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Sirona
02-06-2007, 11:59 AM
I was a respite care provider for mentally handicapped kids for a few years. I loved those kids to death as did thier parents.

However...

I can't imagine being in the parents shoes. To know that a lot of these kids really don't have much in the way of quality of life has got to be a heartbreaking thing. I'm sure there is a lot of self blame too.

It's a tough situation all around.

I want to add I have a brother with a physical handicapp so I lived with it first hand (he's fine mentally and is 100% autonomous) and know a lot of the shit that goes along with it.

rozz
02-06-2007, 01:21 PM
My mother is a speech pathologist and works at an early intervention center. From the stories I've heard, there are some wonderful parents who draw together and raise their disabled child very well. Their relationship grows stronger because of it.

More often, it breaks a family. The parents blame each other, the mother blames herself, the father thinks there was something he could have done. It's costly and hard... on everyone.

I know there are no absolutes, I know that the tests aren't completely accurate. Still, if I test told me that my fetus was damaged, I would abort. I could not handle that much hardship.