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xbloodydewdropx
06-24-2007, 05:37 AM
I agree with LM....calm down and stop projecting your other bad relationships onto this one. It's making you needlessly nervous, and your guy will eventually be able to sense that you don't trust him, etc. You say that you're not used to guys who have lives outside of their girlfriends.....in this case, instead of analyzing his every move and obsessing about his, do things you enjoy (even if alone) when you're apart. This is a new dynamic for you, and while it may be scary because of its unfamiliarity, it's healthy not to have the clingy-dependent type you had before. Take a few deep breaths and go do something you like....then have fun when you see each other. Don't let the past intrude....

missjzone
06-24-2007, 06:16 AM
OMG I did it again!!!!!

Yeah, another perfect excuse for him and me being so untrusting.

What's wrong with me????


nothing new here. we often let our emotions get the best of us and we dont understand that for the most part guys just aint as complex or emotional as us. I would recommend that you put some space in between you two in the short term and maintain your independence while you guys are dating so you dont get consumed. Also, for the PMS swings, my ex roomate used to suffer from crazy PMS and was really helped by St.Johns Worts. That may help.

short skirts
06-24-2007, 06:36 AM
I just got home from hanging out with some friends and yes, you re all right! I am not going to say a word about this.......

I know I'll see him later and he'll be as sweet as he always is to me.

I was overreacting but thankfully didn't call and leave any messages or anything. I try to take it slow but when he's with me he's all about it. He just has his own life. I'm doing my best to get used to it. It'll all work out, I know this.

No worries, I fianlly found a good man and I'm happy.

Lysondra
06-24-2007, 07:09 AM
You're dating, not attached at the hip! Let him have free reign of his life for a bit. I mean, c'mon, it's not like he's a complete smeghead. he's going to cancer benefits and seeing his mum.

Just remember that with this guy, it's probably not as bad as you keep thinking it is.

Glamazon
06-24-2007, 08:16 AM
I don't know how I missed this thread...

Anyway, I'm relieved to hear that there's someone out there as crazy as me. I've gone completely insane in situations like that. It blows over in time, trust me.

short skirts
07-07-2007, 08:36 PM
I just wanted to update and thank all you ladies for your advice, everything is going GREAT! I give him his space and we hang out ALL the time when he's not working or hanging out with the guys.

The guy sits up all night with me and we just laugh our asses off about EVERYTHING. He gets 2-3 hrs sleep for work and works 16 hr days besides opening up his bar.


Everything changed last week when I told him I love him. He didn't realize that and when I told him, he had no clue. He had been thinking we were just two adults having fun. He then told me that what I said changes the whole ballgame and he's been consistent ever since and calls me when he has a spare minute of his busy life. I've been sure to not be overbearing and give him his space and I couldn't be happier!

YAY!

AlexxaHex
07-08-2007, 12:06 AM
So glad it's working out for you! Sounds like the beginnings of a pretty cool relationship.