View Full Version : rules regarding cuddling with strippers?
slinky-chic
02-20-2006, 11:20 AM
heehee how funny! nah i get plenty of cuddles outside work. cheers anyway hun!
trainfinder22
02-20-2006, 11:47 AM
Maybe you need to start a local chapter of Cuddle Party:
www.cuddleparty.com
Thats it! I am starting a cuddle club!
Wwanderer
02-20-2006, 12:02 PM
It's the same sort of thing as prostitutes will never let a guy kiss them on the mouth.
This used to be true for the large majority of prostitutes, but it is no longer the case. DFK (deep french kissing) is considered by many to be an essential ingredient in the infamous GFE (girlfriend experience) many prostitutes promise and many of their customers seek. Nevertheless, it is still very common to find escorts who will not kiss on the mouth or who will do so only lightly and as little as they can manage without too much offending their customers. So, your basic point still stands, imo; prostitutes who routinely provide BJs and intercourse to their customers, sometimes nevertheless feel that kissing is "too personal" to sell. And I can see how a dancer might feel the same way about cuddling (even though I like it a lot).
I also thinks the example of kissing illustrates how cultural these matters can be. In Japan there was a fad a few years back for "kissing clubs", places where you payed by the hour (or half hour) to have a topless girl sit on your lap and go at it with DFK, fondling and so forth...like a medium intense high school make-out session or something. These places were considered pretty mild, and the young women working in them thought it at least as acceptable as dancers consider appearing nude or semi-nude in front of a room full of strangers, as far as I could tell. (Btw, these places still exist, though they are not as numerous and popular as they once were.)
-Ww
velour1141
02-20-2006, 02:52 PM
Funny you mentioned this topic. i just had a customer the other day that wanted to cuddle in VIP... he FREAKED ME OUT!! Serial killer is all I could think the whole time! He wanted me to sit on his lap facing him. All he wanted to go was touch my hair and look lovingly (however I thought it was creepily) into my eyes like we had been lovers for years. He kept trying to kiss my boobs and hug my very tightly. I kept trying to watch his hands waiting for him to pull a knife out of his pocket. He kept asking me "do you like this... do you like the way i'm holding you?" NONONONONO!!! OMG I wanted to die. I felt like I needed a hot shower after that... it screwed up my whole night.
pinkcandyx
04-07-2006, 04:42 AM
Cuddling is too much work, I hate clingy men, HUGE turn-off! I've ditched great regulars over the years over them wanting it.
Asbat
04-07-2006, 09:15 AM
I personally love it. but not for the reason you think. for me it's about 2 things
feeling comfortable and trust.
I rarely ask for it though. it's so much more rewarding to me to to have her do it on her own.
the ones that have done it in the past. It seems to make them more real in a way.
while she is laying there. i try to sense her heart beat. if I can feel heart beat begin to slow down and her muscles relax. makes it very special
threlayer
04-07-2006, 11:01 AM
Cuddling is too much work, I hate clingy men, HUGE turn-off! I've ditched great regulars over the years over them wanting it.
Definitely indicates (to me) an excessive amount of some neurotic antisocial thing (Post-traumatic stress?) which is not very conducive to pleasant stripclub work.
xoxoGracexoxo
04-07-2006, 11:29 AM
I don't mind affectionate touching, as long as it's respectful and within my limits. (Yes, you may rub my back. No, you may not "cuddle" my nipples.)
What I hate is:
1. being groped under the guise of cuddling -- i.e. you have you arm around me and then you reach around to grab my breast. No way, fool.
2. being held so tightly that I can't move. This just freaks me out. Like you're trying to prevent me from escaping, which, obviously, is only going to make me want to get away more. If I try to move away and you hold me harder so that I can't, I will shove you. This will disrupt the "affectionate" nature of the encounter, so don't do it.
pinkcandyx
04-07-2006, 02:39 PM
In japan they also have clubs that girls kneel in front of the guy and the guy stranglers them for mins at a time, my ex who lived in tokyo visited clubs like that, just shows you girls will do anything for a buck. I am a very social person, have lots of friends and live a very "sex in the city" lifestyle in manhattan. I date superhot guys only and am as sweet as apple pie to them. When I signed up for being an exotic dancer I didn't sign up for strange men wanting to grope me (which is what cuddling is, but in a more dominate way). We should just dance, converse (to get a dance), not be your "gfe", take that to your wife/girlfriend who cares or an escort who doesn't mind the extra mental work. For 20bucks you get to see me naked and that should be enough. I care way to much about myself to let some customer who I wouldn't give the time of day on the street hug me and rub his person on me. Next....
merely_lurking
04-07-2006, 03:23 PM
Dancers will do pretty much anything you want as long as you pay them enough money. They're really accomodating that way....
Katrine
04-08-2006, 11:34 AM
Dancers will do pretty much anything you want as long as you pay them enough money. They're really accomodating that way....
I see that a fresh new primadonna brigade has reared its pretty head. I definately preferred a creepy cuddler to a creepy groper. Either way, you can't say no to every creep you encounter, might as well make the experiencel less unpleasant. :-\
i think that some girls forget that we are there for companinship... like not the go home with the guy kind.. but you know.. if a customer wants to payme to sit there and hold his hand. im totally down. we are their fantasy.. if there fantasy is to sit close and talk then thats what we are there for. and if you dont want to do that then go bumb and grind.
pinkcandyx
04-08-2006, 02:12 PM
I do perform a form of companionship, its called "Entertainment". I've been an Exotic Dancer/Entertainer off and on for 15yrs. Working in Manhattan has groomed me to cater to wealthy men who love hearing my witty and funny stories (I'm a talented conversationlist, well traveled, well read, love sports, movies, politics and mingle with the Manhattan In-Crowd). I never ask personnel questions (except where they work and do, so I know what kind of money they have), never talk about their famlies or girlfriends, NEVER. My customers are very loyal to me because we have a blast, I'm always bringing girls over to party with us and dance for him, I believe in variety. Also getting massages through the night from the massage girls. I'm a very nice and bubbly person, never ripped a guy off and don't ask guys to do rooms (if I don't ask and they do want to go there I can say later that I didn't promise them again special, but my guys like hanging out on the floor). If a guy doesn't like my form of entertainment I move on and wish him a fun night. I don't think a married man of means would want to be seen in public in a place where someone might know him cuddleing up or hand holding another women. They like to be very discreet for that.
Katrine
04-09-2006, 05:21 PM
Working in Manhattan has groomed me to cater to wealthy men who love hearing my witty and funny stories (I'm a talented conversationlist, well traveled, well read, love sports, movies, politics and mingle with the Manhattan In-Crowd).
I'm a very nice and bubbly person
Wow, good for you, give yourself a pat on the back, your father must be very proud. ::) For the rest of us living in reality, we do what we have to do to proliferate our earnings.
yoda57us
08-09-2013, 12:27 PM
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