View Full Version : Teacher, 40, Marries 16-Year-Old Student
Roulette
06-25-2007, 06:15 PM
what's EOM?
Lysondra
06-25-2007, 06:21 PM
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Roulette
06-25-2007, 06:22 PM
oooooh. heh, I see.
cameron_keys
06-25-2007, 06:30 PM
I love the moms comment about the teacher ""He had all the power in the world -- all he had to do was say, 'I can't do this,'" Betty Hager said."
Umm...isnt that all THEY had to say about signing the papers??? But as much as they say this broke their heart and they were 100% against it..they big fat went and signed the consent form anyway didnt they??
Roulette
06-25-2007, 06:35 PM
^^^ I thought she was talking about the father... but I could be wrong.
KentuckyMysteryMan
06-25-2007, 08:44 PM
But this guy is taking a HUGE RISK in choosing to MARRY this young girl.
Ok, so you're going to risk half your net worth on some naive 16-yo? What happens when she turns 20 and suddenly wants to hit da clubs and sample variety-pack cock? You think that's not going to happen? She is so young. How can it not???
Ultimately, this guy is screwing himself and is going to end up divorced and half-broke in 5 years...
Ferret
06-25-2007, 09:02 PM
Some people need their ass kicked...badly.
That guy is one that fits the bill. I can think of others, like anyone who would defend the sick fuck.
You feel sorry for him because of his possible lost finances?
Fighting for children is the only holy war worthy of the name.
KentuckyMysteryMan
06-25-2007, 09:13 PM
Nope, I think the guy is an idoit to be honest and pathetic. He is marrying a 16 year old! That's just plain stupid.
Momomix
06-26-2007, 08:02 AM
To be honest, I am rather taken back by all the shit this guy is getting. He is choosing to marry her. Not fuck her and dump her. That would be easy. Marriage isn't an easy thing for a 40 year old either. There must be something there worth marrying for.
Who can say why they are choosing to do so, I don't think we can say the guy is doing it for the teen poontang because we don't even know if the girl is a cutie or not.
I will admit however, that if they were smart, they would wait. It's much less of a hassle if you wait until your parent's don't have to get majorly involved.
And you know what? Fuck the age difference. I know 16 year olds who are centuries more mature than MANY 50 year olds out there. And reading the majority of threads on here about customers only confirms that.
Speaking from personal experience, give the guy some slack. Maybe it's really love.
cinammonkisses
06-26-2007, 08:05 AM
I think it said they signed the papers for her to get married!!! My daughter woulda been out of that state so damn fast....
That's what I was thinking...like ummm whatever happened to packing ya shit and moving >:(
Hatshepsut
06-26-2007, 08:42 AM
To be honest, I am rather taken back by all the shit this guy is getting. He is choosing to marry her. Not fuck her and dump her. That would be easy. Marriage isn't an easy thing for a 40 year old either. There must be something there worth marrying for.
Who can say why they are choosing to do so, I don't think we can say the guy is doing it for the teen poontang because we don't even know if the girl is a cutie or not.
I will admit however, that if they were smart, they would wait. It's much less of a hassle if you wait until your parent's don't have to get majorly involved.
And you know what? Fuck the age difference. I know 16 year olds who are centuries more mature than MANY 50 year olds out there. And reading the majority of threads on here about customers only confirms that.
Speaking from personal experience, give the guy some slack. Maybe it's really love.
For one thing, when you're young, what you do know is inversely proportional to what you actually know. When I was 16, I knew everything.
As for something worth marrying for, it probably is poon. Sticking it in a 16-year old is called pedophilia and could land him in PMITA prison. Marriage is the loophole.
I've met guys who really like "young, innocent girls" for the reason that most women see him for the immature, insecure shit that he is, and want a nice lump of clay that they can mold into their ideal. Hotness has nothing to do with it. I bet you that he sees the relationship as paternal, like Woody Allen admits to. Also, marriage is much easier when one person makes all the decisions, as there's not opposing conflicts. I bet that she does what he says.
Littlelo
06-26-2007, 01:00 PM
.....Sticking it in a 16-year old is called pedophilia and could land him in PMITA prison. Marriage is the loophole.
Not quite true. The age of consent is 16 in most states. They could have gotten him with "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" or something like that, but not pedophilia.
RoseLeigh
06-26-2007, 02:06 PM
To be honest, I am rather taken back by all the shit this guy is getting. He is choosing to marry her. Not fuck her and dump her. That would be easy. Marriage isn't an easy thing for a 40 year old either. There must be something there worth marrying for.
In my POV, sleeping with a 16 year old=possible prison, having to register in every state you moved to as a sex offender, getting fired for taking advantage of your position.
Marrying the 16 year old though, means legal sex with the underager and the appearance of making good. A lot of people still see marrying the girl as the way to go when you've 'spoiled' her. Obviously I do not agree.
Rose Leigh
RoseLeigh
06-26-2007, 02:07 PM
Not quite true. The age of consent is 16 in most states. They could have gotten him with "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" or something like that, but not pedophilia.
Some states it could still be statuatory, if they take into account age difference.
Rose Leigh
lwtex52
06-26-2007, 03:57 PM
Thank God I'm short, fat, unattractive, and have a personality like a rabid pit bull so that I do not have to worry about such things as this.
Momomix
06-26-2007, 08:56 PM
So we aren't even going to consider the possibility of love? I guess it is easier just to brush it off as impossible and not take into account anything but age...
kandie_kitten
06-26-2007, 09:05 PM
Because at 40, he's lived a life already. At 16, she hasn't even started. She might be extremely mature and self-sufficient, but she has less than half the life experience than him.
And why I rule out love is because he was an authority figure. He abused that. If it was real love, he would have waited till he was no longer an authority figure, and waited till she was 18, when she wouldnt have had to have her parents sign a form.
Lysondra
06-26-2007, 09:18 PM
I'm not really sure I was capable of love when I was 16.
Fuck, I'm not even sure I'm capable of it now.
Roulette
06-26-2007, 09:21 PM
love at 16 and love at 40 are totally different things. that isnt to say that either one is invalid, but love, like people matures and changes and grows and to enter into a relationship with someone that young and inexperienced as a person in life it is perposterous(sp??) imho to think that they can have a long lasting love. I mean for me the true love that I felt at 16 was just as real as the love that I felt at 18, 19 and 20, but it was all different and even now at 22 I still don't know exactly what true love would be for me. I know what it is to truely love someone but to be able to say this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with at 16 would be an impossibility, even if I felt it at the time. When you're 16 you can't see R rated movie, smoke, drink, you can hardly drive, what business is it for a 40 year old to say i love you, let's get married..... these are things 16 year old dream about their teachers... when it becomes reality it is a whole different game... if that makes sense.
Yekhefah
06-27-2007, 08:05 AM
Yeah, the fact that he did this proves it isn't love. True love wants the best for the other person; you put their needs above your own wishes, however much it hurts. If he really loved her, he would've remained her teacher and never have become her lover in the first place. Marrying an underage girl is the height of selfish lust.
cinammonkisses
06-27-2007, 08:59 AM
Because at 40, he's lived a life already. At 16, she hasn't even started.
Exactly! There is a reason why a man of his age must choose a girl so young...he has to mold her into what he wants. She will be nothing but a doll, his puppet to eat, drink, dress, act the way HE tells her to.
Roulette
06-27-2007, 03:46 PM
Yeah, the fact that he did this proves it isn't love. True love wants the best for the other person; you put their needs above your own wishes, however much it hurts. If he really loved her, he would've remained her teacher and never have become her lover in the first place. Marrying an underage girl is the height of selfish lust.
yes yes yes!! exactly!! very well said Yek, A+!!
Hatshepsut
06-27-2007, 03:51 PM
Yeah, the fact that he did this proves it isn't love. True love wants the best for the other person; you put their needs above your own wishes, however much it hurts. If he really loved her, he would've remained her teacher and never have become her lover in the first place. Marrying an underage girl is the height of selfish lust.
Like I said, it's a carte blanche for accessing underage poon. Yep, if he really loved her, he would have at least waited until she was 18, VERY LEAST.
On Postsecret, I saw a postcard that said, "I waited until my student was 18 to fuck him." She's a lot smarter and a lot more patient that most.
Sirona
06-27-2007, 03:57 PM
Not only was I once a 16 year old girl but I have a daughter that age.
There is no way in fucking hell that there is any healthy basis for a relationship of an adult nature between a 40 year old and a 16 year old. None.
Her father is a reprehensible piece of shit for Ok'ing it.
The 40 year old guy she married, he's gotta be a real prize.
That poor kid is gonna wake up one day and realize what she did and then what?
Jenny
06-27-2007, 04:19 PM
Like I said, it's a carte blanche for accessing underage poon. Yep, if he really loved her, he would have at least waited until she was 18, VERY LEAST.
On Postsecret, I saw a postcard that said, "I waited until my student was 18 to fuck him." She's a lot smarter and a lot more patient that most.
In my high school there was a girl who dropped out of her last semester to move in with the gym teacher. Of course, everyone knows that they didn't hook up the day after her 18th birthday, but there is not much to do about it if she is not say so. ("No. I swear. It was purely parent teacher until January 18th, and then I moved in with him January 19th.") Now, to my knowledge they were together for a while, and did eventually get married - they could still be together for all I know. But - really. If he really, really loved her would he not have said "Why don't we hold off 4 months until you graduate from high school, then we can date while you go to university, and THEN we can talk about moving in together"? I mean, at 18 4 months seems like a really really long time. At 30 something - you know better. At 30 something encouraging - hell, allowing an 18 year old girl to quit school to live as your personal schoolgirl fantasy - that's just - that's wrong, man. Like, how can that be love? That's just fetishization. I was involved with older guys when I was a teenager too - and of course at the time I thought I was so mature and they were responding to that. I wouldn't say that I was "victimized" but I know perfectly well in retrospect that I was just a paper doll of a bad-little-girl for them to play with. Like seriously - what the hell can an adult man see in a 15 year old girl? Fetish. Object.
In regards to the parents - anyone know any runaways? A 16 year old is not 6. You can't just lock her in her room and say "I'm in charge." It just doesn't work - if you took the necessary security measures to ensure that she couldn't get out and run away you'd probably be subjecting her to pretty abusive conditions. You can't control teenagers the way you can control little kids. You just can't. One of my relative was a runaway and her parents made all sorts of concessions they didn't imagine that they would make - not because they were lazy, bad parents, didn't care or had bad judgment but because when faced with the reality of your teenaged kid actually running away and cutting off contact and doing god knows what, any normal person will cave. The parent who says "I don't care what you do, I'm not bending" is the scary and bad one. Just another way of looking at it. Personally, I would have considered bargaining. I will sign it in 6 months if....
gingerlee
06-27-2007, 04:54 PM
There is no way in fucking hell that there is any healthy basis for a relationship of an adult nature between a 40 year old and a 16 year old. None.
As a person who thought she knew everything when she was 17, I thought being with somebody 40+ at the time made me more 'grown up'. 6 years later I know that guy was an asshole for saying what he said and doing what he did to a kid, and I wish him nothing but pain.
That's not healthy 'love', it's sick.
kittenkat
06-27-2007, 05:31 PM
If a person don't realize by the time you're 40 that kids @ 16 are in need of guidance and mentors, not dirty old folks looking to relive their youth and boost their ego, then the 40 years of life experience didn't teach them a whole lot, did it?
I hope the girl isn't giving up her dreams and future for this guy- I hope he at least lets her finish school and pursue her dreams.
Momomix
06-27-2007, 08:08 PM
Exactly! There is a reason why a man of his age must choose a girl so young...he has to mold her into what he wants. She will be nothing but a doll, his puppet to eat, drink, dress, act the way HE tells her to.
At 16 I sure as hell didn't let myself be molded by anybody, let it be my parents or my teachers. Let alone allow mysef to be told what to eat, drink, dress, etc..
I personally know of a situation almost identical to this that worked out just fine, happily ever after you could say.
That said..
I don't think there is nearly enough information in this article to make any of the assumptions, that even I, have been making. I just really feel that the amount of shit this guy, and the girl who does have an opinion despite what people might think, is getting is completely unfair and rather uncalled for...
Just my .02