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Mastridonicus
05-26-2006, 06:13 AM
Venus: that guys like my twin brother I'm telling you. I'm going to marry him. You'll see.

And we all know someone on this board has a thing for James Spader. You know who you are!

MrChristopher
05-26-2006, 10:42 AM
And we all know someone on this board has a thing for James Spader. You know who you are!


You swore you'd never tell. :'(

Mastridonicus
05-26-2006, 11:00 AM
"Lies" are just "friends" we havn't met yet!

Djoser
05-26-2006, 03:12 PM
I'm a size queen.;)

There are some great replies here (especially by Jenny [who always wins the humorous putdown award], the splendid riposts by VG, and the ever wise and erudite Mast), but this is still my favorite...

Vaughn
05-26-2006, 03:36 PM
sounds more like what he WISHES he was and not what he is...which is why he spends so much time here trying to convince us what he looks like and what a wonderful fool, uh, guy he is. LOL

That is what I was thinking too. It reminds me of those men who drive certain cars to compensate for what they lack either in their pants or on top of their heads.

They just don't get it that there are other things they can be great at in bed even without size or that hair or lack of does not quantify their worth as a person.

It's sad and I hope guys like that can work through it and figure out that it is their character that defines them and nothing else really matters.

Djoser
05-26-2006, 03:40 PM
That is what I was thinking too. It reminds me of those men who drive certain cars to compensate for what they lack either in their pants or on top of their heads.

I never have understood the whole car thing, it always struck me as the most useless way to impress anyone--but it does seem to work quite well in Daytona, lol...

Docido
05-26-2006, 07:31 PM
I know I shouldn’t reply to the first post, which to me seems the very height of social retardedness, but it’s late and I’m very, very, bored.

If the original poster has bothered to read any of the more serious replies, he will notice something. The answers here are exactly the same type of answers you’d get from any random message board primarily composed of women. Since “what women want” is pretty much the same no matter the profession. And the last time I looked strippers were part of that very interesting sub-set of humanity know as women. What was the initial poster expecting? “Hey, I only date unemployed bass players who play video games all day and have a limitless supply of weed.” Well I hope not, you’re dealing with people here, not clichés and stereotypes.

Sorry about the example up-post, I just couldn’t resist. You may start flinging the tomatoes now ladies. :duck:

SA-80
05-26-2006, 10:03 PM
That's exactly why I don't date bitches, particularly dumb bitches. Bitches don't appreciate anything, any good intention, and are usually useless and filled with hatred.

As for the strippers, I don't date them because I don't think I can handle that they are strippers, even if they are not bitches. Some strippers are pretty deccent and smart women, they know what they are doing and consciously understand and accept their life style, and I have nothing but a respect to people who consciously understand and accept what they are doing, even if our paths won't cross and our life styles don't match.

But if she's a stripper, a bitch and a dumb one - well, you do the math.

To be honest with you Jenny your answers are just plain dumb. I doubt your ability to understand anything at this point, so peace, god bless, you won, you won, wanna medal for it?

azcustomer
05-26-2006, 10:12 PM
^^^ Who was that commander infamous for insisting on being Gettysburg cannon fodder?

Dude, go back to your Maxim and Stuff magazines for relationship advice. And if you realize that you are incompatible with strippers and unable to value them at all, consider finding another place to vent.

Jenny
05-26-2006, 10:14 PM
To be honest with you Jenny your answers are just plain dumb. I doubt your ability to understand anything at this point, so peace, god bless, you won, you won, wanna medal for it?
Kind of. Why? Do you have one?

DJ Maimed
05-27-2006, 12:11 AM
I'm not gay but if all that rich successfull "am the man" stuff is true maybe I'll try it just for you big daddy!!! If isn't true can someone direct me to the outta work bassists house, my weed is all gone dammit!!

Djoser
05-27-2006, 01:35 AM
Jenny, dumb?

I don't think so.

I have seldom seen a woman with such a razor-sharp, polished, and vastly amusing manner of enlightening the ignorant ones...

If they'll listen, that is.

Lest I be accused of ass-kissing yet again, I don't think she's always correct about everything, but neither am I, and neither is anyone else born on this earth.

I seem to recall disagreeing with her about something somewhere, but I didn't mention anything--maybe it was during that period about a month or two ago when I was lost in a Burnout-induced mental fog.

Someday it may occur, in which case I can think of no more worthy adversary for verbal conflict, which I suspect I would enjoy immensely.

As for her being a bitch--well every woman can, on occasion--so states the Royal Theorem of Sexual Equality:

'Every woman is a bitch, and every man is an asshole. It's just a matter of degree and timing.'

Though I don't find her to be one here, sorry. And we certainly do see some colossal assholes here, from time to time, don't we?

Docido
05-27-2006, 04:33 AM
But if she's a stripper, a bitch and a dumb one - well, you do the math.

Stupidity and bitchiness aren't exclusive to strippers or women for that matter. Some posters here exhibit those same traits as well. ::)

VenusGoddess
05-27-2006, 06:47 AM
^ Wow...the old "pot calling the kettle black" thing.

LOL...I wonder if he was admiring himself in the mirror as he wrote that.

NoCoverLover
05-27-2006, 05:51 PM
SA-80: You need to go back to the start of this thread, follow the link to the HBI site, and DO SOME READING!

Jenny said it best. You have "say what they mean" complex. It's closely related to "Nice Guy" complex. What you're saying sounds different, but you have the same underlying misunderstanding of yourself.

Go do some reading there. If you can't figure it out, then you're in trouble!

Roulette
05-01-2007, 02:04 PM
I realize this is thread resurrection and I'm not responding to what everyone ended up saying in this but to the OP because I thought it was interesting...

This is a two part question..

1. Phisical- At one time the range has been from supermacho Tom Selleck to Sensitive guys like Alan Alada of MASH to Boy toys that you find in some of the teen mags. We guys are confused heck even Woody Allen was on the list of desireable men.

Everyone has different tastes. The end. Generally guys who are toned and taller than us look good. This is not nearly always the case however. There are def girls out there who seek fat guys, thin guys, built guys, bald guys, guys 30 years older, whatever everyone is different and it's hard to say what is sexy or desireable because of that.


2. Mind- Women today seem to be drawn to guys who blow them off and often have hard personlitys. The nice guys like Alan Alada and Classy Guys like Roger Moore would noty stand a chance today with women dating guys that have the attudues of proffesion wretsters then suave sophiticated gentleman.

I wouldnt say women are attracted to guys who blow them off, but there is something sexy about the "bad boy" and there is a large % of girls who feel that they are with the "inner man" the one who can do no wrong and she can help him and fix him and when he doesnt show up it's just something she can work on and change. This is just silly on the part of may girls. This is why imo, lots of girls have the bitch front because they are tired of these little boys in man suits who are looking for mommy in a woman suit. Now what I could never understand was why nice guys always end up dating bitchy girls and I finally had it explain in a way that made sense to me... My b/f used to take bitchy girls and when asked why he said because she liked him and because he was her b/f it meant that he wasnt like everyone else, she cared about him and he was more important or something to that effect... the end.

Personally...
I like a guy who has self confidence <-- HUGE must!! I need someone who is who he is, has oppinions and interests (that are not too contrary to my own) and who has no problem defending his thought or decisions, or those of others.

A sense of humor - if you cant make me laugh, dont waste my time. I like a guy who thinks I'm funny, because at this point I think there are only a select few who grasp the true genius of my funny. just kidding but still, I like to think I'm funny.

Smart. You dont need to have ever gone to school, but you have to be smart and articulate. Knowledge is power.

A guy needs to be interested in me, he needs to feel happy/lucky that he's with me at all times and I need him to show it! I dont want a man who doesnt think I'm hot, wtf? go somewhere else. I'm ok with somoene not being into me physically, everyone has different tastes, but my man needs to want what I got. I need him to compliment me. I dont need it from anyone else, but if you're going to be fucking me you better tell me how nice I look from time to time as well.

He has to be hot or sexy. Not all guys are what I consider really hot or sexy but if they have all of the above I see them as being much more attractive than I would had I passed them in the street. And on my vain side I need him to be taller than me. I am a tall girl, not really tall but tall enough.

NatalieFRPhilly
05-01-2007, 02:33 PM
Physical: I like someone to tower over me so they have to be at least 5'11 6'0 is my favorite but no taller then 6'2. My bf has hazel eyes that are sometimes green and I think they are so orgasmic so I'd say green/hazel eyes, tan skin. Black or brown hair. My man is italian mixed with ? and most boys I've dated were dark eyes/hair tan skin.

Mind: They gotta be funny. If someone's not funny I will get bored. And I like them to be a good mix of tough/sensitive. I don't like when guys play hard to get, then i just say well I don't want it then.

Other: They gotta be ok with my job. And love dogs.

ETA: I only read the OP I didn't realize this was a serious discussion lol whoops.

Circe
05-01-2007, 03:39 PM
People that come out with long lists of their personal attributes amuse me. ie, "I am so happy, fufilled, confident, alive, handsome, intelligent, blah de blah blah"

Truly confident, fufilled people do not need to proclaim these things, much less on internet forums...

An empty barrel makes the most noise?

PaigeDWinter
05-01-2007, 03:41 PM
A vagina. Nuff said.

TheSexKitten
05-01-2007, 07:34 PM
2. Mind- Women today seem to be drawn to guys who blow them off and often have hard personlitys.

Absolutely not. 100% wrong, as far as I'm concerned. Nonono.

I love it when a guy is subtle, but still respectful and flirtatious. Like... makes no obvious attempt to ask me out/flatter me/brag at me, but is friendly and makes interesting conversation. When a guy has a witty, but not cocky (oh my god I hate cocky), easygoing personality, I'm already somewhat into him. Then, all he needs to do is say some little thing like "Hey, gorgeous" when I answer the phone and I'm all intrigued. It's hilarious.

Oh and looks just need to be at least average. Personality is huge in how I'll feel about a guy. No good-looking jerks for me. *retch*

christian211
05-01-2007, 08:30 PM
#1- physical: 6'0"+, don't know why, that's just how it is. Broad shoulders, usually dark hair and pale skin, although I love a tan or dark skin on anyone, don't know how I end up loving the pale ones;D

#2- VERRRRY easygoing, laidback, not super intelligent- I find those types arrogant- NICE/KIND, FUN.... basically everything I am not;D It compliments and softens me.

MishaBliss
05-01-2007, 09:30 PM
Soul first..intelligence, eyes, smile, taste (that which is humanly is possible for a man), smarts...

exotisch23
05-01-2007, 11:07 PM
Physically- (preferably) blonde hair, blue/green eyes, significantly taller than me, athletic (someone that can keep up)

Mentally-they have to share all my values & beliefs. Personality matters more than looks.

Ideally I'd like to just clone Paul Walker and keep him as my man but I already have a similar guy.

needtodance
05-01-2007, 11:41 PM
physically doesnt matter to me, pretty much at all. except for hair and eyes. In high school, I was known for fumbling when someone tried to get me to describe my boyfriend to them... "Uh.. i dunno? he has longish hair, plays the guitar-oh come ON, he's ALWAYS around here with the guitar!" It all just sort of washes over and past me, i have to remind myself to look to see if someone is "attractive" I DO like longer hair, but thats more because I like touching it. The eyes though-those are my "make it or break it" physical feature-I don't know why, certain men just have something in their eyes that sets my instincts off, it doesnt matter if i KNOW them, and know they're trustworthy, its just a physical impossibility for me to relax and be honest.

Personalitywise, I need him to have THOUGHT about his moral code, doesn't matter whether "spiritual" or "religious" I just want him to have put some thought into his actions, and way of life. Though it would be difficult for me to date someone who was hardcore religious, because of my own athiest tendencies, and aversions to organized religion.... A little bit of vulnerability is important to me. I tend to have a REALLY nurturing personality, as well as a LOT of my own vulnerability....and I don't like the relationship to feel lopsided. If he's trying to "help" enrich my life, I need to know that I can offer the same for him.

Don't even know why i replied to this... LOL...

But yeah, current boyfriend fits rather nicely in with my ideas, values, and has killer sarcastic humor to boot....

greenidlady1
05-02-2007, 09:52 PM
1. A honest man
2. He must have a brain and use it, the majority of the time
3. A caring and kindhearted individual
4. He must be accepting and open-minded
5. He must be hard-working and dependable
6. Chemistry is nice, as well

PrettyCurlieQ
05-02-2007, 09:59 PM
Physically, I HAVE to be w/ a guy taller than me. Preferably 6'0'' plus. For the simple fact that I feel manly when I tower over a guy in heels. In the club, I can get over this, but in my wedding picture? I don't think so..
And totally superficially, here's my 'type': caucasian, brunette, green eyes, at least 6'0'', athletic (but I can totally let any of those factors slide..and often do)
Mind...mmmmmmmmm I like a quick wit. I think sense of humor is so important, because at the end of the day, I just wanna be with the guy who can make me laugh. And smart humor is a big plus. Then I can tell he's well-read and also makes me smile.

sleepyboy
05-03-2007, 01:32 AM
I'm meant for all of you! :)

Roulette
05-03-2007, 05:19 AM
I'm meant for all of you! :)

You keep tellin' yourself that hotshot! (;
(i hate the wink smilie thing! yuckypoo!)

flickad
05-04-2007, 12:50 AM
Physically I like skinny, pale, androgynous guys with long hair and dark eyes and hair. Tall but not excessively so is good.

Mentally intelligence, confidence and some shared values do it for me.

krchab99
05-04-2007, 08:26 AM
Funny to read this thread becuse i was just recently thinking about this. Now my hubby is the perfect man for me but i met a man at his work that to me the "perfect man" He just has all the quilties i would be looking for i was avaliable. He is hansome, older (late 30's or early 40's), succesful, charming, funny, and has a killer smile. Plus this man has all those quilites but you can tell he dose not relize it he is humble. He is also careing he cares about the familes he works with.