View Full Version : Is My Boyfriend 5,Or 55???
Muyaha
05-01-2005, 07:18 PM
Well this was years ago but I dated a much older man, he could have been my grandfather easily. I asked him the same question. He told me bluntly, "Because I never saw myself fucking a grandmother. Plus women my age just gripe and are worried about the next 20 years of life, instead of just enjoying untill you can't anymore and your dead." This guy had money, was able to do things on a whim, could spend and not worry. Interesting relationship. I learned alot from the guy.
onlythebest
05-01-2005, 07:21 PM
This guy had money, was able to do things on a whim, could spend and not worry.
Same thing here.
princessjefflina
05-01-2005, 07:46 PM
ask him to buy me shit
:)
onlythebest
05-01-2005, 08:02 PM
Lemme guess,you want him to buy you Hello Kitty thawngs???
LOL!!!
princessjefflina
05-01-2005, 08:34 PM
actually
YES!!!!
ask him!
it cant hurt to ask
:(
tampadancer
05-01-2005, 08:38 PM
^^ LMAO
what a trip
princessjefflina
05-01-2005, 08:46 PM
:p
Mr Hyde
05-01-2005, 09:29 PM
Interesting...so do you see older men as long term types or just for fun til you "settle down?"
merely_lurking
05-01-2005, 10:13 PM
I would dump him and find a real relationship with somebody around the same age as yourself. I think you are just wasting time with this old clown....
onlythebest
05-02-2005, 12:30 AM
Interesting...so do you see older men as long term types or just for fun til you "settle down?"
I see them as long term types.My boyfriend has already offered to put me on his health insurance policy.
Katrine
05-02-2005, 01:42 AM
I see them as long term types.My boyfriend has already offered to put me on his health insurance policy.
Damn that's what I need! And here I am trying to get a corporate gig so I can have affordable benefits again....hmmmmmm............
honey55
05-02-2005, 03:34 AM
[QUOTE=onlythebest]He is undergoing his 4th divorce right now.I think his misogynistic ways are coming out.That's what I truly believe.
^^^
whatever he says the reason of divorce(s), do you ever thought that
"He" is/has the problem of the marriage? :-\
(I know you like him and sorry to tell you but this is the first impression
when I read your post)
Mr Hyde
05-02-2005, 05:56 AM
Sorry for asking what for you are probably obvious questions...
do you want kids? It's just difficult to imagine a 55 year old guy having kids with a 27 year old. At that point in life most guys aren't wanting to be lugging around diaper bags and crap.
Also, I guess the whole "he looks like my dad" thing is not a big deal for you, right?
Again, sorry, just don't understand...partially because at 38 I'm already seeing how little I have in common with girls in their early 20s.
MissTaylor
05-02-2005, 09:27 AM
This may have already been said but I'm too tired to read through ALL the responses.
Maybe he feels like he needs to act childish so ya'll are on the same level. Not saying you're childish OTB....incredibly hot but not childish ;) Anyhow. Even though he may enjoy you as his "trophy", you might make him feel a little insecure about his age therefor he tries to act younger.
God, I don't even know if I'm making sense. I went out with a 42 year old a few times (thought he was 35, found out he lied). He tried way too hard to impress me. It got old fast. He had allot to offer (and i don't just mean financially, althought that'd be nice, haha) so it sucks, but I had to get away.
princessjefflina
05-02-2005, 10:12 AM
financially secure and health insurance oh my
wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
the "real world"
isgay
haha
just give him damn camel toe already!!!!!
onlythebest
05-02-2005, 11:19 AM
Mr Hyde,I don't ever want any kids.Being that I'm Chinese and he's Italian,I don't think he looks too much like my dad,LOL!!!
Honey55,he has sat me down and told me the reasons of his divorces.I didn't get a good first impression about that either,but after he told me why,I can understand it a little better.
Miss Taylor,I think he is going through some type of mid life crisis and is trying to act younger as a result.
Muyaha
05-02-2005, 11:40 AM
OTB, do you see this relationship as long term to marriage or is this a right now type of deal and just ride the wave and see what happens? I'm thinking just from your previous posts from before it's more of a have fun see what happens deal. I'm probably in the minority answering this post. I say who cares! If you want to hang out with him and he's fun then great. Age difference or not, some people just have personalities that click. Now the writing on me and giving me camel toe thing would get on my nerves too, but hey my SO is in his mid late 30's and he reverts back to a 5 yearold sometimes even after 7/8 years together. His reasoning? Because he wants to be babied.
MissTaylor
05-02-2005, 11:52 AM
OTB, I think you are right about him wanting to be younger again. Maybe you should try telling him how much you enjoy his "mature" side.
onlythebest
05-02-2005, 12:29 PM
Muyaha,you hit the nail on the head.At his age,he STILL wants to be babied.He gets cranky when he doesn't get his way.This is becoming a little funny.I see this as something fun for now that can possibly turn into something long term.He has already asked me to move in with him.You really put things in a better perspective for me.Thanks.
Miss Taylor,he likes to be pacified.Gosh,now I'm babysitting a 55 year old,LOL!!!
Mr Hyde
05-02-2005, 03:14 PM
Honestly, I think it's an age thing. A guy that age who wants to be with a girl your age has maturity issues to begin with, and that this behavior is a further reflection of that.
But I think things between 38 year old Scottish/German guys and 27 year old Chinese girls are usually a good thing...you know?
princessjefflina
05-02-2005, 03:54 PM
i dont think age should be a definer of behaviour
youre all ageists
onlythebest
05-02-2005, 04:07 PM
But I think things between 38 year old Scottish/German guys and 27 year old Chinese girls are usually a good thing...you know?
Who might this German/Scottsman be pray tell???
;D ;D ;)
VenusGoddess
05-02-2005, 04:14 PM
OTB...I think you should just run away. ;)
Seriously, this guy has been married FOUR times. FOUR. Now, I'm not an expert in the relationship field, but I do know that when someone is married that many times, they are either insanely hard to live with...take committment as seriously as changing a pair of dirty socks...or are control freaks who leave when things get out of their control. Course, could be a little bit of each, too.
This is just my opinion...take what you need and leave the rest, but I think you should really look at this man without your rose-colored glasses on. HE told you why his marriages all failed...and I would venture a bet that says he blames is mostly on the women he divorced (or divorced him). That's a man who does not take responsibility for his actions. Please do not get too "dependant" on this man until you are sure that you want this for the long term. Getting "unmeshed" from an immeshment can be a pain in the ass.
Go with both eyes open and look carefully before you jump with both feet. ;)
onlythebest
05-02-2005, 04:24 PM
First one didn't work because he caught her in bed with another man.13 years married.
Second one didn't work because the first one became friends with her and sabotaged it.5 years married.
Third one didn't work because the kids didn't want to relocate.This one was only 6 weeks long and was annulled.
Fourth one didn't work because she made him chose between her and his son.5 and a half years married.
Mr Hyde
05-02-2005, 06:06 PM
Good excuses all (...kind of). But perhaps the choices he makes in women are part of the reason he is 4 times divorced. The bottom line is, he's divorced 4 times. One time, yeah no problem, people make mistakes. Two times, ok, sometimes people don't get it the first time. But 4? Come on man. Couple that with the behavior...and he only goes for young girls? Lots of smoke for there to be no fire. Also, if you had kids in say, 3 years, by the time that first child was graduating HS, he'd be 76. That's getting up there to be having a kid in HS. He'd never be able to be a grandfather to your grandkids, if that matters.
Like Venus says, just keep your eyes open to everything...
MojoJojo
05-02-2005, 06:19 PM
I do have to say - a lot of warning signals, red flags, and flares are going up with this one. Do what you gotta do...but don't ignore the signals.
onlythebest
05-03-2005, 11:34 AM
Good excuses all (...kind of). But perhaps the choices he makes in women are part of the reason he is 4 times divorced. The bottom line is, he's divorced 4 times. One time, yeah no problem, people make mistakes. Two times, ok, sometimes people don't get it the first time. But 4? Come on man. Couple that with the behavior...and he only goes for young girls? Lots of smoke for there to be no fire. Also, if you had kids in say, 3 years, by the time that first child was graduating HS, he'd be 76. That's getting up there to be having a kid in HS. He'd never be able to be a grandfather to your grandkids, if that matters.
Like Venus says, just keep your eyes open to everything...
I told you before,I don't ever want any kids.All of his ex wives were right around his age.I am the first significantly younger woman he has been with.This may not be the picture perfect ideal situation,but please don't assume the worst case scenario either.