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screaminpeachez
04-14-2005, 10:07 AM
sorry to hear about your invasion of privacy TD

my hubby and i have a deal about him not coming on this site.

not that i have anything to hide but you need some place where you can privately share your thoughts.

if i were your boyfriend, nothing that you have posted here would bother me.
you are an alright kind of girl.
not trashy

hope you guys work that out!!!

PS i don't get that fired up about sex either

my hubby knows that.
i think that should be a good thing for him to learn about.
i know, myself personally, i have sex to give my husband an intimate bond with me.

xoxox for you girl!!!

Prester_John
04-14-2005, 10:17 AM
I agree 200%!

I agree more then Blade does :P

If he is having issues over something like this, you are headed for bigger problems. Stripperweb is better for having you here then not.

devilsadvocate667
04-14-2005, 10:49 AM
You're going to let him get away with that?

If you push him just a little, you'll get whatever you want from him. What women don't realize is that the majority of men don't handle direct and confident confrontation from a woman very well. They are taught to either back down (shivalry), or they get over emotional. This is where you take control. Once you let emotions rule, you lose control.
It's none of his freaking business what you do. If you stand your ground, he's not going to do a damn thing but whine. Whining wont hurt you (only annoy you, but let him know that as well). If you give him upper hand on this, he'll only demand it in other aspects of your relationship. You'll only have yourself to blame when that happens.

Gynger
04-14-2005, 11:24 AM
Well please excuse me for what I am about to say next.

He sounds like an inmature selfish little baby who need to grow up and let his girlfriend have something of her own and stay out of it...

Change your name and password...

Please don't go!

Bunny
04-14-2005, 08:44 PM
I'm not going to sit here and say he's an ass or anything because I don't know him. I have looked at message boards my boyfriend posts on but I wasn't snooping, just curious what the board was like. Now that he knows I post on here I get a little nervous he'll check it out becuase it's been one of the only ones that I am on that I can talk about my relationship with him and uncertainties that I have. I'm sure he'd be upset probably if he read some of the stuff I posted on here. I can understand why it would upset you that he seemed like he's checking up on you or something, but he might just feel a little insecure about your relationship. I hope you don't leave though. It really wouldn't be right for you to leave a message board that you like to post on for that reason. Maybe I'm just an old bitch but there are a lot of things about myself that I just will not change a message board is really not a big deal in the grand sceme of things.

kymchoon
04-14-2005, 08:57 PM
It's very normal. What probably needs to happen is that you really work to "spice" up the bedroom life a bit. Scorp and I go through the same peaks and valleys. We've been together for over 4 years and have a toddler, so it can be a challenge.

Absolutely. At various points in everyone's relationship, there's going to be a difference in libidos. (Hell, in my case, there's differences in libidos that change from week to week. Bloody woman always wanting sex when I'm tired and not wanting it when I'm randy...;D ) And people will sometimes get a little bit sulky when their partner doesn't want to do the horizontal tango, because they internalise it.

There's a famous saying, "Women give sex for love, men give love for sex" We do tend to make more of a big deal about the sex equating to love thing than is warranted. It's a guy thing :duck: . I guess the real question is whether he continually pressures you, which is a Bad Thing.


people make mistakes, that one single thing doesn't mean hes controling

Very true. Let's try not to judge their entire relationship based on one incident, eh?

Having said that, however, the implication that he's logging on with your screenname/password does bug me. (lookit me, being all Switzerland-like, heh) But, as VG said:


...a 36 year old man that is attempting to control you the way he has...that is not acceptable. His behavior is not acceptable. However, at the same time, if you truly value and love this man, then you need to learn how to be completely open with him...and that means being able to tell him when you feel that your sex life is lacking...or when you feel that the relationship needs work.

At the end of the day, you're the only one who can make a judgement call as to whether he's being controlling, all we know is a couple of paragraphs that you've posted on a forum. It sounds like you may have some relationship issues that need sorting out (how major or minor they are, only you can judge). Communication, and a recognition on both sides that effort and compromise is necessary, as always is the key to a successful relationship.

If he refuses to talk about it, that's when I'll start jumping on the 'kick him to the curb' bandwagon. No communication = no real relationship.

Take care of yourself.

Mr Hyde
04-14-2005, 10:52 PM
Allow me to offer you some unsolicited advice.

A boyfriend who will get so upset over an internet posting and cause a fight about such a thing is a boyfriend who is filled with insecurity, and the things he will get "upset" about will only grow.

Prepare to be controlled. If he can get you to stop some innocent posting on a message board (and spy on you thusly), it will only get worse from here on out.

My advice? Lose the BF. You'll save yourself a lot of trouble.