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doc-catfish
02-12-2007, 10:04 AM
Whether [dancer's real name here] is married is none of my business. I don't ask her about it, and she doesn't tell me. That rock on her left hand came out of a jewelry display at Penney's and is just for show. As a matter of fact, I don't even know who [same dancer's real name here] is.

However, I DO know [same dancer's STAGE name here]. She is never married. She LOVES sex, and seducing men, namely ME. She likes chocolate chip cookies, good barbeque, and monster truck rallies or whatever else I like. She merely "marries" me when I agree to partake of her services, and "divorces" me when she's either cleaned me out, or I'm otherwise finished with her. Unlike a traditional divorce, I still get to keep my house.

So uhh, in a nutshell, no, it doesn't bug me a bit. The moment the minidress and 7" heels go on, she's no longer married. The moment she changes back into jeans and sneakers, she's no longer a dancer.

EvilSyn
02-13-2007, 01:38 AM
Doc, I have to say, I love the way you put that........
I am a dancer when at work, and that's that... LOL Anything else is only relevent if someone makes it so..

NWoD
02-19-2007, 12:45 PM
I definitely prefer NOT to know if you have a SO. It can feel kinda weird to be caressing another man's woman, so to speak.

Star Player
02-20-2007, 06:04 PM
If you are caressing a dancer you better accept the reality you are caressing another guys gal. These ladies don't like to sleep alone no matter what they tell you. I have heard all kinda stories "you can't come over because of my kids...." they will say or "my mother will be there, we will have to go to a motel."

This does not bother me however, and I don't ask them about it. If I see the gal with a big rock on her ring finger, then I figure she is either married or just was. Actually, the married ones sorta turn me on and when they notice this they are a bit flattered.

big_daddy
02-25-2007, 07:02 PM
I don't care if she's married. I'm not looking for a date!

maximvsv
02-26-2007, 12:04 AM
Sometimes it matters, and sometimes it doesn't. Mostly, it affects the decisions about what conversation topics and jokes are appropriate. The weird thing is that it affects me less when it's brought up in the context of something serious rather than when it comes up as a casual reference.

Star Player
02-26-2007, 09:12 PM
If she's a great ITC date, what does it matter? Some of the dancers I have gotten a lot of mileage from, especially kissing have been married.

big_daddy
02-26-2007, 09:16 PM
Wow stud......so do you know what she did or sucked 5 mins before you kissed her?????????????

Chloe437
04-19-2007, 02:37 PM
I tell customers I have a girlfriend, instead which of course I do. I am married though and I have lots of girlfriends but customers are thinking really dirty instead and everybody wins.

lestat1
04-20-2007, 04:05 PM
It is a little bit of a turn-off for reasons I can't quite articulate. It definitely erodes the fantasy of it all, but not because I'm trying to get with her - it's very strange. It's a turn-off and ruins the experience in much the same way a film does when you become too aware that you're watching a film instead of being immersed.

That's the best explanation I can offer - it ruins the immersion.

Which is why I don't understand why custy's ask! I don't want to be lied to, annoy her, or embarrass myself, so I don't ask any of the typical questions: what's your name? what's your number? wanna go out? etc...yet they still volunteer information about their boyfriends/husbands/kids anyway. Strange.

Bridgette
04-20-2007, 04:57 PM
Lestat!!! How's it hangin honey??? ;D

crizgolfer
04-20-2007, 05:31 PM
It doesn't matter. I am just in the club to have a nice time and have no expectations of anything more. If she is enjoyable to be around, then that is what matters.

I do like to chat, but that is more playful than anything. I don't ask personal questions, unless she brings up the topic. I am not against having a discussion about personal matters. I am pretty open, but I let her lead that aspect of the conversation.

FBR
04-20-2007, 06:09 PM
Lestat!!! How's it hangin honey??? ;D

I'm also glad stat is back. His self-disparaging humor cracks me up :) What would really be funny is if one of these days he posts an honest to god pic of himself and is a total stud muffin.

FBR

lestat1
04-20-2007, 11:45 PM
I'm also glad stat is back. His self-disparaging humor cracks me up :) What would really be funny is if one of these days he posts an honest to god pic of himself and is a total stud muffin.

FBR


Lestat!!! How's it hangin honey??? ;D

Hey B! Short, shriveled, and to the left, like always. How's my favorite LJS temptress?

FBR, whatever do you mean? I'm put the "pimpin'" in: "Hey, what a pimpin' gaming PC you built there.". :)

keela
04-21-2007, 12:56 AM
Doesn't make any difference to me one way or the other. I always assume that every girl has a significant other, and the only thing I care about is that she doesn't spend all evening talking about him (or her) - that's a turn-off unless you know the girl really well and are having a "normal" conversation. IME, usually when a dancer talks about her SO, they're not getting along and she is blowing off steam.

lol, and I never made so little $ as when I was divorcing my ex, and couldn't leave the flippin topic alone. No matter what, it would come up somehow. Guys don't want to hear about us, they want to talk about themselves. I say avoid talking about yourself as much as possible.

Bridgette
04-25-2007, 05:53 PM
Hey B! Short, shriveled, and to the left, like always. How's my favorite LJS temptress?Ummmm, last I saw it wasn't short OR shriveled OR hangin left :O

And I'm just fabulous ;D

DancerNTampa
04-28-2007, 07:52 AM
Being married is fine.

Acting like my ex-wife is not.


:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

White & Nerdy
05-19-2007, 06:04 PM
I'm not turned off by married dancers. I've had a lot of dancers talk to me abou their kids. I really don't know why, but it's interesting to hear about what their kids did today and whatnot.

liberator
05-31-2007, 05:46 PM
The fact that a man was so enamored by a lady as to ask them to marry is a turn on in itself. You know she must be special?

Star Player
06-01-2007, 08:28 PM
Their being married does not bother me as far as ITC. All of them are married or have some kind of BF even if he is just the 3rd fuck buddy living with her this month.

KentuckyMysteryMan
06-09-2007, 03:03 PM
It doesn't bother me either way if a stripper is married or not. I don't go to the strip club to get a date. I go to have fun.

SugarArt
07-08-2007, 11:01 AM
Most of my customers love the fact I'm married, some said it makes them feel less guilty

slims099
07-09-2007, 09:50 AM
I'm very happily married & love my hubby to death & wouldnt dream of talking off my wedding ring (at work) or denying being married. This hasnt really caused a problem with me making $$$ but how do you guys feel about married dancers, turn on ;D or off :-\ ??


If you just say you're married and don't imply you are a slut or sleep around then ok, but I have a dancer right now who's married and when she's drunk always implies how slutty she is and I'm thinking to myself, "Why keep talking to me about it when you won't do shit to me?"

I've told her several times to kinda stop doing that since it's just weird to me, but she gets drunk and keeps doing it. I'll probably quit going to that club for awhile and find me a new favorite. Way too much drama.

IMO, it's best to say you're not married and just let them play out their fantasy with you and leave them.

Lapaholic
07-09-2007, 12:04 PM
I figure most dancers are involved just like any woman I meet in the real word I assume is involved with someone. So no, it doesnt bother me!!!

If she says she is married, just say "Thats nice - lets get a dance!!!" - you're happy and she's happy!!

purceja
07-11-2007, 09:24 AM
I'm very happily married & love my hubby to death & wouldnt dream of talking off my wedding ring (at work) or denying being married. This hasnt really caused a problem with me making $$$ but how do you guys feel about married dancers, turn on ;D or off :-\ ??


this is my first post so be nice. From your post it seems like you are head over heals for you man, which is cool, but not for me. Nothing worse than hearing a girl go on about her boyfriend or husband. I don't care if it a co worker or anything. Just kinda kinda annoying.

bem401
07-11-2007, 10:23 AM
I prefer not to be lied to. I would be highly unlikely to ask that question until the dancer and I had established a rapport. That being said, the last thing I'd want to do is to spend money on someone who is lying to me. I'd rather give it to someone, single or married, who wasn't lying to my face.

Lapaholic
07-11-2007, 01:03 PM
Bem - do u really want them to tell u the truth ... I mean everytime a dancer says Im cute, or she really likes me, or im different than all the other custys - i know she's lying or at best embellishing the truth. If they did tell the truth then all I d here is Wow your gross, Could you be any fatter?, God you're old!!!... I dont want the truth. I cant handle the truth.

I mean it comes with the expectations of her trying to make you feel good about yourself, so you will spend mo money. I mean unless u r looking for a date, who cares, in my lowly and humble opinion of course.


So for me ladies, please keep lying ;) ...

Corey
08-01-2007, 01:35 AM
I always assume a lady is unavailable other than for dances and conversation at the club. That being said I'm not sure that flaunting your marital status is a great idea. Many men insist on working the availability angle into their
strip club fantasies. I'm not suggesting you lie but I wouldn't volunteer the info either. You'd be surprised how many guys will never ask a dancer about her outside life if she doesn't bring it up first.

Oooooohh....threadjack (sort of). It's so cool to know that most of you don't ask about a dancer's SO. For some reason, that is usually the third question that most custies ask me/:O

I like E.E.'s answer about having 9 of them in the basement:D That's cute and funny but it also states in a nice way, that the question will not be answered. Period.

PHXFan
08-03-2007, 11:00 AM
If I don't know, I don't want to know, so I don't ask. I'm in a weird sort of situation with a dancer friend of mine though, in that she's married, I know her husband, but I just can't bring myself to get a dance from her...something's just not right with getting a lap dance from a buddy's wife...even though he would expect me too...so I'm an old fashioned sap...or just stupid...

GeorgeBailey
08-12-2007, 09:54 AM
Makes no difference and is none of my business.

Katrine
08-12-2007, 11:08 AM
Oooooohh....threadjack (sort of). It's so cool to know that most of you don't ask about a dancer's SO. For some reason, that is usually the third question that most custies ask me/:O

I like E.E.'s answer about having 9 of them in the basement:D That's cute and funny but it also states in a nice way, that the question will not be answered. Period.

True. However, the guys who post her are seasoned junkies, and are aware and considerate of this. Most guys going into the club are not. Probably 75% of guys would ask. Half of them were just making conversation, but the other half were creating their club fantasy of availability, and it was my job to uphold it.

Helle
08-12-2007, 09:23 PM
I wear my rings at work and people rarely ask or bring up being married... I would assume it's because they SEE the ring, but most of these guys end up asking SO DO YOU HAVE A MAN? CAN WE DATE?

sigh