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Crow2
09-04-2007, 01:25 PM
Even a tire iron, one of my best friends had one under her car seat - she even had a name for the blasted thing. " Sleepy time" Haha.

Also, trust your instincts. Usually they are right on. If something feels weird or not right, it's not.

Another thing, rings. Even the big, gaudy fake ones. Turn it around so that the large part is inside your palm. One good slap with that and you can get away..

iambonbon05
09-06-2007, 12:20 AM
Wow thank you all so much! This was really helpful.

MAnewbie
09-18-2007, 05:54 PM
these phones are awesome! i totally second this recommendation

Kaiyla
09-18-2007, 08:58 PM
-Start saving immediately for an "emergency fund." The best advice I ever got is: as soon as you start dancing, try to save 3 months worth of bills. For example, take what you'd pay for rent, utilities, credit cards, food, gas during a whole month and multiply it by three. The reason for this is, obviously we work with our bodies; they are our money-making machines. If the machine is broke, there is no money to be made. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to sprain and ankle (a MINOR injury compared to others).
Happened to me twice while dancing, and I was unable to return back to work for a month. Even when I returned, I had to dance barefoot before my ankle would support me in heels again. Without any fall-back "emergency" money, an injury can be a financial mess. Three months worth of bills saved up gives you ample time to recover from many illnesses/injuries without sweating about your finances.

Taylorlila
09-19-2007, 06:53 AM
^^^

Thats what I do. I want a BA badly...and I have enough money...but I'm not going to until I have double that saved....because you never know.

Giapink
09-27-2007, 01:47 PM
i had to post on this one, ive never posted before but this is an important thread

if you have to walk to your car (like if theres no parking lot like in the french quarter)
keep your garter with your money on your leg. then put your street clothes on over it. keep only 20 bucks on you in your purse/pocket.
theres safety in numbers, leave the club in a group or have a friend meet you there.
call your club when you get in your car and out of the lot and let them know youre safe.

lolagetz
09-27-2007, 02:45 PM
^^^ Dude, you have to walk to your car alone? What about the bouncers? And your club doesn't give you a place to park?

Clara_M
09-27-2007, 03:20 PM
Another thing I'd think - though I've fortunately never had to make this analysis in real-time, but I prefer to think about it ahead of time, is that if threatened by a cab driver / other driver... someone who looks like he wants to take you where HE wants instead of where YOU want, you're almost certainly better off having an accident instead.

If at all possible, I'd grab the steering wheel (or yank the handbrake to cause a read-ending, etc) at an unexpected time and cause the accident. Obviously not at 100 miles/hour and ideally at a point where you're less likely to get hurt than him, but at SOME POINT, the speed will go down and the occasion will be right. Ideally in a populated area. But let's face it, as long as you succeed in screwing up the car beyond normal driving possibilities in a reasonably well-travelled area, you're much likely to be better off than the alternatives, at least in my opinion of the alternatives.

I feel safer sitting in front with the driver, generally. From the back, though, a good eye-poke or similar move would probably still do the trick. After all, he can't really keep on driving very well while you're busting up his head.

I like making a visible show of noting the the cab's licence number, when I take one in unusual way / unknown company / etc. If you don't have anyone with you to take the piece of paper, call home on a cellphone (they're worth it!) and leave it on your home voice mail, in a way obvious enough for the cab driver to hear. To get really paranoid, start with the licence plate before you get too close, then as you get closer a description of the driver, then tell him where you're going while the phone is still on. If you were to disappear, your voice mail is one of the "obvious" places where someone would look. Make sure that it's an answering machine, not a phone company provided one that you could be forced to erase remotely. You don't WANT to be able to erase it, no matter what. Then tell the driverthat it's not because you don't trust HIM, it's because you make it a policy to do that ever since a friend of yours disappeared in a similar way, and ask him to please not be offended. I've never had anyone not understand, or at least visibly get annoyed.

I figure I've probably ridden with psycho cab drivers (judging by the way they drive!), but I've never had one try anything fancy on me. The way I look at it, psychos who know that they've very likely to get caught (not in general - I think that that's often what they want, but THIS TIME) will pass up the opportunity and put on their "normal" act. And when it's all said and done, I'm not volunteering to be the one in pieces in the dumpster.



Even a tire iron, one of my best friends had one under her car seat - she even had a name for the blasted thing. " Sleepy time" Haha.

Giapink
09-28-2007, 09:42 AM
my club is in the french quarter, theres parking garages but nowhere to park at the club. we all park in the same garage though. and i do get walked by a bouncer but pulling oout of the garage with my window down after paying or just coming out of the garage. my money doesnt come off my leg til i get home

Crow2
09-29-2007, 07:45 PM
Always put back somewhere, on your person or in your car at least forty dollars.

I know it's not much but it can be cab fare somewhere if an emergency arises.

Divine
10-11-2007, 07:23 PM
how do you all keep your money in your garter exactly? isn't it kinda weird to dance with money you earned earlier still in there?

Roulette
10-11-2007, 07:28 PM
I either let it be where it is when ppl put it in, or if I have a ton stack it together put it in the garter, flip it over so it's doubled up with the garter in the loop and rubber band it so it doesnt flap around. Or I jut put most of it in my purse.

2kvlt4u
11-02-2007, 01:36 AM
These are great tips, but I'd like to add to some of them:
(Not only good for dancers, but for anyone)

-If by some chance your eyes wander away from your drink, even for a second, just buy another one. It's better to spend a few extra bucks than to have something terrible happen.

-If you're ever pulled over by a cop, DO NOT roll your window down more than a few inches. Also remember: You do have the right to see a badge. You have the right to ask if he may follow your car to a well lit area like a service station before stepping out. Any cop in an unmarked car may be asked to call another cop in a marked car to arrive before you step out of your vehicle. You can say 'no' to a pat-down if you're not comfortable.

-If you ride in a cab, and you have even a slight suspicion of the driver, DO NOT let him take you home. You can go to a hotel or another 24/7 establishment and find another cab home. If you live within a SAFE walking-distance of such an establishment, it'd be best to just walk home from there once the driver leaves. Also, it may help to have a friend who understands your situation and wouldn't mind if you came to their place and stayed for the night if you feel unsafe on your way home.

-If by some chance you find yourself in a bad situation with someone who may cause you harm, RUN! Never run into alleys or wooded areas (if you're on the highway) unless you know a way out. Run in a serpentine pattern in case this person has a gun; This lowers the gunman's chance of getting a shot.

-If you walk to your car by yourself, and you notice a SUV or a van with it's large door parked next to your driver-side door, go in through the passenger door. Many women are abducted getting into their cars, even in daylight.

-This is probably a no-brainer, but if your car has one of those keyring things to unlock your car from a distance, use it once your close to your car so you don't have to fumble with the lock. LOCK YOUR CAR AS SOON AS YOUR INSIDE!

-If you are followed home and someone makes it inside while you're there, KILL THE FUCKER... or at least shoot out his knee-caps. No joke. If any intruder is in your home, anything you do is considered self-defense.

jahluv504
11-11-2007, 05:59 PM
find a driver that is trust worthy and tell him that you will give him regular bizness same time every day

leogirl876
11-15-2007, 12:29 AM
i had to post on this one, ive never posted before but this is an important thread

if you have to walk to your car (like if theres no parking lot like in the french quarter)
keep your garter with your money on your leg. then put your street clothes on over it. keep only 20 bucks on you in your purse/pocket.
theres safety in numbers, leave the club in a group or have a friend meet you there.
call your club when you get in your car and out of the lot and let them know youre safe.

Be careful wearing your garter when you leave the club if you live in Atlanta. It's considered prostitution, even if you're not doing anything. Simply wearing a garter with money on it OTC, even in street clothes, even if you're driving home and doing nothing suspicious, it's considered prostitution. A very stupid law IMO! I still wear a garter anyway, I wear one of those arm garters, secure my money on it and have the money on the under side of my arm, I don't feel safe having a large amount of money in my purse. But thought I'd let the Atlanta girls know about this dumb law and to be careful if you do wear a garter with money on it when leaving the club.

oh.maya.gosh
12-02-2007, 03:08 AM
there are weirdos out there who steal cell phone batteries. it's happened to me. watch your purse.

like others said, trust your instincts!!

oh yeah, and doormen can be assholes. waitresses too, depending where you work and how the pay works (credit cards, etc.). they try to steal your tips at some places. you could get into drama if you don't tip, but i don't tip if i don't feel like anyone merits a tip. i went to this one club and it seemed like you had to tip everyone, whereas other places i worked no one tipped anyone. every club is different.

Crys
01-16-2008, 11:44 PM
These are great tips, but I'd like to add to some of them:
(Not only good for dancers, but for anyone)

-If you are followed home and someone makes it inside while you're there, KILL THE FUCKER... or at least shoot out his knee-caps. No joke. If any intruder is in your home, anything you do is considered self-defense.

As a gun owner and in a state where it's legal to kill anyone who enters your house without permission, don't bother with shooting out kneecaps. When you're faced with a terrifying situation (Like someone you don't know in your house), your "fight or flight" instinct kicks in. People who do not regularly practice with a firearm should not try shooting out anyone's kneecaps or any specific area of the body. Just kill the bastard. The cops will understand. And as my fiance says, "Better to be tried by 12 than carried by 6."

CuriousSeeker
02-20-2008, 07:43 PM
As for a questionable cabby, can't you have the bouncer write down the guy's number in an obvious way before sending you off?

And now for paranoia: has anyone had any trouble with the bouncer who's bringing you to your car? Do you tip him for that? How much?

Don't most clubs let you leave through the kitchen or another employees-only type of door?

What exactly are people feeling comfy leaving in the locker? I guess just street clothes and ID?

Divalicious
03-08-2008, 11:21 PM
Well, how about this...

If you post pictures of yourself... make sure you don't pose in front of or around anything that may look familar to someone. Even if you don't live in that area, I believe that I was able to identify plently of locals that people have said was their home town.

loopycat
03-12-2008, 12:32 AM
This is awesome. Thanks. I am fairly new to the business. It is hard to get someone to help you and take you serious sometimes.

Thank you so much!

Gabrielle MB
03-12-2008, 01:34 AM
[quote=CuriousSeeker;1412494]
And now for paranoia: has anyone had any trouble with the bouncer who's bringing you to your car? Do you tip him for that? How much?

This is my MOST important tip of the night. I tip $5 every night. Alot of girls are bothered by the 'walkers'. I take the lazy ones by the arm and chit chat with them to make sure I get walked ALL the way to my car, not the general area for a 'watch you from here' deal.

elizabethschafer01
03-16-2008, 10:09 AM
I just wanted to say that this was a great thread. Very informative and helpfull for me as a newbie to the biz.

MissValerieK
03-18-2008, 12:05 PM
Wow. Excellent thread! I'm considering auditioning at a club when I move back home in a few months and I'm so glad I found this thread sooner than later!


i wanna add one i've expirenced myself (as the stalker...due to coincidence)...make sure your car is descrete. i know its fun to have alot of bummper stickers or detailing but remember that makes your car stand out..they'll recognize it from the club & maybe wait to see whos it is.

A question: Is a personalized licensed plate too distinct? It's not my name or anything(it's actually the shortened Japanese title of an anime show) but is it still too stand-outish?

VegasPrincess
03-18-2008, 02:06 PM
^^^^

Yes, definitely no personalized plates....

Victoryx0x0
03-27-2008, 09:50 PM
this thread is making me more and more paranoid!!!

VegasPrincess
03-27-2008, 09:55 PM
^^^^

Hahaha. Sometimes a little paranoia is good for the soul.....

Renegade
04-24-2008, 12:20 AM
Holy Shit!!! Here I am just about to audition (in OR), trying to do my homework and now I am kind of scared out of my panties!!

This is the best accumulation of advice I've found anywhere, period. Thank you girls so much for being honest and forthright with your safety tips - a great example of women actually looking out for each other ;)

Does ANYBODY actually make friends at work, or is it just not smart?

And does anybody actually have a good time doing this?? I want to do it because A) I think it would be really fun - get paid to dress up and dance my ass off?! HELL yeah B) I like going to strip clubs anyway - my husband and I go a lot and in Portland they're really fun, and C) I'd like to pay my house off while I go back to school for another degree.

Ladies?

CuriousSeeker
04-24-2008, 12:26 AM
^I can honestly tell you that I have been working for 3.5 weeks and genuinely like my job. In every job, I've come across assholes and sweethearts among clients, and this is no different; however, you're much more prepared by reading as much as you can here.

The reason I like my job is directly tied to the club: good management, supportive staff, and a good DR environment. Not everyone is best friends, but drama and hostility are not part of the background noise in any substantial way that affects my mind set.

Go slow with everyone, much slower than you would in "real life."

If this job is going to make you happy and let you have a house and another degree, more power to you!

AmArticia
05-10-2008, 01:40 PM
One thing I've learned...
Accept the fact that at some point, your shit WILL get stolen. No matter what, it's gonna happen, even if it's just a stick of eyeliner or something. If you loan something out TAKE VALUABLE COLATERAL EQUAL OR GREATER TO THE VALUE OF WHAT YOU LOAN OUT. If somebody wants to borrow some cheap necklace or something off me, I demand a $20 bill. If you want to borrow any of my clothes, you had better give me one of your nicer gowns. Of course you will get it back...when I get MY shit back!

Also, this one was taught to me by my mum...
DON'T CARRY A WEAPON! Anything pointy, spraying, or shooting CAN be taken from you and used against you. A nice little trick is to take your keys and hold them in your fist so that they stick out between your fingers. If you punch someone, this will also be rather stabby!

As for friends at work, it depends. I naturally mistrust anything with tits and a vagina, though I have met some girls that I generally feel are normal and are good people. That said, I try to keep myself from getting to close to any of the other girls. I generally will trust the guys working at my club far more than the girls. All of our DJs are cool guys and most of the bartenders are pretty cool too. This is because they are all assholes to verying degrees...I can trust an asshole far better than a nice guy cause nice guys are the creepy ones. I see assholedom as a good thing.

VegasPrincess
05-11-2008, 03:41 PM
^^^

So by that logic, your keys could be taken away and used as a weapon against you as well. Pepper spray is a GREAT idea, as most of the girls on the forum would agree. The main mistake anyone could make that would potentially result in you being hurt would be to wait to long to use it. If somebody is threatening you, spray them. If you yell, "back off or I will pepper spray you" with no intention of actually spraying it, then of course they will know you have pepper spray and try to grab it from you.

Isis_Devil21
07-24-2008, 02:37 PM
Wow you guys are really full of god advise. I'm so glad to know this. Thank you.

Sveta
07-25-2008, 01:07 AM
^^^^
Yes, definitely no personalized plates....

Also, if you live in one state and work in another, don't tell customers where you really live! I worked at a regular bar in State X, and used to tell customers the truth--that I was from a city in State Y. Until one night I was looking out the window into the parking lot and realized: I was the ONLY car in the parking lot with State-Y license tags. :O

If that's the case, it's WAY too easy for the wrong person to just walk around the lot and find your car if they want info on you.

Lovely Ush
07-26-2008, 12:50 PM
Drinks
- Don't drink too much, customers love to take advantage of new girls especially if they are intoxicated, easy prey.
- Don't let your drink out of your site, it only takes a second to slip something into it
- Bottle water with the lid is the safest drink in a club

Pervs
- Watch a customers body language, clothing choices (sweat pants, jogging shorts, super thin pants, pants with holes on the crotch) these guys are trouble Stay Away!
- Dark corners, private rooms - Watch out for the guy who wants to go to the dark corner, quiet areas away from everyone, put your safety first, screams may not be heard over loud strip club music.
- Remember you are in charge and set the boundaries during a dance, guys love to push new girls into doing more because a newbie doesn't know she can say no or stop.
- If a guy is getting rough or making you uncomfortable Walk Away, the money isn't worth your safety or sanity.
- Don't let guys stick dollars in the front of your panties, they're just trying to get a feel or pull your g- string trying to get a peak of the cookie. Only you touch your panties when accepting tips guys are rough and will pull and tear them (popping stitches in the strings) in their drunken state.

Newbie mistakes
- Never give discounts or free dances, EVER!
- Never set your money down on the table (don't let your money out of your sight, even for a second)
- If you do loose your money get over it and get back to work
- Never gossip, when a customer asks if another dancer is married, has kids, anything, the answer is 'I Don't Know'.
- Don't give out personal information, Ever, invent a cover story.
- Don't sleep with the people you work with it only brings drama.
- Don't ask to borrow body spray, etc. get your own!
- Lock up your stuff!
- Move slow, sexy, & sensual on stage, don't throw yourself all over the place dancing fast

I'm sure I'll add more later.

hot4ablackchick
08-25-2008, 06:15 AM
Yes! Do not date/sleep with anyone that works there. Its really not worth it!

Don't say anything bad about another dancer ever. Never anything even slightly negative. Even if you hate her and you think she's the ugliest woman on the planet, keep it to yourself. Plus you never know who you are talking to. One dancer said something catty about another dancer and the customer she said it to turned out to be the girl's husband! Embarassing, and the other dancer wanted to beat her up when hubby told her what she said.

Don't share underwear, or make up. Ew and you never know what someone has, and it could also make you sick. Just say "Sorry I'm a bit a germaphobe" Its really best NOT to share clothes in general. I wish I had NEVER loaned anyone anything, or borrowed shit from others. Don't loan out your stuff. Build up your stripper wardrobe and keep it to yourself.

Keep to yourself and don't do anything to try piss off the other girls. Mind your own business. Don't complain to management about people, if you do it might get you beat up. Better to get a "feel" for the place before you tell on people.

Don't think your "new girl money" will last forever. Save your cash! Treat yourself, but make sure you have insurance (renters or homeowners, health, dental, and Life if you have kids), that your bills are paid on time, and you save 3 months living expenses ASAP. Then sock away until you have a total of 6 months of living expenses. If your resources are limited, (like you don't have any family that could help you or move in with should something happen to you), then save a years worth of expenses.

Keep your credit good. You never know when you'll need a loan. NEVER co-sign for anybody. Don't. Don't. Don't.

Don't have a few drinks to loosen up. It becomes a bad habit.

Follow the safety precautions on here. Great tips!

hazel_eyes
08-30-2008, 08:38 PM
1. About making friends with other strippers. When I first started, I found that they were as wary of me as I was of them. Everyone thinks the new girl is a thief, liar, or druggie until you prove otherwise. They've seen it too many times. If you want to make friends, make a concious effort to not do anything that would make them think you're a thief, liar, or druggie. Then, take your time getting to know them.

2. If they allow drinking in the dressing room at your club, and someone wants a sot fo what you have, ask for ID. I made the mistake of getting drunk with a girl. I could handle myslelf intoxicated because I know my own limit, but she was stumbling, babbling, and threw up all over me. AND I got in trouble for it because it turned out she was underage. She had told me she was 21 and took her word for it.

3. If you want to try out new pole tricks, have a veteran who is good at it teach you. Most of the time, unless they are really bitchy, they don't mind showing you some generic stuff.

4. Until you master a trick, always have a spotter on stage with you. It will prevent a broken leg, arm, collar bone, etc. Since you have a spotter, you will have to come in before the club opens or stay after they close. Ask if they are ok with that.

5. This has been said, but baby oil is evil. Not only does it endanger you, but it endangers the girls coming up after you. It also endangers you in that, if a girl slips and busts her ass, she will beat yours.

6. Same thing with blood. If you notice blood on the stage from a skinned knee or overloaded tampon, finish your set if you can, just watch out for it. Then, immediately, tell a bouncer or manager so they can clean it up before the next girl goes on stage.

7. Lotion is also evil- if you do floor or pole work, put it on when you wake up in the morning, so it has time to moisturize and it won't make the stage greasy. If you put it on even right before you get to work, sweating will make it greasy again.

Hope this helps!!

Crow2
08-30-2008, 11:44 PM
A can of el cheapo rave hairspray and a lighter.. a ink pen can be used as a weapon. Girls with the acrylics? Don't be scared to break those suckers off in a tender spot. Three bucks in most places can fix that. ( Note: These suggestions are desperation tactics, IE: Your ass is in a corner)

Hands trapped? Elbows, knees and headbutt. It might give you a headache, but you will be safe. Got keys in your hands? I always walked to my car with my keys between my fingers. Just in case. Plus as a last tactic, BE LOUD.

starlightkitty
09-08-2008, 03:14 PM
Woah, you guys are all so helpful! I am new and going to be auditioning at a few places soon and these are all really important things to know! I thought I knew general safety for a female but there were things mentioned here I would have NEVER thought of. Thank you too everyone who posted! I look forward to dancing and doing it SAFELY and SMART. =^.^=

cadenceq
09-10-2008, 03:41 AM
Something that worked for me. Once when I was walking home from a regular office job (way before I'd even considered dancing) two Arabs started following me. Where I live there is a real problem with immigrants attacking white girls, particularly Arabs, so I was scared. This was mid-afternoon, broad daylight, however I knew I had to walk by a massive park known for attacks, so I brought out my cell and "called" saying I'd be home in a matter of minutes. The guys were about 5 metres behind me and heard. Now this is what scared me, they laughed and one guy said "few hours love". I keep my camera in my bag always cos I'm a snap-happy type, so I turned around and took a photo of them then proceeded to actually through the camera through the nearest houses window. They took off like lightning in the other direction. The owners of the house came running out angry as you'd expect, but I explained the situation and they called the police for me. I had to repair the window (didn't care, what's a bit of money over my life?) but the police told me I did the right thing and that attackers only attack if they believe they won't get caught. Why else do you see reports of girls getting raped with witnesses saying they'd seen the main there for hours, he was waiting for a victim. So tip number 1 - Carry a disposable camera, or even a camera phone. That way even if something bad doews happen, they'll catch the f***er.

2 - I catch cabs and I always get these Indian creeps with foul curry breath doing the whole "you strip. Would you have sex for money?". I hate them, I really truelly hate them and they always push the issue. "Please would you, you so pretty", and I don't want any of them knowing my real address, so I catch one cab from the club to a casino about 5 minutes away (and I call right in front of the cabbie to tell my partner I'll be at the Casino in 5 minutes, in cab number whatever with such and such liscence). I still usually get a bit of a "you meet boyfriend now? Can I have your number and you strip for me later?" but they don't do anything cos they think I'm going to meet someone very soon. I also direct what route I want them to take the whole way. I then get to the casino and catch another cab home, so the cabbie with my address just thinks I'm another gambler.

3 - Pick who you dance for and listen to the other dancers/management etc. If a girl says a man touched her, don't dance for him. If management say a man has lot of cash, go hustle. But most of all, be picky, if a man keeps asking "what services?" or says something that makes you feel uncomfortable, don't worry about the money, worry about you.

4. I refuse to dance for non-English speakers because they often don't understand rules, and I don't care if it's discrimination, I'd rather be safe. I made the mistake once on my first night, I took a foreigner to VIP, and while I went to take the room fee to the controller in the room, the man had taken his pants off. The bouncer grabbed him to take him out with the whole time him arguing that he'd paid for his sex and that he was going to have it, and he couldn't understand it was just a dance, so h got thrown out. Lesson learned - only dance for people capable of understanding the rules. That can also extend to very drunk men.

5 - Extend club rules. My club doesn't allowing touching in the g-string area, and that's it. I don't allow touching at all and if they try they get a warning "you touch me again I'll end the dance, now put your hands behind your head and keep them there". That's my favourite, tell them where their hands have to be and if they try again ACTUALLY end the dance.

hazel_eyes
09-13-2008, 07:34 PM
2 - I catch cabs and I always get these Indian creeps with foul curry breath doing the whole "you strip. Would you have sex for money?". I hate them, I really truelly hate them and they always push the issue. "Please would you, you so pretty", and I don't want any of them knowing my real address, so I catch one cab from the club to a casino about 5 minutes away (and I call right in front of the cabbie to tell my partner I'll be at the Casino in 5 minutes, in cab number whatever with such and such liscence). I still usually get a bit of a "you meet boyfriend now? Can I have your number and you strip for me later?" but they don't do anything cos they think I'm going to meet someone very soon. I also direct what route I want them to take the whole way. I then get to the casino and catch another cab home, so the cabbie with my address just thinks I'm another gambler.

Great idea! There is a bar near my club, and I may have to try this the next time I catch a cab! I don't know how many times I've been solicited by a cabbie.

4. I refuse to dance for non-English speakers because they often don't understand rules, and I don't care if it's discrimination, I'd rather be safe. I made the mistake once on my first night, I took a foreigner to VIP, and while I went to take the room fee to the controller in the room, the man had taken his pants off. The bouncer grabbed him to take him out with the whole time him arguing that he'd paid for his sex and that he was going to have it, and he couldn't understand it was just a dance, so h got thrown out. Lesson learned - only dance for people capable of understanding the rules. That can also extend to very drunk men.

Word.

HaloXXX
10-23-2008, 09:56 AM
These are awesome tips!

Thankyou all

Not just for dancers but all women - I believe in carrying pepper spray and never hesitating to use it. But not just carrying it. It's important to learn how to use it first and regularly check to make sure it doesn't expire on you. The mace/pepper spray mix with the dye is best. Get 2 of the brand you're planning on carrying and practice with one outside to see how it works. See how close/far you have to be from an attacker and make sure you can hit the button properly in a panic. Also make sure to aim for eyes nose AND mouth in a zigzag crisscross circular pattern to really get it in there. And DO NOT extend your arm outward to spray an attacker because it can be knocked/grabbed out of your hand and used on you. Keep it close to your body, arm bent in a little, hand up by your shoulder/head. Just don't stand downwind and don't spray yourself. Also if you do spray someone don't stick around trying to kick his/her ass because that's giving the attacker a chance to recover and kick yours. Run fast, get help.

And of course, carry it in your hand with the safety off whenever you're going to your car, not just in scary situations. Make a habit of it so it becomes second nature.

Again thank you for all the tips, esp about the cabbies.

MizzThang
10-25-2008, 08:02 AM
Cant thank u enough for this Thread!!

demonika
10-26-2008, 09:08 PM
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-) Everything is done for personal gain...not personal sabotage! You dance to make money...You drink to___ hurt in the morning? kill your liver?...You do drugs to____ make yourself look 10 years older? kill brain cells?



i just figured this one out. love it..learning to live by it is going to be hard.
(the drinking part..it makes you fat, too.)

work time is not party time. seperate church from state. you can still enjoy yourself but you are at work to make money not boyfriends are party buddies.

VegasPrincess
10-26-2008, 10:44 PM
Something that worked for me. Once when I was walking home from a regular office job (way before I'd even considered dancing) two Arabs started following me. Where I live there is a real problem with immigrants attacking white girls, particularly Arabs, so I was scared. This was mid-afternoon, broad daylight, however I knew I had to walk by a massive park known for attacks, so I brought out my cell and "called" saying I'd be home in a matter of minutes. The guys were about 5 metres behind me and heard. Now this is what scared me, they laughed and one guy said "few hours love". I keep my camera in my bag always cos I'm a snap-happy type, so I turned around and took a photo of them then proceeded to actually through the camera through the nearest houses window. They took off like lightning in the other direction. The owners of the house came running out angry as you'd expect, but I explained the situation and they called the police for me. I had to repair the window (didn't care, what's a bit of money over my life?) but the police told me I did the right thing and that attackers only attack if they believe they won't get caught. Why else do you see reports of girls getting raped with witnesses saying they'd seen the main there for hours, he was waiting for a victim. So tip number 1 - Carry a disposable camera, or even a camera phone. That way even if something bad doews happen, they'll catch the f***er.

2 - I catch cabs and I always get these Indian creeps with foul curry breath doing the whole "you strip. Would you have sex for money?". I hate them, I really truelly hate them and they always push the issue. "Please would you, you so pretty", and I don't want any of them knowing my real address, so I catch one cab from the club to a casino about 5 minutes away (and I call right in front of the cabbie to tell my partner I'll be at the Casino in 5 minutes, in cab number whatever with such and such liscence). I still usually get a bit of a "you meet boyfriend now? Can I have your number and you strip for me later?" but they don't do anything cos they think I'm going to meet someone very soon. I also direct what route I want them to take the whole way. I then get to the casino and catch another cab home, so the cabbie with my address just thinks I'm another gambler.

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These are REALLY good tips! Espcially being a stripper I hate to say this but unfortunately men who wouldn't consider attacking or hurting "regular" girl wouldnt think twice about assaulting us because we are "whores" or"objects" to them. Unfortunately, that is the reality of it. Obviously its wrong and fuck them but be prepared!

LuckyOne
10-27-2008, 03:53 AM
Good thread.

Forever_Fallen227
10-31-2008, 11:14 AM
With the drink thing...even if you have it sitting where no one is supposed to reach it, be careful when drinking it again. I had my drink where I thought no one would get it, but when one of the strippers was going around picking up empty bottles she must have slipped something in my drink then. This was the first time I danced at that club. She ended up putting x in my drink. I didn't realize what had happened till the next day when I was all jittery and "coming down". I was furious! But I just went to work acting like nothing happened but made sure that if I went onstage and I had a beer, I would just toss it. A couple bucks out of my own pocket or the custies, depending on who paid for it, is worth it more than to get mickied.

VegasPrincess
11-19-2008, 01:08 PM
^^

I dont think its the best idea to ride your motorcycle to work, period....

Dottie Rebel
11-19-2008, 06:47 PM
My best advice would be to maintain a healthy suspicion of EVERYONE. No matter how nice or normal someone seems--be it a dancer or a customer--they might not have the best of intentions. Stay alert, stay SOBER, make your safety a priority. Set your own boundaries and stick to them.

brazenpeach
11-19-2008, 09:58 PM
A lot of you posted tips about cars. What about motorcycles? =/ I don't have one as of yet, but I might and I dunno it might be pretty obvious if a motorcycle is sitting outside a club everyday. The good thing about them is you can lose a car fast but someone could look up my plates? Any advice?

I drive a distinguishable big ass truck...a big, honkin, dually. I'd love to be incognito, but it's not possible. And yes, now I am scared to death! I guess in this line of work, you just do all you can do, and accept that there's a certain amount of risk involved. Maybe customers would assume a truck that big, with all the accessories, belonged to a man. Kinda like leaving a pair of big work boots on your doorstep. I think having the remote alarm button handy is a good idea too. If someone wants to harm you, I don't think it matters how inconspicuous your vehicle is.

Anastacia79
11-21-2008, 12:41 AM
make sure your taxi is licensed. independant taxies are like getting in a car with a stranger.

Pretty_Penny
11-25-2008, 12:39 PM
before i posted this i hadn't visited my new (and first!) club yet. turns out they have a garage with valet. maybe this would help too?


you're correct about the motorcycle thing. this is where anyone who has worked there and had a motorcycle has kept it. the valet will be right by it the majority of the time.