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Jpac73
05-21-2006, 09:35 AM
I know everyone has problems in their relationships but what makes a woman think that a guy( whom she knows has a crush on her) wants to hear about how another man is mistreating her or not showing her enough attention. This has happened to me in the past, and the bad part was my former ATF was one of those girls. I didn't like the fact that she was sad but in reality I could have cared less about her broken relationship. I wasn't in it, so why would I want to hear about it? I want to focus on her & I(even if it is a fantasy) not another man in her life. So if this happens again with a dancer what would you advise to say in this situation?

Phil-W
05-21-2006, 10:03 AM
I know everyone has problems in their relationships but what makes a woman think that a guy (whom she knows has a crush on her) wants to hear about how another man is mistreating her or not showing her enough attention.

You just answered it. She knows you have a crush on her, so she's telling you about her SO to make sure you don't ask unwanted questions like:

"What time do you finish?"

"Can I have you phone number?

Only thing you can say is; ""Look, I realise I'm not going to see you outside of this place, so all this talk of your problems outside is stopping me concentrating on your dances."

Should have the desired effect.

Phil.

Lyssa Lynn
05-21-2006, 12:59 PM
Maybe... depending on the "relationship" you two had, she was just trying to give you hope that she would be leaving her SO and there may be room for you? This works sometimes to keep the guy believing he has a chance, so he continues to come in and spend $$. Or...she was just a clueless stripper, in which case you should simply say "I'd like to think of you as being single, please don't talk about your SO."

mr_punk
05-21-2006, 02:44 PM
So if this happens again with a dancer what would you advise to say in this situation?tell her that her depressing life is killing your boner. which will in turn kill her cash, but you seem like a "nice" guy. so, you probably won't do it.

Or...she was just a clueless stripperbingo. a real hustler who has hooked a clueless PL, who's just asking to be fleeced, doesn't depress the chump with depressing stories about her kids or SO. instead, she tells him about her GF and how they like to double team guys.

Lexxxie
05-21-2006, 03:04 PM
Wow, I'm surprised she'd talk about that while on the job. HUGE club foul. SOs are totally off limits in conversation!

Honestly, I'd say, "Hey, I'm sorry you and your SO are having problems, but there's really not a whole lot I can do about it. I'm here to spend money on you, and that's hard to do when you're talking about another guy."

Richard_Head
05-21-2006, 03:11 PM
Maybe... depending on the "relationship" you two had, she was just trying to give you hope that she would be leaving her SO and there may be room for you? This works sometimes to keep the guy believing he has a chance, so he continues to come in and spend $$.That's my guess. Some girls can be heartless in plying their trade.

My advise, just tell her you'd rather not hear about it or find another dancer.

FBR
05-21-2006, 04:52 PM
I agree with RH...she is likely just trying to work the sympathy angle. But on the off chance she was serious and truthful, its still is bad news. Confiding in you like you are one of her girl friends is a good indicator that your crush on her isnt reciprocated. Shes sounds like a dead end. Assuming you are clubbing for fun not drama Id give her at most one more chance to get down to business. If that doesnt work then KTTC.

FBR

NoCoverLover
05-22-2006, 01:34 AM
OK, hold the fort! You guys are bringing the whole 'stripper' dynamic into this! You can't amswer that question without knowing bother parties.

Maybe she wants your opinion, or maybe she wants your cash. You know more about that than we do!

Stop playing the stripper game, and start playing the people game! You know the answer to this. Stop over analysing it!

yoda57us
05-22-2006, 05:45 AM
Next!

Jpac73
05-22-2006, 08:36 AM
Yeah NocoverLover you are right. Only I really knew what there attentions were. I don't think those 2 former Favorites were trying to play head games. I just think that they started talking without thinking of how I would really feel about the situation. I just wanted to know what lines to use if I got in that situation again,but you guys have given some good advice. Thanks.

SportsWriter2
05-23-2006, 06:52 PM
If you listen to her vent about the BF, focus on how she can get even. Maybe she wants to make believe she's in a porn video that her BF has to watch. Remember, it's all about emotion and impulse. :O