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mediocrity
12-12-2008, 07:57 PM
If in doubt, throw him out. If a guy makes you uncomfortable, TELL SOMEONE. Don't just brush it off.
Don't be afraid to be firm or rude if necessary. When I first started, I was pretty meek and I got taken advantage of fairly frequently.
Don't put money in your mouth or in the front of your thong! It's filthy and the guys giving it to you may not wash their hands when they go to the washroom.
Absolutely never do anything you are not 100% comfortable with. If it feels bad in your guts, move on.
Wintre
02-06-2009, 03:56 AM
Firstly, I can admit when I was new, I screwed up on a few of these things...HOWEVER its in the past and its not worth keeping myself up at night now thinking about that one dude I talked about my car with 6 months ago. Realistically, the chances of anything happening to you for breaking one of these rules is low...JUST DONT DO IT AGAIN! It's not worth the risk, but its not worth staying up at night now either.
Another thing though, locate your keys before you go out to your car. At my club there's this one prick bouncer, who not only will just watch you from across the lot, but once I was having difficulty finding my keys and he just got frustrated waiting and left me out in the lot by myself.
Also, I know this isn't entirely in regards to safety in the same sense, but warm up before work! I say this now, as I'm missing a night of work while I have less than $20 in my account and a badly pulled side muscle.
I didn't know the "fake info" thing was common...and here I was thinking I was really clever. I have a typical girls name (my real name is actually uncommon) that I instantly tell custies when they push for my real name. To make it sound more real, I make them promise not to tell anybody and say that I normally don't but I like them or something...and then they feel all flattered.
Finally, if you know personal information about another girl, regardless of how likely it is she can get tracked down by it, or whatever, keep it to yourself. Sometimes in conversation with custies it can be easy to let a dumb bimbo comment out that should be kept to yourself.
alice_island
02-24-2009, 03:05 PM
i'm going to chime in here.
with cell phones, turn it off at work!!! you are there to work. it's more important to keep it working when you are driving home.
DaniMBSC
03-12-2009, 06:55 PM
Random tip. I have short hair and am very recognizable OTC because of it. So I went and bought a wig when I started back dancing. I wear it to and from work and only put it on and take it off at home. So while in public I don't have creeps tryin to talk to me cause I'm that stripper from Derrieres. Especially in these summer months...working at the beach can be frustrating in the summer. Great money...but damn the crazies!
DaniMBSC
03-16-2009, 09:15 PM
Also....always always always check your backseat before you get in your car. You don't know who could be waiting on you.
Kaelyria
04-05-2009, 11:42 PM
*whew* It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one that's paranoid. Great thread. I need to get an answering machine...
~K
Christyismyalias
04-06-2009, 02:12 AM
God how I wish there was something like this when I started dancing!!! I made ALL the mistakes in the book... I fell hard into the lifestyle.. Drinking (every day + underage), drugs (which led to addictions), being out of my mind on booze/substances 24/7 and doing God knows what half the time, sleazy ass bastard photographers, hanging out with dancers who only helped me further down the black hole, partying with anyone, being trusting of EVERYONE, being taken advantage of on SO MANY occasions, being completely naive and ignorant and THE perfect target, not saving (ANY) money... I could go on forever.
It takes a lot of time and pain to learn and heal from those things, save yourself the trouble and take these girls' advice!! I beg you.
This business is genius when treated properly. You can put your life on a one way track to success. But it's easy to do the opposite. Don't let yourself get dragged into the "lifestyle" associated with stripping, b/c the negativity is everywhere and it can drag even the strongest person down!
Girls, READ THIS THREAD and live by it. Dancing is a dangerous world and many times you are emotionally unstable when you get into the business (I am sorry to say it, it is often true). This leads you into danger, especially when you are young and impressionable (and you are, even when you think you know it all). Until you know what you are getting yourself into every night and really understand what people are capable of, you have to take everything with caution. SO MANY people are predators just waiting to take advantage of the girl who doesn't know any better or is fucked up in one way or another (meaning drugs or mentally/emotionally).
We can not stress enough how important being sober is with this job, you will save yourself SO MANY mistakes that you WILL regret later in life.
***Dont sacrifice your MORALS, EVER!!! You will go much further in this business if you can sleep at night knowing you stuck to your guns on your rules and YOUR body***
***IF YOU CAN'T DO THE JOB SOBER, YOU CAN'T DO THE JOB!***
And one more, in regards to your lifestyle outside of dancing..
***SEX is not LOVE*** <~ I wish someone had told me this before I made so many of my mistakes. I slept with people because I needed love and was stupid and thought they were one in the same... They AREN'T!! Many people want to sleep with strippers, be selective and hold your body as your temple<~It is isn't it?
Being a dancer does NOT make you a bad person, hold your head high, do this the right way, and you will go far.
On the other hand, being a stupid crazy druggie whore stripper is a problem, and a DANGEROUS one. Most dancers are loving people wanting love and acceptance, unfortunately the influences in the business are generally negative and you have to have a support group to get through it. I think we are like that for each other on here :)
I wish everyone luck and I've been through a lot so if anyone wants more private advice send me a message. I'm sure as hell no expert but I can tell you what's dangerous and how to heal from it and become stronger, b/c I've been there! :)
Okay Im done! Sorry I am just really passionate about this...I wish someone had been there to guide me. The least I can do is try and help others in the biz stay away from the dangers. It's so easy to fall into things when your new and naive. No one deserves it! Be CAREFUL!
~Otherwise enjoy your job and have fun. If I didn't just scare you away :)
munch
04-07-2009, 06:56 AM
I just danced this last weekend for my first time and I will admit I made several of the "safety" mistakes. I didn't contemplate dancing more than a week or so before I decided to do it and so I scoured this site for as much info as I could but there was no way I could get it all in before my first day. Plus no matter what you "hear", some things you just have to experience before you will understand.
Hopefully the next time I dance I will make fewer of these mistakes. I don't want to live with regret....and it's already hard enough to be ok with what I do for a living...conscience wise anyway. I don't want to be labeled as a "stripper whore" but I have a goal to buy a house for my family and this is the fastest way to do that for them.
Anyway, this thread is wonderful and I'm going to bookmark it to read again before I go to work. That way it will all be fresh on my mind. Thank you all so much.
punky bruiser
04-29-2009, 10:20 AM
hello ladies... moved back east from LA and am looking to work in the VA Beach area. thank you so much for these tips. i had quite a few friends who were entertainers at random clubs in LA, so i'm not COMPLETELY new to the scene- but it's always great to hear more suggestions for newbies.
here's a question for you- i am confident in my moves. walking into a club that has advertised for dancers- what should i expect? bring with me? questions to ask?
any help would be most appreciated. :)
much love,
~punky
NREXM
05-18-2009, 12:57 PM
I'm not sure if this one was mentioned but if your club does not require payment up front, always make sure that you get your money after every $100-$200 a customer spends on you. I've seen so many new girls get ripped off simply because the customer refused to pay, their credit card was declined, or they tried to run away without paying. It's better to lose $100 then $600.
MelitaMalo
05-22-2009, 10:52 AM
Hi everyone .i'm Melita new this site. Definately not the industry.
I have some great tips for beginners/newbies.
(A) Learn by watching and listening, not by direct advice of others,what works for them -may not be for you and advice of other dancers usually ends up in locker room DRAMA! LOL! No really .
(B) do your own negotiating for VIP Rooms . Girls are quick to pimp you out more than your boyfriend after you start that first day of work and come home.They can find everything in the world you need to do with your $$$ and what they need as well.They turn pimps without knowing or do know.
(C) Truly don't go for the outside offers from these clients gasing your head about you're to pretty to be in this industry.this is where you run into phsycho ass whippings and worse.
(D) Don't "BLOW" the floor guy or manager thinking its the way to go on keeping your Job. Becoz the minute you stop. you're out the door and slandered as soon as everyone else finds out (oh and they will) you are instantly the WHORE of the club and every client will want the same "NO dances from you babe .Information provided by other dancers and staff to clients of course.
(FINALLY) the most important of all. BEWARE of the friendly dancer/dancers eager to be your friend"THERE ARE NO FRIENDS IN THE STRIPPER INDUSTRY" they are all their to make $$$$$ same as you"Supposedly" .
So the next girl is your competition at the end of the day . Whos bills are going to get paid and whos are not.
NOW! definately look out for the Lesbian Crew (slash) Pimp Recruiters.
OK. Theres my contribution to the cause "Giggles" Now go get'm girls...
Melita
Another good tips is to make sure that you have a cell phone with you so you can use it for emergencies when you are on your way home.
malayataylor
06-21-2009, 08:55 AM
For those of you that use prepaid phones, ATT, Verizon and Tmoble now have unlimited prepaid calling plans. I use att for $3.00 a day (ony on the days you use your phone. I wouldn't bother with a trac phone...
and as mentioned before..ALWAYS have your phone fully charged before work.
Malaya Taylor
DorianGrey
08-19-2009, 04:28 AM
Firsties. :)
Wow. As someone who is seriously considering dancing, these tips are a great wake-up call and refresher as to what I am about to do.
I look forward to contributing further to the forums.
*DG*
girlygirl21
08-25-2009, 12:30 AM
Heres a few....
1) Theres a bartender where a work that refused to give my customer my drink when he went up to the bar to buy it. She said she never hand guys a a dancer's drink because she doesnt want him slipping something in it. She let him pay for it and when I came up she handed it to me. I thought that that was really smart.
2) Ive had a few guys on different occasions say that they will wait around outside till the club closes for me to get off, after I told them that I have a boyfriend (wink wink). I then tell them that Im dating the bouncer and that usually scares them off (Ive told the bouncer and he says he has plenty of "girlfriends" there)
3) Someone mentioned earlier to not tell a custie what car you drive. If they ask, just say your boyfriend picks you up/bouncer drives you home since you live nearby. I typically dont say another girl-dancer or not, drives me because I dont want him thinking that there is only another gir he has to overtake.
4) When you tell custies about "youself" (your fake name, fake area you live in), try to have some small knowlede about the area-whether you visit it or google it. That way I know what high school to say I graduated from, what area of town I live in etc.
5) Try no to tell custies you live alone-you could say you have a gay male roommate or whatever. I know a girl that was followed almost home (she lives 2.5 hours from the club) b/c she told a guy she lived by herself (she didnt live alone but she didnt want to sound unappealing). Fortunately nothing happened to her.
6) If you ever start to feel really funny-like drowsy all of a sudden (and you didnt take nyquill, etc), tell someone-dj,bouncer, manager) and ask them to keep an eye on you incase someone did mess with your drink.
7) Never let a custie bring you food he's made-I know it sounds dumb but theres a girl a work who had a dude bring her food he cooked. You dont know whats in there. If he want to get you dinner that badly, you can order food and he can pay the deliver dude for the meal.
8) If a guy is asking way too many personal questions just tell him. A lot of times they will back off if they know your uncomfortable. If a dude backs off then I try to make a joke and completely change the subject to something random (i.e. "wow I feel like Im being interrogated or something here. Its like an episode of Law & Order. Do you watch that show). If he doesnt then walk off or dont answer.
9) Always get your money upfront for everything-table dances, VIP's. If he tries something (fingering you), you have the money and you can walk.
10) If a guy is trying to get you drunk and wont take no for an answer-and you only wanted to stop at the first one, tell him your done. If he keeps pushing it I have the bartender make me her "special drink" ( a glass of sweet and sour mix....looks like a mixed drink but its not)
femmefatale88
08-27-2009, 10:59 AM
Also, do not lead a man on to think that he has a shot with you OTC, or anything else (Ie, sex in the VIP), just on impulse and to make a few bucks in the moment. It will backfire on you terribly later on. It is also very risky.
kameryn
10-08-2009, 04:05 PM
Girls that you work with are the worst. They're bitchy, talk shit, will drug you when given the chance, beat you, tell customers lies about you and are just downright mean. No matter how long you've been there.
Don't EVER tell other dancers about our accomplishments...school degrees you just earned, pay raises at your other job, new dog, etc. They'll be jealous and hate on you for it.
Jazelle
05-10-2010, 12:30 PM
Im technically still a newbie but during my short time I have learned this;
if u are going to give customers that you think may become a potential regular, your telephone number I recommend you get a prepaid phone and use it only for the sole purpose of having your customers contact you about coming in to the club on such and such night.
DO NOT give them your main line that u use for family friends business etc. I made the mistake of doing so and man! He texts me every 5 minutes about being in a relationship and what not, I was trying to be polite and say answers that are vague enough to keep him satisfied but he is getting too clingy so I had to just stop texting him.
Just how I found him there are others that will tip just as good. A big thing one must learn early on in this business, sometimes the money just isn't worth it.
kittenbabii
05-21-2010, 09:43 PM
Also....always always always check your backseat before you get in your car. You don't know who could be waiting on you.
as a safety note: you should ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS lock up your car before you enter the building, so as to not find someone hiding in you backseat waiting for you when you go to leave!!!
xxxchili
09-10-2010, 11:19 PM
Im technically still a newbie but during my short time I have learned this;
if u are going to give customers that you think may become a potential regular, your telephone number I recommend you get a prepaid phone and use it only for the sole purpose of having your customers contact you about coming in to the club on such and such night.
DO NOT give them your main line that u use for family friends business etc. I made the mistake of doing so and man! He texts me every 5 minutes about being in a relationship and what not, I was trying to be polite and say answers that are vague enough to keep him satisfied but he is getting too clingy so I had to just stop texting him.
If you don't want to buy another phone you can use this website to send messages without revealing your phone number. Messages can go to your phone, email or stay on the website. Its called dancerdetails.com and its free! You can post pictures or not...completely up to you. I manage all of my customers from it. It has a message blast feature that allows me to send one message to all of my fans.
leila_21
10-10-2010, 08:35 AM
Amazing thread! I feel so much more informed now :) thanks everyone!
xGigi
10-10-2010, 12:15 PM
tipping the lap dance area bouncer was the BEST idea I ever had. I tip him at least 10 dollars every night so whenever I have a lap dance he watches out especially for me. he kicked some guy's ass for trying to put his fingers where they didn't belong while I was facing away from him.
also, I accidentally told a customer what kind of car I drove too when I first started dancing. the bouncer told me to tell customers I drive a blue honda accord so if they decide to find my car and wait for me they'll be surprised to see a big black guy instead of a stripper. (the blue honda is actually one of the bouncer's car LOL)
xGigi
11-27-2010, 03:17 PM
when confronted by an attacker or a customer who just plain creeps you out, KEEP EYE CONTACT. do not look afraid. if you look calm, you'll actually lessen your chance of being attacked.
if you're walking to your car, even if you're with a bouncer, if you see someone in the parking lot looking at you, look right back at him and let him notice you watching him. a guy won't try to sneak up on you if he knows you're aware that he's there. don't glare or give anyone the "don't fuck with me" look though, they'll take it as a challenge.
livingdeadgirl
12-02-2010, 03:14 PM
AND, if you know another stripper is selling drugs, doing extras, etc., do not rat them out to the management. You'll get your ass beat in the parking lot.
hahahhaa
"snitches get stitches"
AmyLynne
12-02-2010, 03:53 PM
Do not I repeat Do not tell the blue guys where you work.. you wouldnt want the vast majority of them to visit you and write about you on the blue side!
AnotherBruisedPeach
02-14-2011, 02:15 PM
How do you know differentiate between a "safe club" with good security/ management and an unsafe club??? I was just reading the "rape thread" It's awful what those women went through. I'm going to do my best to make sure that is not me.
vue21849
02-18-2011, 09:14 PM
My worst character flaws is I'm too outspoken, and although I don't mean to be; sarcastic. Sorry to say, but my mouth invited me a couple of ass beatings by those who took what I said in the wrong vain. Remember, ladies, this is still a business, and not a social club. Watch your back, use your intuition, and steer away from trouble, instead of into it! I'd advise, if you meet a coworker, whom you consider your best "bud"- hang together as the troublemakers will avoid having to tangle with the both of you. Clear you're head of the emotional baggage before working as a dancer ex- like coming to work fresh off a divorce! When your heads a mess, the whole world will be looking to take advantage of your vulnerbilities. My biggest mistake was passing up bouncer escort to my car, because Im felt I could handle myself. It just didn't work out that way for me as I was surrounded by 3 men , and raped. Thank God the bouncers, whom were escort other girls, came to my rescue.
AnotherBruisedPeach
02-28-2011, 09:41 PM
The DJ told me that the dancers tip the dj 10 percent and the door man 5 percent?
What do you all think? How much do you tip?
oh.maya.gosh
02-28-2011, 10:40 PM
The DJ told me that the dancers tip the dj 10 percent and the door man 5 percent?
What do you all think? How much do you tip?
Yikes. Hells to the no.
Here, some girls tip the DJ because they want to (like $5 to $20 depending on how many shows you do, how accommodating or helpful he is, etc.), but many do not; he's just doing his job. If the DJ does you a favour, like moves your show for you, then that warrants a tip. How much money do you make per show? You think the DJ deserves that whole amount, or even more? For what? Playing your CD or double clicking a song in iTunes? Saying your name in the "stripclub DJ voice"? You're the one up there working it. Sounds like that DJ is trying to exploit a new dancer. If a DJ got 10% from every girl then they'd be making more than all the girls there. That's insane. He's telling you that because you're new and it sounds like you'd believe it.
Same with bouncers. If they help you out, show your appreciation so they do it again, but don't just randomly tip them if they don't help you out. If you don't tip them, they may not help you again if you need it. If they get you your money from a customer that is giving you some problems—money that you wouldn't be able to get without their help—then tip them, they deserve it, but not necessarily percentage-wise... Just go with what you feel is right, depending on how much they helped, the amount, etc. Ask several other girls you work with to get an idea of what's customary where you work.
Remember that the DJ's job is to play your music and the bouncer's job is to keep guys in check. If they go above and beyond the call of duty, that warrants a tip. Use your discretion.
AmazingAmazon
04-17-2011, 02:32 AM
1. Other dancers in the club are NOT your friends. They are competition and jealously does happen e-v-e-r-y night which could result in drama, fights, shit-talk, and much more!
2. Don't trust any dancer, manager, staff, waitress, house mom, etc. in this business! Just because they are nice, doesn't make them your best friend!
3. Withhold all and any personal information. (Address, real name, car. etc.)
4. If you have a nice car, park in the front of the club, or a well-lighted area and always try to keep watch if you can. YOU WILL BE SURPRISED TO SEE AT WHAT LENGTHS JEALOUS DANCERS AND ANGRY CUSTOMERS WILL GO TO F*CK UP YOUR PERSONAL PROPERTY/LIFE.
5. Never ever talk about another dancer to a customer, whether it be good or bad information.
6. Remember, you did not come to make nor friends NOR enemies at your job!
7. Lastly, DON'T BE "NICE", BE RESPECTFUL!
luxi_kitty
05-12-2011, 07:27 AM
Awesome thread---took me like an hr to read everything and soak it all in O_O
hehe
i have a question..
has anyone had a situation where they put all their belongings such as keys, money, etc in their luggage and then had it the WHOLE bag stolen from a dancer?
Or anyone had a problem with dancers/customers vandalizing/stealing their vehicle?
^^**anyone can just wait in the parking lot watch til u come to work or leave work and know what kind of vehicle u drive..im just fearful of any bitches fucking up my transportation to get home..thus leaving me to stay at the club after hours or something!!
peachpretty
05-14-2011, 03:11 AM
Wow this is pretty scary stuff. I'm new here and this is actually my first post. I'm not a stripper(yet) but I also have safety advice. NEVER FALL FOR THE BABY IN A CAR TRICK. My mother had this one good friend who was driving at 2 am when she noticed a car out in the middle of the road. She didn't get out of her car till she noticed a child alone in the back seat. Instead of driving on and calling the cops she got out the car in a panic...and never noticed the 6 men hidden in the shadows. They never caught the guys. So BE CAREFUL guys!
talyia
06-03-2011, 04:22 PM
all these tips are great!!!now if just can get past the hired stage!!!
mistresscyn
08-02-2011, 06:36 PM
Okay, the real tips are great. The "urban legends" though need to quit.
-Start saving immediately for an "emergency fund." The best advice I ever got is: as soon as you start dancing, try to save 3 months worth of bills. For example, take what you'd pay for rent, utilities, credit cards, food, gas during a whole month and multiply it by three. The reason for this is, obviously we work with our bodies; they are our money-making machines. If the machine is broke, there is no money to be made. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to sprain and ankle (a MINOR injury compared to others).
Happened to me twice while dancing, and I was unable to return back to work for a month. Even when I returned, I had to dance barefoot before my ankle would support me in heels again. Without any fall-back "emergency" money, an injury can be a financial mess. Three months worth of bills saved up gives you ample time to recover from many illnesses/injuries without sweating about your finances.
My former neighbor was a dancer, and she needed (and still needs) this advice like whoa.
I think I could write an entire e-book based around all the things she did, that NO dancer should do. (Please girls, lock YOUR HOUSE UP at night, it's better than sleeping with a kitchen knife for personal protection.
And if you're going to get a boob job, do what the Doctor tells you. Which means, don't smoke and take your antibiotics. Otherwise, you're kissing $10k goodbye for no reason.
Nobody who can make "$1k a night" should have 2 month's past due 'Rent-a-Center' furniture.
Also, cops are not always our friends. If you are stopped by a so called police officer at night, ALWAYS ask to see some ID.
NEVER, EVER get out of your car at night ( if your broke down ) to walk to where ever you need to go and never EVER stop on the side of the road for anything other than a legitimate police officer.
You're perfectly within your rights to call a 911 if a cop asks you to pull over and you're worried about whether or not they're a real cop. The operator can call police dispatch and tell you whether or not the guy behind you is real or not, and send HELP if he's a psycho.
And if you're worried about REAL cops raping you, it'll also negate that because 911 dispatch WILL KNOW who just stopped you!
In addition to saving as much as you can..have an escape plan. You cant dance forever. Even if you wouldnt mind being 50 and still shaking it..you never know when you will get sick or injured and cant dance anymore. Go to school, invest, start a side business...something that can support you when you stop dancing.
Or you'll end up like my former neighbor who is aging badly and my family suspects is now doing porn.
MiaStarr
08-09-2011, 12:12 PM
i have a question..
has anyone had a situation where they put all their belongings such as keys, money, etc in their luggage and then had it the WHOLE bag stolen from a dancer?
I've just started dancing so haven't had anything stolen - yet. My first shift was on Sunday and as I was parking my car it occurred to me that it may be a very good idea to not bring my house-keys with me (fortunately my husband is at home so I won't be locking myself out). So when I got home I removed the car key from my key-ring, just in case a scenario like the one described above ever happens.
Also, at our club, management wants everyone to park on the street side of the parking lot because it gives the appearance that the club is doing good business, but it's also a lot safer for dancers than parking at the back.
Janegirl1988
08-23-2011, 03:11 AM
wow, got lots information, great post!!
Farrah_Golden
09-16-2011, 01:17 PM
I have a million of these, but a few have really stuck out for me.
-When you leave the club, carry your shoes in one hand and in the other, ball up your fist with your car. Key poking out. In a bind, a stiletto spike or key can do serious damage if you sink it into someone's eye.
-Always have your purse organized, so if you DO carry a weapon, you can find it. Do NOT get caught fumbling for your pepper spray.
-Carry a fully charged cell phone AND MAKE SURE 911 is registered to your area. In other words, be sure when you call the police dispatcher, its not one in the next town over! This happened to me. They wasted 10 precious minutes trying to patch me over to the correct district.
-If you can afford it, take a cab back and forth or ride with other trusted dancers. Your home address can be obtained by copying down your license plate number! So keeping your car vague isn't always enough.
-if you DO carry a gun in your car, know how to use it, be ready to use it and be ready to kill. Shooting out his kneecaps will not ensure your safety and there's no point in carrying it if you can't use it.
-do not wear any jewelry of any kind. Not even cheap walmart jewelry. They don't always know the difference.
-tip your bouncers VERY well! Especially if they had to deal with some creep for you. Your safety is priceless!
-IF you are assaulted outside, scream your head off and run. Do not cooperate; their goal is to get you somewhere no one can hear you.
-check under your car and in the backseats, especially if you're pumping gas. Creeps will crawl under your car and wait for you.
-Always wear your seatbelt. If someone manages to get into your passenger seat, slam on the gas and drive into your nearest building. Sounds crazy, I know. The seatbelt and airbag will protect you, but he will go through the windshield.
-Always have a full or half full tank of gas
-If you are being followed, stay on the main roads and go to the police station or call 911.
-If you're not sure if you're being followed, pull into a gas station, sit by the pump with your car on and wait. He'll pull up behind you.
-Fear is your best weapon! Be afraid! I personally do not like the idea of carrying any concealed weapon because it gives a false sense of safety. Trust no one and be afraid of everyone. Fear is there for a reason and if you snuff it out, you're putting yourself in danger.
Meadowlicious
10-19-2011, 09:37 AM
LOL Dejavue all over again. Hi ladies this is an amazing, but VERY true thread. I was a dancer for 4 yrs. I have a tip of my own i'd like to share:
When you are doing lots of dances for a customer, always get your money up front or after every few dances. I have been burnt a few times with this one. Yeah most of clubs have bouncers that keep up with the number of dances each performer does, but they can sometimes get busy.
I done maybe 20 dances for one custmer pretty much back 2 back ($10.00 table dances). Because i did so many (and the girls are responsible for keeping up with there table dances) dances I had lost track and was unable to prove just how many we had done. He handed me $80.00 and walked out. There was nothing i could do either.
Just remember to get your money either up front or after each couple of dances.
CarmenAmazing
10-25-2011, 09:46 AM
Everything I've read is great. Just to add a few.
1) Avoid stopping anywhere close to work after your shift, some customers may follow you if you stop down the street.
2) Always pay attention when you are driving home, if it seems like that car has been behind you for too long, it may be someone following you, this is usually easier to watch when you leave late, I'm usually one of the only cars on our cities major interstate.
3) if you chose to carry a bag (I do) always throw it in the middle of your stage, out of arms length from the outside of the stage.
4) Throw all your tips to the middle of the stage, once again, out of grabbing range. If you have a big tip on stage (I've had guys give me 20's, 50's, and 100's) always keep them on you til your set is over.
5) Keep your entire personal life vague. I don't talk about anything personal with the other girls and with customers I have a fake "real name", I have another job, but I tell them its a different store from where I really work, and to them I live on the opposite side of town from where I really live. The only tip to this is know your lies, people talk and you don't want to get caught up.
6) Its best to work far from where you live unless your ready to see people you know (its really awkward) and you don't mind people knowing you strip, this includes your parents, once again, people talk.
CarmenAmazing
10-25-2011, 10:02 AM
The DJ told me that the dancers tip the dj 10 percent and the door man 5 percent?
What do you all think? How much do you tip?
At my club, the DJ does get 10 percent, some girls undertip, I don't because all of our DJ's are sweethearts to me and they all play my favorite songs for me or my style of music for every one of my sets. Remember a good or bad DJ can make or break your night. We tip our bar staff 5 percent, they probly get a little more than that from me because I don't have people buy my drinks, but I tip $2 every time I get a free pop. Hardly any of our girls tip the door man, but in my opinion, he is my favorite person in the club, cause if shit goes down, he's the one who's got my back. I give him at least $5-$10 every night, this is also why he carries my bag and walks me out to my car, unlocks the doors, and checks the front and back seats before I can get in. For girls who don't tip he walks out to their car, doesn't carry anything, and watches them get in, that's it. I like and appreciate my little extra safety, it's well worth the money.
gypsydancer
11-06-2011, 03:48 AM
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Miss Chevious
01-13-2012, 12:02 AM
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maryjohnson
04-03-2012, 04:05 AM
*snip*
Laurisa
04-03-2012, 12:19 PM
I have a vanilla job so I want to lessen my chances of being recognized, but it works really well for leaving the club too (you look different than when you were dancing if a custy sees you).
You can wear a hat when you leave the club, I recommend a beanie because it won't narrow your field of vision (so you can see someone coming).
Wear a jacket to cover your shirt in case a customer saw what you were wearing when you went to smoke.
Always have your keys in your hand. If you smoke put your cigs and lighter in your pocket so you have a free hand.
I always have my knife in my hand (concealed in my pocket with my finger on the tab to draw) when I'm walking, and my other hand holding my key.
I put my glasses on when I leave the club (but don't wear them at work anymore) so I'm less recognizable.
Walk with a bouncer.
Pay attention to your surroundings. Try to park close to the door or a street light.
You could ask a dancer you trust to park near your car whenever you both work so you can walk together with the bouncer, strength in numbers.
Once you get in your car make sure you lock the door immediately. A key fab will make this quicker. Don't unlock your car with the key fab until you are right next to it (someone could sneak in the other side).
Don't put stickers on your car that advertise you are a stripper.
Don't leave papers visible that say your name or address on them anywhere in your car, people can peek in and see them.
Don't have a personalized license plate, it's easy to remember.
Limit bumper stickers as they make your car identifiable in the future (someone with a grudge could come back and pop your ties, key your car, etc).
If you think you are being followed:
Call 911 immediately
Go to the nearest police station
Go to a 24 hour store, park right next to the door, go inside
Stay on well lit roads, try to go somewhere busy immediately.
lifetravelergirl
04-03-2012, 10:17 PM
Do not I repeat Do not tell the blue guys where you work.. you wouldnt want the vast majority of them to visit you and write about you on the blue side!
What are the blue guys?
Laurisa
04-04-2012, 07:48 AM
^^Male members on this website, typically customers but there are DJs, bouncers, lawyers, web cam guys, etc on here too
They have their own part of the website.
Djoser is a male moderator, for example. He's fine to talk to though, you don't have to be scared of them, just keep some information private because the internet is still a public place that's all.
Jungle Julia
06-12-2012, 04:26 AM
Such great info. thanks to everyone.
I have a question. I'll be starting soon and I was wondering if things were predominantly different at Canadian clubs. Most of the people on this site are american and I've heard American clubs are very violent and different. Anyone here have experience in both countries?
litttlemama12
07-03-2012, 02:42 PM
Im going to apply at a club for the first time, thanks to a shitty ecomimy, and a baby boy to take care of, this was EXTREAMLY helpful for what not to do. THANK you for posting this!!! One girl I befriended was going to show me the ropes and get me a job, now Im thinking not such a good idea!! Especially because she knows my real name and general location.
Kyuuipo
07-24-2012, 05:21 AM
OMG I so agree! I used to have a customer that later turned into a sugar daddy and let me tell you in the end the situation did not go so well and he became very controlling! Its better to have a "regular customer" than a sugar daddy that can turn on you and in the end (possibly) having way too much personal info.
PussInBoots
09-16-2012, 02:56 PM
Best advice out of them all....if you can't do it sober, then you shouldn't do it at all. Most bad situations you can get into can be avoided and forseen if you're not intoxicated...and most stage falls prevented too!