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N00bCusty
09-08-2007, 05:45 AM
In South Florida neck kissing is the least of a dancer's worries.
Macnee2
09-11-2007, 06:51 PM
Neck kissing. Don't do it myself in the club, but a few girls do to the customer which feels fine to me, a couple that try to catch you on the lips for the dance over air kiss. How the hell am I meant to work up any realistic enthusiasm for a dancer who has licked the faces of probably in excess of five thousand men. Never gave it any thought till I read this thread.
Pretty_Penny
09-11-2007, 08:14 PM
i already posted to this thread months ago... but since it's been brought back
i had a fat nasty guy (not that it matters) CONSTANTLY keep trying this yesterday. it was so fucking horrible. he also kept trying to rub his finger down the top part of my asscrack.
i just don't get it. if i'm constantly stopping you, why keep trying/doing it? it's not funny and it's not a fucking game. >_<
Asurfael
09-13-2007, 08:25 AM
It is a game to them.
I've been using the "Don't do that, it's like you're french kissing a dozen guys if you lick me." I think I'm going to start using the "Oh don't lick there I let my husband come there this morning" from now on!
We have two-way contact lap dances for an extra fee, just no contact VIPs otherwise, and first off I start by saying that you can touch with HANDS ONLY and no touching on the thong area. If they start putting their hands towards the kitty/buttcrack I tell them better not go there or I'm going to walk off with their money (we pay in advance). With kissing/licking, if they look like they're going to do it or if they manage to do it once I tell them once more and the dance is instantly over. They usually get it, those that don't I just keep dodging making sure they don't get to do it again.
hyzenthflay
09-13-2007, 09:08 AM
I have lots of hair and I always make sure every bit of it is along my neck to shield me from this!
lolagetz
09-13-2007, 10:32 AM
"Oh don't lick there I let my husband come there this morning"
Hahaha, that's brilliant! I'm gonna start using that one }:D
ExoticEngineer
09-13-2007, 01:23 PM
K, I did a bad thing... :(
THis thread was in my head (I read SW just before I go to work) and combine that with a lil bit of PMS and some other additives that put me into a mood.... well,
A guy licked me, as I was breathing softly into his ear he turned his head and licked all up my neck and up to my earlobe. So......
I spit on him. A messy, sloppy, raspberry style tongue flinging spit every where kind. }:D couldn't help it really....and it made me feel great!
Chicagoeditor
09-13-2007, 01:28 PM
I spit on him. A messy, sloppy, raspberry style tongue flinging spit every where kind. }:D couldn't help it really....and it made me feel great!
Ummm. And? Did he pay you? Did he tip you extra? Did he brush it...errr, wipe it...off and ask for another dance? Please finish the tale.
ExoticEngineer
09-13-2007, 02:42 PM
The rest is boring really. He got a little P.O.'d (ofcourse) and I asked him why he slobbered on me. He said I'm done. I said me too!
He paid for the dance and I walked away.
I really didn't think he'd let it go, but no big loss, he was handsy and pushy to begin with.
NatalieFRPhilly
09-13-2007, 02:49 PM
K, I did a bad thing... :(
THis thread was in my head (I read SW just before I go to work) and combine that with a lil bit of PMS and some other additives that put me into a mood.... well,
A guy licked me, as I was breathing softly into his ear he turned his head and licked all up my neck and up to my earlobe. So......
I spit on him. A messy, sloppy, raspberry style tongue flinging spit every where kind. }:D couldn't help it really....and it made me feel great!
effin awesome.
cashflow
09-20-2007, 06:20 AM
It seems that whenever I tell a customer that he can't touch me with his hands, they always seem to think it's okay to kiss on my neck when I lean back on him during a dance. It makes my skin crawl!! How do I handle this? What do I say without being rude and maybe risking another dance?;D;D
This is funny. Let's see, you are smiling to the guy and try to make him think you like him and you are intimante just so you could have him as regular cashflow income, but when you need to put up with a little saliva on your neck suddenly it's a bad thing?
Think of it as an intimacy test - is it really real or are you just trying to milk as much money as possible? :P
cashflow
09-20-2007, 06:35 AM
I am guilty of this and totally didn't know it was offensive.:-[Wake up dude! She is not attracted to you, she is just smiling and touching her hair so she can take some money out of your pocket. If you want a girl not to be creeped out by your licking, she has to be attracted to you. Duh.
gingerlee
09-20-2007, 08:10 AM
Think of it as an intimacy test - is it really real or are you just trying to milk as much money as possible? :P
Well I'm screwed then, because I'm always trying to milk out as much money as possible.
Yekhefah
09-20-2007, 08:39 AM
^^^ Seriously. ::)
I do not want to be intimate with a customer. I have a guy at home who gets me hot, and in three years of dancing I can count on one hand the number of customers who've gotten me hot. And they weren't being gropey kissy licky sleazy sickos. I love doing lapdances, I will give an extremely hot steamy dance with a guy who just kicks back and enjoys it, but I NEVER want a customer's mouth anywhere on me. Seriously, it's worse than being grabbed. It skeeves me out worse than anything else you could possibly do. I've had guys pull their dicks out and it didn't creep me out as much as the ones who kiss me. *shudder*
Mastridonicus
09-20-2007, 10:04 AM
Well I'm screwed then, because I'm always trying to milk out as much money as possible.
Literal there for you especially.
Pretty_Penny
09-20-2007, 10:44 AM
^^^ Seriously. ::)
I do not want to be intimate with a customer. I have a guy at home who gets me hot, and in three years of dancing I can count on one hand the number of customers who've gotten me hot. And they weren't being gropey kissy licky sleazy sickos. I love doing lapdances, I will give an extremely hot steamy dance with a guy who just kicks back and enjoys it, but I NEVER want a customer's mouth anywhere on me. Seriously, it's worse than being grabbed. It skeeves me out worse than anything else you could possibly do. I've had guys pull their dicks out and it didn't creep me out as much as the ones who kiss me. *shudder*
i could have written this myself.
i too, could count on one hand the number of guys who've turned me on during dances. as much as i can remember, i think it's been 3 or 4 in the last 2 and 1/2 years.
if i say i give an average of 30 different customers a week dances... that's about 1440 customers a year, so i've probably danced for about 3600 guys total.
so only 4 guys out of 3600 would actually be considered "fucking" material by me. ha!
of course, that's at work. my "type" of guy (yes even just physically) walks into a strip club very rarely.
Zinaida
09-20-2007, 11:15 AM
Wake up dude! She is not attracted to you, she is just smiling and touching her hair so she can take some money out of your pocket.
Exactly! Guys always kiss my back and I'm just like: how the hell can someone get that into this, it's just a lap dance and How the hell can someone think I'm that into this? What the heck makes them think I'm that into them or whatever that they think I'd like or wouldn't mind the kissing?! UGH! Don't they know that we only see dollar signs as we're looking at them?
But, whenever they slobber on me, I never attempt to reprimand them nicely. I turn around to them and bark: "NO KISSING! I'll KILL you." It always works... but now that I see that in writing I see how harsh it really is lmao!
gingerlee
09-20-2007, 12:43 PM
Literal there for you especially.
You are so evil. I love it. }:D
cameron_keys
09-20-2007, 12:51 PM
Think of it as an intimacy test - is it really real or are you just trying to milk as much money as possible? :P
Let me clear this up for you. It is NEVER real. And why someone would want to lick a sweaty stranger is beyond me. Trust me hon...if you licked me..so did 100 other guys. And by the way..thanks for licking off the gross old guy with rotting teeth's saliva....I didnt have a chance to clean that off. Much appreciated...hope he tasted better then he smelled.
Jenny
09-20-2007, 12:57 PM
I used to try for tolerance for those guys. I was like "You know, I'm really good at simulating intimacy, and the desire to kiss me isn't coming out of nowhere." And then - I ran out. I think I just met too many guys who were "trying me out" as opposed to just going with a "natural impulse". Now I just get pissed off.
^^ "Trying out" is a business plan of sorts, I guess. I know several clubbers who equate evaluating strippers with visits to the shoe department at Wal-Mart. If it's a comfy fit and the price is right... I like the experience to be tinged with some faux intimacy colors but that's me.
Back to the topic, I'm sure I have kissed a neck or two. I don't remember specifically but odds are, it happened somewhere along the line. Hopefully it was a brief, dry kiss sans drool.
FBR
Jenny
09-20-2007, 06:09 PM
^^^
I'm now of the opinion that the reason a guy wouldn't ask before doing something is because he suspects I'm going to say no. Just doing it anyway, or doing it "to see if I mind" is just... it's just disgusting. I mean, I realize that certain levels of intimacy are impliedly negotiated for when I agree to do the dance, and I'm okay with that. But that really means that anything beyond that should be similarly negotiated, not just taken. After all, it's not like I can just ask for it back. Seriously - there is nothing so hard about saying "may I kiss you?" before doing it, if you really think it is necessary to your enjoyment AND that it may be acceptable to the young lady in question, and there is no good reason not to.
greenidlady1
09-20-2007, 06:27 PM
I hated that. I use to just move when they'd do that to me.
^^^
I'm now of the opinion that the reason a guy wouldn't ask before doing something is because he suspects I'm going to say no. Just doing it anyway, or doing it "to see if I mind" is just... it's just disgusting. I mean, I realize that certain levels of intimacy are impliedly negotiated for when I agree to do the dance, and I'm okay with that. But that really means that anything beyond that should be similarly negotiated, not just taken. After all, it's not like I can just ask for it back. Seriously - there is nothing so hard about saying "may I kiss you?" before doing it, if you really think it is necessary to your enjoyment AND that it may be acceptable to the young lady in question, and there is no good reason not to.
I'm trying to get my arms around "impliedly negotiated" and the associated "certain levels of intimacy" that he can reasonably expect for his investment. Are you advocating that the customer sit rock still, doing nothing, and must progressively ask for permission for each subsequent action? This seems to fly in the face of any possible intimacy, faux or otherwise.
FBR
Jenny
09-20-2007, 06:50 PM
I'm saying that customers when they buy a dance know that they are buying a certain amount of interaction, and they know what that amount is (around here when I sell a dance it is known that what I'm agreeing to is being generally fondled outside the genital area and grinding). Anything outside of that should be negotiated - as in asked for or offered. I'm sorry, FBR, but I decline to accept that "intimacy" means that a guy gets to do things to me that he at least suspects I don't want.
Interaction is a much colder word than intimacy. Maybe I quoted you out of context. I'm sorry.
FBR
Jenny
09-20-2007, 06:59 PM
Well I was talking about physical intimacy. I can cuddly and sweet and chatty without him laying a damn hand on me. It doesn't have to be like riding a mechanical bull, but there is no reason to pretend like you don't know what I've consented to when I agree to do a dance.
^^ OK, I'm sorry. I misunderstood.
I'm still trying to figure out how "cuddly" isn't physical but I hope you will be patient with my retardedness.
FBR
hustlebunny
09-20-2007, 08:03 PM
I always think to myself WHY WHY WHY would some guy find it sexy to lick my neck when guys all night have been trying to lick my neck and some of them i dodged too slow and some of the time i don;t get to the baby wipes before money calls again...yuck...
No it is not a turn on. We are pretending and giving a fantasy. Great thing is if you think it's ok to kiss her neck then it means she's doing a really great job at making your fantasy seem real. Just sit back and enjoy and keep the licking to yourself. The better behaved you are the more free we can be to do a really really great dance!
Bridgette
09-20-2007, 08:31 PM
Old thread, but still. I hate the fucking neck kissing! I hate having strange men's mouthes on me period. WTF makes them think we'd want it, or that we wouldn't mind? ::)
It's supposed to be dancing. Sometimes I get so fucking annoyed at what some people call a "dance". ugh
jaizaine
09-20-2007, 11:09 PM
^^^
agreed. It's far to intimate to kiss a person's neck.
But some customers seem to think we enjoy anything they do to us. Or they just don't care because they think our bodies are theirs to do with as they please.
Macnee2
09-21-2007, 03:33 AM
...Are you advocating that the customer sit rock still, doing nothing...This seems to fly in the face of any possible intimacy, faux or otherwise.
FBR
Hey FBR, doing nothing with my hands has served me well in the strip club for many a year now. Seriously, the girls always seem to deliver more and better intimacy when they have TOTAL control of that factor. Just in my very sheltered experience anyway.
Jenny
09-21-2007, 08:11 AM
^^ OK, I'm sorry. I misunderstood.
I'm still trying to figure out how "cuddly" isn't physical but I hope you will be patient with my retardedness.
FBROkay - I deserve this. Technically I suppose cuddly is physical, but it isn't sexually oriented. So there are hands on me, but they are on my arms and back as opposed to breasts and thighs. I don't cuddle for free in any case. It's undignified.
Yekhefah
09-21-2007, 12:15 PM
Hey FBR, doing nothing with my hands has served me well in the strip club for many a year now. Seriously, the girls always seem to deliver more and better intimacy when they have TOTAL control of that factor. Just in my very sheltered experience anyway.
:yes: :yes: :yes:
Lysondra
09-22-2007, 04:16 AM
Hey FBR, doing nothing with my hands has served me well in the strip club for many a year now. Seriously, the girls always seem to deliver more and better intimacy when they have TOTAL control of that factor. Just in my very sheltered experience anyway.
:yes: :yes:
The behaved boys get hotter dances 100% of the time.
Okay - I deserve this. Technically I suppose cuddly is physical, but it isn't sexually oriented. So there are hands on me, but they are on my arms and back as opposed to breasts and thighs. I don't cuddle for free in any case. It's undignified.
Jenny, I could never, not even for a moment, believe that you would or should endure cuddling without fair monetary compensation. I know you are a professional (well I don't know but I have a high confidence level) and rightfully consider cuddling along with flirting, hair twirling, eye batting and so forth all as compensatable services. Just to be clear on that.
I do think our opinions take divergent paths on the sexual aspects of cuddling, though. I believe the average guy (speaking as an average guy) does find cuddling quite sexual in the context of a strip club. Even if there are no overt signs telegraphed by him. Cuddling on the couch at home watching a movie with your SO on a Saturday night is one thing. Cuddling with a stripper in the sexually charged atmosphere of the club is quite another.
FBR
minemind
09-23-2007, 05:06 PM
this is something that actually REVOLTS me. it's so much creepeier than a guy trying to grab your ass or touch your leg. it really truly disgusts me.
waaaay too intimate. i can remember every time that's it's happened to me far too well, because they creepe me out so much. YUCK.
Hey FBR, doing nothing with my hands has served me well in the strip club for many a year now. Seriously, the girls always seem to deliver more and better intimacy when they have TOTAL control of that factor. Just in my very sheltered experience anyway.
I'm still an adolescent clubber but when I finally grow up, I want to be you, Macnee.
FBR
anabella
09-23-2007, 11:54 PM
When someone tries to kiss my neck/ear/forehead when I lean back, I stop leaning back on their shoulder. I lean back on the top of their chest, just out of reach of their mouths. What's creepier than kissing the neck? Kissing the forehead. It reminds me of my grandpa. If you have enough affection for me to kiss me on the forehead like your grandchild, I'm scared.
jaizaine
09-24-2007, 03:28 AM
Hey FBR, doing nothing with my hands has served me well in the strip club for many a year now. Seriously, the girls always seem to deliver more and better intimacy when they have TOTAL control of that factor. Just in my very sheltered experience anyway.
high five
Zinaida
09-24-2007, 10:06 AM
this is something that actually REVOLTS me. it's so much creepeier than a guy trying to grab your ass or touch your leg. it really truly disgusts me.
waaaay too intimate. i can remember every time that's it's happened to me far too well, because they creepe me out so much. YUCK.
Me too! I will take ass-grabbing anyday over a guy that wants to kiss me or hold and stroke my hand and crap. It totally makes my skin crawl more than anything.
kitana
09-27-2007, 11:18 PM
;D;D
This is funny. Let's see, you are smiling to the guy and try to make him think you like him and you are intimante just so you could have him as regular cashflow income, but when you need to put up with a little saliva on your neck suddenly it's a bad thing?
Think of it as an intimacy test - is it really real or are you just trying to milk as much money as possible? :P
Well, since I am at WORK, and I have been happily married for almost 10yrs, I gotta go with MILK THE MONEY! ;)
atexguy
12-02-2007, 03:01 AM
Ok, so here's a question. This has only happened to me a few times.
I'm getting a dance from a girl, being a good boy and keeping my hands to myself and spending a lot of money. We're getting along great as far as I can tell. The girl starts grabbing my hands and putting them on her legs, her abs, etc. She starts kissing ME on the neck, blowing on my ear, putting her tongue in my ear just a little bit. She's rubbing noses with me and getting real close to kissing me. She basically presents her neck to me. I give her a small dry kiss on the neck, just a peck. No licking or tongue involved. She doesn't complain, keeps on dancing, rubbing noses, kissing my neck my cheeks etc.
Is she really disgusted? I had no idea and wouldn't do that if I thought I was offending them.
Again, that's only happened a couple of times in 5 or 6 years.
Jenny
12-02-2007, 08:20 AM
Hey - I would refer back to my former post - if you are so sure that it would be agreeable to the girl, why wouldn't you ask first? That way you know.
xoxoGracexoxo
12-03-2007, 10:08 AM
this is similar to my issue of ear licking/nibbling.
Ohmygod the earlicking is SO MUCH GROSSER to me. I honestly don't mind a gentle, dry kiss on the neck (as opposed to a wet slobber.) But earlickers will just shove their whole slimy, wet tongues inside my ear and root around like there's a gold brick buried there. I shivered just now, just thinking about it.
Once you know a customer has a tendency to do something you don't like, stick to dance moves that keep your ear/neckwhatever away from there mouth/hands/nose/crotch/whatever. In the case of very lick and/or touch-inclined customers, this results in an airdance, but so be it.
For me, I don't say anything out loud unless a customer is violent (in which case I leave) or makes a beeline for my crotch, in which case another method more frequently used with puppies is quite effective: say "NO" is a loud, firm tone of voice, possibly accompanied with a wagging finger.
I'd go a step further and hit them with a rolled up newspaper, but I don't usually have one at hand.
PrettyCurlieQ
12-03-2007, 10:09 AM
I HATE neck kissers. Actually I hate all customers trying to kiss me... EW!
Sitri
12-03-2007, 10:49 AM
It's always amusing when guys respond all offended in these threads. It tells us who the annoying lickers are around here, for example ;D
NO we don't like to be licked by every tom dick or harry with $20 in his pocket ::) I'm always amazed at the guys who just don't get it.
How about Robert with $100???}:D
It is just a matter of mutual agreement. For instance, in LV, I had a neck biter. I'm thinking, "O.K. I didn't ask for a hickey!" Then that get you thinking, "What else does she bite"? Plus, I hate the Ear Blowers, nose rubbers (is she nuzzling or wiping), and hair whippers in my face. (Of course this will change from time to time.)
Please, just take my $100 and don't touch me, look at me, or talk to me.