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Whatever.... if change is all I have change is all someone is going to get. Since when did this become a politically correct debate. A tip is a tip, I wouldn't be thrilled with change but if it came with a genuine explanation then...WTF!! The girl shouldn't have to go to the bar and wait for change to give a bathroom attendent 2 dollar bills for a spritz of body spray when the whole damn bottle probably cost 5 dollars. I think both housemoms and bathroom attendants have gotten out of hand.
sensuality
09-26-2006, 10:44 AM
I was going to say that anyone who thinks its rude to get tipped in change has never bartended. For every $1.25 beer I served, I got $0.75. Didn't seem like a whole lot then, but at the end of the night it would turn into $60-$70 easily on top of all of the credit card tips, dollar bill tips. I've waitressed and had my apron falling down on the change side because of all the change. I've gone home and dumped my change into a 5-gallon water container and cashed it in at the end of the year to come away with several hundred dollars (on time it was almost $600). So small change adds up.
Money is money no matter what form its in. I would be pissed if someone threw a bunch of quarters, pennies, nickels, and dimes on the stage for me...but only because change is a pain in the ass to pick up. But, if you have a tip jar (and this bathroom attendant did), there is no reason to be bitchy.
Same thing here. I used to bartend, most beers sold were 3.25. So you usually got the 75 cents off of each beer (and almost always tipped on top of that). I waitressed at the time too, and saved my change, happily. Never cashed it in to the register. I would always have a really nice chunk of change for Christmas shopping! ;)
Pretty_Penny
09-26-2006, 10:49 AM
sounds like a good case of cunt-ious maximus. it's not like it was 50 cents, it was 2 dollars. 2 dollars is a fine tip for using some body spray. i can understand her removing the change because she didn't want other people to be encouraged to give change, but she could have been a fuck of a lot more understanding, esp. when you came up and explained. maybe she had some sand in her vagina that day.
Bridgette
09-26-2006, 06:15 PM
I don't think it's a regional thing, considering how much I've travelled and worked. I think it's an individual thing.
And look at the responses here - almost everyone agrees: money is money.
fancygirl
09-26-2006, 06:54 PM
here's another American saying that it's the amount that counts, not the form. I was raised poor, and taught to tip. If I was able to tip (and there were some times that I was so strapped I couldn't) I did. If it was in change, even if I took all the change out of my purse to get that couple of dollars on a meal, I did it.
This woman has a jar. She may think she has a shit job, but by putting on airs by explicitly TAKING THE MONEY OUT OF THE JAR she's just showing that she doesn't have the manners to take a tip gracefully (or an apology for that matter-- did she take the fiver and not the apology? then she's an ungrateful rude bitch.)
CallMeSky
09-26-2006, 07:09 PM
Whatever.... if change is all I have change is all someone is going to get. Since when did this become a politically correct debate. A tip is a tip, I wouldn't be thrilled with change but if it came with a genuine explanation then...WTF!! The girl shouldn't have to go to the bar and wait for change to give a bathroom attendent 2 dollar bills for a spritz of body spray when the whole damn bottle probably cost 5 dollars. I think both housemoms and bathroom attendants have gotten out of hand.
Thank you! I was just about to say this. I work in an EXTREAMLY busy club, and waiting for change at the bar and making my way thru a herd of drunk customers would have taken me about 10-15 minutes - when she prolly changes out all her small bills into bigger ones at the end of the night anyways and could do that on her own all at the same time.
Someone was still confused as to if this was a house mom or a bathroom attendant - it was a bathroom attendant. I said bathroom housemom becouse I forgot her correct title.
PhillyDancer1982
09-27-2006, 11:45 PM
It sounds like the housemom was making a mountain out of a molehill. I could understand her not liking quarters, but it was all you had at the time and yeah, a tip in quarters is better than no tip. How many people really tip $2 for each time they use a teensy spritz of body spray? A bottle of body spray costs what?...like $10?...and you can get 100s of spritzes per bottle. Personally, I will tip the house mom if I use her products but it will all be added into the tip that I'd give at the end of the night...not throughout the shift. I agree with the person who said that tipping coins in a jar isn't as bad as tipping quarters to a girl on stage...it's a different setup.
You tipped her $5 AFTER apologizing to her, to "buy" her forgiveness? That seems too much. I wonder if the reason the house mom acted unforgiving was to see how much more money she could get out of you? From the sound of your post, you sound a little easily swayed by others. I am the same way...not as assertive enough as I should be, and as a result I tend to overapologize and do things the way you did it...in fact, if I were you I probably woulda done the same thing, but only because I have this unassertiveness problem. I think that next time, make sure you only tip dollars and if you only have quarters, apparently no tip is better than a few bucks worth in quarters. Tip nicely, but do not give any more "I'm sorry" tips, because that might just cause the housemom to keep acting bitchy to see how long she can get "I'm sorry" tips from you!
carolina6
09-28-2006, 12:26 AM
I tip the bathroom attendant one dollar. Sometimes I take a mint or something, sometimes I don't. The other night, she let me hide in a stall during "dollar dances" which I hate and she slipped me candy and a word search under the door. I tipped her 5 dollars for that. If I gave her two dollars in change I guarantee she would just say thank you, because she's normal. Anyone working for tips should be grateful for any tip, considering the alternative, them making zero dollars.
AkashaM
09-28-2006, 12:42 PM
she knew that if she gave you a hard time that you would give her more as a peace offer. fuck her...i hate bathroom attendants...one more person you have to give money to. At my club we are required to give her 5$ every night as well as $10 to a makeup artist--whether you use her service or not. I dont see why the club cant pay these people.
MulattoKittyn
09-28-2006, 03:57 PM
what's the tip she usually gets though? I mean, if my housemom got a $2 tip from a girl holding "only $100s", I'm sure she'd be offended. Not that it was quarters, jsut that it was $2. But then, she wouldn't be rude about it either....
So you think 7 dollars out of her hard earned money is worth bathroom spritz? Please. If the house mom wants to take her clothing off and shake her ass to earn that money, go ahead, until then she should be happy with what she gets considering she didn't even have to give her anything.
Emily
09-28-2006, 04:07 PM
So you think 7 dollars out of her hard earned money is worth bathroom spritz? Please. If the house mom wants to take her clothing off and shake her ass to earn that money, go ahead, until then she should be happy with what she gets considering she didn't even have to give her anything.
we've already determined that it was a bathroom troll and not a housemom. And yeah, I think a housemom should get more than $2....but not a bathroom troll.
fancygirl
09-28-2006, 05:31 PM
The other night, she let me hide in a stall during "dollar dances" which I hate and she slipped me candy and a word search under the door. I tipped her 5 dollars for that.
Awwww, your bathroom lady gets my "cool person" award.
PorschaM
09-28-2006, 09:07 PM
Thank you! I was just about to say this. I work in an EXTREAMLY busy club, and waiting for change at the bar and making my way thru a herd of drunk customers would have taken me about 10-15 minutes -
I was in a similar situation recently at a hotel in Little Rock. When I went to check out I didn't have any ones left for the tip so I went down to the desk. They didn't have change but said the shuttle driver was going to the bank. The shuttle driver showed up, talked to the desk attendant, then left. The desk attendant asked me if I needed anything else so I reminded her that I was waiting to get the change. She remarked, "Oh, she is going to the bank now. She'll be back in about 30 minutes." Obviously there was no way I was waiting 30 minutes, but I felt really bad about not leaving a tip. When I saw this thread I felt even worse because tipping in change never even crossed my mind. I definitely would have had I thought of it. I'm pretty sure the maid would have preferred to see the change than to see nothing at all.
Also, in the places we've traveled (Europe & South America), there is nothing better than finding a public restroom with a bathroom attendant. You know they are safe and clean. Not sure that you need them in clubs, but if they keep the place from being filthy, like most public restrooms, then they are worth the $1. Bummer they aren't the norm in Australia either.
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MulattoKittyn
09-29-2006, 03:57 AM
we've already determined that it was a bathroom troll and not a housemom. And yeah, I think a housemom should get more than $2....but not a bathroom troll.
Definitely true, I wonder if she tipped her extra on top of the 7?
CallMeSky
09-29-2006, 04:34 AM
Definitely true, I wonder if she tipped her extra on top of the 7?
No, it was just the 2 and then the 5 - a mistake that I wont be repeating anytime soon, belive me.