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Malibu
04-21-2005, 02:09 AM
...what does it feel like to be on the other end of a woman's orgasm? Has it happened for you before? When it does, does it rock your world or are they overrated? What is the feeling like?

I've always pondered this. I know it may be hard to explain but I'm curious.

SportsWriter2
04-21-2005, 03:14 PM
Oooooh, nice question. I'm thinking.... :)

bella622
04-22-2005, 11:55 AM
Hmmmmm... I hope some of the men are pondering this... I want to know too!!

SportsWriter2
04-22-2005, 03:49 PM
I love the facial expressions: the big eyes, the gasping open mouth. I love the look of terror when the second O comes before the first has died down, and it's way faster than her normal reloading time. :O

Casual Observer
04-22-2005, 04:46 PM
I have heard of this, this thing, this "women's orgasm" thing.

I thought it was a myth? A legend? A tale shared by the jester at court?

Has anyone actually seen one of these in the wild?

:)

Sh0t
04-22-2005, 07:58 PM
Never had it happen, sorry. Let's play connect four instead

merely_lurking
04-22-2005, 09:07 PM
It's cool if it doesn't take too long, you feel sort of powerful and manly. But it sucks if you keep trying forever and she can't cum, it's starts to feel like work. I begin to feel like a male prostitute after awhile....

FBR
04-23-2005, 01:37 PM
I love the facial expressions: the big eyes, the gasping open mouth. I love the look of terror when the second O comes before the first has died down, and it's way faster than her normal reloading time. :O

Some women are great actresses and can put on a hell of a show. My ex-wife was that way back when I was so young I can barely remember it. Turns out she never had an orgasm the entire time we were married (2 yrs). Partly my fault since I didnt have a clue what I was doing (she was my first experience) but also you have to wonder whats the point of faking. Sorry for reminiscing (sic) ::)

I love all the expressions, moaning, bouncing around etc but what tells me the deed has been done is the juice. Ive yet to meet a gal who can spew out a few ounces of the good stuff and not be seriously having a good time ;D

FBR

Malak
04-23-2005, 07:44 PM
Honestly, giving a woman pleasure is one of the few things that make me feel like a man. It does not even have to be an orgasm, but anytime you can get that sleepy-eyed drugged look and you know you're playing them like an violin. It's very satisfying and I'm very glad FOR them. If it took awhile then I'm relieved too. LOL One funny thing my wife does is jut her head like a chicken sometimes. And the begging you to stop because it's too much is priceless too. I usually just take a teaser pause to fool them. ;-)

Nicolina
04-23-2005, 08:32 PM
Can you guys feel the muscular contractions or no?

Do you believe in the distinction between vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms?

mr_punk
04-23-2005, 09:53 PM
...what does it feel like to be on the other end of a woman's orgasm?
great ceasar's ghost! women have orgasms? i had no idea. i guess that explains all the dirty looks i get after sex.

When it does, does it rock your world or are they overrated?that depends. if she cums reasonable amount of time it's great. OTOH:

But it sucks if you keep trying forever and she can't cum, it's starts to feel like work. case in point. (http://img.tapuz.co.il/forums/20354349.htm)

Can you guys feel the muscular contractions or no?yes.

Do you believe in the distinction between vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms?unfortunately, yes. which means i have too work twice as hard...sigh.

SportsWriter2
04-24-2005, 07:25 PM
Can you guys feel the muscular contractions or no?
Yes, and I can feel the cervix take the hit. :)


Do you believe in the distinction between vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms?
Yes, and I think some women have all their pink parts and hair roots wired on the same brain circuit. ;)

Nicolina
04-24-2005, 08:45 PM
Sure-fire way to induce vaginal orgasm?
Or does it depend on the girl?

EyesWideShut
04-25-2005, 12:50 AM
Its the screaming. The louder the better.

Malibu
04-25-2005, 04:35 AM
Nicolina, thank you for clarifying those questions! I was more hinting at the actual feeling, like the contractions and stuff and it is interesting to find out if the difference between clitoral and vaginal give different sensations on your ding-a-ling ;)...

Also, to make a girl have the vaginal O, is it true that you employ a particular technique that works more times than not? If so, WE WANNA KNOW!!! Personally, I have had no problem squirting all over a guy if he employs a good clitoral technique (;)) but that vaginal O is always very hard to come by (excuse the pun), especially via penetration alone.

polecat
04-25-2005, 12:40 PM
Sure-fire way to induce vaginal orgasm?
Or does it depend on the girl?
Depends upon the girl.

A guy can tell a few seconds into the act if she plans on having an orgasm. A woman wont have an orgasm unless she intends to, no matter what a guy does.

We can feel muscle contractions at the end as well as other forms of feedback during intercourse when a woman is enjoying herself. If these are missing, it's obviously not a real mutual sexual encounter but more of a some sort of voodoo chic logic device.

What's amazing is just how few women have experienced both clitoral and vaginal orgasm. What's even more amazing is how few women have been with someone that actually gave a shit either way. Most of these cases are from self-sabotage so no real pity is awarded. Women destined to be nothing more than fuck-toys all their lives can live that life if they so choose.

Vaginals aren't always hard to give if enough pre-play, duration and her desire is present. If enough foreplay arousal, strong anticipation and the actual desire to get off is there- duration pounding will get most women off this way. A guy has to know how to use his tool as well- which may not always lend itself to one particular position depending on it's size and shape and the anatomy of the woman involved. Women without real feedback defeat this process as well. When women think they can only get off one way because Joe Blow XYZ accomplished it that way, then close their mind to all else- it's more self-sabotage in action.

My ex always got off vaginally through about 3 tries of finding what worked for us. After this, it was every single time. She needed to be worked up to a frenzy prior through oral/digital stimulation, fondling and foreplay- then pounded submissively doggie with near scalp-bleed hair pulling w/ nipple clamps. She also liked the use of cock-rings with danglies to hit her clitoris. She came hard this way every time (messy girl!). My ex before her- same amount of anticipation build-up, but her g/cervix was much more shallow so side-spooning and missionary did the deed better, plus she had issues with doggie (not personal enough, no kissing/face contact, etc.). It's different for every woman.

On the initial question- I don't accept any other kind of sex unless she intends to get off. So yes, being on the other end of a woman's REAL orgasm is a critical requirement of mine, else it's not even worth doing.

Nicolina
04-25-2005, 03:47 PM
Ummm....I'm just curious:
Do the rest of you guys feel that it is primarily the woman's fault if she doesn't reach orgasm? {i.e., she won't have one unless she "intends" to, no matter what the guy does?}

Can you tell within the first "few seconds" if she "plans" on having an orgasm?

PC seems to harbor a certain amount of hostility (? or something) toward women who "self-sabotage" and therefore don't cum in a given encounter. ("no...pity awarded", "destined to be fuck-toys....can live that way if they so choose," etc.) Maybe I'm reading that wrong but that's how it comes across.

Do any of you have similar feelings?

polecat
04-25-2005, 04:01 PM
Ummm....I'm just curious:
Do the rest of you guys feel that it is primarily the woman's fault if she doesn't reach orgasm? {i.e., she won't have one unless she "intends" to, no matter what the guy does?}
Radical interpretation of the text, if I do say so myself.

It takes two to tango is the point. A Zen fuckmaster from the Orient isn't going to be able to get off a woman that isn't "in the mood" or otherwise not intending to get off. This is the same thing with men, to some degree. This is why porn stars and whatnot aren't exactly cuming hard when being pounded for hours on shoots.. it's not their style nor is it inducive of orgasm.


PC seems to harbor a certain amount of hostility (? or something) toward women who "self-sabotage" and therefore don't cum in a given encounter. ("no...pity awarded", "destined to be fuck-toys....can live that way if they so choose," etc.) Maybe I'm reading that wrong but that's how it comes across.
No hostility. I love women!

It's just plain and simple facts, that's all. If someone goes into an encounter with no plan, desire or intention to get off, it's just not going to happen no matter what. It's very 'anti-male' logic for anyone to want to have sex without any desire to be fulfilled. Why even bother?

Nicolina
04-25-2005, 06:07 PM
If someone goes into an encounter with no plan, desire or intention to get off, it's just not going to happen no matter what.

But...but why would anyone do that? /:O
I am lost.

gdamadg
04-25-2005, 06:31 PM
I was actually with a girl like that this weekend. She admitted to liking one big O and then to "put it away" as she said. She didn't want to have multiple O's and lose control. I dunno what her problem was. I was more than eager to put the effort out to make her go nuts, but she didn't want it.

Some women are just ummmm..........NUTS.

Nicolina
04-25-2005, 07:49 PM
But gd, she still wanted an orgasm, right?
PC seems to be talking about females who have decided before the encounter begins that they WILL NOT get off.
I just don't get it...?

polecat
04-25-2005, 08:04 PM
But gd, she still wanted an orgasm, right?
PC seems to be talking about females who have decided before the encounter begins that they WILL NOT get off.
I just don't get it...?
I don't get it either, Nicolina- but you'd be surprised how many women are out there with this very notion.

Just have a look at FBR's post- his ex-wife was 'faking' it for over 2 years with no desire to curb the situation. This is NOT uncommon.

One can only speculate that some women have an innate inability to feel comfortable with orgasm from some sense of control or similar. They only 'decide' who they are willing to 'lose control' with, and enforce it as such. There is definately something very broken deep down- but who knows. I wouldn't expect anyone that is mentally and sexually "healthy" to ever entertain such a twisted notion.

I have no idea of all the psychology behind it, but on the whole- females are the ONLY gender that even have a hackneyed desire to ever 'fake' an orgasm, instead of being fulfilled. This alone flies in the face of logic.

yoda57us
04-25-2005, 08:45 PM
Answers and comments in no particular order of importance:

Yes

With my current OTC fav, pancake doggie is a sure fire way to produce vaginal orgasm. She's the only women I've ever been with where this was a sure thing.

I can definitely feel the muscle contractions of a vaginal orgasm. The clitoral orgasm seems to produce more wet stuff. I've nearly drowned a couple of times while performing DATY when the "big one" hits.

I thought I did once, but now I'm pretty sure she was faking it.

I had a steady fuck buddy a few years back who could achieve vaginal orgasm by shoving a vibrator in her ass while I performed oral or digital stimulation. I could fuck her for hours and nothing would happen (and this was years ago when I COULD go for hours....).

The screaming is the easiest thing to fake. The louder it is the more boared they are.

Casual Observer
04-25-2005, 10:01 PM
Do the rest of you guys feel that it is primarily the woman's fault if she doesn't reach orgasm?

Well, it's certainly not my fault.

I mean, I showed up and everything. What more is required?

EyesWideShut
04-25-2005, 11:51 PM
Can you guys feel the muscular contractions or no?

I think I'm feeling one right now.

SportsWriter2
04-26-2005, 06:01 AM
She also liked the use of cock-rings with danglies to hit her clitoris. She came hard this way every time (messy girl!).
Mish position, butt on a firm pillow at the side of the bed. The cock head stimulates the G-spot with every thrust. After she comes, drop down and deep kiss so the danglies stimulate a clitoral O before the first one fades. She might even give you the "sexually overwhelmed" look with a scared smile and tears welled up in her eyes. :O

Polecat is right. Some girls don't wanna lose control, or they're stoned, or they just wanna feel close, or they're afraid they'll get addicted to sex. ::)

Dancer quote: "My mom used to tell me it's okay to be out of control, but not WAY out of control." Translation: one orgasm. But hey, if you can break through that, you might get the best "sexually overwhelmed" look ever. ;)

Some girls can come being fingered but not doing the real thing. It's all about how your mind got warped earlier in life. But a good warp can be a beautiful thing. :)

SportsWriter2
04-26-2005, 11:33 AM
One more reason why Polecat is right: Some girls - even beautiful ones - just get depressed. It's hard to do ANYTHING well when you're depressed. :-\

Nicolina
04-26-2005, 07:56 PM
^Just speaking generally, Sporty? /:O

Thank you for that description of the double-O. I was gonna ask how you did that... :)

slcdon
04-26-2005, 08:12 PM
Back to the original question, I can definitely feel it when my partner cums. It's like she's "milking the cow"! The only problem is that I can't last long when it starts, but it is good while it lasts.

Whenever the subject of "faking it" comes up, I recall a discussion with a very "experienced" lady some years ago. She was laughing about how gullible men are for fake orgasms. She surmised that it meant most men have never made a woman have an orgasm since, as she put it, "a woman having an orgasm is an ugly thing - she can't scream, can't talk, sweats profusely, and simply can't control herself. Once you see it, you realize that it can never truly be faked." Fortunately, she was kind enough to give me some lessons ;D. I haven't fallen for a fake one since.

slcdon

SportsWriter2
04-26-2005, 08:38 PM
She surmised that it meant most men have never made a woman have an orgasm since, as she put it, "a woman having an orgasm is an ugly thing - she can't scream, can't talk, sweats profusely, and simply can't control herself. Once you see it, you realize that it can never truly be faked."
In my experience, that describes a woman who's trying to hold out to come harder. Their strained, contorted faces make me wonder if some demon has possessed them (or repossessed them as the case may be). :O

Nic, I think depression accounts for a lot of disinterest in general. And when you're on anti-depressants, that can dull your sex drive. :-\

Super Cecil
04-27-2005, 12:10 PM
was watching discovery channel the hour show boiled down to this

women can control when/if they orgasm.
and that based on the timing she will tell you what she wants from u.

the faster the O the more she wants your sperm incoperated into her kids

the slower it happens the more she views you as a father to her kids and someone who will stick around to raise them.

Nicolina
04-27-2005, 12:27 PM
Nic, I think depression accounts for a lot of disinterest in general. And when you're on anti-depressants, that can dull your sex drive. :-\

So I've heard....I wouldn't know about the anti-depressants, though; I've only ever taken Adderall, and that makes me horny. :)

Nicolina
04-27-2005, 12:30 PM
women can control when/if they orgasm.


Can I just please say here, as a woman, that this is not true.
Even if you did see it on the Discovery Channel.

gdamadg
04-27-2005, 02:55 PM
But gd, she still wanted an orgasm, right?

Yes she did, but she told me during foreplay/oral sex, just before she came. She was also a bit prudish and unadventurous.

lol, but then I was with a girl last night that is the total opposite. She was definately adventurous and willing to do or try anthing to get us both off. Totally willing to lose control and have as many orgasms as she wanted.

You can guess which one I am going to see again. }:D

Katrine
04-27-2005, 04:37 PM
I can't have kids and I will do anything it takes to cum, multiple times, and to insure my partner pops a great big one as well........that Disccovery Channel theory seems crap to me.

How fast a person orgasms is often (not always) just based on how long its been since the last one, right?

Nicolina
04-27-2005, 08:21 PM
To continue my previous thought:

A lot of you guys seem to feel that women have some weird, mysterious control over their own orgasms, and whether or not they will "allow" you to get her off.

I don't think we have any more or less control than you do. Just like you, sometimes we cum before we want to, and sometimes, for whatever reason, we can't get into it and the big O is elusive.

Katrine
04-27-2005, 09:53 PM
Well, except for a couple of partners, I always end up just getting myself off anyway, so your role in my O is pretty irrelevant anyway. :(

SportsWriter2
04-28-2005, 07:36 AM
Just like you, sometimes we cum before we want to...
Yeah, I've even seen the girl equivalent of guys losing it before they're even hard. I'm thinking she's getting into it, when she stops, looks around like something fell on the floor, and says sheepishly, "I cummed." :-\


Well, except for a couple of partners, I always end up just getting myself off anyway, so your role in my O is pretty irrelevant anyway.
But there's something even sadder - knowing you were masturbated on and added nothing to the outcome. :'(

Super Cecil
04-28-2005, 08:29 AM
women have such a difficult time getting off....

maybe it's cuz you've got a big fat hairy sweaty guy on top of you.
i know that would break my concentration anyday

Katrine
04-28-2005, 05:58 PM
But there's something even sadder - knowing you were masturbated on and added nothing to the outcome. :'(

Huh? Masterbated on? Perhaps I am stoned or something (read: tired). I don't get it? /:O

SportsWriter2
04-28-2005, 06:37 PM
Kat, I've had a couple of dancers start to get into it in VIP, then pop up, knees on the sofa, and masturbate until they got off. As if I wasn't even there. It made me feel like a LOOSER, the ultimate diss from people who can't even spell. :-\

When you wrote, "I always end up just getting myself off anyway," I thought of those two. Turns out that one had hepatitis C, so at least I felt better about her keeping her distance. :O

BTW, this "undecided" emoticon :-\ is what I look like in a semi-funk, so that's how I use him.

Nicolina
04-28-2005, 07:21 PM
You're kinda cute in a semi-funk, Sporty. :)

pg27
05-01-2005, 01:05 PM
I can't have kids and I will do anything it takes to cum, multiple times, and to insure my partner pops a great big one as well........that Disccovery Channel theory seems crap to me.

How fast a person orgasms is often (not always) just based on how long its been since the last one, right?

Not really, it can sometimes, but it could just be anticipation that day. It could be becuase you just had one. My wife has had them within a couple minutes of starting if she is particularly turned on before we get going.

As to the first one...Some of the real intense ones feel like a milking (and it is impossible for the guy to hold back then unless he is in some way numb down there). You can feel the general tremors and stuff in the normal ones. As for the difference between teh two, I have some suspect about that. I ahve even seen reports that female ejaculation (which is normally accompanied by orgasm) is not necessarily tied to orgasm for those women capable of it. I personally have never seen it in person (but then I haven't been with anyone but my wife since we started dating 8 years ago).

So the answer is yes...and you can tell the fakes if you've seen the real thing.

SportsWriter2
05-02-2005, 04:55 PM
Kat, I got this from a DIY website. Nice Saturday afternoon project written in a How to Build a Deck Railing style (even has a difficulty rating and tool list). ::)

How To Have Multiple Orgasms (Women)

Learning to have multiple orgasms is not as difficult as most women imagine. By excercising your PC muscle, controlling your breathing, and extending clitoral stimulation, you'll be multi-orgasmic in no time.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: hour

Here's How:

1. Turn yourself on. Jumpstart your arousal by fantasizing about a steamy sexual encounter, or replaying a scene from a favorite adult film. Put on some sexy music, read some erotica, or watch an X-rated movie if that gets you in the mood.

2. Squeeze your PC muscle. This is the muscle you use when you stop a stream of urine in mid-flow. You can squeeze and release it with nothing inside your vagina, or you can use a dildo or fingers. When you squeeze or clench your PC muscle, it might feel like you’re trying to suck the fingers or toy inside. When you push out, it feels like you’re trying to force them out.

3. Add the clit. Masturbate your clitoris with your hand at first. Squeeze your PC muscle at regular intervals, while inhaling deeply and then exhaling. You can push your arousal forward this way, and with practice, you can coordinate the rhythm of your breathing to your mounting arousal.

4. Tease yourself. Let your arousal build until you’re close to coming and then back off. Do this a few times and it will bring you to a higher state of arousal. Let yourself orgasm.

5. Do it again. Even though your clit will be really sensitive, don’t wait longer than a minute before starting the stimulation over again. Consider using a vibrator now (since your hand will probably be tired), as it will provide more intense stimulation.

6. Climax. Let yourself come again, using the same combination of clit stimulation, PC muscle-clenching, and deep breathing.

7. Breathe through your climax. When you feel yourself close to orgasm, inhale, then try to time your exhale with the onset of the orgasm, and you’ll feel the sexual charge flow through your body to your toes.

8. Practice. You may discover that subsequent orgasms are more intense than the first, or they may be just the opposite! Depending on your skill level and your mood, you can affect the intensity and quality or your orgasms with time and practice.
Tips:

1. Regular PC exercises can be done anywhere, anytime (on the bus, at your computer, while you're cooking). Just squeeze, hold, and release, and do several reps throughout the day. This will make your muscle stronger, which will help intensify your orgasms.
2. You can do PC squeezes with a partner's penis inside you instead of a dildo or fingers. It feels good to him, too!
3. If you're trying to become multiply orgasmic with a partner, let him hold the vibrator while you focus on the sensations. Then move on to experimenting with different positions - rear entry is especially good for stimulating the G spot and affords reach around clit stimulation.

What You Need:

* vibrator (optional)
* dildo (optional)
* lubricant (if you use a dildo or vibrator vaginally)

Katrine
05-03-2005, 03:06 AM
Thanks, I've mastered this technique. ;)

Yes, I've had guys get mad when I started to get myself off during a session. Its because I am impatient...fuck that tantric sex, I wanna cum soooooooooooo bad, pulleeeeeeeeeeeeeze big daddy may I? :D

SportsWriter2
05-08-2005, 06:46 PM
I wanna cum soooooooooooo bad
I have a special place in my heart for those kind of pleas. ITC my favorite line is, "I could cum in one song." OTC my favorite is, "Please please please, I haven't had sex in a year." :)

Katrine
05-08-2005, 08:41 PM
Oh suuuuuuuuuuure..

This past week alone I had sex with an old standby girl friend, a guy I was partying with, and my regular john. THAT is typical fucked up stripper behavior. Wear multiple rubbers when they feed you lines like that ;)

Malibu
05-09-2005, 04:25 AM
Kat! You bad girl! Go to my room...}:D

Honestly, you must have a sex drive that is hard to satisfy. You party monster.

SW2, that technique has been tried and tested, but not for a while so thanks for posting it up again. Hmmm, think I'll pull out the old buzzer now...;)

Katrine
05-09-2005, 06:53 AM
Kat! You bad girl! Go to my room...}:D

Honestly, you must have a sex drive that is hard to satisfy. You party monster.

SW2, that technique has been tried and tested, but not for a while so thanks for posting it up again. Hmmm, think I'll pull out the old buzzer now...;)

Not really, I'm just a slut and that's the only way I can get people to hang out with me and give me either coke, pills, or cash. Its a tradeoff. :'(

SportsWriter2
05-09-2005, 07:27 AM
Not really, I'm just a slut and that's the only way I can get people to hang out with me and give me either coke, pills, or cash. Its a tradeoff. :'(

I'd give you Coke, ibuprofen and money for nuthin, just cuz I like you. Life's a headache sometimes. :-\