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SilverScreenStarlet
12-17-2005, 12:26 PM
See I thought of joining this site awhile back. what i dont like is that u gotta pay this membership fee. i dont know if its worth it or not.
for all the girls who tried this out, is it worth paying the membership fee?
Paintbaby
12-17-2005, 01:35 PM
I think so. It's actually kind of fun. Be prepared for lots of freaks, though! Some of the guys are nice, and everyone is looking for something a bit different. Last night I had a conversation with a professional athlete who wants me to dominate him. (yup, he proved who he said he was--e-mailed me his driver's liscence, team photos--and then I googled him) Wants to meet me when he comes to town, wants to give me an allowance, buy me gifts--just wants to be my slave, wants to serve me, be humiliated, bla, bla, bla. I just laughed at him, but told him I would meet him in a public place for a drink when he comes to visit his family. Will keep you all updated on the outcome of this sordid tale! ;)
madmaxine
12-17-2005, 02:47 PM
^ Lucky girl. Dang it, you're gonna live out my fantasies. I'll be waiting for the outcome!
goldengrl69
12-17-2005, 03:08 PM
Chocolate, how much is the 2 month membership?
Paintbaby
12-17-2005, 04:40 PM
^ Lucky girl. Dang it, you're gonna live out my fantasies. I'll be waiting for the outcome!
Lol! I know, right? He's really cute, too. But we'll see. I also have another millionaire wanting to meet me for coffee. What's a girl to do? This one lives in my town, but also has a home in Texas. He actually seems normal, and is very handsome, too. Again, we shall see what transpires face to face. But I gotta tell ya, I'm having some fun with it. Get on over there, Madmaxine! They'd love you!
cinammonkisses
12-17-2005, 05:04 PM
Hmmmm so to you gals trying this out long distance, do you think it's better to have a sugar daddy far away, or near by??
Paintbaby
12-17-2005, 05:51 PM
I'll let you know, Cinnamon! Right now it looks like I've got a couple of live ones...one long-distance, one in town. We'll see which one I like better. Hopefully, they aren't full of shit. Stay tuned!
onlythebest
12-17-2005, 09:22 PM
I joined the site a few days ago and this guy wants to send me money if I email him pics of my hair.He wants a few pics of my hair in braids and is going to send me money in exchange.God bless these guys!!!
Sunshine73
12-18-2005, 05:59 PM
I'm sorry but this whole topic kind of grosses me out. I guess maybe I'm different? Sometimes I really don't like what I have to do at work just to make a living. Having a "sugar daddy" to me just sounds like being a prostitute with only one client... Just gross, not my style.
I like to be treated well, but I guess being treated well to me doesn't have to do with money. When it comes to money, I guess my pride gets in the way and I have some sort of need to prove to myself that I can take care of myself and don't need a man for that.
To each their own, but, blaaa... it just gives me shivers to think about meeting some guy knowing the only reason is financial, not him... I have a hard enough time trying to not think about work when I'm home, I can't imagine mixing my personal life up in something like this.
Am I the only one that would NEVER do this?
I am fully with you on this one.
FoxyRoxIt
12-19-2005, 09:31 AM
I have a sugar daddy that I met in my club. He's actually a cool guy, really nice and not too old. he's not my usual type but he's handsome and he's a sweatheart, he'll actually ask me if i want to go the the vip room with him...anyway this guy drops tons of money on me. He offered to pay for my freshman year of college, and if i do well enough he'll pay for the rest and give me enough $$$ so that i don't have to work my way through school. I thought he was shitting me and i didn't really say yes or no to the offer, so he actually had his lawyer draw up a contract.He hasn't even tried to kiss me or anything, and he makes me keep my clothes on in the vip room...i don't even dance for him. I know this sounds awful but im thinking of keaving my bf for him. Not just because im a goldigger, my bf doesn't treat me nice, doesn't buy me ANYTHING, and i swear he's cheating on me and he makes me feel bad about being a stripper. This sugar daddy treats me so well, respects me and doesn't make feel shitty. Not to mention he's filthy rich and I actually enjoy spending time with him. The best part is he's from out of town, so I won't see him that often, i'll be busy with school and I need my space.
Jenny
12-19-2005, 09:39 AM
Foxy - other girls can chime in on this, but unless you are prepared to sort of take this on as a job - like if you lose it, you are prepared to go out and get another one - you could be making a mistake. Trust me - a contract for this type of relationship is suspicious, and I would not rely too heavily on its enforcibility. And if you are looking for a job, and are prepared to do this for a living, great and there are lots of girls who can give you advice on negotiation and such (I am in complete awe of that - the whole reason this entire... process is completely out for me is because I am completely incapable of negotiating. I'm retarded about that kind of thing). If not, what you are doing is getting yourself used to a certain lifestyle in which you are relying entirely on a man. You might seriously consider that that is not such a good idea. If you are still dancing in teh meantime - great, go ahead, let him pay your rent, your tuition, whatever. It's the whole "so I don't have to work through school" that worries me. You should not be dependant on any one person (particularly if you are not entirely willing to just replace him).
FoxyRoxIt
12-19-2005, 09:57 AM
I'm not the type to depend on a man for everything, I didn't even ask him to pay for my school, he offered. He drew up the contract beacuse when he made the offer i didn't believe him and he was about to go back to his hometown, I haven't signed it yet cause I'm still feeling him out. Even if he gave me enough money to not work, i would probably spend some of it, invest most of it and still work, but less nights. I've gotten offers like this before but the reason im actually considering this guy is because i genuinly like him and wouldn't consider him a "job" I liked him even before he offered to pay for my college. He's my type of guy and i don't have to put on my "stripper personality" at all with him.
242_fair
12-19-2005, 01:28 PM
In this life you will never be given more than you believe you are worth.
If you think you are worth your current boyfriend, you will stay with him and continue to be treated as he treats you: badly.
If you go with the sugadady, you know you will be treated well and your needs will be taken care of, your #1 objective (I hope) school is going to be more secure.
People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
So all you have to do is decide who deserves you more.
I'm not the type to depend on a man for everything, I didn't even ask him to pay for my school, he offered. He drew up the contract beacuse when he made the offer i didn't believe him and he was about to go back to his hometown, I haven't signed it yet cause I'm still feeling him out. Even if he gave me enough money to not work, i would probably spend some of it, invest most of it and still work, but less nights. I've gotten offers like this before but the reason im actually considering this guy is because i genuinly like him and wouldn't consider him a "job" I liked him even before he offered to pay for my college. He's my type of guy and i don't have to put on my "stripper personality" at all with him.
Lizette
12-19-2005, 04:34 PM
I want a sugar daddy! Not an old perv but a really nice one that I would be proud to call my friend.
I was looking at the competition on sugardaddie.com, and uh, yeah ... I found a SW member and lots of women who have pictures like the one below.
Lizette
12-19-2005, 04:40 PM
I was raised to "do for myself" and my mom made sure that we became independent women, not needing anything from a man...
CK, I am a do-it-myself kind of gal and blew off many LEGIT sugar daddy offers. I regret it. So what if a friend I met in the club wants to help me out? I wish I could find their numbers.
You never ask them. They ask YOU. That's how it's been for me. Typically, they give me $500+ and a note saying that they'll help me out if I ever needed anything. The ones I've met like bring happiness to their friends. These are the good sugar daddies and I can't believe I let them go!
Paintbaby
12-19-2005, 05:24 PM
Hey, Lizette! Come on over to sugardaddie's! I think you will find what you are looking for. I'm not really sure what I'm looking for over there--not really needing a sugardaddy, but it would be nice to meet someone cool--but I've been having some fun with it. Not everyone there is looking for the same thing, either--some are looking for a piece on the side, some want a sugardaddy/sugarbabe relationship, some people are seeking relationships. But there are a LOT of older dudes looking for a sugarbabe. And yes, there aren't a ton of hot women, so the men go crazy for new blood. Obviously, there are some freaks though--but it isn't hard to put them on your ignore list, either!
BlondeLocks
12-20-2005, 05:05 PM
Oh, this is hilarious! I just signed up for two months on the sugar daddy dating site---don't know why, since I'm not even interested in meeting someone right now! They're like a pack of starved dogs over there--I got like 6 e-mails in the first 10 minutes of posting my profile! Who knows ? Maybe I'll end up getting a few bills paid!
paintbaby- i just signed up for shits and giggles and i got like 7 emails in the first 10 minutes too!!! I was trying to check the emails but a page came up saying 'start emailing your sugardaddy today!' or something like that...anyone know how the hell you check your damn email on that site/?
BlondeLocks
12-20-2005, 05:08 PM
Actually Jenny, some of the men over there are looking for actual relationships, not just sex made to order. Not all of the guys are married, looking for a bit on the side.What I am so amused by is the guys who just want to" get down to it"--no let's meet and see IF it could happen, but WHEN and WHERE. Hardly my idea of a courtship! What I am finding so funny is that these are men in their 30's and 40's, who should really know how to woo a woman better than that!
I bought a two month membership, too, Chocolatekiss--not a huge investment, and I would be happily surprised if I actually met someone. You never know! Finding the behaviour of a few ill-mannered asses I have had mail conversations with amusing does not make me a hypocrite. What would make me a hypocrite is if I was to get together with the men I'm talking about, and take their money. Acting nice to their faces and then complaining about them behind their backs would make me a hypocrite. I am not doing that. These men I am putting on my "ignore" list.
how do you buy a two month membership? i swear i tried to click on all of the tabs and nothing like that came up!
onlythebest
12-20-2005, 05:50 PM
You have to have a profile for starters.You have to wait for a message sent to you then it'll tell you how to purchase membership.
hannah83
12-20-2005, 05:56 PM
i actually have an account with them and i'm not looking anymore though b/c i've met a great guy and we've been talking for about 5 months online and we're finally going to be meeting here in January!
you have to really weed out the losers, but there are some nice guys on there.
82Candy
12-20-2005, 07:15 PM
In this life you will never be given more than you believe you are worth.
If you think you are worth your current boyfriend, you will stay with him and continue to be treated as he treats you: badly.
Could you please explain to me who you were saying this to? Or is this a general statement, and you hate all men?
To me, I seemed to read this as "your current boyfriend" is any guy that any one of us is dating, and "he treats you: badly" was a narrow minded way of saying "the grass is always greener with some other new guy."
I know I must have read this the wrong way, you can't possibly think that all of us have boyfriends that are treating us badly.
My last boyfriend was awesome, he treated me as an equal, didn't talk down to me, didn't put me on a pedestal, expected me to pull my weight in the relationship, and was always there for me when I needed him. It was exactly the way it should be. I'm hoping that we can continue to have a strong relationship as friends now that I've moved away. I hope that somehow, someday, we end up back together.
Of course, he wasn't a sugar daddy!
242_fair
12-20-2005, 08:59 PM
WOA - I was talking to Foxy.
Go read the thread again.
It is a discussion about two specific people, not a theory about men in general.
She was talking about guy #1 who treats her bad, cheats, etc., and
guy #2 who wants to build her up instead of breaking her down like guy #1.
When people put someone else's quote in their post, it generally means they are replying to the quote...
:-X :-X
Could you please explain to me who you were saying this to? Or is this a general statement, and you hate all men?
To me, I seemed to read this as "your current boyfriend" is any guy that any one of us is dating, and "he treats you: badly" was a narrow minded way of saying "the grass is always greener with some other new guy."
I know I must have read this the wrong way, you can't possibly think that all of us have boyfriends that are treating us badly.
My last boyfriend was awesome, he treated me as an equal, didn't talk down to me, didn't put me on a pedestal, expected me to pull my weight in the relationship, and was always there for me when I needed him. It was exactly the way it should be. I'm hoping that we can continue to have a strong relationship as friends now that I've moved away. I hope that somehow, someday, we end up back together.
Of course, he wasn't a sugar daddy!
82Candy
12-20-2005, 10:43 PM
WOA - I was talking to Foxy.
Go read the thread again.
It is a discussion about two specific people, not a theory about men in general.
She was talking about guy #1 who treats her bad, cheats, etc., and
guy #2 who wants to build her up instead of breaking her down like guy #1.
When people put someone else's quote in their post, it generally means they are replying to the quote...
:-X :-X
Ok, I checked it. I still don't see how there was guy one and guy two in the thing you quoted... There is more reading back, but that wasn't clear from what you quoted.
SilverScreenStarlet
12-22-2005, 05:16 PM
heres the deal....i got 2 jobs. i work a regular 9-5 job, and i dance occasionally also. plus, with the sugardaddie situation i might be making around 2500 on a weekend (no sex of course). could i put this money in the bank? when i do taxes what will i say about this money? should i label it as "gift".
spicy
12-22-2005, 07:16 PM
Sugar Daddies are great but do remember they can give you a tooth ache if you have too much sugar.;D
LoveSexMoney
12-22-2005, 07:52 PM
Additionally, most larger cities have well known 'MatchMakers', not madams or anything, but legitimate 'Cupid' ladies who match up busy executives. A lot of young women are afraid to make use of these match-makers, that they will be judged if they admit they are looking for a benefactor. But this is a mistake - your local match maker will be more than happy to have a local young hottie added to her black book. She gets PAID by the guys for her service. HOWEVER, do not tell the matchmaker you are a stripper, and don't tell the guy either. The act has to be all class, starving bohemian student type thing.
Hey 242_fair, can you expand a little more on this? How does a girl find a "Cupid" in her area? Not the yellow pages???
242_fair
12-22-2005, 08:15 PM
I have a sugar daddy that I met in my club. He's actually a cool guy, really nice and not too old. he's not my usual type but he's handsome and he's a sweatheart,...I know this sounds awful but im thinking of keaving my bf for him. Not just because im a goldigger, my bf doesn't treat me nice, doesn't buy me ANYTHING, and i swear he's cheating on me and he makes me feel bad about being a stripper. This sugar daddy treats me so well, respects me and doesn't make feel shitty. Not to mention he's filthy rich and I actually enjoy spending time with him. The best part is he's from out of town, so I won't see him that often, i'll be busy with school and I need my space.
Ok This is the guy #1 guy #2 part, although I don't know why you are making such a big deal about a comment for someone else.
242_fair
12-22-2005, 08:17 PM
Yes you can definetly find them through the yellowpages. Just check and you'll see.
TigersMilk
12-22-2005, 08:24 PM
There was a thread about that site a long time ago, and I joined. Membership was free then. I got a bunch of responses but none that really seemed worth following up on.
Same here Im on there. I cancelled afterawhile they all wanted to have sex with me instead of everything else. Its not match.com its sugardaddie.com guys..fork out. *puts on diva hat*
Damia
12-24-2005, 01:57 AM
Okay, do you find them on the street? Or in the club?
onlythebest
12-24-2005, 02:44 PM
OK,I just had one of those guys from that site follow me to MySpace.Kinda creepy.I have no idea how he knew that was my MS profile.You can't insert links from another website in your profile.Weird.
lares
12-28-2005, 04:52 PM
just joined and am planning to meet a potential SD for lunch soon. Hopefully this works out and he is not a freak.
hannah83
12-28-2005, 06:58 PM
i meet up with mine soon too!!! :) I'm so excited
fancygirl
12-28-2005, 08:47 PM
I was a member, and then stopped checking because I was so tired of them thinking they could hire me for sex, or to be a girlfriend. Couldn't I just be a dinner date conversationalist who makes them feel good about themselves with my words and my hot ass body on their arms?
I hear about GREAT sugar daddie relationships, but seemingly they never come to me unless they want to be romantic or sexual. *HUFF*
StitchesH
12-28-2005, 09:43 PM
it says you have to be 21 to join the site......:(.....hmmmm
lares
12-28-2005, 10:22 PM
I was a member, and then stopped checking because I was so tired of them thinking they could hire me for sex, or to be a girlfriend. Couldn't I just be a dinner date conversationalist who makes them feel good about themselves with my words and my hot ass body on their arms?
I hear about GREAT sugar daddie relationships, but seemingly they never come to me unless they want to be romantic or sexual. *HUFF*
I feel you...I just signed up today and some guy messaged me
"would 2,000 for the weekend be good for you?"
I was like :O. "if you want to give me that much to go to dinner, go hiking, go explore the area etc. sure..but not for anything else" he never responded }:D
like someone said...these guys think they can order us like pizza.
82Candy
12-29-2005, 09:13 AM
Sadly they do order girls like pizza. Just because you say no doesn't mean he didn't get his pizza.
jadenphilly
12-29-2005, 01:47 PM
I have had a few SD's I think that my first one was when I was 18 and just started dancing. The last two that I had were the best. One used to pay my rent and buy me jewelry, and the other took me shopping gave me money and then when I moved to Philadelphia he bought my plane ticket to move with my boyfriend. I never left the club with any of them except when the one took me shopping. You have to be careful they can be a bad idea sometimes. But my friend has had the same SD for four years and for Xmas he bought her a new Mustang. That is really nice.
onlythebest
12-29-2005, 07:34 PM
I joined the site a few days ago and this guy wants to send me money if I email him pics of my hair.He wants a few pics of my hair in braids and is going to send me money in exchange.God bless these guys!!!
OK,I emailed this guy two pics of my hair in braids and sure as sh*t,the money he promised came in the mail today.I can't believe it!!!
fancygirl
12-29-2005, 07:40 PM
Good for you OTB!!! Even though it hasn't happened to me yet, I still love hearing about it : )
onlythebest
12-29-2005, 07:52 PM
Thanks,sweetie!!!
LusciousLyzz
12-29-2005, 08:00 PM
I've never had a Sugar Daddy. I don't think I could. I hate getting gifts. I bet that sounds odd, but I hate it! If I want something, I'll buy it and if I can't afford it, then I wait till I can buy it. I'm just too independant I guess.
Jenny
12-29-2005, 08:05 PM
I don't know - I was brought up to feel very OBLIGATED to people. I am, hence, completely incapable of bargaining with people over this kind of thing - I would, inevitably, wind up sleeping with the guy and probably having his babies for like $65. I really am well out of it. Yet, I can't help being facinated with the idea of money for nothing - or at least a lot of money for very little, you know? So I occasionally read these threads and consider.
MeganR
12-29-2005, 09:36 PM
^^^A warning, use them yes, but abuse the gift, never...
Meaning . . . don't drop the iPod in the pool?
onlythebest
12-29-2005, 09:41 PM
Meaning . . . don't drop the iPod in the pool?
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
TigersMilk
12-29-2005, 09:43 PM
How do you know someone really wants to spoil you as oppose to bad game they are trying to spout?
onlythebest
12-29-2005, 09:45 PM
TM,you have to use your stripper ESP to be able to tell.
TigersMilk
12-29-2005, 09:47 PM
Ive never had a SD so its hard to tell...gullable I am too. LOL stripper ESP.
"I have ESPN" - mean girls
onlythebest
12-29-2005, 09:52 PM
In my opinion,SD's are customers that are high stakes.Instead of getting $400 VIP from them,you are trying to get a Mercedes and the like from them.
fancygirl
12-29-2005, 11:16 PM
yeah, but SDs seem to already put up the $400 and more...as long as you don't depend on them, or count your chickens before they hatch, you're still relatively ahead even if they don't give you a car... I mean, we don't waste our time sitting with a guy for free in the club--same goes for SD situations, either he ponies up to show you he's serious or you move on so he stops wasting your time in the club, on the phone, or whenever you meet.