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robinbanks
03-25-2006, 04:32 PM
why should i bring her flowers,she thinks i dont know that im nothing but an atm machine to her.she should bring me flowers bec i am the reason she is making a living.

Wow, arent we just a sour little lemon.:O

kikiwiki
03-25-2006, 04:53 PM
I love getting presents!!! Flowers, teddybears, perfume, whatever! I know it doesn't pay my bills but remember its the thought that counts. Keep them coming guys!

sadbuttrue
03-26-2006, 08:08 AM
I give flowers to the current fave usually on Valentines day and Mothers day. I get her white chocolates often, just a little trip to CVS to get a small package of Lindts. Although she shares them, I know she eats them, because we sometimes eat some together. I really dont care who thinks it's stalkerish. I give her flowers because she is consistent and consistently good.

As far as the FTD thing goes, I always delivered them myself. I always figured she would want the extra money she would make because I will get a few dances as well when delivering them. Although, FTD might be an interesting different thing to do.

When I was with the ATF, I gave her a ring of colored carnations (because they were her favorite) punctuated by a stuffed animal in the middle. It served as a center-piece. I did this a couple of times. I know she kept them, because I saw them in her huge stuffed animal pile at her house when we started seeing each other outside.

One last. I think that flowers will mean something to many dancers if they are not in a relationship and assuming they are not inundated with them all the time already. Most of my choices for favorites were pretty vocal about what was going on in their relationships.

>>>Sad<<<

Bob_Loblaw
03-26-2006, 08:31 PM
The thing I'm wondering is if you have to prepay the cover charge to have the flowers delivered.

PaigeDWinter
03-26-2006, 09:33 PM
The thing I'm wondering is if you have to prepay the cover charge to have the flowers delivered.

Cover charge? For the delivery guy? I cant say I've seen a club charge an FTD, pizza guy, etc....

CalifSCVisitor65
03-26-2006, 10:06 PM
LMAO I still have the $100 Visa Gift Card that I was trying to give to my ATF over New Year's. Missed her all 3 nights in a row, :( going to try again at the end of April. :-[
In fact the holder got kind of worn out being in my pockets for 3-nights in a row. :-X

Guenevere
03-26-2006, 10:42 PM
At a Ca club I was at we had a regular who'd come in when he was around but when he'd go out of town he'd send flowers. He was a really awesome guy, never got dances but loved to sit and talk. It always made my night when he came in because I knew I'd go home taken care of but most of all I knew I'd be in great company. When you're at work and you're night kinda stinks it's really cool to have someone tap you on the shoulder and tell you that you have flowers waiting for you in the office!

fancygirl
03-26-2006, 11:22 PM
there was this one guy in Santa Barbara who weirded out some of the girls because he would bring in candy and stuff in ziplock bags that you could tell he bought in bulk; he finally was told that he had to bring unopened food only. However, he would always bring about five 7-11 type bouquets of daisies in yellow and purple. Most of the other girls would always drop them in the back, but I'd take home as many bouquets as I could. It's true, if a girl isn't getting flowers all the time, then yeah, it would be nice.
I tend to think of flowers as gravy-- but of course, I love books, gift certs, shopping sprees, etcetera, but if I occasionally get a good bouquet, it brightens up the following days as I look at them.

In fact, sitting on my night table, I've got the most beautiful red, pink, and purple arrangement that my stud sent me. My room smells like roses, I have a vase to keep :) and he got it just to make my day happier. So I like that.

Now-- in the club, I think that gifts are always welcomed by at least some girl. If you think about it, a man cannot bitch about a girl probably tossing out his presents, because if you're picking a girl who you think would toss them in the trash, then you're picking the wrong girls. And if you're okay with having that type of favorite, no bitching, because that type of shallow apathy on the girls part serves you right. The nice girls know how to treat their clients well, and I think that shows.

In fact, this is super silly, but when I started dancing three years ago, this one client came through the club on his way up north. He didn't get dances from me, but we chatted it up, and when he came back to the club on his way back from his vacation he gave me a tie-dyed thong. And I still have it and wear it!!!
However, I went out to VS one time and a client spent $400 on me...and yet, somehow that fraying, tie-dyed thong means more to me because of the happy, just- being- nice- without-hoping-for-any-gain attitude on the part of the giver.

Rick1
03-27-2006, 04:46 PM
Well, I've done this 3 times. Once too one dancer and twice to the second.

I'm in Vegas on business in my favorite small club and hit it off with a dancer. I saw her about 3 times over the next 5 days. We emailed a few times and I sent her a single rose for Christmas to the club ($42 for one rose!). I wrote her a letter and she wrote a nice letter back. We just lost touch over the next few months.

Back in Vegas about a year later. Met a very nice girl over about the same period of time. Thinking back it was almost identical, she was just younger. The week after I returned home I sent her roses to her house. She called to thank me and told me how wonderful they were. What I found out later, they were her first flowers. She was really depressed that she had to work Christmas and I sent her one red rose Christmas eve. We emailed for about 4 months and finally stopped. But, maybe it's just me, I'll always know she will never forget me; since I sent her her first flowers.

Rick

MrChristopher
03-28-2006, 12:05 AM
Not to give away another SC secret...BUT. You'd be amazed how often those bouquets end up on MY Diningroom table or mantle. I'm sure many girls appreciate them, but more often then not they tell me to take them home instead. I know sometimes it's because of a jealous bf at home, but other times I guess they just don't care. They leave them in the dressing room or in my booth or in the walk-in fridge, and I bring 'em home. No point in wasting them.

Guenevere
03-28-2006, 12:31 AM
:'( ^^^Aawww! That makes me sad, I'm sorry.

PaigeDWinter
03-28-2006, 12:44 AM
Not to give away another SC secret...BUT. You'd be amazed how often those bouquets end up on MY Diningroom table or mantle. I'm sure many girls appreciate them, but more often then not they tell me to take them home instead. I know sometimes it's because of a jealous bf at home, but other times I guess they just don't care. They leave them in the dressing room or in my booth or in the walk-in fridge, and I bring 'em home. No point in wasting them.


I bring em home too. It seems so wasteful to just leave em. Plus it makes the (insert area of bar here) look dirty/dirtier, LOL.

The back of my car has all of the roses my regular has ever given me. He buys me a white one every week. He knows they're my 2nd favorite flower. (I started this thread out of curiosity about delivered arrangements)

I'll have to snap a pic sometime....

Djoser
03-28-2006, 01:53 AM
I get a lot of second-hand flowers, most dancers don't want to mess with them, and sometimes they give them to me with varying amounts of humorous intent. If they were in good shape I would sometimes give them to my mom when she was alive.

I never told her, though--how craven is that, I wonder?

Can you imagine if the guys knew, lol?

But flowers bought and given in a club are a bit lame anyway. It's the forethought that makes flowers special, anyone can buy a flower from an annoying flower-lady (and they seem to be getting more frightening looking and aged all the time around here), but going to the trouble to send them or get them on the way is more considerate--or maybe more smitten.

Susan Wayward
03-28-2006, 03:33 AM
My problem with flowers it that they strike me as conventional and unoriginal.

So are diamonds but you don't see many women turn those down. ;) And most guys get in trouble when they try to get creative with the gift-giving, so they learn to stick with the tried and true.

I'll tell you what would rock me--these chocolates (http://www.vosgeschocolate.com/Detail.aspx?ID=890&CategoryID=308). Or a signed first edition of London Fields. Now that would be cool. Too bad book collectors don't hang out in the clubs.

mollyzmoon
03-28-2006, 02:53 PM
I have a reg who works as gourmet chef and brings in gourmet meals for me when he visits. That's nice. And another one who, upon hearing me go on about my love for a certain brand of chocolate cookies, brought me those. Jewels and flowers can weird me out. Food that I love is always appreciated, and I don't worry about what my guy would think.

All Good Things
03-28-2006, 11:26 PM
So are diamonds but you don't see many women turn those down. ;) .

Well, it's flowers given in the club that are conventional and unoriginal.

But there is nothing even remotely unoriginal about a pair of 0.5 carat Tiffany's diamond earrings. As I said in my previous post, it's a nice touch to pack a few hundred in with the little blue box with the white ribbon. Your girl needs to buy accessories to match.

Every beautiful woman should have Tiffany diamonds to wear. This is damn near a social imperative.

I've tried hard in this thread to show that the gifts that matter carry a special common bond or understanding. I love the idea of first editions -- how about a signed first edition of Bleak House? If you sold it, you might be able to use it as a down payment on a house.

PaigeDWinter
03-29-2006, 12:16 AM
Well now at least this thread shows me who to hint at when my birthday arrives! ;)

slogan63
03-29-2006, 01:56 PM
I have done this only once. I had a favorite dancer at one of the clubs I used to go to. She told me one day that I shoud send her flowers. I said I don't send flowers to people I don't know. She of course replied "You know me we are friends." So I told her that when I knew her real name I would send her flowers. She told me her name and I sent her a bouqet. The next time I saw here she said "Thanks, for the flowers. I expected that they would have been here first thing but I had to wait. half the day" Never did it again.

I think there is no place for this stuff within the confines of the the dancer customer relationship. I can't get the image of a bunch of dancers sitting around the dressing room going "can you believe that PL is send me flowers, BWAHAHAHAHA.

Djoser
03-29-2006, 02:35 PM
Well, I've never seen that happen--but I have seen lots of flowers in the trash or just laying around unappreciated in there.

Or sometimes they will take the flowers with them but forget them somewhere along the way. I have to clean out dead flowers from my van once in a while from giving various women rides, etc.

Then you do get the occasional dancer who does seem to appreciate them more. You do see a few of them carrying them home with them once in a while.

But there's sure nothing wrong with Paige's idea of getting flowers delivered right on stage--that's kind of cool, especially since she would appreciate it...

wysiwyg
03-29-2006, 08:00 PM
Recently, on a guys trip, I spent some time (and a hell of a lot of money) in a club and got to know one of the girls pretty well. She KEPT talking about how no one had ever sent her flowers at work and made me promise I'd do it. When I got home I kept my promise and sent her flowers.

Here's the deal, I don't know if I should have. First, I don't know if she ever got the flowers...how would I? Second, I actually felt pretty pathetic for doing it. I'm not sure why. Maybe it did feel a little to stalkerish.

splm
03-31-2006, 05:48 AM
No, i don't. Why? The dancers have boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands at home that don't have to pay to see them naked, so i don't go there. :P For me, gifts are fine as long as they're "fun/funny" and i remind myself of where i really stand...

kinda_normal_guy
03-31-2006, 07:48 AM
It seems nice to get a gift but what strikes me about this thread is that a lot of you would like to get flowers (small gift, etc), yet in almost every other post on this forum, the comments are 'its only a job' 'its all about the money' 'we don't love you / like you, its just a game' , etc. etc.

Seems to be a bit of a double standard, either its a job and all about the money or it is about more than that with flowers gifts, etc.

If its just a job 'like any other job' how come you don't hear much about the customer with the auto parts delaership sending flowers to the accountant woman at the supplier? Or the bussniness man on a trip sending a teddy bear back to the marketing lady just to say 'I'm thinking of you'. Doesn't happen. For all of you that like getting the little gifts (nothing wrong with that), I think you also need to rethink the idea that 'its only a job'

Just my random comments, flame on ;-)

Djoser
03-31-2006, 09:33 AM
Well, people do these things sometimes--I have given small gifts to good clients in my architectural drawing business--it pays, usually.

But then they generally weren't constantly trying to fuck me or get me to go out on a date with them, either, lol...

splm
03-31-2006, 01:07 PM
That's a very good point, normal. It isn't just a job. They say u shouldn't mix business with pleasure, but this is the business of pleasure. As i said, i already know the girls aren't interested, which is why i take my approach. We'll have a good time as long as they don't play games with me. ...And believe me, many of the hustles aren't as undectable as many of the girls think they are. lol This business has to do with attractiveness. If a patron gives gifts, it means he/she finds him/her attractive. Who doesn't want that? Just because u may not want to go out with someone doesn't mean u want them to find u unattractive. I appreciate good treatment and if i'm treated with more respect than just being a money/gift fountain, i show my appreciation by being, well, a money/gift fountain! lol It's all about respect and consideration on both sides. However, i still think flowers are over the top. I really don't care if the dancer wants them or not. She has her boundaries, and knowing that, i have mine. Again, respect and consideration...

cinammonkisses
04-01-2006, 02:48 PM
The flowers will be dead in a week, and my bills will still be there. You really want to do something nice for me, pay my phone bill.

LOL ain't that the truth. I had a customer bring me flowers to work before. I was uber surprised ;D

Trust me, you don't want to get flowers at work. Customers do notice this and will assume (at least with me they did) that the customer is your "man" I swear I didn't get a dance the rest of the night that guy brought me those flowers. :-[

Yekhefah
04-01-2006, 06:48 PM
Oh, no! That's awful!

It's a sweet gesture, it really is. But I could buy a week's worth of groceries for the price of a decent bouquet. I'd really be more flattered and happy if I just got the money.

velvet
04-02-2006, 12:27 PM
i love getting flowers and take them right home! i've even recieved a bouquet for helping a semi newbie get into my club, oh and she also gave me a bottle of moet for christmas that year. now, that was a nice gesture from a coworker...... a first!

threlayer
04-07-2006, 12:05 PM
Flowers is a chancy gift. Some people dont care about them enought to find a way to get them home. They might be hard to get home (freezing outdoor temps or transport problems or a jealous lover at home. She might have a tine place and nowhere to display them or have allergies to them. They might remind her of a funeral she was really broken up about. Who knows what else. Here's a better idea, I think....

Ask her what she likes but is hard to find (within your budget). Anecdote follows....

I had some nice times with a dancer, so I asked her if she wanted me to get her something. She asked me if I could find her some specialty tee-shirts (with her specs). I did and she did appreciate it, mentioned it several times. I could have also offered to find some premium chocolates like Godiva, or (raising the budget) maybe some perfume etc. Then she asked me if we could go for someplace for coffee. It was a nice friendship (without benefits) while it lasted. (She wasn't the greatest looker, but was a good dancer with a great personality and--for once--was well-adjusted, and I'm sure sex with her would have been an awful lot of fun for us both. Oh well. I never pressure anyone about that, maybe a joke or two and a shared fantasy, and she didn't offer more than a wink.) So sometimes gifts and a couple of compatible personalities can work out.

yoda57us
04-07-2006, 01:07 PM
You guys are overthinking this beyond beleif. I beleive the term is random act of human kindness. Geeezzzzzz. I brought a $20 T-shirt to a fav who has recieved Computers, stereo equipment, expensive gift cards, you name it! She loved the T-shirt and said it meant more to her than the more expensive gifts simply because all of those had come from guys who wanted sex, a date or turned out to be stalkers....

toplessnewb
06-17-2006, 02:22 AM
Tossing flowers onto the stage for the most beloved ballet dancer has been a tradition for years. The same is true for some figure skaters. Rudolf Nureyev was showered with flowers at every performance. I can see this type of gesture as really cool. Nureyev couldn't pay his rent with the flowers either, but I'm sure it was a magical thing to see how his performance moved so many. If flowers are given with this sentiment I think its a great idea.

Money showers are cool too. Retirement day would be a good occassion for both, IMO.

In order to give my comparison here a shread of credibility check out this clip of Nureyev in phenomenal form....dancing topless! ;D

http://69.94.64.206/realaudio/admin2/vai/4221_NureyevLeCorsaire.ram

Bridgette
06-17-2006, 03:45 AM
I like getting real flowers now and then - although it would get old if it happened too often. Like anything else I guess. I don't really care for the flowers that the stoopid flower girls sell in the clubs. Seems like just a huuuuuge waste of money to me. WTF idiot thought of pushing flowers on guys in strip clubs??? Even worse is the way many of those girls try to sell them - they'll just shove their crappy bouquet in a guy's face, even while he's getting a lapdance. That's one sure-fire way to ensure the guy doesn't buy them - you've just pissed him off by rudely interrupting his dance. And WTF is with them looking at the dancer as if they expect us to get the guy to buy something from them - are they fucken nuts??? >:(

ChristyWild
06-17-2006, 09:19 AM
Hey, I wouldn't mind some roses- especially if I haven't had a great day- that would really pick me up...maybe I'm shallow or something, cuz I would rather have a guy gimme flowers and candy once in a while...maybe cuz my other half believes like a bunch of you gals and that flowers die too soon- why waste time on em.