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firemaiden04
02-15-2012, 10:21 PM
Wow, this thread is ancient.

4everresolutions
02-15-2012, 10:23 PM
Holy whoa old thread.

Interesting though. I find Sociopaths to be very "typecast" these days, and the actual definition of what constitutes as Sociopathy fuzzy to most people.

I'm fairly scarred when it comes to Personality Disorders though, so anything I contribute would be biased at best.

TarsTone
02-15-2012, 11:40 PM
I don't know what the point of resurrecting this thread was, but reading through it, one thing that should be pointed out is that sociopaths are definitely not treatable. In fact therapy has been shown to make them more dangerous because it teaches them the things others want to hear and makes them more adept at manipulation.

LaurenAus
02-15-2012, 11:52 PM
Someone with a stunning lack of empathy or conscience.

this ^

JayATee
02-16-2012, 07:14 AM
Some user on here claims to be a sociopath but says she's deeply in love with her husband /facepalm.

That's not entirely impossible. I've been diagnosed as having sociopathic tendencies. I still loved my exhusband...

BlkSharpie
02-16-2012, 10:00 AM
My ex is a sociopath, and all these years later, its still hard for me to deal with. Ive read a lot about people who have been in relationships with one, who also have a hard time getting over it, and it seems I was the perfect "match" for one, because Im the direct opposite. While he uses people for his gain, to get what he wants, and doesnt care about anyone else unless it benefits him to act like he does, I have my own issues where I put people ahead of myself, and do everything I can to help and be there for someone I care about and I always felt like I had to prove my worth and value in a relationship by doing everything I can for my guy. Im a sociopaths dream girl.

Anyway, he was the perfect bf, everything I ever wanted in a guy...but that wasnt the real him..he was playing a role, picking up on what I wanted and needed in a guy and he behaved that way to keep me happy, and to keep me doing things for him that helped him out. But it wasnt just me, he did that with everyone..and the more I got to know him and go out with him, the more I saw it. Like, if someone from work happened to see us, his whole personality, mannerisms, way of talking, everything would change while he was talking to the person. Hed even apologize to me after and say that he has to be a certain way in front of certain people for work purposes, cause its all about image. But I came to find out, he literally has no personality..he is whoever he thinks you want him to be. And hes very good at it... I still miss and even love the guy that he was when we were dating, even though I know now that guy never actually existed.

We broke up when I found out he was seeing other women, and he could not wrap his brain around it why I was upset about it...he said that his relationship with other woman had nothing to do with our relationship, and kept saying that he still wanted to move in with me and get married, even though he had been in a full fledged relationship with someone else for almost 6 months. He even justified all of it by saying he only slept with women who could help him ahead in his career and that even though I dont understand it, him being in a relationship with this other girl was going to pay off, and he asked me to trust him. Of course I didnt, and it pissed him off...especially when I cut him off and stopped maintaining his websites and being his personal assistant for him. He told me I was the one ruining our relationship and says its my fault it ended...he even had his family beleiving I "flew off the handle" and ended our relationship for no good reason...until I explained the truth to them, and they knew him well enough to realize I had a damned good reason afterall.

And yeah, he lured me back in by becoming the guy Id fallen in love with to begin with...and I keep in mind that when hes being sweet, its only to get what he wants...and when he ignores me or acts like an asshole, he doesnt need anything from me and so doesnt see any reason to be nice to me. Its a twisted and unhealthy friendship, but at least he's not my husband...

mikef
02-16-2012, 11:33 AM
29058

4everresolutions
02-16-2012, 01:48 PM
Some user on here claims to be a sociopath but says she's deeply in love with her husband /facepalm.

*death glares*

ArmySGT.
02-16-2012, 04:40 PM
Wow, Necroposting for Win!

ArmySGT.
02-16-2012, 04:42 PM
Some user on here claims to be a sociopath but says she's deeply in love with her husband /facepalm.

That is not inconsistent, their love for the other person is internalized. I.e Feels good for them.

ArmySGT.
02-16-2012, 05:05 PM
Example

http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j218/ArmySGT_photos/Makes%20me%20laugh/Awesome/wrongguessagain.jpg

BlkSharpie
02-17-2012, 12:27 PM
My ex said he loved me, and still says it, and I think that he really means it...but I just dont think its love in the way that anyone else loves.

The way he explained it to me is, what he loves about me is how normal I make him feel. He has said a lot of other things too, but basically..his love for me didnt have anything to do with me personally, but how he felt when he was around me. But being loved by me in return, didnt mean all that much to him. How I felt about him wasnt the point to him, except that because I loved him, I was willing to help him and do things for him that I otherwise wouldnt if I didnt love him. He didnt tell me all of that directly, that was just years of oberservation after our breakup, his family telling me that he was a socio, and paying close attention to the things he said and his motivations behind it.

Even with all of that, I still love him in return. Im just aware enough to know that I cant be with him.

JayATee
02-17-2012, 10:03 PM
My ex said he loved me, and still says it, and I think that he really means it...but I just dont think it's love in the way that anyone else loves.



I've often said this about an ex of mine. He loved me as much as he were capable. That doesn't mean it was enough, or anywhere near what I needed.

Dddallas
02-17-2012, 10:23 PM
< this chick lol