View Full Version : One thing that is a deal breaker
jaizaine
06-04-2007, 08:10 PM
Bad hygiene, especially neglecting to wash their nether regions and asses. I cannot fuckign stand men who take a shit and think nothing of asking for a blowjob, especially if they leave skid marks. I have an ex who had such bad swamp ass that I had to Febreze his chair a couple times a month.
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Oh I forgot one - small penis. I had an ex who was perfect in most ways expect he had a baby dick. It was soooooooo small. He tried his ass off to please me but no matter what he did that baby dick didn't cut it. I think it's why he is still single today. Poor guy he has the looks, the personality, the great job.....
I had another ex who I refused to give head to. He used to ask for it all the time but he smelt like smegma. So I used to say no. I never had the heart to tell him it was coz his cock smelt like cottage cheese.
Roulette
06-04-2007, 08:20 PM
I had another ex who I refused to give head to. He used to ask for it all the time but he smelt like smegma. So I used to say no. I never had the heart to tell him it was coz his cock smelt like cottage cheese.
I just vommed in my mouth a little. Did you ever just take him into the shower and give him a good cleaning and do it after, or in the shower. Whenever guys I've been with were a little smelly I would just be like "I'm taking a shower... I think you should join me" they would get all cleaned up and a blowjob... which then resulted in awesome all over the house sex. I am actually a big fan of starting stuff in the shower and seeing where it ends up. Sorry, didnt mean to go off topic.
aviendha
06-04-2007, 09:22 PM
Bad hygiene, in all the ways mentioned above.
Stupid, bad grammar, can't hold a conversation, isn't aware of current events.
Thinks nothing of having bad credit and poor money management skills, and/or a bad work ethic. Maybe that was acceptable when I was 20, but not now. I've been the wallet in the relationship once and I'm not doing it again. You don't have to pay for my dinner, but you damn well should at least be capable of paying for your own.
Ogling girls, especially in my presence, especially jailbait. I don't mean the sidelong glance at a nearby hottie that everyone does, I mean really obvious ogling. An ex of mine (not coincidentally, was a registered sex offender, although I think he's done with that now) would crank his head, stop, walk backward, and on one occasion, left my side while waiting in line to walk up to a girl and stare at her. Talk about embarrassing, put a leash on those eyeballs! This was the same guy who liked to spend my money too.
And then another ex of mine is a relatively normal guy in most respects, but he has "online friends" who are under 18 (or were when they first started chatting), and he's 43. And he doesn't get why that isn't appropriate. That shit just loses my respect for him completely. It's one thing to think a girl is hot, it's another to try to establish some kind of relationship with them. No way. If you're trying to get with the kiddies, you are on your own.
Paintbaby
06-04-2007, 09:40 PM
I second the smegma cock. If I can smell it, I ain't sucking it. Also, excessive metrosexuals. And especially, guys who are still trashing their ex a year later. Unresolved codependency and emotional issues, much?
Hatshepsut
06-04-2007, 11:10 PM
If a guy has a disgusting cock, tell him that he could give women cancer if he doesn't start cleaning it, or he could develop penile cancer which might require amputation. Yes, dirty, cheesy cocks have been linked to penile and cervical cancer.
Men aren't taught how to clean themselves. In fact, we cut them because we assume that they can't clean themselves, which makes them even less likely to clean themselves. That's why I love Japanese men: they're taught how to clean. In fact, they have special soaps and creams made specifically for under the hood.
jaizaine
06-04-2007, 11:20 PM
If a guy has a disgusting cock, tell him that he could give women cancer if he doesn't start cleaning it, or he could develop penile cancer which might require amputation. Yes, dirty, cheesy cocks have been linked to penile and cervical cancer.
Men aren't taught how to clean themselves. In fact, we cut them because we assume that they can't clean themselves, which makes them even less likely to clean themselves. That's why I love Japanese men: they're taught how to clean. In fact, they have special soaps and creams made specifically for under the hood.
I have heard that too and also that in general guys who are not circumsised are more susceptible to get std's and cancer and to transmit std's to their female partners. This guy that I am talking about had an uncircumsised penis and I dont think he ever got taught to pull back the skin and clean under it. Im glad my bf now is very very clean.
RoseLeigh
06-05-2007, 12:37 AM
Men aren't taught how to clean themselves. In fact, we cut them because we assume that they can't clean themselves, which makes them even less likely to clean themselves. That's why I love Japanese men: they're taught how to clean. In fact, they have special soaps and creams made specifically for under the hood.
OMG I have the heebie jeebies now. Maybe I've just been lucky, but how can you miss cleaning what seems to be the most important part of the body? They can't keep their hands off it out of the shower and all of a sudden it's a no-go zone with the soap? :O Wash the nether regions! Now!
Also-what are the creams for? Moisturizing?
Rose Leigh
Hatshepsut
06-05-2007, 05:57 AM
Also-what are the creams for? Moisturizing?
To loosen dried or caked-on smegma if they haven't had the chance to wash up.
Yekhefah
06-05-2007, 07:49 AM
Actually a man should NOT take soap to his penis. I gave a soapy handjob to my ex once and it dried out all the skin! He was peeling and chapped for days, poor guy. It got me curious and I started asking around, and yeah, most of the guys I know have tried to soap it up and have wound up with dry, chapped skin as a result. It seems to be a lot like our faces, where it does best with water only.
And yeah, foreskin is definitely a deal-breaker for me. :yuck:
Taylorlila
06-05-2007, 09:10 AM
unibrows are a big no...and this is kinda awful but I dont think I could date a guy shorter than me...which would say alot since I'm about 5'2
yogibear179
06-05-2007, 01:33 PM
Vyanka, your avatar is fucking hot ^_^
yogibear179
06-05-2007, 01:33 PM
*lol i mean siggy
miss marina
06-05-2007, 02:17 PM
unibrows are a big no...
oh god..i cant stop staring at those on guys..i just wanna tweeze it soooo bad.
missjzone
06-05-2007, 02:33 PM
I have heard that too and also that in general guys who are not circumsised are more susceptible to get std's and cancer and to transmit std's to their female partners. This guy that I am talking about had an uncircumsised penis and I dont think he ever got taught to pull back the skin and clean under it. Im glad my bf now is very very clean.
actually thats been debunked many, many, many times. There is no relation between uncircumsised and higher STD's. If this was the case then Europe would have a higher case of STD's than the US as most European are not circumsised and most American's aren't. But, in fact it's the opposite stat.
And while not an absolute deal breaker for me but, a circumsised penis is quite icky. We were just talking about this last week.
jaizaine
06-05-2007, 07:16 PM
^^
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my bf is uncircumsised but he keeps it clean and pulled back all the time - he is the only guy i have ever met who does this, he said he has always done it.
Kaiyla
06-05-2007, 07:21 PM
Bad breath...ughhh a guy can be hot as hell, perfect, have it all, etc but if his mouth smells like the Farts of Ron Jeremy would, I'm all set.
Yekhefah
06-05-2007, 07:29 PM
^ I'm gonna write a screenplay and call it The Farts of Ron Jeremy. That's just a killer title right there.
Kaylinn
06-05-2007, 07:31 PM
Sounds like one of his porns.
Cyndi08
06-05-2007, 08:08 PM
I like uncircumsized... the ONE that I have had...
Maybe not all of them are as nice feeling/clean, but 1/19 is a rare find in the first place. *sigh*
Roulette
06-05-2007, 08:35 PM
I have never been with an uncircumsized guy before... I almost did but apparently he wouldnt have sex with me because I was drunk and every other time we were close he was too drunk and couldnt either get hard or keep it up... it scurred me so I never went down on him... :Roulette is scurred of unfamiliar cock configurations:
Kaylinn
06-05-2007, 08:39 PM
Uncircumcized penis disgust me.
I would never date or sleep with a man who wasn't cut. I think they just look very nasty and unappealing to me.
And scary to, yeah.
Kaiyla
06-05-2007, 10:41 PM
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:, Yekefah! I'm guessing it would not be a Romantic. More of a horror or something..
short skirts
06-06-2007, 01:14 AM
Dealbreakers for me: bad teeth, bad hygiene, furry, fat, doesn't annunciate words properly and difficult to understand. Oh, I almost forgot, stinky feet!
sun child
06-06-2007, 01:18 AM
Dealbreaker is anyone who is violent towards anything -- objects human beings animals or whatever.
VegasPrincess
06-07-2007, 12:10 PM
First, Vyanka, your siggie is fucking hot!
Second, I could never do a guy with a pierced dick!! Keep that shit away from me, haha.
Picaresque
06-07-2007, 02:34 PM
Second, I could never do a guy with a pierced dick!!
ew. none of that for me either. :no: And I think guys with huge stretched-out earlobe piercings or giant bars in their ears look stupid. Same with septum piercings and giant nose rings that look like the kind they put on bulls. blech. Eyebrow, lip and tongue piercings are ok though...and on the right guy, earrings are *always* hot.
And I agree about not wanting a guy that's shorter than me. Or thinner than me. It just looks wrong. But I'm also 5'2", so that doesn't exclude many people! :P Also agree about not wanting a really hairy guy. bleh.
The hygeine thing doesn't really bother me though...my ex used to go for up to a week without taking showers, or wouldn't brush his teeth or wash his hair for days, and I never minded. He used to make fun of me for having a double standard, b/c I don't like to mess around if I feel dirty or in need of a shower...but it never bothers me if a guy I'm playing with hasn't bathed in days, lol.
flickad
06-07-2007, 10:27 PM
Deal-breakers for me are religiosity, being against abortion, holding political beliefs opposite to mine and cruelty to animals. On a shallower level, poor hygiene is always a turn-off. I'm sure there are more, but those are the ones that spring immediately to mind.
Kaylinn
06-07-2007, 10:39 PM
I also refused to date anyone shorter than me, or with more pimples than me. I mena, yeah, I get a few here and there. But I dated a guy once with such bad bacne, I was scared to sleep in bed with him for fear his back zits would ooze in the sheets and I'd be sleepign with zit juice :crazy:
OTOH, I once dated a guy who tried to cover his zits with foundation, and had an obvious line of demarcation on his jawline.
I woudl have ratehr just seen the zits than the makeup.( his weren't even all that bad!)
Yekhefah
06-07-2007, 10:44 PM
But I dated a guy once with such bad bacne, I was scared to sleep in bed with him for fear his back zits would ooze in the sheets and I'd be sleepign with zit juice
Oh how lovely. I could REALLY have done without that mental image, thank you. I'm going to think about that when I go to bed tonight and it's totally gonna skeeve me out.
Kaylinn
06-07-2007, 11:06 PM
LMAO. How do you think I felt?
I layed there for about 2 hours, just staring at it, ( no sex, omg, I couldnt even fathom fucking him)
Before finalyl getting up and sleeping on the couch. In my own house. In hindsight, I should have woke him up and kicked him outta bed.
I did kick a guy outta bed once for having a fat, white back. Remdinded me of a dead cow, or cold beef or something.
We stared doing it( I dont mind bigger guys) and I put my arms aroudn him, and all I coudl see was the large span of white back, and all I could feel was the cold, largness of his back, and I started envisioning a cow strung up liek at the butchery....Igrossed myself out so bad I stopped the sex and asked him to leave.
I was in a man hating, bitchy stage for a few months. Im not proud of how mean I was, but its funny to talk about now.....
Crow2
06-07-2007, 11:06 PM
Bad hygine
religious fanatic ( or that sort of anal behavior, I mean really. Does it matter which way the tp rolls?)
Ignorent
Prettier than me.
Asking stupid questions, I suppose this would fall into the catagory of ignorent.
Questions such as " Hey, are your tits real?" and " Does the carpet and drapes match" kind of kills it for me.
Plus, when I am in bed with a guy DO NOT hold my head down or sling me around like a sack of potatoes. Gawd, like I have no clue what I am doing? Please..
Expecting me to be a light switch. That just irritates the living crap out of me! What? Sex now.. pardon me. I've been here. You were busy
Talking about how fine so and so is while I'm sitting right there. Yes, I know you are male and guys like women and all of their wonderfull parts, but have a little tact.
Rude behavior. Have some manners. Please and thank you go a long way. Spitting on the sidewalk or floor is not sexy.
Abusing other people in front of me, yelling at the cashier or screaming at your Mom because you have had a bad day is not cool. I will be the first one to give you a reality check.
Anger. Anger for a reason is fine. You mashed your thumb or smooshed the car and broke the tail light. It's okay to be mad. But when a guy starts screaming at me because he's mad at something else. I'm outta there!
I'm sure there's more but thoes are the main ones. :)
Rhiannon
carolina6
06-08-2007, 02:16 AM
I have lots. If everything else is good I can overlook one or two things. My current bf does not vote. That is a dealbreaker for me, but since everything else is great, I can overlook it.
Things I could never overlook:
Being abusive, having a serious drug or drinking problem, being convicted of a serious crime, and being foolish about sex/stds/pregnancy. I asked a guy one time the first time we were going to have sex if he had a condom. His response was, "aren't you on the pill?" That is an incorrect answer. My getting pregnant is secondary to you giving me an std!
Things I can overlook are looks, weight, height, etc. If a guy is really unattractive then I couldn't consider dating him, cause the chemistry wouldn't be there. Being too short or too tall or weighing 10 extra pounds isn't a big deal.
In all honesty, being super religious or being a republican are deal breakers too. I just couldn't get along with a guy for more than an hour if he was either.
Roulette
06-08-2007, 05:00 AM
Second, I could never do a guy with a pierced dick!! Keep that shit away from me, haha.
hahaha naaaaah, this shit is A-OK as long as you change positions... uhm... hypothetically or something.
Crow2
06-08-2007, 05:34 AM
I have lots. If everything else is good I can overlook one or two things. My current bf does not vote. That is a dealbreaker for me, but since everything else is great, I can overlook it.
Things I could never overlook:
Being abusive, having a serious drug or drinking problem, being convicted of a serious crime, and being foolish about sex/stds/pregnancy. I asked a guy one time the first time we were going to have sex if he had a condom. His response was, "aren't you on the pill?" That is an incorrect answer. My getting pregnant is secondary to you giving me an std!
Things I can overlook are looks, weight, height, etc. If a guy is really unattractive then I couldn't consider dating him, cause the chemistry wouldn't be there. Being too short or too tall or weighing 10 extra pounds isn't a big deal.
In all honesty, being super religious or being a republican are deal breakers too. I just couldn't get along with a guy for more than an hour if he was either.
The condom thing is a big deal. I actually had an agrument with a guy about condom usage and how he did not perfer to use them because it just felt soooooooooo much better without them. Holy moley, some guys will stick their dick anywhere!
blaze_n_hot
06-08-2007, 07:56 AM
I hate short guys! If I have to reach down to hug a guy, I feel like I'm hugging a child. Ew!
Picaresque
06-08-2007, 10:06 AM
I hate short guys! If I have to reach down to hug a guy, I feel like I'm hugging a child. Ew!
LOL. Like I said I couldn't deal with a guy shorter than me either...but I also don't like guys that are ridiculously taller than me. Like the one guy I briefly dated who was 6'4"...imagine that with a 5'2" me. It looked funny and was awkward. Ideal is a guy who's just a few inches taller than me; less than 6'. Then we fit together perfectly. ;D
But that's not a deal breaker; I'm not THAT picky.
OK, yes I am ridiculously picky. Nevermind. :laughing:
kittenkat
06-08-2007, 09:12 PM
Dealbreakers:
Doesn't like cats (I have 6)
Doesn't like dogs (I have 3)
Has children
Wants children (I can't have kids)
Misogynist
Homophobe
Racist
Doesn't like to shower
Not hygienic
Has crappy taste in food, politics, music, movies
Religious
Dumb
Unhealthy habits (drug addiction, alcoholic, etc)
Unstable mental state
Hardcore Sports Fan (I don't mind if they enjoy sports, but I hate ones that revolve their lives around it and if watching sports = number one pasttime, I want nothing to do with 'im)
And that rules out like 99% of men for one reason or the other.
Laylas
06-08-2007, 10:37 PM
Bad tippers are an absolute deal breaker.
EDIT:
Oops. My bad, didn't catch the "physical" part (doh!)
I have no problem dating guys who are shorter then me, but for some reason I don't find taller guys (over 6'2) to be sexy at all.
Katrine
06-09-2007, 10:26 AM
Yeah, no more pierced dicks for me! Honestly, I have no idea why they would do something that was constantly tearing up my insides!
christian211
06-09-2007, 10:38 AM
Well, I'm married so, doesn't really apply to me....;D
BAD SKIN!!! Can't even focus on their features.
Korina
06-09-2007, 12:27 PM
First, Vyanka, your siggie is fucking hot!
Second, I could never do a guy with a pierced dick!! Keep that shit away from me, haha.
I didn't think I could either.....but on the right one:P :P
I had a hard time keeping away from his piercing:)
toomuchhomeworklately
06-09-2007, 06:21 PM
Physical Stuff
Shorter than 5'7"
Bad dental hygiene (his teeth don't have to be perfect but he has to take care of them).
Skinny. If he can wear my pants, he won't be getting into them.
If my hands get sticky because he uses too much hair gel.
A penis smaller than 4".
If he shaves his chest. I went on a few dates with this great guy but when we got naked he had stubble because he shaved. I was disgusted. Unless he's an underwear model, men should have hair on their chests. (I would be sad if he was naturally hairless but it wouldn't be a deal breaker.)
Other Stuff
Hates animals
Hates kids
Tries to force his political/religious views on others.
Can't carry on a conversation. No matter how hot he is & how amazing the sex is, if we can't talk, see ya.
kittenkat
06-09-2007, 06:48 PM
Bad tipper- definitely a dealbreaker. I used to bartend/waitress. Can't stand tip stiffing motherfuckers.
RoseLeigh
06-10-2007, 10:18 AM
Second, I could never do a guy with a pierced dick!! Keep that shit away from me, haha.
:yuck: Me neither. One of my friend's ex-hubby had a huge PA and a row of rings down the front (as well as a septum, two lip rings and a ton of huge earrings in his ears) and he talked about it all the time, like it made him some huge stud. Then he emailed her pics (they had an LDR pre-marriage) that she saved on my computer. :O
Rose Leigh
dangerousdiva
06-10-2007, 10:52 AM
OTOH, I once dated a guy who tried to cover his zits with foundation, and had an obvious line of demarcation on his jawline.
I woudl have ratehr just seen the zits than the makeup.( his weren't even all that bad!)
Ha-Ha...I dated a guy that did that too! It was so distracting and I was always thinking, just let me blend that for you:D
miss marina
06-10-2007, 09:42 PM
lmao @ blend that for you. I never dated a guy with a PA but holy crap that would scare me away too!
I'm with Pretty_Penny and jaizaine all the way! A guy could look like a fucking Greek God...but if he doesn't take care of himself hygiene-wise, i.e., doesn't like to bathe, has horrible BO, dragon breath and fucked up teeth and gums...then I'm running for the hills!
PuertoRicanPinup
06-14-2007, 03:36 PM
Shorter than 5'10" and less than 220 lbs. I like my men big!
Circe
06-20-2007, 05:08 AM
Bad oral hygiene and very overweight men.
I'm not crazy about facial hair either, but I can handle it.