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MrChristopher
04-18-2006, 01:59 PM
I honestly don't know the number. I've been with my now-wife for almost 14 years (and I'm 33)...but she DOES know I was a frightful slut in High School. We had this discussion one wine-filled evening recently, actually. She thought it was worse I didnt know the number. The question then becomes...okay...just people I actually did the full-on nasty with? Do I have to remember all their names? It wasn't like I was keeping a journal or a tally of some sort. How about that girl who gave me championship head in the bathroom at that one party? Does that count? I'm betting guys would say no, but like Clerks mentioned above...I'm betting it would matter if it was your SO doing the giving. And as for a guy's point of view...the number has never really mattered to me. Call me weird, but a girl who has a higher number (as long as she was safe about it, no std's etc) has a much better chance of being a whole lotta fun in the sack. I have never had the "virgin fantasy", really. It's a stupid double standard, like many male/female issues seem to be.

kyuketsuki_Lilith
04-18-2006, 02:18 PM
So my friend just started dating this guy and they got into the dangerous discussion of the # of sexual partners they have had. She told him the truth (a mistake IMO) and they got into a pretty big fight. She said he told her he's over it, but still makes strange comments sometimes.
So, I guess my question for the guys on here is, what do you want to hear from us about this subject?
And my question to the girls is, what have you done in this situation?

It's such bullshit that he's upset over her number of partners. So she enjoys sex... so what? ( *gasp* how horrible!) However, her number of partners is no one's business. All that matters is that he know's she's clean and STD-free.

dudeski
04-18-2006, 03:33 PM
It's such bullshit that he's upset over her number of partners. So she enjoys sex... so what? ( *gasp* how horrible!) However, her number of partners is no one's business. All that matters is that he know's she's clean and STD-free.

Yeah, how dare a guy care about how many guys a woman has shared her body with and let into her most intimate of places... Hell, a man should be proud that his woman's body used to be an amusement park for men, right? A man should enjoy the idea of another man ejaculating into his wife's mouth, right? No way should a man look down on a woman who indiscriminately has sex with complete strangers, right? I mean, a woman who has sex with strangers obviously is a woman of discriminating tastes, right? She obviously has high standards of worthiness for the strangers she lets enter her temple, right?

Who do those guys think they are?

I'll never understand why guys look for mates anywhere other than a swinger's club...

:P

Djoser
04-18-2006, 06:08 PM
What's really fucking stupid is the way men and women both tend to have the Double Standard about all this.

Like a woman is supposed to guard her Holy Vagina with her life, and never let anyone but the most qualified candidates enter her Sacred Sanctorum, after making them wait forever and prove themselves. Hopefully not more than one or two of them.

Meanwhile, a guy is a serious Stud if he has fucked 10,000 women, especially if they just walk up to him and grab his dick by way of introduction.

"How does he do it? He's a walking Pussy Magnet!"

The above said in tones of reverence and envy.

Even some women will fall for the Stud myth, especially in a town like this one. I used to joke around and say if I wanted to get a lot of dates with new women, I'd pay a couple of them to fight over me publicly in a trendy meat market pick up club. Very funny, but the sad thing is, it would probably work very well.

kyuketsuki_Lilith
04-18-2006, 07:30 PM
Yeah, how dare a guy care about how many guys a woman has shared her body with and let into her most intimate of places... Hell, a man should be proud that his woman's body used to be an amusement park for men, right? A man should enjoy the idea of another man ejaculating into his wife's mouth, right? No way should a man look down on a woman who indiscriminately has sex with complete strangers, right? I mean, a woman who has sex with strangers obviously is a woman of discriminating tastes, right? She obviously has high standards of worthiness for the strangers she lets enter her temple, right?

Who do those guys think they are?

I'll never understand why guys look for mates anywhere other than a swinger's club...

:P

Dude... it's a Woman, not your property. She has the right to enjoy sex. That doesn't make her horrible. She's a human being, treat her with respect.
So it's either Goddess or Whore, huh? You need a more realistic view.

And Djoser, thank you.

MrChristopher
04-18-2006, 07:33 PM
Take Dudeski's post and substitute "man" in place of "woman". Flip the dial. Case closed.

blondhottie
04-19-2006, 12:34 AM
I don't see how anything good can come out of telling the # of partners you've had. Sure, I'll be honest if my SO asks me, but it's really not worth bringing up. Sometimes you can't win-if your number's too high, then you're a slut, and if it's too low, then you must be a prude and bad in bed.