naughtynaomi
08-21-2005, 02:37 PM
The only reason this would be a problem is if the two of you have a joint bank account and he's putting the money you made at work back into other strippers. If it's his own money then no big deal, so long as he abides by the same code of conduct in a SC as you do.
However, we humans are jealous beings, and fairness or rationale don't always play a part in our emotions. It's just part of the human condition. Sucks, don't it?
Hound
08-21-2005, 11:59 PM
In my humble opinion alicia0033, you're in the wrong line of work and/or are not ready to be in a committed relationship.
You say that it’s okay for you to dance for other men because you are getting paid, but it’s not okay for your man to get dances from other women because he’s doing it for pleasure. You also say that you aren't "paying anyone to serve as a sexual stimulant," implying that he, and anyone else that gets dances for that matter, is doing so. I, like many others that have posted on this thread, understand what you're saying but don't think that your argument makes any sense or stands up to logic.
Let's look at a different example to help illustrate my point. If you were a professional hit man (or woman), getting paid for what you do, would that make committing murder okay for you, but wrong for a serial killer or accomplice that only did it for fun or kicks??? Of course not. It's either right or its not, regardless of who's being paid. It’s the same with anything, including stripping.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with being a dancer or with being a customer at a strip club. I do not pay dancers "to serve as a sexual stimulant," as you put it. I go for entertainment and to have an enjoyable time with those working at a club, and with those others that are patronizing it. Instead, if I wanted a "sexual stimulant," I would pick up girls at regular bars or hire a prostitute. But I don't. I am in a long term relationship with a hot, wonderful lady, but I still enjoy going to strip clubs alone or with my other friends.
I see a big difference.You're there to make a living.He's there to have fun.HUGE difference.He sounds insecure and can't handle the fact that you dance.I wouldn't believe him if he says he doesn't get dances.You said you just broke up with him???Good riddance.
I dunno why this went to 11 pages. The second post summed it up perfectly. Lifes too short, find a man who shares your opinion on such an important matter, enjoy being single or quit dancing. My bet he would find another reason to justify going to the SC's anyways even if you quit.