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242_fair
04-08-2005, 10:50 AM
If I caught my bf emailing a dancer I'd be pissed too.
And my reply would be laced with profanity.
No, check that.
I would reply as if I WAS my husband, and I wanted to set up a nice date with the dancer. Then, I would arrive at the said time and place, and wop her ass.
Your lucky she only bitched you out in email. Some women get homisidal (sp?) when they learn their man is cheating.
Hear about the woman from Jersey who ran over her man 3 X when she caught him foolin around (not to say that you were foolin, you know)
evan_essence
04-09-2005, 10:25 AM
If I caught my bf emailing a dancer I'd be pissed too.
And my reply would be laced with profanity.
No, check that.
I would reply as if I WAS my husband, and I wanted to set up a nice date with the dancer. Then, I would arrive at the said time and place, and wop her ass.
Your lucky she only bitched you out in email. Some women get homisidal (sp?) when they learn their man is cheating.Would you really emulate this behavior? Hopefully you're just venting or embellishing, which is cool (this is the place for it), because if you would actually react with violence, then you better pray that no wife storms into the club with a gun looking for the lap dancer whose regular is her hubby, which could by happenstance be you. Or me. Regardless of whether or not said dancer e-mailed hubby.
I'm really baffled by dancers who focus the blame on another dancer for the defection of an SO. If the SO took the opportunity to cheat*, regardless of who made the first move, what good is it going to do the relationship to change through threat or violence the other dancer's behavior? SO will find other opportunities and react the same.
Oh, and a general piece of wisdom for us all, not directed toward anyone in particular: If you feel the need to read your SO's e-mail, you have relationship problems regardless of what's in there. Seek counseling.
-Ev
* cheat = whatever action violates the terms of the couple's relationship.
honey55
04-09-2005, 10:28 AM
Thanks your concern Fair_242 I thought about that, too.
I don't want to be a victim of homicidal or I don't want her to hire someone to hurt me.
By the way, didn't you saying someone was blackmailg you?? hope that's all sorted out.
242_fair
04-09-2005, 12:15 PM
Oh sorry, just to clarify yes I was joking. }:D
Once I met a girl who my bf cheated on me with. She also thought she was his gf.
She snuck into his email and found something from me, then she emailed me back, I called her, and we talked for 4 hours straight that night!!
It was one of the weirdes things that ever happened.
She was so nice, I mean really, REALLY nice. We compared our relationships to the guy, and realized that he said all the same lines to both of us, and used the same 'moves' too.
The cool thing was that once we knew he cheated on us, neither of us wanted him.
Maybe it was because she was so damn nice, but I just couldn't be mad at the 'other woman', since it was all the boyfriend's fault.
I would never never fight a girl over a man. My man should fight for ME, not the other way!
If I caught my bf emailing a dancer I'd be pissed too.
And my reply would be laced with profanity.
No, check that.
I would reply as if I WAS my husband, and I wanted to set up a nice date with the dancer. Then, I would arrive at the said time and place, and wop her ass.
Your lucky she only bitched you out in email. Some women get homisidal (sp?) when they learn their man is cheating.
Hear about the woman from Jersey who ran over her man 3 X when she caught him foolin around (not to say that you were foolin, you know)
evan_essence
04-10-2005, 07:52 AM
Oh sorry, just to clarify yes I was joking. }:D Oh.. uh.. nevah mind then. :-[ :)
-Ev
velvet
05-04-2005, 01:52 PM
sorry guys for the deleted posts getting rid of mr negitive
fancygirl
05-04-2005, 05:24 PM
Just from the basis that this guy was a good customer (and will probably break his vow to come back into the club) I would just write a very concise professional letter back stating that the husband never had any sexual interest but was very lonely and so needed some company and fun in the club. You could also say that you do your job and though there are a lot of misconceptions out there about strippers, you like doing your job and making your money in a way that does not involved prostitution. I might also express sympathy (for the ignoramous that she is) and say that it must be hard to automatically jump to the wrong conclusion about her husband and his activities away but that strip clubs are no longer the seedy dens of iniquity (at least...most times, or at least with the good girls) and the husband was a perfect gentlemen.
This:
1) brings closure for the matter for you, because otherwise you'll just scream when you remember it and think "WHY DIDN"T I WRITE BACK AND TELL THAT BITCH OFF?!?!?"
2) puts the woman in her place but in a professional manner
and most importantly
3) alleviates some of the hassle the guy is going through which might make him be an even more solid return customer if he can get back into the club.
good luck!
discretedancer
05-04-2005, 09:35 PM
Whatever you do....realize she is innocent (as are you) here - and extremely hurt by her husband. Dont bitch her out for being hurt...hell, maybe you're one of 12 women (and most of whom she thinks he slept with).
Been there, both sides, it sucked.
Angel1112
05-04-2005, 10:23 PM
geeish...i can't believe she wrote you...i believe it is her husband she should be taking her anger out on instead of you.....after all he asked you for your contact info and went to strip clubs................lol shes wack!
Bunny
05-04-2005, 10:32 PM
Why do the women always have to blame the WOMAN for HIM being interested in another woman. If it wasn't her it would have been somebody else. I used to date a married man (big mistake I know) and his wife referred to me as "the evil woman" or something but truth of the matter was her husband was out looking for someone else and I never even gave him my number. He sought me out and found me and pursued me and I got blamed.
Tell her it takes TWO. Even if you didnt do anything with him, HE went to the club, HE spend the money, and HE asked you for your email addy. HE also failed to mention that he was married. Screw her!
Say it nicely of course, so it really boils her blood. :)
Bella21
05-05-2005, 09:25 AM
Don't write her back. YOu may not feel better... maybe even worse aftwards. I'm sure she's more upset than you about the situation... esp. when she's resorted to childish tactics like that and this HORRIBLE stripper is the better person. :)
Besides, I completely agree with FancyGirl's comment that he may even come back. :) Esp. if he knows you won't loose it and give the gig up. If you never write her back, she
1. Won't even know if you got it, and that will prob. bug her for quite awhile. ;)
2. probably bring it up to her husband and the fact that you didn't reply, which may even cause him to convince himself for a trip to the club to appologize/explain/money is the bottom line. :)
Seriously, catch that "amen" religious stuff. People creep me out when they say that stuff. She has no idea that prosititue does not mean stripper. Don't drive that idea in further.
tootsie
05-06-2005, 01:57 AM
you have to reply to that! i would, immature or not, i'd start off by saying: hmm, you obviously can't remain the apple of his eye if he has to come in here and spend his money looking at me...and curse words then settle it. sorry i would just love to reply to that.
suga daddy
05-06-2005, 07:38 AM
I agree no reply will send a loud and clear message that will never be used against you in court later.
She should hear static see an empty screen and get out of her hubbies e-mail. I can relate since my wife found my letters with more detail written to a dancer last year by hacking my e-mail she must have been looking over my shoulder when I logged on once. man was she crying when she read my sent mail but she lied by telling me i left the mailbox open on the house pc for a month before confessing. I hope she never writes to my gf like you got. It worked out for me she's worried when she turns 40 I'll trade her for two 20's :) One is all I ever wanted
just the right one this time. I never hide that I'm married when I out but did lose my ring when the wife flushed it.