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Golden_Rule
07-15-2007, 06:52 AM
Hmmm. Truly great question. I am not sure it is going to get the treatment it actually deserves though. The truth is that it is very difficult not to let the things we allow to pass through us in any meaningful way not effect us, at least to some extent. So the people who say, "Not at all" are either fibbing to themselves, us, or both, or they don't give a fig about strip-clubs. Which might be a good thing.

Now I made my coin, in part at least, as being something of a "human engineer", so understanding how people tick sort of goes with the territory. So I am fairly sure there was nothing I found in the clubs that surprised me in any way. I'd be lying though if I said that the quantity in which I found it wasn't a bit daunting.

Lots of fun in strip-clubs. Also a lot of people, customers and dancers alike, trying to work angles on each other, maneuvering for superior position, and at worst attempting to take advantage of one another. So, I would have to say that over all strip-clubbing has made me a tad more cynical.

I enjoy it for what it is though, deal straight with people I interact with and insist they deal straight with me or move them outside my comfort circle. Avoid the games and the drama as much as I can and just have fun. Once I found out what I now know about the clubs I also made sure that it was never more than a tangent to my life. An outlet, not a main feature, of my life. So part of how it changed me was to learn that such things are best, from a customer stand-point not a dancers, left as "dessert" and not a main course on the dining table of your life. I feel for guys who make it a staple. Its bound to get them far more pain than pleasure in the long haul.

So, I guess its made me a little bit more, though I was already well on the way, sardonic, enforced lessens of pragmatism, and helped me learn how to find the odd gem stone amid a multitude of pebbles.

All in all, not bad things to know. To top it off I've learned [and that is how I note when something has changed me, I learn something or evolve from them in some way] that, in moderation and with your head screwed on straight, strip-clubs are tres cool. Than again, that is true about most things in life.

crizgolfer
07-15-2007, 12:36 PM
^^^^

Change depends on how you look at things. If your tendency is to look at the surface then you will see constant change. If you look a bit deeper, then you will see that things don't change as much as you think. One can experience things and learn from them, but it does not mean there is a fundamental change in who they are.

datchapin
07-18-2007, 05:45 PM
Thanx for all the great replies.

TiffanyRae
07-28-2007, 03:58 PM
Zero tolerance for drunk idiots at a "normal" bar trying to buy me drinks to get me to fuck them! haha... I dont wanna talk to them if I am not getting paid!


i totally agree! the sc has confirmed my biggest fear. all men are pigs. period. i wish this wasnt true, but its sad that it is. its a proven fact that men think about sex 3-5 times an hour and women maybe 1-2 times a day! and to the guys who think that they are going to find love in the sc, keep on dreaming. not to say that this doesnt happen at all, but very seldom, and usually doesnt work out. i met the man of my dreams at work in the sc, we were together for 4 years, the best 4 years of my life. but now its been over for almost 2 years and im so lonely and cynical that i think ill never find that again. i been dancing since the day i turned 18, and thats almost 6 years! and working in the sc has changed me because i think all men are pigs and im going to be alone forever.:'(

Paris
07-28-2007, 07:06 PM
More confidence, to be sure. I have more respect and understanding for men in general. I was a pretty jaded, man-hating bitch when I started dancing. Dancing taught me how to understand men. I don't have illusions any longer of that romance-novel style relationships.::)

Oh, and any fear of risk taking I may have had, is completely evaporated;D.

indica420
07-28-2007, 09:58 PM
I don't have illusions any longer of that romance-novel style relationships.

If there's one way the SC has changed me, it's this, but I'll take it a step farther to say that it has taught me humanity in a light you never see.

Like the man that comes to the club in a bad mood, and thinks that because he's tipping you he can say whatever foul-mouthed thing about women that he wants to, cuz you're a stripper and he paid to get in.

Or the girl who sits in the locker room saying nasty things about the girl who's on the floor earning her money, or nasty things about the men not buying dances from her, because she's in a bad mood...but she'd rather blame other people than herself.

I think dancing has made me more humble, more confident, and more assertive. But above all it has taught me that life is no fairy tale...we just like to pretend it is.

slims099
07-29-2007, 08:21 PM
Has it made you more responsible, cynical, confident, etc. etc. This is a question for both dancers and customers alike.

To me its made me more open minded. At least I like to think that.

It's made me WAY cautious of strippers lol. KIDDING!

I think I've learned how to at least talk to women, what to say, what not to say. Kinda sorta like being in a relationship if you really get to know a girl. You feel for how sensitive they are and learn how to flirt well without being overly charming or just gross.

vagabondage1106
07-30-2007, 04:21 AM
I'd have to say that, financially, it's made me a lot more careless, as in "What I spend today, I'll make up for tomorrow," even when that's not always the case. Basically, if I had any kind of emergency that prevented me from being able to continue dancing, and I needed to wait until I started a job, worked a couple of weeks, and got my first paycheck, I'd be screwed, and it's all due to my shitty spending habits.

As a woman, dancing has made me more confident and outgoing. I was always a very shy, anxious, self-doubting person by nature, and I feel that I've shed a lot of those traits, to a pretty high extent. They're still within me, but they don't affect me as much as they used to. I've learned to be assertive, and I've learned to read between the lines and see through to the core of the bullshit.

The job has been both positive and negative for me, but for the most part, I'm the same person I was when I began dancing, although some facets of my personality have become more apparent than they once were. I don't hide from myself as much anymore.

verfolgung
08-03-2007, 09:31 AM
I no longer go to a ball game and complain about paying $3.50 for a bottle of water or $7.00 for a dixi cup of beer.

zxcire
08-03-2007, 11:25 AM
I no longer go to a ball game and complain about paying $3.50 for a bottle of water or $7.00 for a dixi cup of beer.

:D That rocks! I laugh.

buffie06
08-03-2007, 03:10 PM
I am lazier! I used to work 50+ hours per week and go to school. Now i make 3x what I did before working only minimaly. I have been trying to work more hours and maximize my earnings, but it took me sooo long to start doing that. Also, I drink more:(. On the plus side I used to be soooo shy and dancing has helped me to overcome that in many ways. I am more confident. I know about professional hair products and girly stuff, lol. I didn't even know what a strait iron was until I started dancing.

yoda57us
08-06-2007, 03:45 PM
I no longer go to a ball game and complain about paying $3.50 for a bottle of water or $7.00 for a dixi cup of beer.

Yup, me neither...I have also developed a habit of waiting for my Dunkin' Donuts server to hold out her thong before I tip her...

accball
08-06-2007, 07:03 PM
the sc is a warmup. it makes non-sc girls 1000x easier to hook up with. :O

thetwodolphins
08-06-2007, 07:30 PM
At my local club, it has taught me how to sign along to country. Who thought I could sing every Mindy McCready song ever? ;)

In all seriousness though, the SC has helped me realize what my dream woman is. I never thought it'd be the eccentric punky gal with tatoos, pierceings, spikey hair, or what not...but thats her. *shrugs shoulders*

KiwiDan
08-14-2007, 04:26 AM
SC has changed me in that:

Sometimes I wish I was a women and had a hot body that idiot guys would pay to look at.

Othertimes I'm glad i'm not.

MysteriousMystery
08-14-2007, 04:38 AM
Zero tolerance for drunk idiots at a "normal" bar trying to buy me drinks to get me to fuck them! haha... I dont wanna talk to them if I am not getting paid!


HAHAHA! word.

Macnee2
08-18-2007, 09:30 PM
The SC is an amazing place for the sheltered eighteen year old kid to watch hustling, relationship building and a little manipulation thrown into the pot, and learn some game himself. By playing and interacting, you learn what TRULY works and what doesn't, both on you and on the girls. All in an environment that is controlled such that no one suffers any emotional or psychological damage, due to the knowledge that you are in a SC, and you can go back to reality whenever you like.

madmaxine
08-18-2007, 09:45 PM
It made me feral.

It confirmed what I already knew about people.

It made me appreciate the few good men on the planet.

Star Player
09-15-2007, 06:45 PM
Puts a smile on my face - I have enjoyed the hobby over the years and have an extensive photo archive of some gals I have had really wonderful relationships / intense enjoyment with. All my goals of strip clubbing have been met if not exceeded and basically now I am just padding stats and having fun.

BalletBaby
09-18-2007, 07:34 PM
*coughcoughaspd.netcoughcough*

Silverback
09-18-2007, 08:13 PM
I think I've gotten taller.

xdamage
09-18-2007, 08:29 PM
its a proven fact that men think about sex 3-5 times an hour and women maybe 1-2 times a day! :'(

I really don't know what has been proven in this regard, but honestly, as a guy we can can pretty much go on thinking about sex every few seconds. One of the great benefits of growing a bit older is that this decreases somewhat, and we actually focus on work or other topics for an extended period of time without thoughts of sex coming to the foreground (although honestly they persist, at least for me, in the background). At some point in guys life, you just sort of accept "my brain is wired to think about sex" and it's about as likely to go away as say hunger pangs go away after not having eaten all day (aka, not at all, except for a few moments here and there).

Strangely, we do actually manage to accomplish a lot at work despite the background noise, but even then, at least for me, my brain has an on-going sexual related hum that rarely desists.

SportsWriter2
09-18-2007, 08:39 PM
I think I've gotten taller.
I think dancers have gotten shorter and lighter. I can flip spinners faster.

My love map has gotten smaller but more intense. That's seriously warped, but maybe in a good way. :-\

iambonbon05
09-18-2007, 11:20 PM
^^ Maybe I'm just a horny bitch but I probably think about sex every few minutes. Hahaha

Fairbay
09-24-2007, 07:40 PM
i totally agree! the sc has confirmed my biggest fear. all men are pigs. period. i wish this wasnt true, but its sad that it is. its a proven fact that men think about sex 3-5 times an hour and women maybe 1-2 times a day!

Bullshit. We just think about it differently. I don't know any sane woman who's denied that women are just as, if not hornier, than men. You guys just can't admit it without social consequences. I joined this site and started getting hit on in PMs until I posted some alpha douche thread ..how fucking gauche!!!!!!

Here's my formula:

Men = porn (we're attracted to the physical)
Women = romance novels and relationship talk (attracted to the emotional)

Nothing wrong with that - I'd prefer it that way. You wouldn't want to be the asexual gender, would you? We're all sexual beings here. But don't lie WHILST calling all men pigs. Yeah, we're pigs. But PEOPLE are pigs. We just do it differently, and lack the social acuity to be as suave as you guys. I mean, our gender goes to clubs where we pay you to tease us. That's how bad men suck - believe me, we know it. So stop whining.

ChristyWild
09-29-2007, 08:13 PM
It has made me more observant about selling "patterns" that some may try in other businesses that I might frequent. I also find that I prefer to wear flats whenever possible and sit and relax and not really chit chat that much when I'm off work. Granted, I work 40-50 hours a week, so that may have something to do with it, but I have come out of the almost 6 years I've been dancing so far with a better appreciation for both what we go through as dancers as well as why people feel the need/urge/desire to flock to our clubs in the first place.

sadbuttrue
10-13-2007, 08:12 PM
I guess I overlooked this thread, so I'll have to think about it some more, although I know I have posted something of this nature in Stripping General quite awhile back.

I have been to the mountaintop and fallen back down to earth with this, which is where I try to stay now.

There are regular girls that want to dance for me when they find out that I am into this, and will start to dance on my lap when I am out with them or even at work ...:D . It's cute.

>>>Sad<<<

Mastridonicus
10-14-2007, 09:38 AM
It gave me diabetes.