View Full Version : Beautiful Black Exotic Dancers...Lets keep it Gully (real)
Circe
03-20-2007, 01:55 PM
I wanna chime in and second the Arm&Hammer toothpaste. My teeth are so much whiter in just a few days.
xBlackBettyx
03-20-2007, 04:28 PM
LMAO girl who you telling! I was thinking the same thing. Betty, how much you selling that for girly :P
50 bucks, I could get rid of a few inches >.< And I have tig ole bitties! Those may have to go though, I'm hoping for breast reduction.
cinammonkisses
03-20-2007, 09:54 PM
50 bucks, I could get rid of a few inches >.< And I have tig ole bitties! Those may have to go though, I'm hoping for breast reduction.
*CK writes a check for $50 to Betty* :writing:
Girl, if you are still trying to dance, I suggest you keep both the ass and tits. I would buy the tits off you too but I got enough of those beauties 38DD ;D
Susan Wayward
03-21-2007, 09:42 AM
I'm 36-25-38, I'm a size 12 on a good day.
Really? I'm 38-27-28 and a size 6-8. But you have a smaller waist than me, so how is that possible? How is is possible at all to be a sz 12 with a 25" waist, 'cause that is pretty damn small.
layka
03-21-2007, 09:45 AM
Really? I'm 38-27-28 and a size 6-8. But you have a smaller waist than me, so how is that possible? How is is possible at all to be a sz 12 with a 25" waist, 'cause that is pretty damn small.
My thighs don't end....they're huge.dramatic.and never fit into anything except size 12 jeans:-\ lol. I have to get my jeans tailored, I buy them to fit my thighs and butt, then have them taken in at the waist. The only jeans that come close to fitting w/o a gap is House of Dereon.
layka
03-21-2007, 10:15 AM
How do we as a society acknowledge the past wounds, yet move on and embrace the future? What is it that I need to learn as a women of color from white people, and what are the lessons for white people that we may have to share. Tempers are flowing over, and THAT'S why I introduced this thread, as a means to get shit off of your chest.
LilSweetVixen
03-21-2007, 10:17 AM
I have never felt out as a black woman.
Then maybe you're not dark.
I went to a mostly white, all-girl high school
well there it is, it was an all-girl high school.
So I don't see how being white or having light skin is some type of guarantee for feeling like you are hot.
In a book I read on the topic, written by a bi-racial woman, she said that in her interviews with light and dark skinned women, despite some of their issues, NONE of the light skinned women expressed a wish to be darker while ALMOST ALL of the dark skinned women expressed a yearning to be lighter.
A lot of mixed men have deep insecurities about their masculinity and this is something that you have not brought up.
Yes but it's a reality that has occurred to me. If you can acknowledge this, why can't you acknowledge that logically speaking dark skinned women have deep insecuirities about their femininity? These outweigh those of light skinned men because appearance is more of a female burden. One woman in a documentary on the topic was in therapy for 15 years over her dark skin and still felt pain.
I don't see why you should care what cheesey pop groups should have anything to do with your decision to have offspring.
Well I witnessed a full grown woman break down and cry because she felt so ugly after seeing the movie Mo' Money. The love interest was light skinned with blond locks and the girl who everyone was supposed to consider ugly and laugh at was dark skinned with a broad nose. She said she thought the ugly girl looked like her and it still killed her. So whether or not I pay attention to the media, there's no guarantee that my child who is someone else won't. I am appalled by the level of denial about the reality of colorism. That's just as bad as denial over racism. It just goes to show that black people like to feel immune from any self-criticism due to the fact that they deal with racism.
LilSweetVixen
03-21-2007, 10:36 AM
TracyCharm, those problems you mentioned don't affect black teens as much as whites- but they are on the rise. It just doesn't get as much attention. People always assume black girls are cool with being 'big' yadda yadda and that anorexia is a white woman's disease. Extremely incorrect. As more young ladies of color fall victim to the beauty standard, the problems will expose themselves and many will act confused although it has been there all the time.
It's not just LSV who points out the preferential treatment of mixed kids. I have a friend who interns at a popular child magazine. She told me a while back that after ther blonde hair blue eyed kids, the casting people are going crazy over the mixed children. They actually began seeking them out....and they are a new 'fad'. She told me this 4 or 5 years ago and it still hasn't let up. They are basically 'it kids'. How they deal with that label I guess comes down to their parents and how they are raised.Some parents focus too much on looks which will give them a complex, and some won't suffer those problems.
Optimist wrote something I was thinking while reading the thread, about how white women seek out certain traits they think are beautiful but no one calls them out for it...why is that?
THANK YOU. My white aunt got with my uncle just to have a mixed kid. She didn't want to marry him, only wanted to have him impregnate her so she could have a mixed kid. Luckily he's a good guy and decided he wanted to stick around and be a father to the child. And now he IS the IT kid, the one everyone says should model.
LilSweetVixen
03-21-2007, 10:49 AM
Optimist, thank you for being the voice of reason. I have a question for those who don't believe in evolution and think they only marry for love and not to have provide their children with the most socially accepted set of traits: would you marry a man who was short knowing you may have short sons? And then give them a bullshit lecture about loving themselves?;)
lexXe
03-21-2007, 11:20 AM
Optimist, thank you for being the voice of reason. I have a question for those who don't believe in evolution and think they only marry for love and not to have provide their children with the most socially accepted set of traits: would you marry a man who was short knowing you may have short sons? And then give them a bullshit lecture about loving themselves?;)
Here's the thing, I don't see my skin as a shortcoming, I see it as a blessing in fact, I think I look better in the summer when I'm darker!!! I'm a true black woman and I've alway felt like the "It girl" because I've always gotten the man I wanted (regardless of race) and I've always felt extremely sexy and attractive. I wouldn't change anything on my face, I love my full lips, high cheeks bones, cute nose and cat eyes!! Being this complexion has not prevented me from living a good life, I'm dating the most wonderful man, I go to an amazing school, I have a wonderful group of friends who are different races, job opportunities keep rolling in and I'm happy!!! So the point I'm trying to make is that it is possible to be my complexion and feel hot or like the IT girl!!
Optimist
03-21-2007, 11:54 AM
LilSweet--what is up with your PM box? I realize you're a celebrity now but....CLEAN IT! :)
layka
03-21-2007, 12:08 PM
Here's the thing, I don't see my skin as a shortcoming, I see it as a blessing in fact, I think I look better in the summer when I'm darker!!! I'm a true black woman and I've alway felt like the "It girl" because I've always gotten the man I wanted (regardless of race) and I've always felt extremely sexy and attractive. I wouldn't change anything on my face, I love my full lips, high cheeks bones, cute nose and cat eyes!! Being this complexion has not prevented me from living a good life, I'm dating the most wonderful man, I go to an amazing school, I have a wonderful group of friends who are different races, job opportunities keep rolling in and I'm happy!!! So the point I'm trying to make is that it is possible to be my complexion and feel hot or like the IT girl!!
:highfive:
layka
03-21-2007, 12:16 PM
Optimist, thank you for being the voice of reason. I have a question for those who don't believe in evolution and think they only marry for love and not to have provide their children with the most socially accepted set of traits: would you marry a man who was short knowing you may have short sons? And then give them a bullshit lecture about loving themselves?;)
YES!!!! If you truly practice loving blindly then if the man you thought was your soulmate was short u would give him up!!??!!! I'm in love with a guy shorter than me, been together for years, and to not marry him on account of his shortcomings (pun intended) is downright selfish! You don't determine your offsping, me and my short man can have a 6'5 white son if nature decides to play the reccessive gene card.
Height vs race is oranges and apples, I call bullshit!
You know what, the shit that's ironic about this situation is that alot has came to light. It's funny how I never questioned my beauty as a darker sistuh until I met YOU, another sistuh. When I say question I don't mean feeling slighted, I mean I never considered myself "out' ( how lame::) ) until mentioned by another woman of color. That's real strange. I was trying to encourage YOU, not lecture you, I was trying to show you some love, but phuck that b/c u seem to not want to show any love back to a 'darkie". If we as a race are uncomfortable with our own differences, how the hell can we expect others to treat us with equality. You were the one preaching about confidence, yadda, yadda, yadda, and now u have the audacity to attempt to make others feel "out" because they're dark. WELL THANKS LilSweetVixen, you just set us back at least thirty years. You have never mentioned ONCE the beauty that dark women possess, yet I went out of my way to try to build you up. I'm over it, and I'm dissapointed in you. This ain't about your future kids, now this ish is getting personal!
Miss_Luscious
03-21-2007, 12:16 PM
I'm a true black woman
I am very glad you feel confidant and sexy. However, it's comments like this that make me as a lightskinned sista feel bad. I've never been a "true" black woman because I am so light. I am the lightest person in my family. I am often ostratized by blacks and whites because I do not fit anywhere. I've been called all types of names and my blackness had been called into question many many times. It's hurtful. I know you didn't mean it that way but please remember that light skinned sistas want to be regarded true black women as well!
layka
03-21-2007, 12:23 PM
THANK YOU. My white aunt got with my uncle just to have a mixed kid. She didn't want to marry him, only wanted to have him impregnate her so she could have a mixed kid. Luckily he's a good guy and decided he wanted to stick around and be a father to the child. And now he IS the IT kid, the one everyone says should model.
^^^ That's shallow man. Your child can be the "IT" kid regardless of who's the daddy. All you're going to end up doing is projecting your self hatred onto your future children and end up fucking them up. Who cares about appearance, cute babies, and being "IT" if your child ends up depressed and confused b/c mommie don't have her self image and self worth together. Well, he'll be one fine ass lunatic, and all of the future poor dark babies will envy him ::) Come on, stop avoiding the issue of self hate with cunning remarks. You keep trying to sugarcoat your problems, and compare it to more trivial mate deciding factors like "height". Well, guess what, I'd take being 4'1 anyday over having a mother who wouldn't be able to teach me to love myself.
I said it before, and I'll say it again. Parents are always concerned about the outside world and how their kids will be treated, but development and self love starts at home.
In the end, fucked up parents can do the child more harm than anyone else in this world.
lexXe
03-21-2007, 02:52 PM
I am very glad you feel confidant and sexy. However, it's comments like this that make me as a lightskinned sista feel bad. I've never been a "true" black woman because I am so light. I am the lightest person in my family. I am often ostratized by blacks and whites because I do not fit anywhere. I've been called all types of names and my blackness had been called into question many many times. It's hurtful. I know you didn't mean it that way but please remember that light skinned sistas want to be regarded true black women as well!
Sorry if I made you feel bad, that was not my intention :)
Just because I say I'm a true black woman doesn't mean you aren't!!! When I say this I'm saying I have 100% self acceptance and I stay true to who I am.
My mother's very very light and she's a true black woman!!
JustJayda
03-22-2007, 04:53 PM
, but phuck that b/c u seem to not want to show any love
lol, we're wearing off on each other;D Its PHucking great!
K, back on topic;)
layka
03-23-2007, 11:59 AM
lol, we're wearing off on each other;D Its PHucking great!
K, back on topic;)
I thought of you when I wrote it;D ;) *giggles and blushes*
TracyCharm
03-23-2007, 01:52 PM
Then maybe you're not dark.
well there it is, it was an all-girl high school.
In a book I read on the topic, written by a bi-racial woman, she said that in her interviews with light and dark skinned women, despite some of their issues, NONE of the light skinned women expressed a wish to be darker while ALMOST ALL of the dark skinned women expressed a yearning to be lighter.
Yes but it's a reality that has occurred to me. If you can acknowledge this, why can't you acknowledge that logically speaking dark skinned women have deep insecuirities about their femininity? These outweigh those of light skinned men because appearance is more of a female burden. One woman in a documentary on the topic was in therapy for 15 years over her dark skin and still felt pain.
Well I witnessed a full grown woman break down and cry because she felt so ugly after seeing the movie Mo' Money. The love interest was light skinned with blond locks and the girl who everyone was supposed to consider ugly and laugh at was dark skinned with a broad nose. She said she thought the ugly girl looked like her and it still killed her. So whether or not I pay attention to the media, there's no guarantee that my child who is someone else won't. I am appalled by the level of denial about the reality of colorism. That's just as bad as denial over racism. It just goes to show that black people like to feel immune from any self-criticism due to the fact that they deal with racism.
You are assuming that I am a light skinned female in denial about colorism. That is far from the truth. I am not light skinned and I admit colorism is a huge problem, but instead of just laying down and deciding to take it, I question it and don't really give it much validity in my life. There are several other non-light black women on this thread who love their skin and even prefer to be darker. I have also met women with light skin who have gone through similar things that Miss_Luscious have (including my two best friends who are both biracial women.)
I am not denying the pain that some black women go through, but if a grown woman is in tears because of the movie Mo Money than she has more issues than can be solved on a message board and seriously needs to get some help. You really think biracial and/or light people have easier lives yet no one has posted any evidence that's the case or that biracial/light people ae some how immune from self confidence and self hate issues.
As for having short kids, if I met a dwarf who treated me like gold hell ya I would have kids with him.
Ok, back on topic ;D
layka
03-26-2007, 09:20 PM
I haven't been back to this thread in a grip, lol. I was just so fuckin disturbed (yep, I'll admit it) that even amognst a group of black dancers we still discriminate towards each other, or ourselves to a degree. But, I can understand what Lilsweetvixen is saying, although I may not agree with it.
Anyhoo, does anyone have RECENT good money maker locations for WOC?
I worked briefly in greensboro at a Christies Cabaret, they were WOC friendly and the couple of months that I worked there I averaged at least $800 a week. The club is so gorgeous, and the custies memberships are $300-$600 a year. Women HAD to be accomponied by a gentlemen, and they served awesome food during the day. The location of the club was great as well. It was located off of a busy road that sits just off the highway.
cinammonkisses
03-26-2007, 09:31 PM
I worked briefly in greensboro at a Christies Cabaret, they were WOC friendly and the couple of months that I worked there I averaged at least $800 a week. . How many shifts/week did you work? How many hours?
layka
03-26-2007, 09:35 PM
How many shifts/week did you work? How many hours?
I worked at least four shifts a week, hours were always at least six. But on Fridays I did doubles. And you can make a KILLING!!!! during A&T homecoming. It's a very large black homecoming, it's gigantic. Just think bike week, freaknik 5x rolled into one weekend. That's one of the most lucrative weekends to work as a WOC when headed south.
Optimist
03-27-2007, 01:43 PM
What's A&T homecoming and when is it held?
How is Atlanta in the summer? I'd love to dance in a city with a lot of professional black guys!
PleasureVictim
03-27-2007, 02:40 PM
When I lived in NC, college homecomings were HUGE events. People would drive from all over the state just to check out the shows and after parties. I'm not surprised that the dancers in that city would be making so much cash. A&T homecoming is mid September I believe.
I heard Atlanta is slower in the summer....but I doubt many of the dancers are starving around then.
Emiliana
03-30-2007, 01:26 AM
My input may not be relevant to the discussion but I kinda wanted to chime in about being mixed and not being accepted. I'm acadian and mexican but came out looking like a tanned white girl with "ethnic" features if that makes sense.
Most of my family have more mestizo/indigena coloring and it makes me sad that they don't accept me. My uncle even told me once that i was a "white kid" and I didn't belong in the family. He's an asshole yeah but it hurt like a motherfucker. It makes me sad because it feels like I'm not even allowed to enjoy my beautiful culture and heritage because I'm too light...most other mexicanos don't even believe me when i tell them i'm mixed.
I don't know it just sucks. It upsets me when i see people that assume you can only be a part of a raceif you look like a cookie cutter example of said race..which is a bullshit term anyway(don't flame me but I have always firmly believed that race is a social construct..it has no scientific basis(in the way that it categorizes people...people are people are people..we all shit, eat breathe, die etc. It was just Darwin theory misunderstood and used by the white elite to justify their ignorance. I had always been taught that skin pigment and features were an adaptation to regions..i.e. having darker skin comes from having ancestors that lived in regions where the sun was stronger etc...same thing as animals who live underground have no need for pigment cause they arent exposed to uva/uvb rays and so on...phew that a whole other thread but i hope I'm coming across right)
Anyway I feel like I'm threadjacking/possibly making an irrelevant post so I'll wrap it up. I've noticed that sometimes I'm too ethnic to be white and too white to be hispanic...so where does it leave me. I don't want to give up my heritage based on something as retarded as pigment but it feels like I'm always in a sort of limbo.So to the mixed girls do you ever feel like you aren't accepted by either race?
cinammonkisses
03-30-2007, 07:29 AM
I had always been taught that skin pigment and features were an adaptation to regions..i.e. having darker skin comes from having ancestors that lived in regions where the sun was stronger etc...same thing as animals who live underground have no need for pigment cause they arent exposed to uva/uvb rays and so on...phew that a whole other thread but i hope I'm coming across right)
Anyway I feel like I'm threadjacking/possibly making an irrelevant post so I'll wrap it up. I've noticed that sometimes I'm too ethnic to be white and too white to be hispanic...so where does it leave me. I don't want to give up my heritage based on something as retarded as pigment but it feels like I'm always in a sort of limbo.So to the mixed girls do you ever feel like you aren't accepted by either race?
I just watned to say that you're not high-jacking at all. I appreciate your response.
Emiliana
03-30-2007, 10:55 AM
:goodvibes thanks :goodvibes
canadiancutie
04-01-2007, 08:34 PM
In a book I read on the topic, written by a bi-racial woman, she said that in her interviews with light and dark skinned women, despite some of their issues, NONE of the light skinned women expressed a wish to be darker while ALMOST ALL of the dark skinned women expressed a yearning to be lighter.
well then she must not have interviewed me...how many people did this writer interview? where they all from the same state, region, country? did they have different religions? levels of education?
that sounds like bs results to me, honestly.
what is she trying to say, every black woman wants to be white? thats an egocentric slice of baloney that supremacists want people to believe.
BULL SHIT says i.
JustJayda
04-02-2007, 09:24 AM
Although I am a "Pretty-Round-Brown" sister, I do know where the author that LSV mentioned is coming from.
I've constantly be made aware, by brothers, that I'm gorgeous for a brown skinned-sista.
I've constantly been made aware that "red-bone" sisters are where its at, (by them, and dudes).
I'm only commenting in response to CC^^^. You may call bullshit, but its very, very, real.
The first thing outta an ugly "light-skinned" pimple-faced chick , when desrcibing herself on myspace/blackplanet etc. is: I'm Light-skinned, 5'5" etc.
Wereas, we chocolates usually say, I'm 5'5", slim/skinny/thick, educated, own my home, etc.
Just what I've seen/noticed.
*btw, I look lighter in my avatar than I actually am* Always happens in pictures.
Miss_Luscious
04-02-2007, 01:23 PM
Although I am a "Pretty-Round-Brown" sister, I do know where the author that LSV mentioned is coming from.
I've constantly be made aware, by brothers, that I'm gorgeous for a brown skinned-sista.
I've constantly been made aware that "red-bone" sisters are where its at, (by them, and dudes).
I'm only commenting in response to CC^^^. You may call bullshit, but its very, very, real.
The first thing outta an ugly "light-skinned" pimple-faced chick , when desrcibing herself on myspace/blackplanet etc. is: I'm Light-skinned, 5'5" etc.
Wereas, we chocolates usually say, I'm 5'5", slim/skinny/thick, educated, own my home, etc.
Just what I've seen/noticed.
*btw, I look lighter in my avatar than I actually am* Always happens in pictures.
Yep, I agree. I am not one of those types of lighskinned girls but I know of plenty of girls that do those things. It's all types of fucked up. They think that because they are lightskinned, they are cute. I'm cute because I'm cute, not because of my skin color!
Optimist
04-02-2007, 02:00 PM
Go Luscious, go Luscious!! :D
I know exactly what y'all are saying. It's weird but black guys don't seem to want to go out with chicks who are their same color--only lighter. I bumped my head and heart on that one for about 5-6 years and began to accept it.
Now that being skinny is more accepted I get more attention but generally it's not the passionate attention they give white and hispanic girls.
PleasureVictim
04-02-2007, 04:54 PM
*some* black guys.:P
I'm thankful that I haven't ben subjected to hearing shitty things like that about my skin color very often.
What I do hear is lots of guys saying how they prefer dark women over light just to announce themselves going against the grain or whatever. If they are directing it at me, I let them know I'm not impressed. Like whoever you like, without putting down whoever doesn't fall into that catergory. I believe they do that just to score points.
AristtaRoxxx
04-02-2007, 05:32 PM
well then she must not have interviewed me...how many people did this writer interview? where they all from the same state, region, country? did they have different religions? levels of education?
that sounds like bs results to me, honestly.
what is she trying to say, every black woman wants to be white? thats an egocentric slice of baloney that supremacists want people to believe.
BULL SHIT says i.
I agree with canadiancutie I know many black women who do not feel this way. And the answers would depend greatly on region, religion, education ect. and it would also be very skewed if the test group was small.
Rayna Skye
04-05-2007, 01:01 AM
You know what, sometimes working in white clubs makes me feel ugly, and fat. I know that's not try, I'm hot as hell, but that's how I feel sometimes working in white clubs, like I have a skin rash or some thing. What I don't like about most black clubs, is you have to dance too hard. That's not all of them, but it's alot of them, I'm getting too old to dance that hard.
On a lighter note, I just danced in atlanta last week, and I felt like a queen. I was just a girl in atlanta, not a black but just a girl, I was like everybody else, and it was great. I intend to go back, it really helped my mental state.
I'm tired of white guys coming up to me saying stupid shit like, "I've never seen a black pussy before." My stand on that is, "Why not, all this damn porn they got on the internet and you haven't seen one. Ok dumb ass."
I think I was off subject, but I just wanted to get that off my chest.
Miss_Luscious
04-05-2007, 06:14 AM
You know what, sometimes working in white clubs makes me feel ugly, and fat. I know that's not try, I'm hot as hell, but that's how I feel sometimes working in white clubs, like I have a skin rash or some thing.
I feel the same way. It really really sucks. I worked at a white club for one week in March and that's how I felt the whole time. I went back to my black club and I was applauded (literally) for my curves. I think I am done with white clubs.
PleasureVictim
04-05-2007, 08:39 AM
Me three. I always told myself that eventually I would give white clubs another chance but I seriously doubt it. To those dancers who can work there and deal with the bs and hold your beautiful head high- I applaud you.
There is a huge event that is drawing alot of customers to my old club this weekend. My friends can't believe I won't go back. I try to explain to them I was in the bathroom crying the last night I was there...I am never going back. To me allowing my self-esteem to take a beating for extra cash just isn't worth that money.
Miss_Luscious
04-05-2007, 08:51 AM
To me allowing my self-esteem to take a beating for extra cash just isn't worth that money.
Exactly! I was talking to another black girl at the white club I tried out last week and she said she liked black clubs beter because it was easier. She walked out of there with $120 on a friday night. The white girls were complaining because they "only" made their minimum of $500. I only had $200 my self. I said fuck that and took my ass right back to my black club the next night and made $400 only going on stage twice and only selling 7 dances. That sealed it for me. No more struggling to make money at white clubs!
Edit: PV where do you work? You can PM me if you don't want your business all out in the street :D.
Rayna Skye
04-07-2007, 03:34 AM
I feel like, I could make money at a white club if I ever had to go back, but I'd have to lose like 10 to 15 pounds, and there is nothing wrong with my body. Also, at a black club I have to do less talking. Black guys love to make it rain on stage. I remember one night I sat in the dressing room all night long reading "Interview with the Vampire". The last two hours before the club closed, I came out got on stage twice, and made 300 dollars, whereas that never would have happened for me in a white club, and most of the money I've made in white clubs had come from black guys. Yes I give props to a black chick who can survive in a white club.
cinammonkisses
04-07-2007, 05:55 AM
I try to explain to them I was in the bathroom crying the last night I was there...I am never going back. To me allowing my self-esteem to take a beating for extra cash just isn't worth that money.
I've had a couple moments like that when I worked at the Vu. Only one girl saw me cry..She was awesome. She sat me down in front of the mirror and told me to look at myself. She was like, "you are so beautiful.Fuck these men out here! You are a beautiful black woman and I dont want you in here crying because they are being assholes. You and I both know there are plenty of men in here who would die to have you on they arm, but they're to scared of what their friends say. So go wipe those tears" She's a white dancer who has mixed children. Around that time, she had been getting into it w/ management because of her dating of black guys. The manager even had the nerve to tell her once, "you're life would be so much easier if you went back to white men." *sigh*
When I worked down in FL, I loved it. I wasn't seen as a beautiful BLACK girl..I was seen as a beautiful girl and I loved it. I was one of those people (when I first started dancing) who was against working in a black club because I felt those girls worked to hard for their money (true enough some girls do) and I don't. But working in FL it was effortless! And the club I worked at was one of the "shittier" clubs and I still did great IMO. I really do wanna go back and work at some black clubs, just gotta find somewhere else..
canadiancutie
04-07-2007, 08:47 PM
ya'll are doing it again!!! stop bitching and being negative. i heart white boys!!! lol
and come on, even the rednecks are funny, at least!!! jeepers :P
canadiancutie
04-07-2007, 08:56 PM
oh and oh yeah...layka did the pink hair punk dude ever call??lol
how did that whole experiment pan out in the end?
lexXe
04-07-2007, 10:30 PM
ya'll are doing it again!!! stop bitching and being negative. i heart white boys!!! lol
and come on, even the rednecks are funny, at least!!! jeepers :P
ummm the purpose of this thread is to bitch.
canadiancutie
04-08-2007, 09:39 AM
actually no, its to open a discussion.
but this has already been argued already so.....
cinammonkisses
04-08-2007, 09:58 AM
actually no, its to open a discussion.
but this has already been argued already so.....
You're right this is an open discussion, and currently this is the issue/topic at hand.
Since this has already been "argued" as you put it, how about you develop your own topic and include it in on discussion. If you can't provide a topic, then I think the topic that is currently being discussed should continue..
Carry on ladies...:-X
cinammonkisses
04-08-2007, 10:08 AM
ya'll are doing it again!!! stop bitching and being negative. i heart white boys!!! lol
and come on, even the rednecks are funny, at least!!! jeepers :P
Oh, and I just wanted to point out something...Are you even a dancer? Hell, have you ever even did an amatuer night? No, you haven't...you are simply on the outside sitting in on what you consider as us "bitching" Yea, you love your white boys, keep on loving them sweetie. But this is not what it's about.
Until you actually put on some platforms, pick some music and dance on a stage, you will NEVER know what we as WOC go through when we work in this industry!
Do you know what it feels like to be the hottest chick in a room, and have people roll their eyes, turn their heads, LEAVE their seat when you approach the stage? Or how about customers who tell you, "oh YOU'RE SO PRETTY FOR A COLORED GIRL?" <--How can you handle that, and keep a smile on your face, keep working like the shit didn't bother you at all. Can you do that? Or how about the customer who just LOVES black women, but ONLY wants to date you outside the club. OR the customer who will ONLY TAKE you to VIP if you put out, or the customer who will buy a dance from you ONLY if you give high contact/extras..or the customer who will buy a dance from you if you do it half price...
Like I said, you can continue on loving your white boys! As long as you're happy do you CC. But, those white men that you meet out in public ARE NOT the ones you would meet in a stripclub...they are few far and in between. So again, if you are not dancing, have never danced, or will never dance, then your opinion on this issue is actually null and void.
And Cin has spoken :soapbox:
JustJayda
04-08-2007, 12:10 PM
Get your ass over here so I can give you some hot Jayda lovin'!!!
Well put Cin, with your prolific, articulate self!
Not to beat you up CC, but IMHO, you are talkin' out your ass.
canadiancutie
04-08-2007, 02:06 PM
what? because i am not a dancer i have not experienced racism?
sure i don't know what it feels like to "be the hottest girl in the room and have guys roll thier eyes etc..."
but maybe that's because i don't walk around THINKING i'm the "hottest girl in the room" (people will take issue with a girl with an atttitude like that no matter what color) AND I'm not constantly scanning peoples faces to judge what racist thoughts they OBVIOUSLY are thinking about me because OMG theres NO WAY they could have ANYTHING ELSE to think about except how black i am!!!
it seems like ya'll are ....intimidated ....by white folks, giving racists way more attention than they are worth and it pisses me off.
cinammonkisses
04-08-2007, 02:13 PM
what? because i am not a dancer i have not experienced racism?
sure i don't know what it feels like to "be the hottest girl in the room and have guys roll thier eyes etc..."
but maybe that's because i don't walk around THINKING i'm the "hottest girl in the room" (people will take issue with a girl with an atttitude like that no matter what color) AND I'm not constantly scanning peoples faces to judge what racist thoughts they OBVIOUSLY are thinking about me because OMG theres NO WAY they could have ANYTHING ELSE to think about except how black i am!!!
it seems like ya'll are ....intimidated ....by white folks, giving racists way more attention than they are worth and it pisses me off.
Oh god..I dont know who is more of a ditz, you or Dolly...::)
Listen, there is no point in sitting here and arguing with you on this issue. Like I said before YOU ARE NOT A DANCER so you have NOT A CLUE! Ummm last time I checked, dancers are supposed to walk into a room as if they own it. We are supposed to feel like we are the hottest girl in the room.
Anyway, keep on living in that bubble of yours darlin'...:D
canadiancutie
04-08-2007, 02:14 PM
...and don't call me sweetie, sweetie.
i'm anything but.
i'm through with this thread. i'm going to leave and let ya'll wallow in your self pity over being WOC.
yeah, sometimes the truth hurts. cry me a freaking river.
sure there are racists out there. but YOU are the ones who are racist of yourselves, and that's what's making me angry.
anyway...
cinammonkisses
04-08-2007, 02:19 PM
...and don't call me sweetie, sweetie.
i'm anything but.
i'm through with this thread. i'm going to leave and let ya'll wallow in your self pity over being WOC.
yeah, sometimes the truth hurts. cry me a freaking river.
sure there are racists out there. but YOU are the ones who are racist of yourselves, and that's what's making me angry.
anyway...
:wave: Bye, don't let the door hit you on the way out
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