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Optimist
06-01-2007, 07:44 AM
I gotta agree. There are people who agree and disagree. It's a PUBLIC board not a private club.

When you were asked to leave the Black and Beautiful thread you stayed on and on calling dissenters racist for not agreeing with your posts. While people laid out their reasons for diagreeing with your arguement, you decided you could read their minds and motives and spoke to those imaginary arguments against YOU!

On the childfree thread countless people tried to make things clear to you so you understood what the discussion was about. It was about celebrating not pitying the childfree life but, again, you wouldn't share that discussion. Instead you started a wholly separate debate and wouldn't leave when asked. It wasn't a "failed experiment". Your attempts at derailing were the failed experiment.

Whatever's going on in your life--you need to address directly instead of putting on this sham of an airing out. This just doesn't make sense anymore. You vaguely called for those who disagreed with you to discuss things but the only time you were happy on this thread was when the girls were kissing your ass! Perhaps this thread was more about telling your dissenters off, not bringing the debate here.

cameron_keys
06-01-2007, 07:59 AM
^^^ all I have to say is that I agree 100%with the above 2 posts.

Practice what you preach. I'm always up for a heated discussion so I'm not asking or encouraging you to leave(in fact I'm not really sure the point of this thread title except to garner attention since I dont believe ANYONE asked you to leave). BUT....when several people are taking issue with something you say..perhaps you shoud consider the slim possibility that you are NOT coming accross the way you think. That just maybe it is YOU and not EVERYBODY ELSE.
And when people atttempt to calmly explain to you why the things you say are coming across badly..instead of becoming immediately defensive and argumentative....you should consider the possibility that your words are in fact being read by MANY as insulting. Whether that was your intention or not.

But if history has taught me anything here...you wont. In fact I dare say you will arguue THIS post and defend and justify again. Proceed. I said my piece and will not come back to this thread.

Optimist
06-01-2007, 08:14 AM
Oh, and one more thing. I just realized why this thread is starting to outrage me. You designed this to lure people on here just to attack them. What a shitty thing to do. Whatever misery you're in, you'll be feeling it regardless of how many people you attack. And ironically we're the people who want to see you happy. Those who could give a fuck haven't bothered to post. So you're cutting off your nose to spite your face.

velvet
06-01-2007, 12:15 PM
can we please just drop this. rhia isnt here to close/delete

AlexxaHex
06-01-2007, 01:50 PM
I will respect your wishes as mod, velvet and not continue with this thread anymore. This has gotten really stupid. I came here to resolve issues - if people can't see that, then whatever. PM me, flame me in other threads, whatever you need to do to feel validated even though I am really trying to offer a solution.
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funlatina82
06-01-2007, 01:53 PM
Alexxa, just use the ignore option, girl! Put them on ignore and that's that. I know I'm gonna start using sometime soon.

kylie3183
06-01-2007, 01:57 PM
I've never disagreed with you

goddamnit now i feel left out!

Me too!

And for the record........ I like your tummy!

britt244
06-01-2007, 08:29 PM
can we please just drop this. rhia isnt here to close/delete

well.. can i ask why we havent/if we are ever getting a new mod to deal with things? because this has been going on for a while (not this thread, the no mod issue) and it really sucks.

PaigeDWinter
06-01-2007, 08:49 PM
well.. can i ask why we havent/if we are ever getting a new mod to deal with things? because this has been going on for a while (not this thread, the no mod issue) and it really sucks.


Because Pryce has been too busy to give someone mod status in the Lounge specifically. Believe me, a lot of us mods are chomping at the proverbial bit waiting for help in the lounge.

Optimist
06-01-2007, 08:51 PM
I nominate Paige!!!

Kaylinn
06-01-2007, 08:54 PM
^^ I dont get that. Way back when Blade made the post about if he should mod the lounge, Pryce came into that thread, and all he said was Blade shouldn't mod it, yet he didn't assign anyone else Mod duties then. I assume it's as simple as clicking on a name and making them a mod right?
he could have done it then. He logged in last on the 25th. He could have done it then to.

Not that I'm harpin on Pryce, but he created this site, and he is seriously slackign on it's care and upkeep. I get he's busy. We all are. I get that he has a life outside of here, we all do. But it's still his creation, and up to him to maintain it. And if he is to busy to do so, then he shoudl assign someoen else the power to do it. Im sure the job is to big for one person anyway.

PaigeDWinter
06-01-2007, 09:18 PM
^^^ He has, since then, asked someone if they wanted the position. It was after the Blade post. Since then he hasn't had time to assign the person who said ok to his request.

Lysondra
06-01-2007, 09:19 PM
Hey, I'd do it... I think I have enough posts to be qualified now. :P

Kaylinn
06-02-2007, 02:19 AM
Paige, isn't as easy as just clicking on their name and making them a mod?

How can you not have the time to take 5 seconds to do that?

Like I said, not giving him a hard time, but I dont understand the time excuse thing. I mean..he was logged in here last week, he couldn't do it then?

Or is it not as easy as clicking their name and saying, ok, your a mod now?

Tart
06-02-2007, 02:28 AM
It sickens me that grown ass people can't leave well enough alone , that we have to depend on a MOD so that things don't get out of control.

Although I agree with using and having one., I wish we weren't in CONSTANT NEED of one.

The actions, shitty behavior and the inability to quit nit picking will be the demise of this site if people don't start taking deep breaths and having to have the LAST word!

Which let's face it.. is what this thread and many others boils down to.

Having to have the last word. !

Arguments take too much energy, when it could be focused on a million other things.

PaigeDWinter
06-02-2007, 02:46 AM
Paige, isn't as easy as just clicking on their name and making them a mod?

How can you not have the time to take 5 seconds to do that?

Like I said, not giving him a hard time, but I dont understand the time excuse thing. I mean..he was logged in here last week, he couldn't do it then?

Or is it not as easy as clicking their name and saying, ok, your a mod now?


Honestly? I dunno. I have no idea what the guts of this forum look like. I have no clue what the process is for assigning mods. But what I do know is that when a mod gets busy with Actual Life, be it Pryce or not, they DO have a hard time being here. Hell, it's happened to me before, and it's happening to Pryce and Rhia now. I wish I had a better answer for folks but I don't :(

DylanAngel
06-02-2007, 05:09 AM
Which let's face it.. is what this thread and many others boils down to.

Having to have the last word. !

Arguments take too much energy, when it could be focused on a million other things.

That's the most intelligent post in this thread. And one we should ALL be taking to heart, including me.

Tart, well noted, and hopefully we'll see a change. It'll start with me.

AlexxaHex
06-02-2007, 03:31 PM
I used to be a mod of a popular BDSM forum, but there are times in my life when I can't be at the computer as much and things get neglected - I had to resign. I moderate a myspace group, but that doesn't require nearly as much attention as SW. I do think that some groups don't need constant moderating, but this place definitely does. It would kind of be like a strip club that had no managers. :O Even with just ONE section being neglected, you can see how things are getting sticky! Maybe the lack of Rhia isn't the only thing contributing to the grossness, but I think it would help a little if we had someone new.

And Tart, your posts in this thread have been some of the most intelligent of all. I agree with Dylan and will now just drop things instead of taking the bait, so to speak. There's always a hook somewhere in the bait, as we can see. ;)

I also wanted to take a second and really thank everyone who has shown support and kindness (and dare I say friendship at the risk of sounding too "cliquey" ::) ) in this thread and in PMs. It lets me know that there are many more people here who are positive and mature than not, and I really appreciate and respect those people a lot.
I have seen at least two really active members leave temporarily because of the BS recently and I can really understand why. I hope the temperature cools down a little and they can return soon. As the title says, I'm gonna stay, and I think Tart's POV is really important to keep in mind when considering that.

PaigeDWinter
06-02-2007, 05:57 PM
Since the OP is willing to drop the subject in this thread, I think we should just abandon the thread all together and let it go until a mod can close the thread entirely.