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VenusGoddess
06-30-2005, 04:43 PM
I am and should be the center of his universe :-)

This is true...however, just because you are the center of the universe doesn't mean that he cannot look at another beautiful woman. I mean, compare the logic. If he is the center of your universe, then by your same deduction, you should not be working your job because it requires you to look, flirt, and "seduce" many different men each night.

Many, many moons ago I used to get livid if a boyfriend of mine even glanced at another woman. However, after hitting my late 20's and (now) early 30's...I really don't care. I am comfortable in my own skin, I am extremely confident and I am trusting in my (long-term) relationship. I am not someone who cares if my SO looks at another woman...cuz you know...if A_Guy were to walk past me, I would be doing the double/triple/quadruple take. It doesn't mean that I lust/desire/love Scorpio any less...it just means that A_Guy is hot. :drool:

But, I get what you mean...and really...most younger women (late teens, early 20's) go through what you are going through. Usually it passes as you become more comfortable with who you are and what you have to offer. ;)

hardkandee
06-30-2005, 04:55 PM
Venus hit the nail on the head. It is all about self-confidence.

Makes me wish I had an older sister like her to give me great advice! :'(

VenusGoddess
06-30-2005, 05:40 PM
Venus hit the nail on the head. It is all about self-confidence.

Makes me wish I had an older sister like her to give me great advice! :'(

Awww...thanks...you can always PM me!! I'll send you my phone number, as well...but ya know...you'll have a 3 year old chattering away in the background!! LOL

alicia0033
06-30-2005, 07:07 PM
a. relax
b. unwind
c. have a drink or two
d. interesting conversations
e. to enjoy the sights, sounds and smells
f. because there's nothing more comforting than a beautiful, soft skinned, sweet smellin', sweet talkin' woman
g. I only see my gf maybe once a week
h. many times I work 12-14 hour days. A SC visit is nice way to salvage the night.
i. expends my "single wannabe" tendencies all in one night.
j. eliminates all my stress, no matter how bad the work day was.. seriously.
k. going to a bar or club just isn't as interesting.
l. I already watched that movie last night.
m. as a reward for hard work, or achieving a milestone, etc.
n. beautiful women.
o. temporarily live out my fantasies - let's face it... my gf just isn't going to want to get it on with another girl ;)
p. I like the breath mints in the bathroom
q. it's nice to feel like a king
r. to avoid drama (but apparently even SC's are not devoid of this)
s. DFK'ing, HJ's, BJ's and anal sex....... hahahahhaha. j/k :P
t. I always, always have a good time.
u. the centerfold in my playboy mag doesn't talk to me and sit in my lap
v. i love women... did I already say that?
w. hot, skimpy outfits... gives me good ideas for my gf ;)
x. keeps me humble... believe it or not.
y. Me be man. Me love women.

and finally,
z. there's nothing more awe-inspiring than a beautiful, naked woman. period




hmmmmmmmmm... 7 years with the same girl whom I've never cheated on even with plenty of tittillating opportunities.

Yup, that's me to a tee. Commitmentphobe.

Although, you did get the horny bastard right... would you really want to be with a guy who wasn't? ;)


PLEASE SOMEONE SHOOT ME. i understand guys like women or they want to relax, but i can't help the feeling of not liking my BF flirting w/ naked girls. But then that's just me. I think i'll stay single for the rest of my life or become GAY. great

Madcap
06-30-2005, 07:20 PM
i can't help the feeling of not liking my BF flirting w/ naked girls. But then that's just me.

No-one expects you to shake the feeling. If it's your feeling, hey, it's your feeling. There's not much anyone can say about it.

One question, though (and i don't mean it in a snotty way), do you ever wonder how many other girls feel the same way about their men with you?



I think i'll stay single for the rest of my life or become GAY. great

That's a tad drastic.


One last thing: I suppose in some way I actually fit part of your customer profile. I'm by far not in a point in my life where i want one woman, but i'm sure as hell not going to the SC looking for ass (uh, figuratively speaking, if you know what i mean). There's other (cheaper) clubs for stuff like that. One attraction of the SC for me is a little less high minded than some draws that may have been posted (I haven't read the whole thread), at the SC i can flirt and chill with very attractive scantily clad women who then go away. There are no strings at all. Believe me i'm not falling in love, here.

Just to provide some other scope.

A_Guy
06-30-2005, 08:43 PM
it just means that A_Guy is hot. :drool:

:blush:


oooorrr it could mean that the massive growth on my right eyelid has developed to be quite hideous, and you just can't stop loooking...:O

ThaiLynn
07-01-2005, 02:39 PM
Was there a point to this post at all? Do you need us to tell you that you are jealous? Here ya go..... its a simple and irrational case of jealously in its most childish form. Enough already.

Mastridonicus
07-01-2005, 03:23 PM
What would really make this interesting, Is if he was using money she made to go!

Personally, I blame the Ninjas. They're ALWAYS in the SC, and you're ALWAYS afraid to get the attention of the girl they're sitting next to, but not talking to :/

Dump the guy, problem solved. He probably wont stop going to SC's even if you stop dancing :/ Sucks but there is more to it than meets the eye, I assume.

"You'd rather go to jail then spend the night with the Zapper?!"
"Much"
*cries*

alicia0033
07-02-2005, 05:19 AM
Was there a point to this post at all? Do you need us to tell you that you are jealous? Here ya go..... its a simple and irrational case of jealously in its most childish form. Enough already.


i got to see some different opinions. I'm done w him. He's a jerk, he can go to all the SCs. He'll probably be the old man at the strip joint ...ALONE

lwtex52
07-02-2005, 06:41 AM
i got to see some different opinions. I'm done w him. He's a jerk, he can go to all the SCs. He'll probably be the old man at the strip joint ...ALONE

After reading through all of this, I thought of the best answer I ever heard to the statement, "Yes, I go to strip clubs, but I just watch and that's all."

The reply was "Bull. If you're hungry, you don't go to a restaurant just to watch."

I am far from an expert on relationships, but I'd say you made the right decision. At least you no longer need to worry about The Towel.

screaminpeachez
07-02-2005, 06:53 AM
http://www.moviepoopshoot.com/toybox/images/2004/jun29/review_towelie_3.jpg
the culprit

VenusGoddess
07-02-2005, 07:15 AM
:rotfl:

Jenny
07-02-2005, 07:43 AM
Personally, I blame the Ninjas. They're ALWAYS in the SC, and you're ALWAYS afraid to get the attention of the girl they're sitting next to, but not talking to :/You know, ninjas are mammals. http://www.realultimatepower.net/index4.htm

Alicia, I'm actually on your side here. I don't think it is at all childish is NOT want your boyfriend pay to touch other women. And I think it would piss me off equally if my boyfriend was one of the "I'm here for the free show" types. Not everyone cares about this kind of thing - some people don't mind their SO paying to touch other people. Some people don't mind when their SO fucks other people. Po-tay-to/Po-tah-to. Different strokes, etc. I also don't think someone being uncomfortable with their SO accepting money to be touched is particularly unreasonable. Some people don't mind, some are uncomfortable with it. But even people who are comfortable with their girlfriend stripping (as I said somewhere else) would probably not be very comfortable if she were exhibiting the same behaviour with strange guys for free. Like giving out free lap dances in a local pub. Whether you like your girlfriend dancing or not, there is still a difference between work and non-work.

And - every woman here who accused her of being a hypocrite - think about your regular customers for a minute. Even the one's you like. The way you feel sort of smugly confident when they walk in, like you own them, like you are going to get AT LEAST x dollars, like they are so crazy about you they will do anything (or most things) that you ask. And you're really that comfortable thinking of your boyfriend being that to some other dancer?

alicia0033
07-02-2005, 08:54 AM
You know, ninjas are mammals. http://www.realultimatepower.net/index4.htm

Alicia, I'm actually on your side here. I don't think it is at all childish is NOT want your boyfriend pay to touch other women. And I think it would piss me off equally if my boyfriend was one of the "I'm here for the free show" types. Not everyone cares about this kind of thing - some people don't mind their SO paying to touch other people. Some people don't mind when their SO fucks other people. Po-tay-to/Po-tah-to. Different strokes, etc. I also don't think someone being uncomfortable with their SO accepting money to be touched is particularly unreasonable. Some people don't mind, some are uncomfortable with it. But even people who are comfortable with their girlfriend stripping (as I said somewhere else) would probably not be very comfortable if she were exhibiting the same behaviour with strange guys for free. Like giving out free lap dances in a local pub. Whether you like your girlfriend dancing or not, there is still a difference between work and non-work.

And - every woman here who accused her of being a hypocrite - think about your regular customers for a minute. Even the one's you like. The way you feel sort of smugly confident when they walk in, like you own them, like you are going to get AT LEAST x dollars, like they are so crazy about you they will do anything (or most things) that you ask. And you're really that comfortable thinking of your boyfriend being that to some other dancer?


i agree. Although i don't think he's a dancer's regular but who knows?!

lwtex52
07-02-2005, 09:05 AM
Thank you, Screaminpeachez, for identifying The Culprit. Now I must ask: How did you manage to get MY picture?

discretedancer
07-02-2005, 09:13 AM
gotta say....there's a bit of a double standard. I wouldn't mind my man going to clubs alone or with me or whatever...it's all about trust. Are you worried he's getting extras? Should he be worried you're giving them? I understand the line where too much is too much, but a couple visits per month? I'm all with CO

Also, the atmosphere is better at an SC than a regular bar. I prefer SCs to bars...the people are cooler, there's no (at least less) pick up action, and hell u cant beat the scenery.

As for pay to touch/dance or no dance shit...thats all about trust. As we all know, not EVERY guy in the club gets dances. Some don't even tip. So where's the big money pit IF YOU TRUST his word.

My bet is this isn't the only reason you 2 broke it off...good for you! don't let something like this be the ONLY reason to get pissed, but things do add up

DJ Batman
07-02-2005, 09:14 AM
Alicia- It is hard to get used to the business.... One thing is for sure though, If it bothers you don't let it happen.. Cut and Dry... Only you can make to rules for you and your BF. Everyone has different limits here.. What makes you feel good about it??? That's what really counts.... I work with my wife in the business and every once in a while something will bother me and we talk about it and get it solved... Ifyou can talk about what you feel and make your own rules for your relationship.. Then you will be happy.!
Just an opinion, I by no means have the adult relationship down to a science, but Im working on it everyday... Good luck on the next one girl..And just smile

Pelirroja
07-02-2005, 09:16 AM
Maybe I'm missing out on something here, but from the way you talk, clearly you believe in a relationship consisting of two equals. If that is the case, then how come one equal (i.e. the stripper) is allowed to be jealous and yet the other equal (i.e. the strip-club visiting boyfriend) isn't allowed to have these very same feelings? Is one equal more equal than others? ;)

Sounds to me like something George Orwell would write about.

lwtex52
07-02-2005, 09:22 AM
Many good points have been made here, particularly by Jenny and DJ_Batman.

Like any relationship, it all comes down to absolute trust and a commitment to make the relationship work in spite of all obstacles. Open communication would be the key to all of that.

alicia0033
07-02-2005, 09:26 AM
gotta say....there's a bit of a double standard. I wouldn't mind my man going to clubs alone or with me or whatever...it's all about trust. Are you worried he's getting extras? Should he be worried you're giving them? I understand the line where too much is too much, but a couple visits per month? I'm all with CO

Also, the atmosphere is better at an SC than a regular bar. I prefer SCs to bars...the people are cooler, there's no (at least less) pick up action, and hell u cant beat the scenery.

As for pay to touch/dance or no dance shit...thats all about trust. As we all know, not EVERY guy in the club gets dances. Some don't even tip. So where's the big money pit IF YOU TRUST his word.

My bet is this isn't the only reason you 2 broke it off...good for you! don't let something like this be the ONLY reason to get pissed, but things do add up

I appreciate your opinion. No, it's not the only reason but this just topped it off. I didn't feel very secure in the relationship.

DJ Batman
07-02-2005, 09:34 AM
OK OK let's lighten it up.....
So your single now right???????
We have room for a third.... See what I am talking about, your own boundries.

LOL Loved talking to ya...

toxicgirl
07-02-2005, 10:20 AM
there's a difference between his going and your dancing. there is a difference between working in the sex industry and being a customer of it.

you go there to work to make money. it's your JOB. you're not there to check out guys and spend money on them. you are there to entertain them and have them spend money on you. you flirt with them and talk to them to make a living.

he's going to check out naked women, have fun, flirt, spend money on the girls (which in my opinion he should be spending on you).

when i go to work, i dont go on dates with my customers or make out with them. i'm not there to find a boyfriend! i go there to dance and provide exceptional conversation. i am there to WORK! i don't go to strip clubs on my days off. i have other things to do than go to a bar: reading, housework, writing, art, hiking, coffee houses, movie theaters. stripping is my JOB- not my entire life. many men can confuse this. i do think you should give him props for being honest with you. many people in this world aren't and honesty is something i value in a relationship- even if the truth hurts.

i wouldnt be cool with it. but i also have to realize i may not be fair in saying to someone, i dance at a strip club but you cant go (unless they're a submissive, which is usually what i go after). i'm in a sort of wild phase right now in my career, so i think it would be best for me to be single so none of this kind of stuff comes out. when i date, i may mention i dance, but i try to let the person see other sides of me- my personality, interests, etc. there's more to me than stripping- i'd rather bring that out.

alicia0033
07-02-2005, 12:29 PM
OK OK let's lighten it up.....
So your single now right???????
We have room for a third.... See what I am talking about, your own boundries.

LOL Loved talking to ya...

::)

thanks ;D

erotictonic
07-02-2005, 10:41 PM
It truly depends on how my husband/bf would act in such a situation, and I would not be with a man who I would not trust to act appropriately. I will not go out with anyone who frequents strip clubs. It's just not what I find healthy for myself. I would not mind if he went for a bachelor party or once in a blue moon where he got drug along. I definitely would not mind if we went together. I find it best to choose to go out with guys who don't go and don't want to go to strip clubs, then I will never have this problem. I've learned over the years to choose people I don't have to change.

get_shoot
07-02-2005, 11:51 PM
Hello Alicia,
How are you honey, please chill out. Actually you should let him go there, and he is not having anything with other strippers, so its ok. Please be cool with him. Its will bring something good in u r life.
Manish.

deluc
07-03-2005, 12:05 PM
I wouldn't want to go to a Strip Club if I was a BF or Hubby of a Dancer there.
I don't go to them now that I am married anyway, but I do like to remember the old days and thats the reason I am here :P
I agree with Alicia, besides I'd get WAY too jealous if I actually went to the club where my SO worked. (Even though I know its just a Job, reasoning has little effect over the Green-eyed Monster)
But I can see both sides of the arguement, and if a Girl is Ok with her Man going, then all the power to em. I just don't see the need for variety when I got a Beautiful Woman back home.

Phil-W
07-03-2005, 01:03 PM
Alicia, my twopenny worth. [It would be my two cents worth, but then I'm from the UK, not the States].

Any relationship has complex dynamics in it, not the least because men and women look at relationships differently. Reduced to its most simplistic level, often women take a much more "romantic" view than men, and men can be more "viscerally" driven than women.

As a man, I do not always see things as a woman would, and vice versa. I try, but sometime I fail - and that can be hurtful to anyone I'm close to. It's not intentional, but with the best of intentions it will happen.

Alicia, you work as a dancer and have formed a view of the industry based on seeing it with a stripper's eye view. [I'd wonder if the clubs you work in, (and the clubs your ex bf), go to are fully nude/high contact or whether they are milder.] Your bf saw things through the eyes of a customer - you were probably seeing different images of the places you work at/he goes to.

Back to the problem in hand - are you really comfortable with the degree of nudity/contact you have, and in similar vein are you happy with the thought of anyone you are in a relationship with having that degree of contact with/view of another dancer. Do you feel secretly uneasy with what you do, and thus are thus unhappy with your ex bf engaging in the same activity, albeit from the other side of the fence?

I'm not in a relationship with a dancer, but I value several as friends. I do go with them to work on occasion, (more often than not because they've asked me for a lift, etc.) Yes, they and I can find it a bit difficult dealing with me being about when they're naked and wriggling about on guy's laps. (We've reached a tacit unerstanding that I don't take too much notice.)

Those dancers I'm friendly with, (and indeed most dancers I know have bf's or husbands), but they tend to deal with the problem by the bf/husband not going to the strip venues. There's also a distinct difference in what the dancers tell their other halves. Some are honest about the degree of contact they allow - some down play it.

The common charateristic in those relationships, (and indeed in the friendships I have with the dancers), is that there is a degree of mutual accomodation within them - not to mention a degree of trust. The husbands/bf's trust the dancers to stay within previously agreed limits while at work, and the dancers, (in general), do stay within those limits. Without a degree of trust between people any relationship is doomed to fail anyway.

It sounds like your problem was very related to trust and understanding - you didn't trust your bf to behave if he went to a strip venue, and he couldn't understand that it was important to you that he didn't go. Without that trust and understanding I think you might have had probems between you sooner or later anyway.

(Sorry if the reply is a little disjointed, but this has become a long and complicated thread. And yep, I'm a man, but I've tried to reply as sympathetically as possible - any offence caused is unintentional).

Phil.

Derek
07-11-2005, 07:45 AM
I am dating a stripper OTC in a very rewarding synergistic relationship. I do not go to her club nor let her in on my activities at other clubs, etc. any more than she would tell me about sessions with other customers, etc. (if any). I think if a guy is dating a stripper and feels the need to enjoy other strippers whether ITC or OTC he should keep it to himself. By the same token if I am seeing a stripper ITC, say as a regular (and out of consideration for her feelings / project goals), I focus on her - I do not tell her about other aspects of the project (other gals, clubs).

cassidykarma
07-12-2005, 10:06 AM
I only dance very very part time nowadays and I met my current bf in the strip club I work at (the only one in town and let me just say this is VERY VERY rare for me to have "picked up" a customer. I shamefully admit that I cried when I heard the guy I was dating was in the club one night while I was out from a waitress there. I didn't really understand the reasons for my strong emotion (although I had been drinking that night) but I think it came from the fact that I met him there, I KNOW the girls there and don't want them giving my bf a dance and then just the idea of him being a customer there.... ugh. I don't want to see him that way. I talked to him about it and he quit going-on the spot. Yes it is a job but we also know the thoughts of the customers and to think of my bf doing it in a place where people KNOW me....had me in shambles. (which made me feel moronic but...anyway....)

alicia0033
07-12-2005, 11:37 AM
I only dance very very part time nowadays and I met my current bf in the strip club I work at (the only one in town and let me just say this is VERY VERY rare for me to have "picked up" a customer. I shamefully admit that I cried when I heard the guy I was dating was in the club one night while I was out from a waitress there. I didn't really understand the reasons for my strong emotion (although I had been drinking that night) but I think it came from the fact that I met him there, I KNOW the girls there and don't want them giving my bf a dance and then just the idea of him being a customer there.... ugh. I don't want to see him that way. I talked to him about it and he quit going-on the spot. Yes it is a job but we also know the thoughts of the customers and to think of my bf doing it in a place where people KNOW me....had me in shambles. (which made me feel moronic but...anyway....)

RIGHT. i totally can relate although is slightly different. It's like I know how customers can be and i would hate thinking of him that way, but since then I've just kind of accepted it. I think it's hard for me to have a bf doing what i do anyways so I'm not going to go crazy if he goes to SC's. I've just accepted it. If I want to keep him that is.

Paris
07-12-2005, 12:47 PM
Alecia0033, My husband not only goes to strip clubs on a regular basis, but he was a stripper until a few years ago! I am totally cool with this.

Why??

Because I feel like it shows him what a great woman he has at home in me! My husband is totally hot, totally charming, and makes a lot of money, but I really don't feel the least bit threatened by the women in the club.

All men fantasize about other women. Some of them do it by looking at magazines (yes Maxime counts), some watch porn, some read stories, and some go to strip clubs. If a guy claims that he never looks at that stuff ever, then he is either lying or it is still happening, just inside his head only.

It is funny how the most happily married man in the world still behaves like a single frat guy in from of a beautiful woman. He would never compromise his marriage, but he still feels some base need to try and woo the girl.

Just my .02

cassidykarma
07-12-2005, 12:51 PM
I guess for me it's not so much him going to a strip bar but the fact he was going to the one I work at and where everyone KNOWS me...

standupguy
07-13-2005, 02:50 AM
If he has a woman at home why does he need to go to a strip club? I never understood that. I go for fun with friends when I am single. I would never go if I had a GF.

WestTXHottie
07-13-2005, 06:01 AM
I've been going to the club my GF works at almost every week. Why? It is hot watching her dance on stage in those outfits, she asks me to come because she likes me watching her and being there, and because I get to chat it up with managers, her stripper friends, and my friends when they come in with me. I don't go unless she is working. Too much cash to be having to throw around and I'd get it for giving away money to other girls. ;)

cinammonkisses
07-13-2005, 10:19 AM
We are there to MAKE money. If you have a live in BF or husband or WHATEVER... you are making money for the BOTH of you. How DARE he go to a club, even if it IS yours and GIVE that HARD EARNED money to another entertainer! WTF?! Isn't that defeating the purpose?


Welcome to SW Ally, you hit the nail right on the head!!!

You are there making money...WTF he goes and spends that on another b****?! Oh hell no! I would trip too.

Nikko1919
08-18-2005, 07:08 PM
Man, that towel line would put me over the edge. That would be like I was grinding on a customer (girl) and having her wipe a towel downstairs under her skirt, and then finding out my GF did that too, I probably would be like later.

JumbliesMan
08-18-2005, 07:24 PM
Welcome to SW Ally, you hit the nail right on the head!!!

You are there making money...WTF he goes and spends that on another b****?! Oh hell no! I would trip too.So if you were a chef and he ate at another restaurant, you'd be pissed? ::) Whatever. Some of you just sound selfish and insecure to me.

splitsekonds
08-20-2005, 09:41 AM
yeaaah man.. this is a total double standard. I don't see the difference? do you consider what he is doing disloyal or cheating? The way I see it, who cares if you get paid... he is recieving pleasure but you are GIVING pleasure.. and in terms of a relationship, they are pretty much equal in unfaithfulness. giving pleasure is just as disloyal as recieving it.

silverandcold
08-20-2005, 10:27 AM
I'd rather have my BF go to a strip club than stay home and get called by all his exes.... -_-; It seems like whenever I go to work, they crawl out of the woodwork and PHONE HIM!!! And I'm like, the most jealous heinous bitch ever and this pisses me off to no end.

threlayer
08-20-2005, 12:07 PM
Two issues - money and trust :

if he's not in your club to help you make/manage your money, he shouldnt be there.

if he's in another club and money is that tight, he shouldn't be there.

if he's in another club and you have a jealousy issue, you two need to work out issues in your b/f relationship, or future ones; it won't just be the club. To wit... "My husband would go berzerk if he suspected i let men touch me in ANY way shape or form." "....that i get really jealous."

Foxey
08-20-2005, 12:18 PM
I think that he is a loser. If he were going with friends twice a month to chill and drink that would be cool. The fact that he goes by himself is completely lame, as is the fact that he gets lap dances. The only time I would be cool with my ol' man getting lap dances would be if it were a special occasion (i.e. with his buddies on his b-day, at a stag) but definately not going solo. Totally unacceptable!

silverandcold
08-20-2005, 12:51 PM
Yeh, solo is kinda skeezy

HoNdAHoTTiE77
08-20-2005, 01:32 PM
ENJOY BEING SINGLE!! i love it.. having a boyfriend is like having a brand new puppy in the house.. they need too much attention :) :)

Bob_Loblaw
08-20-2005, 01:38 PM
I don't see what the big deal is but if it was really a problem for the girlfriend, the respectful thing for the guy to do is heed her wishes.

GnBeret
08-20-2005, 02:08 PM
... I've learned over the years to choose people I don't have to change.

"Whoop, There It Is, Whoop, There It Is!"

Either take the person as they are - or don't. In the end, whatever it is about them that you're trying so hard to change will probably win out and continue to be a part of them and/or their behavoir... all appearances to the contrary notwithstanding... 'cause they're likely as not trying even harder to find a way to just keep off your radar screen at the very same time, and may well manage to do so for many years.

feistykitty
08-20-2005, 02:25 PM
I am in total agreement there...if you can't see yourself with them as they are then it isn't worth it. You will always resent all the shit that gets on your nerves, and they will always resent that you don't appreciate them for who they are.

I didn't read the whole 10 pages (that's a LOT!) so forgive me if I am a bit redundant....but:
As a stripper you should know why you are there (money, right?!). It is the same reason we are ALL there. Including the chicks your BF buys dances from. They don't want him...they want his cash. If you have a problem with him giving his cash to some other chick...or the fact that he is as much as a perv as some of the pervs you give dances to (OMG! he's a man like all those other idiots who gross you out every other night?! Go figure!) then you need to tell him how you feel...but it sounds like a double standard to me. If you have the right to have a problem with him getting dances...then why can't he have a problem with you giving them? I say you have 2 choices...live with it or leave it.
Sorry for the bluntness!
Kitty

Vyanka
08-20-2005, 03:07 PM
Ok, I didn't read this whole thread but...

Did he start going frequently before you started or when you started dancing??

threlayer
08-20-2005, 10:54 PM
... having a boyfriend is like having a brand new puppy in the house...

Yeah. Many of us guys are not even paper-trained.

Hound
08-21-2005, 01:20 AM
I think you're being a hypocrit. If he's spending his own money and you choose to make your money dancing what's the problem? If you think it's dirty or being unfaithful on his part how can you justify what you do for a living?

Lexy9804
08-21-2005, 11:44 AM
I know that everyone has different trust issues, and what not. I really don't care if my boyfriend goes to strip clubs, probably because i know the only one he goes to is the one i work in. I guess I really wouldnt care if he went to other clubs, I mean he makes his money and he can spend it any way he wants. He doesnt criticize me for how I make or spend my money. If he constantly threw my job in my face then we'd have a problem. I dont even have a problem when he tips the other girls. There boyfriends tip me so its all fair. Plus he knows most of the girls on a personal level, as many of us spend time at our house outside of work.