View Full Version : 40 things every woman should know...
as_intended
04-16-2007, 11:11 PM
"Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested."
If you use advice from a show with a buch of whores such as sex and the city you should not be throwing a guy in such a loop. I mean come on its a show, and not all guys are the same.
I have a great man and he is so nice to me. Guys do stuff like we do. They just have a diffrent way of showing it. Like if we cry, they keep it inside them so they can seem more of a "man". But beleve me men do hurt just as much as we do. But i think they have it worse some time cuz they have no one to go to due to the fact crying is a "girl" thing to do.
lol whores. I happen to think sex and the city girls were awsome they showed women all around the world that its ok to not settle with the first man that comes along and that having casual sex is not a crime. i think they were awsome not whores but hey everyone has there own opinion. lmao @whores. why exactly in your opinion would u call them whores tho? just curious?
scarlet_is_yummy
04-22-2007, 08:54 AM
i think its really good advice, wish i could follow it
Samantha Coyle
04-29-2007, 07:03 AM
In the same spirit, I offer two poems:
We are the birds eggs.
Birds eggs, flowers, butterflies,
Rabbits, cows, sheep, we are
Caterpillars;
We are leaves of ivy
And sprigs of wallflower.
We are women. We rise from the wave.
-Susan Griffin
I believe
I have permission to be exactly who I am
I have the right to feel what I feel
And it is okay to believe in the vision I see
It is okay to think what I think
To dream what I dream
And to love everything I love
I never, ever, have to deny my true self
Or pretend to be something I’m not
I am worthy of love and respect
I am unafraid to use my mind
I trust my heart
I take pride in the integrity of my spirit
I believe in what is true to me
And I celebrate my authenticity
I am a uniquely beautiful me.
~Flavia
Taylorlila
05-05-2007, 09:46 AM
if only it were that easy to follow all that good advice...
Jenny Rose
05-08-2007, 11:49 AM
I really enjoyed this post. I've been involved recently with a guy who does nothing but use and abuse me. I know I need to let go. This post just really hit home for me.
BlueJeanBaby
05-10-2007, 02:03 AM
I really enjoyed this post. I've been involved recently with a guy who does nothing but use and abuse me. I know I need to let go. This post just really hit home for me.
I hear you. I'm in the same boat and can't seem to follow advice I know I should.
malloryknox
05-14-2007, 09:22 PM
Great post thankyou for sharing.
sexy_mama
05-25-2007, 06:04 PM
its how men apply their moves i guess, but we are not that cold, maybe that's why its kind of hard for us, it takes time specially really hard times to let this cold rules fill out our minds, when we start to realize that its just they way it goes but its easy to deny cause we don't want to think about it, an rather follow our hearth insted of our brain. i think i would get far if i applied this to my relationship dream . i had been stoping my self to do a lot of things for the issue that he doesn't like it or some stupid excuse. but its true i hav to put myself first before anyone. specially men.
sixelayvi
05-26-2007, 07:33 AM
amen my sister :)
sunnie86
07-19-2007, 10:30 PM
wow that puts a new light on everything
Jezzebelle
08-17-2007, 06:07 AM
I think I might have to read that everday.
missray
08-29-2007, 08:03 PM
Thanks--this was very thought provoking!! I really needed to read that today.
Sauske
11-17-2007, 10:49 AM
thank you for posting/making me read that. it made me tear up. a lot. maybe because i know its all true. and maybe its because of the klonopin and ativan. either way. *bighsigh*
mizztissa
01-28-2008, 08:32 PM
Thanks! Great list!
kitana
02-26-2008, 06:54 AM
Venus On Top - Women who are born to lead and the men who love them - Barbara Wright Abernathy
Does this book have anything to do with powerful dominant woman in relationships with passive less "agressive" men? If so I could probably write that book, rofl! ;)
I'm the prior service Marine that trains to cage fight, runs with bikers and has started more than my fair share of bar fights, while he is the calm peaceful less agressive one that centers me and grounds me, lol.
kitana
02-26-2008, 06:56 AM
^
This one: If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Lol, I knew I was gonna have to back up what I said. Ok, they all make sense in general terms, it just seems like I can find an exception for some. It just bugs me that this list has been going around forever, like it's a fact that women should abide by them, and i wonder Who wrote it and how do they know everything? Cause whenever I'm having relationship troubles, some of these things pop into my head and then I think - wait a minute, how is that guaranteed good advice?
now that i think about it, I can't really explain myself.... so... nevermind!
I don't get what you don't get by that.
If he loves you, he will be there NO MATTER what, and if he doesn't nothing you do will make him stay. Pretty cut and dry, IMO.
charlie61
04-06-2008, 06:07 PM
A very precise (and impressively non-verbose) overview of everything I've learned from relationships!
Cliches are cliches for a reason: because they're true, and they pop up so often in real life!!
Awesome advice. Thank you.
GoldCoastGirl
05-10-2008, 05:56 PM
I really need to "listen" to my own posts. *sigh*
I have to cut the ties. I've got no choice. http://www.aussiematchmaker.com.au/hottie4u07
ever7
05-18-2008, 02:39 AM
i wish i could just listen and cut the ties...
but to read it is easier then to know it.
lil_miss_kabuki
06-08-2008, 01:34 PM
What if you just met the guy and he's having problems keeping in contact with you because of someone else he doesn't want to be with?
noelle
06-10-2008, 11:37 AM
^ You should probably back off until the dude is in a place where he CAN contact you. As in, not dating someone else. He needs to get his shit figured out first.
I was sad when I first read the original post, because I expected more from a post entitled "40 things every WOMAN should know" than a bunch of stuff about men. Not every woman dates men, and many of us have very important things in our lives that are not related to men at all.
I'm so tired of women being defined by men. Despite the good advice contained in the post, I still have to stop and think about what a list of "40 things every man should know" would say. I bet you it wouldn't be 40 cliches about how to date women.
lil_miss_kabuki
06-10-2008, 04:27 PM
We should create something like that here.
knp001
09-09-2008, 08:02 PM
"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay."
Thanks- I need to know that.
The hard part is accepting it:'(
sexynsweetSF
09-23-2008, 10:41 AM
Great post! I think its not hard to know that its not the best situation to be with the guy but how do you accept and let go?
sessik86
12-18-2008, 10:13 PM
Thank you. Sometimes it's good to hear things from someone else. I need to start loving myself.
Cathy88z
12-20-2008, 01:54 PM
Hi, I'm new here.
This is really good advice. Some men just have no conscience what ever, I'll be taking this stuff on board.
It's true if men have treated me like shit, then I've let them. No more.
Take Care
Stripper Hacks
01-13-2009, 03:10 PM
Wow thank you this is great! I've always loved the 'love is a verb' or as I have heard it 'a behavior'. Don't just tell me, show men and I'll do the same. Is it appropriate to make a copy and hang it in a dressing room somewhere? :)
la petite sexy
03-20-2009, 10:44 PM
Wow that was lovely. I'm still confused though. I've never been so confused about any relationship in my entire life. I'm still gonna print the list and read it daily.
^
I was sad when I first read the original post, because I expected more from a post entitled "40 things every WOMAN should know" than a bunch of stuff about men.
Yeah I didn't think it would be a bunch of stuff about men either. I expected stuff about being fierce, confident women, not that the dating stuff isn't related to that but we should definately start another list 8)
Kaelyria
04-05-2009, 09:27 PM
I want to glue this inside some girls' eyeballs so they can read it while they're crying to me about their boyfriends.
~K
minalynx
06-15-2009, 10:45 AM
Don't look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary. :)
LunaBlitz
11-18-2009, 01:32 AM
Thank you for this list...
Just a couple of days ago my fiance and I broke up because I thought he wasn't treating me right, and no he didn't treat his sister well either, along with many other things. This list just really helped because here I was doubting myself and missing him, but thanks to all of you I know I did the right thing, and I will continue to be happy without needing a male by my side!
<3 Thanks :)
Christyismyalias
11-18-2009, 01:48 AM
I am printing this out and making copies.. lol
For me and my girls :)
starz86
12-11-2009, 12:19 PM
more on things women should know:
Guys tend to make quick judgments on first time meetings. They don't do this on purpose. It is just their way of looking at an individual. First impressions are sometimes lasting impressions. They store these impressions in their mind for quick recall at a later time.
Guys like to flirt, but try to disguise how they do it. Some guys do not like to be flirted with by the opposite sex. Along with this, comes many challenges. For example, guys are always in search of creating the right "break the ice line". Women refer to is as a "pick up line."
Guys that enter a bar will only sit in a back corner, if they have something serious to discuss or if it is the only seat in the house. Guys like to be accessible to their friends and females alike. Guys like to sit near isles, they can easily see who is coming and going.
If a guy likes you, he will forget your short comings and bad characteristics.
If a guy says he doesn't understand you, it just means you are not thinking his way. This is why many guys don't think that you understand him.
Guys hate it when you talk about your old boyfriend. But, they love to make jokes about him. It is an ego sort of thing.
Guys love garages like women love bathrooms. For some guys, it is like their own private world.
Hanging messages like "You know what?" often make a guy jump to a different conclusion.
You have to tell a guy what you really want before he understands. Guys get confused, when you beat around the bush.
Guys love it when you touch their hands, but get the wrong idea if you grab their knee.
pussyinboots
01-01-2010, 02:08 AM
My Mum once told me that what men really want is ' a Mother, a friend, a nurse, a personal shopper, a washing machine, an ironing board, a Cordon Bleu chef, a vacuum cleaner, a plumber, painter and decorater, a telephone answering machine, a waitress, a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom - all wrapped up in a mini-skirt and high heels!'
They get very confused when they discover that women are human beings and have brains...!!;D
Kellydancer
01-11-2010, 08:44 PM
Great advice that all women should take to heart. I'd add this one:
Just because you have sex doesn't mean it's a relationship. Many times to him it's just sex. In the past I've rushed into sex thinking it would make us a serious relationship. Often didn't happen. Now I take my time. If he's truly interested in a relationship, he'll wait. I couldn't begin to mention all of my women friends who had sex right away because "we are soul mates" or "we are in love" only to find out he wasn't thinking that at all. A few times I've gotten hurt(and I am able to separate sex and love so it must be rougher for other women). Not talking FWB's (friends with benefits), which I've had in between boyfriends (and both of us knew it was just sex). Honestly, I'd rather have sex with a FWB than a guy who I think is my boyfriend but doesn't consider himself that way
NikoWhite
01-28-2010, 12:17 PM
Probably one of the best posts worth reading. Why did it take me sooooo long to learn most of these????? I wish we all knew these rules from the get go and didn't have to fall on our buts so hard with relationships that wasted our time. Many women let men make them feel like crap and stay with them. I know I did. NOW I AM FREE AND HAPPY. AND I KNOW ANY MAN THAT'S GETS ME IS PRETTY DANG LUCKY! :)
**Sincerely**
08-17-2010, 11:58 AM
That was very helpful thanxs
salemsexy
09-29-2010, 08:45 AM
"Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested."
If you use advice from a show with a buch of whores such as sex and the city you should not be throwing a guy in such a loop. I mean come on its a show, and not all guys are the same.
I have a great man and he is so nice to me. Guys do stuff like we do. They just have a diffrent way of showing it. Like if we cry, they keep it inside them so they can seem more of a "man". But beleve me men do hurt just as much as we do. But i think they have it worse some time cuz they have no one to go to due to the fact crying is a "girl" thing to do.
The girls in sex in the city you call whores?????????
Why because they where 4 strong females who lived there lives the way they saw was best?
Why because they liked sex too? So it's wrong that a woman likes sex?
so what kinad woman are you? or are you really a guy?
Sounds like a very closed minded statement towards a show of some pretty awesome females!
Makes no sence you call them whores! they had lives! they lived, they played and they worked! and they did not settle for less in life nor did they care what other people said they should be.
there is nothing wrong with a woman he dates and haves sex it's nature and natural this is 2010 not the stone ages!
Crying is a girl thing to do????
NO Crying is a human thing to do and there is nothing wrong with a man who can shed tears when he really loves someone!
The guys who can cry are the real stronger men in this world not the ones who think it's a chick thing!
A real man does not hide behind a mask of whats ok for a girl or guy he just lives and shows who he really is!
salemsexy
09-29-2010, 08:48 AM
Great advice that all women should take to heart. I'd add this one:
Just because you have sex doesn't mean it's a relationship. Many times to him it's just sex. In the past I've rushed into sex thinking it would make us a serious relationship. Often didn't happen. Now I take my time. If he's truly interested in a relationship, he'll wait. I couldn't begin to mention all of my women friends who had sex right away because "we are soul mates" or "we are in love" only to find out he wasn't thinking that at all. A few times I've gotten hurt(and I am able to separate sex and love so it must be rougher for other women). Not talking FWB's (friends with benefits), which I've had in between boyfriends (and both of us knew it was just sex). Honestly, I'd rather have sex with a FWB than a guy who I think is my boyfriend but doesn't consider himself that way
Very true!
salemsexy
09-29-2010, 08:52 AM
Thank you for this list...
Just a couple of days ago my fiance and I broke up because I thought he wasn't treating me right, and no he didn't treat his sister well either, along with many other things. This list just really helped because here I was doubting myself and missing him, but thanks to all of you I know I did the right thing, and I will continue to be happy without needing a male by my side!
<3 Thanks :)
Best thing is know you are open to when the right guy comes along you are single and not with the wrong guy!
You will be ok! we have all been there and it really does get better over time yet we all hate to hear that when we are hurting..
tempest666
10-03-2010, 04:17 PM
"I am so struck on why men act like idiots when something good is in their life!! You know that guys won't climb all the way to the top of the tree for a good apple because they are so scared of falling! yet they will just pick the most rotten apples and the one off the bottom of the tree because those are the easy ones!!!!!"
my friend Roxy from Albuquerque
Savannah Lee
04-11-2011, 08:21 PM
great advice! :)
Mindy Bares All
05-04-2011, 08:41 PM
SO TRUE!!!
I needed this YEARS ago. And I still need a reminder every once in a while.
Amy Lee
06-15-2011, 08:24 PM
I read an email a while ago with Oprah saying these items as an address to women. Great common sense....
I miss the Oprah show...sigh
Fridays
07-08-2011, 09:23 AM
http://www.5min.com/Video/Maximizing-Your-Attraction-for-Men-517003339
Satine86
07-13-2011, 02:36 PM
This helps alot.
Pink Chelle
10-04-2011, 09:17 AM
Excellent
bigbootyjudy1
10-17-2011, 09:07 PM
OMG!!! This is just what i needed.I think this was a sign from the heavens above.THANK YOU SO MUCH LADIES!!
Kellydancer
10-17-2011, 09:38 PM
I know this is a few years old but the advice is still good. I got hurt from my last relationship (if I want to call it that)and it's because I overlooked perhaps something I shouldn't have and that was him saying he never wanted to get married, wanted a serious relationship etc. He told me from the beggining he didn't want this but I figured he was just bluffing and would change his mind since he did want this in the past. Maybe he will eventually, but maybe not and maybe not with me. Now because of this I tell guys right away what I am looking for which is eventual marriage. Has this scared away guys? Not guys who are looking for this too. I make it known I don't mean them just in general. I'm finding more men actually want marriage than I thought.
I think too many women get stuck on unavailable men while overlooking men who are ready. I've known friends who "waited" for men for years who never came around. Others dated them for years without them making a commitment. I wasted a year waiting for him that I could have been using to find a better man, one ready to commit. I am pretty special and some guy would be thrilled to have me as his girlfriend and eventual wife.
Kellydancer
12-17-2011, 12:50 AM
I am bumping this to add something that happened to me that I wouldn't wish on anyone else. As of late I have been having flashbacks to the times I really bent overbackwards for a man. I would send gifts, cards, etc and told him I liked him only to find out he had no interest in me. Now I can see I was silly and I should haven't done it.
I have gotten to the root of why this happened though. The reason was for some unexplained reason the men I liked didn't like me and the ones who liked me I didn't like. I really didn't like most of my boyfriends, I dated them just to have boyfriends. Most were jerks and if nothing else have become conversation pieces with my family. I have no explanation why this happened because it isn't fair and probably why I am still single at 40. I should have had guys flinging themselves over me, but most were guys I was attracted to. I have pretty much accepted that I'll either be alone the rest of my life or basically marry someone I don't and you know what? I am fine with that. However, that's going off track and getting back to the point, don't humiliate yourself over a guy who doesn't like you. If a guy likes you then you won't have to do this, you will know.