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Jpac73
02-04-2006, 05:10 AM
This question is really for the ladies but I prefer not to go on the pinksite so I will ask you guys. Should you ever ask a dancer why she isn't doing something she use to do? For instance maybe she use to do alot of grinding but on this particular occasion she doesn't, so should you ask her why? or would you come off as sounding like a little pervert? Don't all guys have nasty little minds? There is this dancer named Lola that I met about 5months ago. The very first time she game me a dance it was the bomb. The next time that I saw her and got a dance it wasn't the same. She didn't give the same contact on me as she did the 1st time.

I know you might be saying just to find someone else who will "Give it the way I want it" and I did but she ended up quitting. For several months now I have been asking other dancers for dances and some have been very good but they don't have Lola's personality. I am still tempted to get a dance from Lola because I think she is very attractive and is a nice young girl( she's only about 19 or 20yearsold). I still try to tip Lola when she is on stage but she rarely get's to the club early. Alot of times she get's to the club around 10:30 which is a little late considering I am usually there a few hours before that and she still doesn't get on stage then. I guess what I am trying to say is I would like to be a regular of Lola's but I don't like her dances. Should I just tell her "hey why aren't you doing this anymore?" or should I just leave it alone and try visiting some other club where they might have some cuties I like?

The_Oceans
02-04-2006, 10:48 AM
I think there's a way to do it without being negative...

You said the first time you got a dance from her it was "the bomb". Try and see if she'll repeat the performance...say something like "Hey, the first time you danced for me you did (whatever you liked)...we should do that again." If she doesn't, there may be some reason for it. If you like her personality, and would still be willing to do dances with her, by all means do so. However, if that's a deal-breaker, you should be able to move on, with no regrets.

mr_punk
02-04-2006, 11:02 AM
Should you ever ask a dancer why she isn't doing something she use to do? For instance maybe she use to do alot of grinding but on this particular occasion she doesn't, so should you ask her why? or would you come off as sounding like a little pervert? Don't all guys have nasty little minds? There is this dancer named Lola that I met about 5months ago. The very first time she game me a dance it was the bomb. The next time that I saw her and got a dance it wasn't the same. She didn't give the same contact on me as she did the 1st time.well, it's your money and she isn't a mind reader. so, you can sit there and pay for a subpar dance or you can tell her to start putting a little more mustard on the cock grinding. furthermore, if you're worried about being perceived as a pervert in a sc. i wouldn't worry about it. it's a given.

Jpac73
02-04-2006, 11:52 AM
If I ask her why she doesn't grind anymore like she use to she will probably try and blame it on management saying something like they don't want us to do that. The real reason I believe is that some guy probably ended up shooting off in his pants and she sat in it. She is new to dancing scene so any thing she perceives to be negative can turn her off. She already told me that some guy ended up running out on her and not paying for a dance. All of this might be moot since it seems the club has started having security sit by the open rooms to deter any type of unwanted behavior. Some dancers just don't care and are going to do what it takes to keep making there money and others seem to be a little afraid that they might get in trouble if they don't go strictly by the book. I am afraid Lola falls into the latter category. Thanks for the advice anyway.

dlabtot
02-04-2006, 01:19 PM
Just tell her want you want. What's the worst thing that can happen if you just tell her what you told us?

yoda57us
02-04-2006, 03:01 PM
You are thinking about it way too much. If you like her and you don't mind paying for less grind that's fine. If she's not giving you what you want find someone who will. IMHO talking to her is useless. Whatever her reasons are for scaling back the grind all that matters is that she did in fact scale it back.

mr_punk
02-05-2006, 05:44 AM
If I ask her why she doesn't grind anymore like she use to she will probably try and blame it on management saying something like they don't want us to do that. The real reason I believe is that some guy probably ended up shooting off in his pants and she sat in it. She is new to dancing scene so any thing she perceives to be negative can turn her off. She already told me that some guy ended up running out on her and not paying for a dance. All of this might be moot since it seems the club has started having security sit by the open rooms to deter any type of unwanted behavior. Some dancers just don't care and are going to do what it takes to keep making there money and others seem to be a little afraid that they might get in trouble if they don't go strictly by the book. I am afraid Lola falls into the latter category. Thanks for the advice anyway.now, that's way too complicated. i thought a case of a stripper being on auto-pilot. no customer should have to work this hard to get a lap. i suggest you move on to greener pastures rather than waste your energy. there's no use in being sentimental about it.

Feiticeira
02-05-2006, 08:58 AM
I agree with Yoda. We aren't mindreaders. Tell us what you want. We can either oblige or not. We all have different boundaries and limits. Maybe she decided to set hers higher after the one custy shot in his pants. You never know. Have you tipped her well? You might try tipping her well and she might go back to her debut performance. If she won't and it bothers you, find another girl.

SportsWriter2
02-05-2006, 12:18 PM
We aren't mindreaders. Tell us what you want. We can either oblige or not. We all have different boundaries and limits.
You want to be her friend and help her make more money. Tell her you're non-judgmental. If it's safe and a dancer likes to do it, you'll do it. Tell her you just have to find a way to hide it from view (I love long curly hair), because you care about her reputation .

Ask what makes her feel good when she's with you. When she starts getting into it, ask what really turns her on. You never know what the boundaries and limits are going to be. I had a sweet dancer say, "Could you bite, suck and flick my nipple at the same time?" Teeth, lips, tongue... it's possible when you're focused. Flick from random directions and the brain can't dampen successive sensations as quickly. Turns out that was her fantasy trigger; no one had actually done it to her before.

If you can talk with a dancer, you'll know what to expect before you spend the next dime. :)

doc-catfish
02-05-2006, 03:21 PM
There is this dancer named Lola that I met about 5months ago. The very first time she game me a dance it was the bomb. The next time that I saw her and got a dance it wasn't the same. She didn't give the same contact on me as she did the 1st time.
Inconsistency in dances (even from the same gal) sadly is becoming one of my pet peeves, but of course not all guys like the same kind of dance. What I will tell you is that dancers are more accomidating to requests than you might think.

You're already in a position with this gal where you have nothing to lose, so I say go ahead and tell her what you want. Being a gentleman about it and throwing on a nice tip for scratching your itch the way you like it will certainly help matters.

FBR
02-05-2006, 04:24 PM
By all means, let her know but in a professional manner. No sense starting a bunch of drama. If things dont work out then move on to another dancer.

FBR

Richard_Head
02-05-2006, 09:12 PM
My advise, move on, find another dancer who gives you the type of dances that you're looking for. My guess is that your dancer will wonder why you don't buy any dances from her anymore and if she really wants your business will pick her game back up. Competition can sometimes bring out the best in the girls;).

jannisary
02-05-2006, 09:39 PM
Jpac, you've never really said how many times you've gotten dances from her. Was it just the two times you directly mentioned? I'd give her another chance and mention what you like, encourage her like some of the others have suggested. The second time I got dances from my fav, they were hotter than the first but my third visit left me feeling disappointed. I had no clue why the dances weren't as "good' and actually I still don't know. I'm not sure if there is a why, and there's hundreds of possiblities. I thought about not getting anymore dances from her but the next time I was in the club several months later she hooked me for round number four. She's pretty much been my fav ever since.

FourWinns
02-06-2006, 06:13 PM
I've gotten dissatisfied with a few dancers but they come around when I ignore them.

dave1112
02-07-2006, 04:05 PM
I'd say move on. Any fantasy aspect is already gone--even if she starts dancing like she did before, it won't be the same. It won't take long to find another ATF that dances like you like. It's a buyer's market in strip clubs :)

Jpac73
02-11-2006, 07:33 AM
I took the advice of all the guys who said move on and guess what????? You were right :) . Found me another Favorite last night Whoot Whoot!!! The sad part was that she came in late around 10:30 or so and I had already been there for a few hours. I had wasted money on another dancer which could have went to Farah(new ATF). I only got one dance from Farah because I had already gotten alot of dances before she came. She is everything Lola was and gives a way better dance. She was very friendly and professional. She sat in my lap before the dance began and talked. She let me put my arms around her while we waited on the song to start. I was surprised when she told me she was 24 and would turn 25 on Saturday. She doesn't look a day over 18 years old! She even picked my keys and cell phone up off the floor after the dance. None of the others have ever done that. She's good looking, smells nice, and is nice. What more could a guy want? I don't want to sound like a PL but dam'n she is just nice. Can't wait to go back in the next 3 or 4weeks. Wait don't know if I can wait that long?

mr_punk
02-11-2006, 07:58 AM
I took the advice of all the guys who said move on and guess what????? You were rightgood man. it should never be that hard to straighten a stripper out. furthermore, as you see, there's no reason to stay attached to one stripper especially if she can't produce for you. there will always be another stripper who can do just as good of a job or better. well...unless she was born with a vestigial gag reflex.

SportsWriter2
02-11-2006, 09:53 AM
Nice avatar, Mr P. Looks like Fallon Summers.

mr_punk
02-11-2006, 05:23 PM
Nice avatar, Mr P. Looks like Fallon Summers.who? even if her head wasn't being pushed into the crapper (i wonder if they put that blue stuff in the bowl). i can't even keep track of porn stars. there are way too many of them nowadays.