View Full Version : Did I do the right thing?

01-18-2006, 05:04 AM
I was giving several dances to this really cool guy at work tonight and we were getting along, talking, having drinks, etc.
He then proceeded to ask me if I would be cool with dancing for him in private after work. He wanted me to meet him, and dance nude for $400 an hour. The price didn't seem odd to me since he was obviously loaded, and he also explained that he didnt' want to have sex.
I told him I would consider it, and asked another dancer (whom I trust quite a bit) what her opinion on the situation would be. She told me that it might be okay, but I should have someone else go with me for safety reasons. So she agreed to go with me and dance, and I would split the money with her.
When I told him that I wanted to have another girl present, he started to feel as though the situation would be too complicated, since he just wanted my exclusive company.
And since it was a spur of the moment type proposition, I felt odd not having enough time to prepare or think about the actual consequences.
After meeting the other dancer, he decided to call it off and I agreed that we should meet again some other time, although I don't know if I feel right in just calling him to set it up again.
So now I am wondering whether or not I should feel bad because I missed out on the money, or if I should just stay away from making these OTC arrangements at work altogether. They seem to get really complicated and awkward.
Has anyone else ever pulled this off?

01-18-2006, 05:49 AM
Maybe if the situation comes up again, you introduce the other girl as a special favor . . . or simply say, "I promised so-and-so that I'd spend the time with her, but I just asked her, and she said she'd come with me!"

01-18-2006, 05:54 AM
Don't do it. Unless u know the guy personally or through a mutual friend. Red flags should have come up when he wasn't willing to go when u wanted to bring a friend. You never know what will happen out of club safety. People can say one thing and then something totally different is expected.

01-18-2006, 06:12 AM
I agree. This is definately NOT something one should do 'spur of the moment' as you will ultimately be unprepared/unorganised therefore putting yourself in more risk for something/anything not so great to happen.

Only do one-on-one private dancing if you have an established protocol in place. If someone is EVER miffed at having someone else in the next room for your own personal security then that is a HUGE red flag.

You don't need to have the other dancer actually participate in the session just be in the next room. She can still be 'tipped' by you for being the security.

You also must have established rules and what you will and won't offer. Will you offer lap dancing ? Will you allow him to wank whilst you do your show? Will you allow touching as long as he is fully clothed ? Will you include toys (vibes) into the show or just do 'natural masturbation' (no toys, just inserting your fingers) ? What about music ?

There is already information within this section about one-on-one private dancing. Personally I would never do it as it is too close to escorting plus I have to be concerned about my own safety as well.

01-18-2006, 07:07 AM
YYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSS you did the right thing. 400 isn't worth risking your safety IMO!

You just don't know this guy, and the fact that he didn't want to be around your friend raises concerns.

If he wants more privacy.. tell him to spend that money in champagne (if you have one)

01-18-2006, 09:17 AM
I agree with the other ladies. you don't know this guy. The only way you should do ANYTHING like this is with established regular customers that you are 100% comfortable with. The fact that he was freaked out at having 2 girls is not a good sign. The money isn't always everything.

01-18-2006, 10:06 AM
You did the right thing. Definetly a bad sign that he called it off when you said you were bringing a friend. You should never be afraid to say to a potential custy that you will not go somewhere other than your VIP room alone with him. If he doesn't understand that this is your career and that you must take certain precautions to protect your welfare, then you don't need to feel any obligation to entertain him. A man with good intentions understands that. A man with an ulterior motive has a fight or flight response. He didn't get mad, he just got scared that someone else would be along to witness anything he did and now he couldn't do whatever he wanted to you. Good choice to not go with him. Next time if he wants to spend the $400 on you for a private party, you tell him sure but you have to bring a bouncer... club rules for your safety.

01-18-2006, 03:38 PM
Any customer who is accustomed to having private shows KNOWS that the girls bring a chapparone.

Unless you know this person very well, I would never recommend working unescorted.

That, and he was probably thinking that he would be turned down anyway, and when you agreed, he just needed a way to back out. I used to have a customer who would pull this crap on the girls- offering $500 for private dancing at his home. Everyone always told him no. I told him no for a long time. Then when I told him yes one day, he all but ran for the door. He was not prepared to spend that kind of money, and was really just goofing around with the proposition.

01-18-2006, 04:27 PM
Thanks for the advice, girls. I feel better now...and I was also a bit worried that my boyfriend would think I was up to something else, since I never lie to him about anything and would tell him what is going on.
I told him about what happened and he said he would be worried about me doing private shows and that I should just keep doing my job INSIDE the club.

So in the future, I will just use that angle to sell more LDs.

02-17-2006, 11:20 AM
Don't do it. Unless u know the guy personally or through a mutual friend. Red flags should have come up when he wasn't willing to go when u wanted to bring a friend. You never know what will happen out of club safety. People can say one thing and then something totally different is expected.
Took the words right out of my mouth

03-11-2006, 11:54 AM
Don't ever go outside the club it stops being on your terms at that moment.

Why would you go do a private unprotected dance for an hour when you could get $400/hr in the club? (or we do in ATL) It seems really fishy too that he wouldn't allow you to bring a friend if he didn't have to pay more...... which should be beside the point if he is "loaded".