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BigGreenMnM
10-03-2005, 03:20 PM
I understand the animal exists Velvet,it does happen.
Im not talking about the girls on the web,they are only about 20-30% of dancers who even HAVE a comp,so its not possible to really get a good stat from the SW girls.


unless your in a very odd club,if you walk into the dressing room in any club america,it would be very rare to find 2 girls who have been in a 7 year relationship,let alone a 5 year one,90%+ would fall into the stats i made up of not being in the same relationship they were in before they danced.
Check your dressing room next time ladies.
Granted,most girls will tell you the guy they left was also a shitbird,but the fact remains,90%+(if not more)dont leave the dance with the one who brung um.

Were you in this relationship before you started dancing or did you become a couple while you were already a dancer?

BigGreenMnM
10-03-2005, 03:28 PM
well yea Emily,i just dont give a chit about non dancers!LOLOL

But I hear the national divorce rate is 50%+and higher,and some jobs(police,navy wife,etc)are70% or something crazy like that.

Im saying we beat the hell outta all of them and average 90%+.

The problem with this problem is,its not really a problem at all.
As i have said,most will say they left a controlling,unemployeed,abusive,shitbird of a guy.
Yea some great guys get the shaft,but they run few and far between imo.

Emily
10-03-2005, 03:37 PM
would you stop with the percentages? you are pulling arbitrary numbers out of a hat and acting as if this is some kind of scientific survey.

you are trying to illustrate that dancers don't have long-term happy relationships, but you have to compare them to non-dancers. My luck with men isn't so great now, but things weren't exactly peachy when I was a computer programmer either.

In the course of a lifetime, we're going to have several relationships that don't work. We will probably end up with at least one guy that tries to take advantage of us. So what if it happens to dancers too? That'd be weird if it didn't.

BigGreenMnM
10-03-2005, 04:55 PM
well ok,im not trying to upset you or piss anyone off,its just a conversation about deadbeat botfriends and what i have seen.

Its far from scientific,anything concerning dancers is,im just giving MY OPINION stats on the many dancers and many clubs that I have seen,I thought i made that clear.

Im sorry your having bad luck right now,im just suggesting possible causes that many(most imo)dancers face,leaving the boyfriend/hubby at the bottom of the stage steps when they start doing this.Im not saying its a problem all the time.

IMO a dancer is lucky if she is single during her career,way less drama.

CrescentLuna
10-03-2005, 05:16 PM
Time for my story again:
BF and I date long distance, bf had steady job that paid well, I'm stripping in economically depressed town.
I want bf to move in with me, he does. Doesn't find job, as I've pointed out, economically depressed + three highschools and two colleges equals three interviews to not get a job at Target.
I say, "don't worry about it! In the winter we'll be traveling anyway!"
In the winter we travel, I work and we vacation together.
We come back to economically depressed town for my school. He finds work at grocery store, not much but it pays, right? I don't want to dance in this town anymore. I travel one day a week, and am having just as much trouble finding supplemental non-dancing-non-fastfood work. He makes more now, we live. All those premonitions about him never finding work because of being accustomed to my high-living stripper lifestyle never panned out. [Also, uhm, I've never been a high-earning stripper, more like lower-middle class]

Jessica
10-17-2005, 11:34 AM
Sectum ,

I know how much society puts on men's roles as strictly being that of the support angle (providing income). The question is how much you honor that role? If choosing a partner was solely determined upon that factor then the dating services would have a ball matching couples. All they'd have to do is ask females what financial bracket they'd like their mate to be then tally up their prospects networth on computer and Voila! instant match. Unfortunately it seems this is what society is comming to.
The big question you have to ask yourself is , is this guy seriously trying and willing to put his fair share into a relationship? There are plent of well meaning people who simply lack the knowledge, skills, and abilities to earn a substancial income. How willing is this person to work at a unpopular job to contribute to the relationship? This is something you must ask yourself. Forget what advice others give you. Nobody, or at least nobody should, know more about him than you. Remember the wedding vows state- for better or for worst, in sickness or in health, for richer or poorer.
You know , there are other criteria for choosing your partner. God, I certainly hope it is not because he's good in bed. I don't know how these idiots figure good sex means good fidelity.