sexuality really hasn't been damaged by the whole sex industry thing....

Somehow, the subject of strangulation came up…strangely, two people in the group personally knew someone who had died while trying to get off in this manner. The conversation deteriorated from here, with everyone expressing pity and disgust for anyone sick enough to entertain such fetishistic notions. Of course, they were referring to something much more hard-core than the light symbolic stuff that gets me going…but still. I felt sorta implicated.

Nobody mentioned bondage or role-playing, and I wasn’t about to open up that can of worms!

I’ve been in this situation a lot. To tell or not to tell? I wish I could just make up my mind and be okay with it…Sometimes I pull it off and finesse it, revealing just enough to come off as interesting but not insane....but more often it seems that I end up feeling like shit either way. Either I’ve revealed too much, and feel uncomfortably exposed, or I’ve concealed too much, and feel that I’ve betrayed myself by behaving as though I’m ashamed of who I am. Both can make me unhappy (though ultimately, I think I prefer the former).

The few people who knew I used to be a dancer seemed uncomfortable with the information and never ever brought it up. I don't know. It was bad.

It sucks being a freak who can pass for a normal. :'( :'( :'(

SportsWriter2
03-31-2005, 01:52 PM
It sucks being a freak who can pass for a normal. :'( :'( :'(
Yeah, but it's fun being a freakmaster who can pass for a normal. :):):)

I heard it again yesterday: "You're the only one who understands me. I can't even tell my boyfriend." If you could pull the fuse on her freak circuit, she'd be every guy's dream. But hey, that's why I keep spare fuses. :P

Nicolina
03-31-2005, 02:20 PM
Yeah, but it's fun being a freakmaster who can pass for a normal. :):):)


And you are the Freakmaster Supreme, Sporty ;)

Too bad I didn't have someone like you around to back me up at the roundtable.

Nicolina
03-31-2005, 02:24 PM
It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for.

Ain't that the truth, though, yoda...

Nicolina
04-01-2005, 07:40 PM
Too bad I didn't have someone like you around to back me up at the roundtable.

Or, better yet, someone like you to back up into, and grind a little, while I kept my mouth shut and thought about what you were going to do to me later :P

SportsWriter2
07-27-2005, 10:52 PM
I just wanted to save my 2000th post for my favorite thread and all the caring freaks who try to pass for normal. :)

yoda57us
07-27-2005, 10:59 PM
Congratulations Sporty and, as we both know, "normal" is highly over rated.