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slowpoke
11-07-2005, 04:31 PM
Should a customer tip every dancer who appears on stage and get a dance from every dancer who offers one, or is it acceptable to only tip those he finds particularly appealing?

yoda57us
11-07-2005, 04:40 PM
If you are sitting at the stage you should tip every dancer. I'm usualy sitting with a fav at a table or the bar. I'm there to see her and I'm not going to walk to the stage and tip every girl. Sometimes it's fun to send a fav over with some cash if a friend of hers is on stage.

If you buy a dance from every girl that offers you are going to broke in no time. It's your cash but I don't know anyone who buys a dance from every girl who asks. Just be polite about turning a lady down (assuming that you do!) and don't string her along if you have no intention of spending on her.

Crow
11-07-2005, 05:13 PM
Plus, if you don't want a dance.. at least wait until she asks to say no and then if you KNOW you are not going to get a dance from that particular woman. Don't tell her to come back later.. thats just irritating.

We understand if you don't want a dance, just don't jack us around with the vague promise of one later. ;)

Miss R.

doc-catfish
11-07-2005, 05:26 PM
Should a customer tip every dancer who appears on stage and get a dance from every dancer who offers one, or is it acceptable to only tip those he finds particularly appealing?
My personal rule of thumb on stage tipping (more like a guideline of thumb)...

Sitting AT the stage...$1 min. per song. Sitting at a girl's stage shows that you are taking interest in her performance. Its considered proper etiquette to tip for sitting in a prime seat. If you are not interested in a particular gal's performance, I recommend moving back.

Sitting in the first row of tables, paying attention to a particular stage...$1 min. per stage set for the girl(s) you are watching. If there is a post set tip walk, that can constitute your dollar.

At the bar, playing pool, getting a dance, have a dancer at your table, or otherwise not really paying attention to the stages...no need to tip. But's its a nice thing to do.

You're never obliged to buy dances.

bigoh
11-09-2005, 09:48 AM
tipping is part of the Strip Club experience. As someone who takes people on VIP tours of the strip clubs here in Montreal, one of the first things I am asked is about the tipping policy in Montreal.
looking at your posts i can see why. in Montreal it is very different. First the girls are indie's and pay a cover charge to work. For a Normal customer they are expected to pay $5-10 for cover $2 to the bouncer for the seat. if you sitting in perverts row the tipping is very different.
In Canada they don't have $1 bills they have $1 and $2 coins so putting them on stage is not allowed ask the dancers can slip and fall (seen it way to many times). Instead people get on stage and lay down with a $5 bill in there mouth for a short lap dance.
as far as lap dances they are $10, full contact. as well you do not tip, as the girls get all the money.
One of the biggest problems i have is with some girls being greedy. For someone who is in a strip club with clients almost 10-15 hours a week I've gotten to know everyone at the clubs very well. I do have some girls come up to me all the time either wanting me to buy them drinks or dances which is annoying as they should realize I'm working as well, if they are new to the club i understand since they don't know me and are only trying to work.but some girls however are just too money hungry and go about things the wrong way.
For example a lot blow me off and are rude as they know i will not give them any of my own money. or they will hit up my clients and often over charge them (as i inform them the real prices and policies). This is annoying to me and also my customers who do not have a problem with spending money (most drop a few hundred) but have a problem with being ripped off or harassed. To the point where i have ask certain strippers not to approach my clients or tell my clients to watch out for them. Just because they have money does not entitle them to rip them off or be greedy.
some have no sense of reality or have had al job outside stripping, i often hear them complain what a cheap stake he is as he only gave them $80 for a few song, Come on you made $80 in 20min..... or get mad when they dont buy them a drink, when your making a few hundred a night i think you can afford your own drinks.

**if you really want make the money, try buying the guy a drink, even though he can afford it, buying a guy a drink is a HUGE gesture and is totally unexpected and will pay off big time for you***

I always hear girls saying its all business, well i guess some have no clue how to do business, those that cheat or are greedy with their customers in the real world will never make it in the long run. focus on the customer not yourself.

I'm not saying all girls are like that, some girls are great and are smart enough to realize that if they are nice and respectful that the guys will want to spend money. And some girls are really smart and have figured out that since I'm working as well and if my clients are happy then I'm happy, so if or past clients have enjoyed them, I'm more inclined to recommend them.
OK so whats my point in all this? don't get some concerned with tips and milking customers and you might find the money coming in a lot fast then when you do.

don't flame me, maybe things are diff in Montreal but it i thought i would give my indisder/outsider view.

Crow
11-09-2005, 09:51 AM
Er.. off topic but still - No matter what the amount, don't ever put money in your mouth. Thats gross.

bigoh
11-09-2005, 11:46 AM
yeah almost as gross as grinding against a pole 50 other naked woman before you have ;)

mspussykatus
11-09-2005, 11:57 AM
Luke,
We have quite a few customers like you at the club I work at and I don't mind them at all. At the begining of my shift when I am getting warmed up and the club is empty except for what I call our "barflys" I would rather sit and chat with a "club customer" or "barfly" and enjoy a drink then sit off by myself staring at the front door.
What I suggest saying to the new girls that do not know you (and I speak from experience because I was gone from work for about three months and several new "club customers" said this to me when I came back and I was not offended) is basically what you just said to us. Just let them know right off the bat that you come in regularly just to have a few drinks and rarely buy dances, and that you don't want to waste her time, although you would love to buy her a drink and have a chat with her. And then of course if she stays for a bit make sure to tip her.
No matter what you do or what you say there are some girls out there that are going to get pissed that A) you are not getting a dance from them and/or B) because you are in the club and not planning on buying dances that night.
Hope that helps!

Luke34
11-25-2005, 04:23 AM
Luke,
We have quite a few customers like you at the club I work at and I don't mind them at all. ... Hope that helps!

Thanks.

ARCOR
12-02-2005, 09:58 PM
I tip $2 at stage and extra $5 if the if the table/private dance in good. Sometimes you can tell by the stage dance if a girl will give a good table/private dance, it's kinda hit or miss.

snowy_chic
01-02-2006, 04:13 PM
My boyfriend says when dancers sit down and he doesn't want to be rude and waste their time he tells them his girlfriend works there...works every time!

kikin
01-03-2006, 02:44 PM
then they wanna know which stripper is the girlfriend...they will sit there for ages trying to figure it out. so this may not work.

goddesskristine84
06-30-2006, 03:23 AM
The only polite way to do this is to pay the girl to sit and talk with you for a minute. Sorry time is money and while we appreciate your honesty we are all trying to pay our way through school, support a family etc. The best thing is to still tip a little on stage or only go when entertaining as expensive as strip bars are it would be best to save your money and go drinking at a normal bar and bring the buddys when you want dances etc.

xxernestoxx
10-16-2006, 11:35 PM
Here it is plain and simple

go to a topless club where there are drinks
if you want to drink and see the girls
dont be cheap!
im make little money, but i still tip very well.

if you want a drink, go to your local bar.

if you want to see hot girls dancing
and get some dances go to the
full nude club.

cheers
-Ernesto

cashflow
09-20-2007, 08:37 AM
Here's a clue. . .the dancers don't like you regardless of whether you spend money or not. They just seriously loathe you if you plant your ass down and imitate a rock. ;)
Quoted for truth.

zxcire
09-20-2007, 08:43 AM
This is a really old thread. Check the date before you post:)

Star Player
09-22-2007, 12:51 PM
Quite honestly the only way to avoid it is by not going into the club. If you would like to just Drink go to a regular bar instead of a strip club.

I strongly disagree with Candice. Where you choose to drink is your business.

If I am just at a SC to chill, I usually may call one of these plays:
1. "I would love your company honey, but I am here for so and so".
2. "Wow your really hot in that outfit honey. Yes I would love your company, but dances don't do it for me. I am looking to find a gal to hookup with at my condo or just chill for awhile. Can I buy you a drink?" This one gets rid of the hustlers fast, but if she sits down, be sure to at least get her phone number if you do not make an offer. If you score, be ready to take her somewhere.
3. "Sorry, just looking to chill, chat because I told my wife I went out to buy a loaf of bread. Can only be here a little while." Opportunity to cuddle and chat with her and then get her phone number. Be sure and give her your business card.
4. "I just got here baby, need some time to unwind. But if you will join me, I will buy you a drink." opportunity to cuddle and chat plus call #2.

torchemily
02-02-2008, 04:52 PM
I've always appreciated a customer letting me know if he really isn't into buying dances. Lets me know that if I choose to chat for a bit or to have a drink that it's on my time. Nothing wrong with that...

VeraLynn
02-03-2008, 12:00 PM
If a customer tells me that he simply isn't into dances, I'm not offended. I much prefer to know where he stands, so I'm not wasting my time if my main goal at the moment is to earn some dance money. I regularly sit down and simply talk to people without the expectation of getting a dance out of it. Sometimes I just want a break to relax for a few minutes. Some guys are floored that I am "still sitting there with them" even after they've been clear that they don't want any dances.

Iv'e also had it happen where a guy who was a self-proclaimed "I don't get dances" person... gets a dance from me because of my no-pressure conversation.

walter1970
02-04-2008, 10:19 AM
I have very specific tastes (I like long legged, angel faced, and lean...some would call skinny), so I say "no" to a lot of girls early on. I usually hone in on one after I've seen a few stage shows and get my LD's from the girls I like only. Sometimes the girls look a little put off by me at first, but it's just that I like what I like.

I would not however, go into a club just to drink and gawk at boobs. I would think courtesy calls for at least some tips at the stage. If you want to drink and see boobs, buy a 6 pack and put on a porno at home. Either way, you end up the same...at home on the couch with the lights out, working one out! LOL

Snappa
02-04-2008, 10:42 AM
I do just go into my local club to drink sometimes (and maybe watch boobs). Other times I drop $300-450 on VIP. Regardless, every time I go, I at least spread some money around by tipping the girls on stage. Dollar tips on stage are the norm where I go. I may not tip everyone, but I also don't watch everyone. I tip those dancers I know and like, and those I've spent enjoyable time with in the past. I'm also quick to let anyone who comes up to me know when I'm just in for drinks.

UtahMike
02-10-2008, 08:52 PM
I went to clubs for many years without ever having a lapdance. I tipped between a hundred and two hundred a night at the stage, which is a fair amount for this area, but when dancers would ask me if i wanted a lapdance, I'd just say, "No thanks, I don't do lapdances."

Then at the end of one night, one of my favorite dancers came to my table and told me that I'd been tipping all night and that I deserved a free lapdance. That was about five years ago, and now they are a part of my every visit to a club.

crizgolfer
02-10-2008, 09:22 PM
I have sat and stage tipped all night at some clubs. Especially on slow nights. Keeps the house from taking a percentage. I end up spending the same (the stage tips are a bit larger than normal) as if I were buying dances. I just spread it around a bit more and hope to cover house fees, etc. for the most of the dancers.

I know some of the guys here will think this a stupid thing to do, but I suggest they try it some night. On a slow night. I have had some of my best times in clubs doing this.

RebeccaSolidarity
02-13-2008, 02:47 PM
I use this analogy when explaining to some of the guy customers who - for whatever reason - decide to ask me about what the dancers expect or want or whatever:

"It is like having a friend who is a waitress or waiter at a restaurant. Even if it was your best friend serving you lunch, you are still going to leave a tip at the end of the meal."

No matter how nice you are, even if you are their best friend in the whole world, once you step in the club you tip the dancers. The same goes for having different reasons for being there. I can certainly understand the desire to hang out at the stripclub just for the drinks and atmosphere. But you should still stage tip to the dancers at the very least, though if that is all you are going to do then do not expect just one or two dollars to be enough to stay on the goodside of the dancers. Your liver can afford to live without two or three jack and cokes or frisky-felinetini or whatever you happen to drink.

Personally I like red wine of one sort or another with a shot of jack mixed in, with ice.

Delicious and relaxing.

Basically, tip the dancers. If you are just there to drink and you have to fight with yourself over giving money to the women who are there working then you are probably in that club for all the wrong reasons anyway.

Which is what everyone else here has been said already. I just, you know, wanted to be part of the choir. Heh.


I have sat and stage tipped all night at some clubs. Especially on slow nights. Keeps the house from taking a percentage. I end up spending the same (the stage tips are a bit larger than normal) as if I were buying dances. I just spread it around a bit more and hope to cover house fees, etc. for the most of the dancers. I know some of the guys here will think this a stupid thing to do, but I suggest they try it some night. On a slow night. I have had some of my best times in clubs doing this.

Yeah, there are a small number of people who do this when they come into the Bustop and everyone is basically super cool to them as a result. It is one of those clubs where nobody has any idea if it will be full or just have a single customer, and doing something to make it worth their time (especially if the tip rail is otherwise empty) is a pretty good example of etiquette. Support your local dancers, and all that rockness.

JoeUnCool
02-14-2008, 08:58 AM
Be nice. Be nice. Be nice............until it is time to not be nice. You, as a customer will never know when that is.

I tell the girls "no thank you." They tend to leave. I've had a couple of girls make snotty remarks. Just let it go. Its your money. The girls are their for your money. You can spend it however you want and on whomever you want. Telling a girl politely that you are not interested is fine.

The Uncoolest One

RebeccaSolidarity
03-14-2008, 02:59 PM
apparently the perfect example of bad customer behavior is...

...my boyfriend!

....goddammit....